₦airaland Forum

Emeskhalifa:
➜Not saying what he did was right but saying the fact that the wife is yet to be caught in the act doesn't mean she's a saint.

Stop lying! 🙄🙄🙄

Own your bullsheet with your whole chest! Your statement was regarding the wife was meant to justify the man's literal abuse of his marriage and his wife. 🥱🥱

Emeskhalifa:
➜So the wife is a saint abi??

Is his cheating — abuse of his marriage vows and wife— made OK because of this idea that his wife is not a saint?

muyico:
Depression! She don patapata scattered the man home, house wife go don hears weytinz happened

Stop with these bloody arse lies already! The man scattered his own home and marriage by breaking his contract with his wife. 🙄🙄

Topshow2010:
➜Are you for real ,he should confront his dad? That's absurd morally and culturally is out of place Perhaps you are one of the olori pelebe that wakes their parents with scissor kicks.

Yes, what OP needs is to continue to follow blindly the same moral & cultural norms that lead to where he is now, right? Why una no dey ever talk sense!

Deeprooted:
➜You are all saying what you are saying because you haven't been in OP's shoes. I have been there and I perfectly understand his plight.

How exactly did you come to the conclusion that I have never been in those same shoes? Because I am not afraid to speak the truth you are afraid to face and accept?

nams77:
➜After all these plenty talk, no advice or suggestions as usual.....

Asking OP to accept the truth that has always been right in front of him is a form of advice, too. Also, accepting that one cannot control or change the whims of others is also the solution to one's anxieties and worries.

MrSly:
✓ Men's life begin at forty. Most of our ancestors married at 40 and above. So stop the nonsense article.

The article explains that you should protect your supposed lineage from genetic mutations and so on. Rather, than take heed, you are here spewing gobbledegook for what purpose?

Amumaigwe:
✓ It seems wealth accumulation makes the effect of biological clock of no effect in men with regads to women, who still desire them over younger and less financially stable men.
Check if there is another study on why women run after older men whose biological clocks are far gone inspite of these reported risks.

It seems they were right when they said the way to hide knowledge from a black man is to put it in writing aka a book. You didn't bother reading the text but are quick to pour out your ignorance, why? 🤔🤔

Omoreal01:
Of course, if you can do things now why wait till later? But the fact that sometimes life happens and delays are inevitable changes the dynamics. So half-filled/disfigured cup is better than empty cup. I hope everyone have a great day!

What? Are you sheeting me? 😩😩😩😩😩

Omalicious1:
✓ So how do we explain a 68 years old man impregnating a young lady? I know the war is always against men...we know the truth, just continue lying.

Why are you folks so slow? Did you bother to read at all before commenting? 🤔

A thread for females to deceive themselves, Lol

Kobojunkie the video below is for you. You better change your ways fast before it is too late

I need to begin accepting the fact that a huge majority of you who has been online for years will remain ignorant. What has feminism to do with loathing of men when over and over you have instead been told that feminism stands for the advocating of equal rights to women .i.e. that men and women be seen as equals.( Nothing like men hating women or women hating men.) Why is this simple thing too hard for you lot to comprehend? 🥱🥱

P.s. for the umpteenth time, I am not a feminist but a common sense-er

fitinwell:
✓ All this story doesn't matter to God ooo...
Many testimonies as defy this theory.

What testimonies defy what theory?

optm:
You married an entitled man. If you have asked him what he intends doing with his life and he's not coming forth, stop giving him free money. Let him work to sort his bills at least.

Na wa o! Imagine asking whether the man's apparent sense of entitlement and obvious laziness has something to do with him being African or more than that. Nonsense! 🥱🥱🥱

Kingdomb:
➜These are some of the experiences common in polygamous family or where where elderly siblings start bringing in there wives...some women are home destroyers while some Unites a family.
➜My opinion, as a grown up young man approach your father with all audacity and question his sudden change towards your siblings, you don't have to be soft make it clear to him that he either settles each of you or take full responsibility as a father. The woman in question you guys should stop respecting her, try giving her a tough time she will withdraw gradually. If you're too calm and soft in this generation your name will remain sorry be bold and shun the nonsense

1. An outsider can only do in your home that which the one who allowed him/her into the home have him/her permission or authority to do. The same applies to women who come into your home as wives or girlfriends. Otherwise, the one who brought them in would be the first to call the police on them.

2. Any disrespect directed at his own guest in the house is likely to backfire on the children. Their problem is no the guest but the authority behind the guest... i.e. their father.

SpencerForbes:
➜😂😂😂 a man won’t treat his son the way he’ll treat his daughter. Fathers believe sons are stronger than daughters so they always restrain but when it is the don, no limit😂😂 Even your uncles won’t support you. And you’ll be termed the black sheep of the family. This isn’t neverland kobo😂😂 this is Nigeria. 🚶‍♂️

Notice how most everytime I attempt to engage you, you literally cause me to reach the same conclusion that the sense is truly far from, every time. 😑😑😑

Anyways, make I waka pass, abeg! 😑😑😑

SpencerForbes:
➜Ask any guy that has tried it. I don’t want to sound like I’m telling tales 😂

Basically, what you are saying is that because their are spineless guys out there like you, therefore all guys must be of the spineless variety? 🥱🥱🥱

SpencerForbes:
➜You are a girl😒 you probably confronted your mum.

