₦airaland Forum

South4sure1:
➜Lol be like you hurt or a divorcee trying to encourage your type

Um... is this something you need me to be all so you can feel better about yourself? 🥱🥱🥱

cutecommend:
➜It is possible to see the best spouse for you after you are Married,
➜ but you just have to love the one you are already married to and move on.

Were you forced into marrying the spouse whom you now believe ain't so not the best then?

2. No, you do not! Better to divorce the one you are with, so you can go with the other one you believe to be best for you, than to cage the one you now realize you do not love —believe you settled for— in a loveless marriage, like the vast majority out there go on to do. Nobody out there feels good to be the one that was settled for.... not a single one.

Gaddafih001:
➜Wait till you become such victim. A woman can have a child for you and still be after your life. The best option is to open account for your child and pay into the account. Stay far away from a chaotic woman.

So, you knew of at least one solution, therefore absolutely no excuse for why you should not be expected to provide financially for the child you had with said woman? But somehow felt like mentioning the part about your life being in danger for what? ATtention?

yemmit90:
➜It is good you are helping them to stand on their feets, may God continue to bless and enrich you with more knowledge and finance.
In whatever you do, don't let it prevent you from getting marry to a good man whenever you are ready. I have seen a situation like that where this sister remains single at the age of 40, when all her siblings she used her prime age to suffer for has all gotten married with kids. Spend on yourself too, look good and get marry in your prime year. If you marry a good man, and you dont become lazy, it won't prevent you from helping them with what you can.

How will marrying this good man now better her condition at this point and in the future?

Nyascobar1414:
.. Deep. Some Hot males or lawmakers made this a reality.. But its not feasible shaa,cos this is Nigeria 😹

You don't live in Lagos, do you? 🥱🥱🥱

Redemption88:
➜So my question is, "is the background important or not?"➜

Your background and mental maturity are of equal if not more importance, and clearly, that girl ain't right for you.

Also, since you are looking for a girl without family to boot, I suggest you also ensure you wait until you have no family of your own that could pose a burden to the girl you will end up with. That way, you won't worry about ending up penniless and the girl will also not ever have to worry about needing to take care of your family members as well.

Augustwife:
➜Its been 18 months since I left. Now a resident, my kids are living their best life by the Grace of God. Im already working on reunification so I can be with them. But till then visiting them regularly is okay by me.
I am still a 'work in progress" but I am a *grateful work in progress*
Oh and my husband....sincerely I dont know what he is up to. I pray he gets better and he finds God alongside a good life

He is still your husband? If he can provide evidence of this, that man can also get a visa and ticket to join you where you are to continue the shege he had been wrecking on your life before your second chance. Better ask the many other women abroad who either forget or thought they could hold on to the Mrs. badge without holding on to the man in whose name they obtained it, how it worked out for them.

olabrad:
➜Madam, you want to know my personal experience better than me?!
➜ I have 2 personal experiences like this. It is my personal experience, not yours. The biological father was gone for decades and suddenly showed up to claim the father's place on the son's wedding day! You can't experience my experience better than me, Madam

. Stop lying o'jare!

2. What two personal experiences did you experience raising a stepdaughter who later abandoned you out of the blue? Abegi!

MomohMrMoore:
➜Lol.. this man played betnaija so he should not complain. Its like someone betting on a football match with all he had and now complaining he didn't win. Even your own daughter is a 50-50 chance. Someone else child is a 10-90 percent chance. That is life, he should not complain. If he had won, he wouldn't come out to tell us the story.

Nonsense! If his own daughter is fifty-fifty, then why his own daughter wey him no even raise go ... by him, I mean the deadbeat father of the girl .... go come dey find am then?

The story na lie and your point no enter at all.

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olabrad:
✓ Such a thing happens in real life.I know a couple of victims

It never happens. Even the one you think you know never happened like this. Why? Because human behavior is a lot more complex -- not complicated -- than what the OP contains. That story is filled to the brim with holes that do not explain exactly what happened.

Yankiss:
Well, it does happen that a stepson grows up and takes the step dad much more seriously than anyone else. It's 50/50. The vagaries of human beings is too much. Don't lose hope. Promising you a car shows much gratitude from the bottom of the heart. He could actualize it later, honestly! Not all stories end this way. I feel this one was fabricated. If it's true, it can only mean that the girl subconsciously missed the real dad, or was manipulated one way or the other.

The story NEVER happens as narrated by the OP therefore it is safe to conclude that it is fabricated.

Tohsynetita1:
✓ I mean you will experience more soon. More than you have been experiencing

You too! This is literally the fact of life. 🥱🥱

gidgiddy:
Deji Adeyanju was right about one thing, its a waste of time fighting for the rights ordinary Nigerians. This present generation have fallen in love with their chains

While Deji is right, Ejimakor is also right for stepping forward as one of the independence generation. That generation should be out there flooding the streets in revolt but we almost never see them out there except when fighting for their own pockets. What a shame!

Toruibestate:
This is crazy, funny and sad at the same time

This man did good by matching during the protest at his age. His generation is the generation that welcomed Nigeria's independence --- the silent generation that has to date refused to step forward against the problems they helped institutionalize in that country
I was just talking to my mom the other day about this fact. ,🤔🤔

Well done! Mr. Ejimakor! 🤟

Tohsynetita1:
More evil people are coming.

