₦airaland Forum

Chi111:
I have a simple question......
How does the woman dressing looks like, is she the type that package her breast as if na balloon which must have attracted the 7yrs boy to play with...
Me, I no de use eyes see balloon when I was small ooo

A 7-year-old is attracted to breasts and feeling the need to touch them? So if a stranger with a huge tumor on the face sits beside the child, same 7-year-old would also wish to handle the tumor? 🥱🥱🥱

I am always afraid of how many of you reason when it comes to children and their developmental intelligence. CPS is long overdue in that country.

judatech:
How many seconds "enjoyment"?

Regardless,those seconds should not have to cost the state what may be a lifetime of pain. Someone has to pay and better those who benefitted some even if for a few seconds.

Moseswest24:
What if it was a woman that is after your [url=]life[/url]

A woman after your life is reason why you would ignore your duty to provide for your own child? What sort of talk is this?

Naijalegal:
➜For single mothers, this law is your power tool. 💪🏽 All you need to do is keep records and receipts of every expense — school fees, baby food, medicine, clothes — and walk straight to court. The judge can order that the baby daddy refund every kobo you’ve spent on the child. No more begging or dragging online; the law is now on your side. But don’t use it for luxury — the court will only recognize basic needs based on the father’s financial level. If he’s a rich man, your child deserves a rich lifestyle. If he’s an okada man, the court will expect something within his means. Lagos has spoken: no more abandoning your responsibility — because you can dodge the baby mama, but you can’t dodge the law. ⚖️

WOW... an anti-deadbeat fathers/mothers/guardian law. Something long overdue in a nation as large as Nigeria. Finally, some sensible talk is taking place. I hope this will quickly spread across states, abeg! 🥱🥱

Make dem garnish betting winnings too, so anyone thinking they can get away with under-the-table sources no go scott free.

Jerkbaba:
➜I don't undertstand why they're so foolish and weak when dealing with women.
➜ They will see their own fellow man, they wouldn't help, but as they see girl like this! [/b]Ahhh! E don end b that! It pains me so much! I always help my fellow Men everytime I can. I give them money when they ask for help and if I can! [b]I can recall a day I was on the streets while smoking some cigarettes and then I noticed a guy in a car chasing and trying to stop a girl with nyash while driving.
➜ I was just shaking my head! Have you ever seen a girl doing that for a guy on the streets?! Then why the hell will you be doing such nonsense like that?! I don't know why these males are so stupid and useless like this! The things a women would not do for you, don't do for them! These women think their pussie is gold. It has reached the time and age where we should completely leave them alone! Dont talk to them, don't look at them! Its hard but you have to be disciplined! You as the male are the price! Always remember that! Women are beneath you! Be stingy and ruthless to them!

1. What is sad is that you reason yourself to be better than those other men you put down; however, the fact is, you are really no different from them in the way you reason too.

2. You describe how these men chase after and give these women because they expect to receive something in return for the downpayments they make to them. They essentially consider women as objects for their pleasure— things to be disrespected and used for their benefit. Well, are you equally ascribing disrespect to these women when you think the

3. And then you follow it all up by ascribing the same disrespect to women as if by doing so, you make your case better or win favor with these men who do not value contributing anything to you and your cause.

You believe you are the prize, yet to make yourself so, you see the need to put women down — you humiliate and denigrate women so you can raise yourself above them in your mind. Doesn't that tell you something interesting regarding your delusions? 🥱🥱🥱

FreeSpirited:
No matter how beautiful, packaged, tall, fair, elegant, polished, just once I spot nose ring on a woman's nose I feel instant repulsion and disgust from my inside that I can't describe.
Am I the only one who feels such revulsion from just nose ring on a woman? Who understands this feeling?

As someone already stated, this is a you problem, not a them problem. Figure out your personal issues and move on with your life from there.🥱🥱🥱

Lovit:
Next time you see the 7 year old and he grab your prick inside bus, shine 32 form him, ok?
Nonsense!

🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

Bukola600:
➜The bolded, bring your evidence for the one in colour

Make google your friend.

Bukola600:
➜How many of those children raised by single mums turn out to be responsible human beings?
➜ Do you know that in USA, more crimes are committed by children raised by single moms? You are free to research it
➜ Children raised by two parents are likely to be more responsible than those raised by single parents

. Very many, actually! Enough for people to realize that it isn't simply about being raised in a single home that one would think to resort to violence.