I am a girl because I confronted my father? 🙄🙄🙄

You people and your neverending list of excuses for why you should not be expected to hold your fathers accountable for their hubris... 🥱🥱🥱

SpencerForbes:
➜Confront an African parents😂😂😂 Easier said than done😂 🚶‍♂️

I confronted mine at 14, then again at 19, and so on. To do this, you have to dead any ideas/delusions you have of them as gods and begin to see them for the humans they are.

WhizdomXX:
➜Chairperson I don't support his reasons oo they're all amenable.

OK! I am just saying that if a child is not bold enough to confront his own father for his hubris, then who should or would? Why should such a child confront anyone else?

WhizdomXX:
➜He gave some reasons why talking to his dad is out of it. I don't support those reasons though.

A man is intentionally neglecting his duty as a father, and you are telling me that there are reasons why he should not be confronted? 😏

If OP's father were instead a neighbor whose children's condition have been left to deteriorate as a result of neglect from their father, would you also advice OP not to talk to the man about his behavior?

Anyways, I simply told @OP to do is focus his energy and anger on his father— he is the source of his frustration— and not the woman who is only there because his father wants her there.

WhizdomXX:
➜ this is also part of the reason, he can't follow your advice through and through.

I am not certain I follow.

id4sho:
➜He didnt give her, she fled with the documents shortly after his burial.
➜ we didnt have any single document with us, properties are easily sold if the original titles are in wrong hands. 2 hectares of estate land has been sold by her.

So, simply stealing the documents is all that is necessary in this case to even sell them?

2. Isn't the signature(and presence in some cases) of the current title holder necessary for transfer of land from one hand to another?

id4sho:
➜ive recovered some properties, trying to recover the priced ones in Abuja

I guess my question is really how did she steal the properties without your father literally giving them or signing them over to her? Do you know how she was able to engineer that in Nigeria?

id4sho:
➜yes sir

What did you do after all of that?

Dzzzz:
Now you know how it feels when your man pays for your upkeep and also take care of his family..

Nonsense! 🥱🥱🥱
https://youtube.com/shorts/4gJBIjcWLcM?si=wcGdvxFacEEObsV6

Robenna:
➜See as you de talk all this things like say he easy, na cause e never do you, you go know say all this grammar na fallacy

The truth is bitter... if you can't handle it, then I am afraid you have a long way to go in your journey to maturity.

NgeneUkwenu:
➜https://m.facebook.com/story.php?story_fbid=pfbid0aJfZ3ThwMYmLTsqDnf9HkeLesRuFrADt8KJoYKJ2AVSrY85Zs6rEggPUp5bRHCWl&id=100044230039479&mibextid=Nif5oz

If the generation that gave Nigeria the current set of politicians are unwilling to fill the streets, I don't believe much if going to be accomplished by their children and grandchildren.

Lekby25:
➜All of you that has no value for Jesus, i can assure you, you will be brought down to your knees to confess his name, except God is no longer alive i swear. Mark my word for it

I don't have a value for your Christian Jesus or your muslim mohammed because both religions have been used to spread poverty and misery more than anything else in Nigeria and across the world than anything else. You only need to see the 10s of millions of religious people in Nigeria who flood your churches and mosques every week, the vast majority stuck for life in poverty, to know that nothing good comes of any of those religions.

id4sho:
➜dont tolerate nonsense from her. try and get copies of all landed assets. she will kill your father and flee with properties. am in same position now

You mean the woman in your situation killed your father and fled with his property?

natedensel:
➜It's like you know my dad, yes truly everything you do he holds onto it and uses it against you, even words you utter he remembers and reference it always and he doesn't forgive, so yes he's an egoistical man, I had an altercation with him because of the way he treated my mum one certain time and he held it against me to the point of bringing it up at a family meeting, ➜so yes you said the fact, na that same iron clad person one woman dey use like doll so, it beats my imagination it's like I'm in a nightmare I will not wake up from.

This here reveals a lot as to why you decided to attack the woman and not your father from the start. It also tells us why your father does not think twice to humiliate you and your siblings while serving the children of this other woman. Like many have already suggested, you should probably be looking for ways to free yourselves from his presence and dependence on him.

2. Nah! That is merely you confusing two different things. An egotistical man is not necessarily a man who is a good father to his kids or a man who does not desire and worship women. You forget that he is a man and has a type and when that type comes in his life, he is willing to give up on any others for her sake too.

Lekby25:
➜ You are very, very, ignorant. You are fighting a physical battle without a spiritual strength. You are risking your life my dear brother. Do you know how spiritualiy strong that your father's concubine is. With her spiritual strength she has turned your father into her slave, and you are telling me Jesus no be your concern now. Whether Jesus is your concern or not, you will definitely come to this nairaland to say, that is if you are lucky enough. I will not say more than that. Good night

Stop lying to the @OP, abeg! 🥱🥱🥱