Evil has always been here...there are the vast majority and will continue to be until you leave this world. Embrace this fact so you can stop embracing stewpidity and lies for fear of them.🥱🥱🥱

adelafe2019:
✓ Taking care of your siblings and mother should not be an excuse for not having a suitor. Tell the potential suitor that you have little or no time to be with him because of your tight schedule. If you don't want his financial assistance let him know this.
Remember that a lady should marry before being 28years. otherwise boys that are younger than him AND MARRIED MEN THAT ARE 30 YEARS AND ABOVE WOULD BE THOSE TOASTING HER
Pls. avoid men with anger issue to avoid domestic violence, drunkards, womaniser or the one that does not love your immediate family members.
➜You are a good lady l love you for your benevolence. I pray fervently that God will shower you with GRACE, MERCY AND DIVINE BLESSINGS as you leave your comfort zone to assist your family. Ilt's well in Jesus name.

➜ Will this suitor guarantee taking over her responsibilities towards her mother and her siblings from her?
➜ Will this suitor equally enable OP to have time and energy to attend to her very own education and career progress, as well as financial independence?
➜ Will this suitor not pose additional burdens to OP so she can recoup all she has invested over the years in others?

You see a woman struggling to make ends meet and keep her family going at the same time, and the only thing you can think of is to look for ways to pile up more burdens on her head for lord knows what reason, if not wickedness at this point. She is being dragged by depression as it is, yet you feel she should be dragged some more by man problems. Nonsense! 🥱🥱

The sickening aspect of all of this is that you all come lacing your wicked suggestions with the mentions of the name of a god that has so far not seen fit to save OP from the predicament that has weighed her down to this point. You make it seem as though your words would magically cause a god that has been absent thus far to suddenly show up for her. Nonsense!

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For those unaware, a relationship is a burden that consumes time and requires emotional, mental, and physical labor to retain.🥱🥱

Tohsynetita1:
✓ Wait, till you experience evil people before you believe.

I can't believe what is clearly a made up story no matter how many more evil people I encounter at this point. 🥱🥱🥱

mukthar2000:
That why Blood is thicker than water.

Tell that to all those parents/children out there abandoned by their own blood.🥱🥱🥱

olabrad:
✓ Wait until it happens to you before you comment anyhow

the story is fabricated or at least riddled with holes that one cannot possibly consider it real. 🥱🥱🥱

Johnnyplus01k:
✓ After God your parents follow, for dele Ali that didn't forgive his parents what end his career, his destiny changed that moment he swap his name to Dele, go back and check his videos when he used his surname to the latter. Parents remain the ultimate even they abandoned us or not. Pray and take good care of them if not your child will do the same to you

Na this delusion your parents take make una nothing but slaves they use for their whims for Africa until death. The day you wake up to the fact that your parents are human beings just like you is the day wisdom will show up at your door.

Prettychild:
✓ Na the Mama cause am. She should have cut ties with the deadbeat long ago

Stop yammering nlnsden. OP no mention mama for anywhere. Why you add your private delusion put for story wey already get too many holes?

Tohsynetita1:
Dey play, their are series of evil things than this one. If media didn’t broadcast the military man that wife allegedly pour petrol and burnt him, would people like you have believed such?
Just don’t pray for experience of evil. Evil people dey o.

This is one fabricated evil. Since we have more than enough real world examples to have that humans do not behave the way described in the OP. Unless her biological father suddenly became a billionaire and promised her wealth and she reasoning she can get it and repay the people who raised her with it -- or at least something along those lines -- OP's story is mostly fabricated nonsense.

gtassure:
This reply here , is exactly what is wrong with training a child that isn't yours!
You can never win! If you support, they will find blame, they will say you don't do good enough! If you don't, they will say you are wicked! Solution? Just don't get involve with that messy situation of another person!

Stop spewing nonsense. You are fed a rather simplistic tale of a child abandoning the man who supposedly raised her for a man who was absent leaving out all the necessary details to explain the why, and it did not occur to you that those many holes in the story is where the Koko lies? Nonsense!

jaxxy:
So he doesn't want her to have a relationship with her biological dad? I don't expect her to abandon him tho but we don't know the full story to judge her based on having a relationship with her biological. \

Exactly!- the story no enter at all. OP is missing a whole lot of details if it were to be a true story.

Tohsynetita1:
Many of you are saying it’s fabricated, Dey play, those stories you do hear of radio programme that are more terrible than this ? Are they also fake?
The thing is things they happen for this world, yesterday I saw a woman that has 8 children for 8 husbands, if it were to be online stories, I would have thought it was fabricated.
The story of military man that was burnt with petrol by his wife; who will believe such story if not from good sources?
Bad things are happening in this world, just pray not to experience such.

The story is fabricated because out in the real world, what is described almost never occurs for the reasons suggested by in the OP.

Johnnyplus01k:
You can never separate blood from water.

Yes you can. Stop making nonsense up!

FarahAideed:
He thinks the phrase ' blood is thicker than water"came from thin air ? Most human phrases come from 1000s of years information

The story is fake. Blood is thicker than water yet every day we see children abandoning absentee parent? Wake the f up! 🥱🥱🥱

Oisagbai78:
This is a fabricated story. First and foremost, no child, especially a female child that's not legitimately a child of another Man would be so mean to forget who raised her. If such case happens, Karma would definitely strike the child. My prayers is alway s that I don't want to raise children that I would depend on in my Old age. Let me have money that would continue to work for me till Old age. Even Dele Ali that was abandoned by both parents didn't forget his Forster parents that brought him up that's the reason he had to change his name to Dele because he hated his parents. It was even his Mom that was begging for forgiveness when She heard how successful He had become.

Indeed! It is nothing but made up hogwash!

God1000:
His words …
https://www.facebook.com/100067538267625/posts/pfbid0BaeexCKaVUKYyf4ymr62ANFLdP7h8s2KeRadqLjxYAron3JRj6STFAYEKawPsjxBl/

Nonsense story!