2. That is not entirely the whole picture since crimes committed by folks in two-family homes are equally high. Research has revealed that it is kids from damaged backgrounds — whether single-parent or two-parent households — that commit the most crimes.

3. That's a myth at this point since study after study has revealed that it is not being raised in a single-family home or two-family home that makes one commit crimes, but rather it is being raised in a bad environment/toxic family situation that does.

Let's get ourselves educated so we can stop perpetrating lies begining today.

Bukola600:
➜There is some sense in what you said. The reason for this harsh reality is that those men you mentioned lack responsible father figures. It takes a man to tame a man. Men, by default, are stubborn. So a it is not woman's job alone to train them alone.
➜ However, I don't quite agree with your opinion that women really bring up their daughters well nowadays. If it is true, how come rate of hook up is skyrocketing nowadays. How come we have a lot of underage girls twerking and showing their unclothedness on tictok and Instagram for likes and money.
➜ To find a wife material nowadays is almost next to impossible.

This is false logic that has been proven, time and time again, to be wrong! It does not take a father to raise or tame a man. Rather, it takes a responsible, emotionally stable, and socially intelligent being — man or woman — to raise a responsible adult, whether female or male.

Time and time again, we have seen so many men raised by single mothers turn out to be decent examples of men in society. It is time we dead this old narrative that has only seen so many boys being destroyed by toxic/immature men who are their fathers.

2. Women can bring up both decent sons and girls all by themselves if and only if the women themselves are not of the toxic/manipulative and immature type. Again, there are enough examples of successful men and women who were raised by single mothers or in single-parent families for all to take a cue from.

3. Are those looking for wife material themselves capable husband materials or predators looking for perfect prey?

iamL:
They should have minded their business since the abuse wants to remain in an abusive marriage. I never get involved in issues like this because at the end some will still be the one to turn against that interfered.

You mind your business while they are living in the horror, but the moment news breaks of a death or this sort here as a result of the horror, you all flock here to air your views? Why? Why not shut up about it all until the end?

tanigororo:
➜Jokes on You 🤣 I guess you should listen to your own jokes and laugh too

What joke?

Kewekubosineh:
➜Your points/epistle sounds germane within civilized climes. Not Nigeria where cultural values are adhered strictly in every marriage.
➜ So, talk about Nigeria and her peoples and Not Oyinbo settings. The action of the young man on his wife should not be judged based on emotions. But on available and cultural values which guides every marriage. You goofed,...!

1. The one thing most Nigerians know never to do is adhere to traditional/religious values. Any sane individual in that country is more than aware of this. Nigerians often discuss their values at length, but rarely adhere to them unless the outcomes favor them.(It is a different level of hypocrisy that is the Nigerian value system.) That is the general illusion of what is referred to as values in that country called Nigeria, and among those who refer to themselves as Nigerians— they all talk and no substance to the bone.

2. Nigerians are humans, and human behavior isn't rocket science, but a lot more pattern-based than you would like to think or accept.

nurusystem:
➜Your dressing matter and boy is checking the temperature of the contents

A 7-year-old, who only moments before ran around naked and carefree, concerns himself with people's dressings and asserts himself as a temperature checker for other people's bodies? By what statute do you lot raise your children with this mentality and to the profit of whom?

I have said it so many times before now. Nigerians are generally terrible parents. CPS is overdue at this point in time if that nation is ever to begin moving forward.

thomas2024:
➜Did you actually read the story or you’re trying to play red herring here? Oh! What a moniker! As usual🥳

What story? The story that a father withholding financial support from his DNA because he was not granted access to the child? Or was he not aware of the child's existence?

LilMissFavvy:
➜What stopped him from sending financial support to the child's mother monthly? He actually shares the blame, he caused his sons dea*th

Just imagine the audacity of this storyteller? He refused to fund the child because he was not given access to the boy and maybe even the mother's coochie... and now blames the woman for the son's demise?

thomas2024:
➜“This innocent man lost his son to malnutrition. His ex preferred their child to kpai than allow him to have access to the boy even when it was obvious that she couldn't cater for him.”
“I felt a rush of cold running down my spine when the father informed me about the ordeal. As a father, I felt his pains. I can't wish his fate on my worst enemy.”
➜“Kings, learn from this story. Stop having kids by psychologically, emotionally, and spiritually broken obirins. There are some women that are not even worth your attention let alone piping.”

Are you telling us that because he was denied access to the child, the man chose to deny his son child support money, leading to his eventual death due to malnutrition?

2. A king denied his own DNA financial support necessary for his survival? Or did your king not know of the child's existence prior to the child's death? 🥱🥱🥱

Caaz:
✓ Hey kobo you have seen what i was trying to tell on the other thread,see eeh sometimes instantly retaliation nip some nonsense.
This boys mum knew she was raising a s*xual predator, but decides to keep mute and egg him on.
Thank God that woman gave them some dose of their madness.

The spanking will not stop the boy from continuing to objectify other women, though it might make him a bit more cautious when picking his victims next time. That mother and maybe even the father are the major problem when it comes to changing his behavior. 🥱🥱🥱

oz4real83:
A man that cheated is remorseful, apologizes and take steps to correct his mistakes, are those actions not enough? Some of you will still want the man to kpai himself despite all his efforts to make amendments.

A man/woman who cheated and is remorseful, apologizes, and takes steps to correct his/her mistakes is not enough, though because deep down we are all aware that cheating is abuse of trust and the nullification of the relationship contract itself -- commitment in at zero and so also relationship trust. Why insist women do what mean find the hardest to do-- continue in a trustless, commitment-less relationship? Why the blatant loathing of women ? 🥱🥱🥱

chiagozien:
Your OP should face his tribe and change their evil traditions first.

I suggest you spare your brain any more painful spasms by getting off the thread completely. If in the year 2025, you are this afraid to criticize your own traditions and see changes for the better, then I suggest you avoid these sort of discussion altogether.

dollypi:
✓ There was no training in the use of commonsense bro. Just training in tactical manipulation.
It's part of their overinflated sense of value.

Given the situation of things, tisu training is long overdue. Schools, especially education in Nigeria, definitely needs to find a way to incorporate learning of life necessities-- at least SEL-- into the curriculum from a young age.

chiagozien:
✓ Have you people changed the tradition of your parents teaching children from kids to hate omo Igbos?

Go open a separate thread for that issue; stop with the attempts to distract from the OP's concern.

oz4real83:
People like you that always want to do something all because a man did it always learn your lesson too late. Many of your kind are now fighting to become second, third, 4th, 5th ...... Wife or even a side chick to a married man

At least we finally have you admitting that even though a man marries himself so many wives, he really has no love for all those other wives. I hope women who are pining for such positions in the lives of men out there in Nigeria-- and maybe elsewhere-- begin to realize that they are seen as being no better than garbage for and by many such men.

tanigororo:
What Criteria would you use to determine men's virginity?

Something along the lines of that which is used in determining if a woman is a virgin or not.

oz4real83:
✓ Any woman that leaves her marriage because her husband cheated, not because of continuous violence, such a woman is the worst fool and has tendency for promiscuity. Cheating is wrong, but no matter what you think, it is always a man's world and cheating by a man is not enough to leave him especially when he his remorseful and apologises

Hope when a woman cheats on you and then tries to gaslight you into believing it is a woman's world from her own point of view, you would equally not leave her so long as she is remorseful and apologizes. 🥱🥱🥱

valentineuwakwe:
➜Attimes I wonder where women dey go find this beast dem marry all in the name of marriage! The man no even fear say you carry his child n begin beat you.....we'll I should also ask wetin the woman don do wey make oga begin paranoid like this. Make I Sidon small

. Some of them are your friends, relatives, and coworkers. They are everywhere, given the high rates of domestic abuse in Nigeria.

Emeskhalifa:
➜Most women stay in abusive relationship/marriage coz of what people will say

That is why I believe people should call the cops on him. When he has been reported several times for causing a public nuisance and has had to bail himself out at least once, maybe he will learn that such nonsense is unacceptable, and the woman eventually begins to see that people no longer condone such nonsense.

This feminism paradox seems to exist only in your mind, is what I think.

Dpsychologist:
➜ You say men and women are equal — yet you expect him to be the provider, to shoulder the bills, protect, and lead. You preach independence, but your definition of partnership still revolves around a man’s resources and emotional strength.
➜ You say men and women are equal — yet you expect him to be the provider, to shoulder the bills, protect, and lead. You preach independence, but your definition of partnership still revolves around a man’s resources and emotional strength....

The woman contributes physical labor — maid service, incubator service, nanny service, emotional therapists... all these labors entitle her to compensation, which is to come from the resources that the man is to provide for both entities in the marriage.(Labor laws require that individuals be adequately compensated for all labor done; a wife is not a slave after all.) If it is a partnership, why are the resources tagged as belonging to the man when it is instead meant as marital communal income/property?

Does the woman's emotional labor carry less worth than the emotional labor the man is expected to equally contribute to the relationship, which he is a partner in? 🥱🥱

2. For reasons best known to them, a man and woman can come together to create a family where one partner — either the man or the woman — can be the full-time provider while the other lives as a stay-at-home(home care service provider) to cater to the needs in the household. There is nothing anti-independence about that configuration. That, in and of itself, should not take away the independence of the individual same way being an employee of a company should not strip you of your independence.

ariesbull:
➜My cousin ended her five-year marriage the day she found out her husband cheated. We all begged her to think twice, to calm down before walking away. But she was done. She packed her things, took her two kids, and left.
For a year, the man went from one relative to another, begging for forgiveness. He apologised, promised to change, did everything a repentant man would do. But she stood firm. “I deserve better,” she said.
She got her own place, started afresh, and later met a married man who treated her well. For a while it looked like she had found peace until his wife showed up one morning and scattered everything. The man disappeared, and she was left humiliated.
Not long after, another man came along. He stayed just two months before running off when money became an issue. No message, no explanation.
Then came an Alhaji who promised marriage but only if she sent her sons back to their father. He said he could not raise another man’s children. She ended it right there. Three years later, she woke up one morning and asked herself, what if I go back? The man still loved her, the kids missed him, and maybe time had softened her heart. So she went to his house early that morning, ready to reconcile. But a pregnant woman opened the door. Her ex-husband had moved on. It has been over ten years now. The woman who once turned heads no longer does. The suitors stopped coming. Her kids are back with their father, cared for by their stepmother who now has two of her own.
➜ Life does not always give you a second chance. Sometimes pride takes what pain never could.

If your friend had simply stopped at starting afresh, instead of jumping headlong into meaningless relationships, she probably would have been better off.

Yes, she did the right thing by abandoning her abuser — the man who cheated on her. No woman or man should remain in an abusive relationship, no matter how much their abuser begs. Her mistake was in roping herself with other men afterwards without first ensuring she had properly healed from the previous abuse, and also her own lack of self-awareness and dearth of self-love.

2. Wrong, life more than gave your friend numerous chances at a second chance. She refused to take advantage of them to the fullest. Life has nothing to do with what became of your friend, as your narrative clearly shows. There are so many of our mothers and grandmothers who were literally abandoned in marriage, who went on to live better and more fulfilling lives outside of marriage out there as examples to any woman who wishes to use her second chance outside of marriage to her benefit.

Unfortunately, this story is typical of a certain kind of woman... the kind who doesn't know or even realize how valuable she is as a human being; this kind typically believes her worth is nothing until a man accepts her. It is a shame that professional psychotherapy is still not fully embraced by many in Nigeria.

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Tell your friend it is not too late for her to pick herself and start over again loving herself first. That is the only way to heal and get her self in esteem back where it ought to be -- up high. No human is born needing others for validation and self worth. 🥱🥱

What percentage of igbo women are feeding their husbands? ....something wey no reach 0.5%... igbos no be like yoruba .... its like women like u should be deported to saudi, India, China, Egypt Russia for a decade, when u come back, u go get sense

Very stewpid statements put forth all in desperate attempts to shutdown all attempts to expose the injustice that is behind this culture.

Let's, for the sake of argument, pretend that less than <0.5% of Ibo married women are breadwinners. What reason exists for why even that 0.5% should not be allowed to inherit their husband's property?

Better yet, what valid reason exists for why any of the over 99.5% others should not be allowed to inherit their husband's property? When, by law, the dividends of a marriage are to belong to both the husband and the wife.

nnamdi640:
➜That is your business, you wanted to ridicule Igbos about their female but I just put it to you that our women hold a strong position when it comes to our culture. Beside you would have channel you energy to the north where women only belong to the kitchen

. This is exactly the example of cultural bullying that the @OP helped open up with this thread.