₦airaland Forum

delishpot:
I no dey fight for any woman wet decide to endure abuse

Don't fight for her but call the police to report the public nuisance.

Smartcitizen:
➜Are you damn serious? Oya try it out let's see how many bandits you and them will take to station. 🥱🥱🥱

So, this is a bandit situation? 😩😩😩

Smartcitizen:
➜Which police? Who will pay them to come? You talk as if you are not a Nigerian and you don't understand what it takes to make the Nigerian police officers to leave the station and do their work. 🥱🥱🥱

Go ask the thousands of Nigerians in jail who paid the police to come in their case. Nonsense and eegridient! 🥱🥱🥱

Kewekubosineh:
➜Why are you so judgmental on household issues.
➜ What do you know about marriage, and husband and wife Wahala? You should ask for forgiveness for nosing into a terrain you have no experience.
➜We have been on marriage for long. So, listen to our testimony. You know nothing about marriage affairs. Cho cho cho won't help you. I hope you understand.

1. Where is it written in the Law or Constitution that the rights of an individual cease once that person enters this household of yours? Let's start there!

2. I don't give a flying f--k about your ideas regarding marriage, husband and wife wahala... what I do know is that regardless of whatever titles you folks bestow on each other or how you choose to classify your relationships, it is against the law for one human— man, woman or child — being to violently assault another human being— man, woman or child. Simple!

3. The rights a man and woman have as individuals in the land are not dependent on the time they have spent in their marriages. Hope this helps reorient your reasoning in the right direction from this point on.

Caaz:
➜Coco what if she's financially handicap?

She is in a marriage with a man who is supposed to provide her with financial backing. If she is financially handicapped, it is likely because she is also being financially abused by the man — he does not pay her her rightful share of the marital dividends as compensation for her emotional and physical labor, all contributions to building the family, which they both share.

Whichever way you try to look at it, there is absolutely no rational reason why a woman should remain in an abusive/toxic marriage. That look in that child's face says all anyone needs to know of the effects of these sorts of violence/trauma on children. They are not unaffected.

Kewekubosineh:
➜Why are you taking side? Have you found out from the husband to know what led to the scuffle?? It's wrong for you to be emotive and judge out of compassion. Some women are provocative. Maybe, you are not married and therefore doesn't know much about marriage and its inherent Wahala. Please stop judging! Mtchweee 😔

What nonsense is this?

@Caaz, you see how violence-for-violence actions have left the average Nigerian boy-man out there unable to reason properly when faced with the fact that it is the law and the rights of others?

Shawarmagirl:
➜By now he would have been homeless and charge to court if it were here in the UK

Which to me is more effective handling of such entities. This puts fear in others who are considering doing the same.

Chilipepper:
➜Nigerian woman narrates how she handled a 7-year-old boy and his mother after he touched her boobs inside commercial vehicle

Imagine raising a monster who might grow to prey on other women. You for make sure to tell her say she must also prepare herself to marry that boy she is raising that way, or else he might end up in jail if she does not take care. Child Protective Services(CPS) is long overdue in that country. Nonsense!

Lalami3232:
How can a sane human being trust a non-virgin? 😁

Are you yourself a virgin?

Caaz:
The woman i can vouched for her kobo

I have seen many more cases where violence was not enough to achieve a similar result. I have also seen cases where violence resulted in the loss of life. I would rather opt for a non-violent, cost-effective resolution to societal problems.

brain54:
➜What is demonic...
is his reasoning that betting is the only thing the 19 year old boy does to be able to afford a glk and a duplex in the space of a year.
Old man still never wise. He should continue betting for another 12 years maybe his luck will shine!

Even if we are to assume the 19-year-old did in fact get the money he used for all that from winning the lotteries, the fact is OP pretending his luck should mirror that of the boy simply because he reasons it should be is what is demonic, i.e., delusional.

Caaz:
➜Kobo i dont agree with you,i once had this neighbour that loves beating his wife,that day he was at it and I and some ladies beat the hell outta of him eeh. Days later he came Reporting me to my husband, i gave my reasons....the lady just gave birth not up to 2 weeks.
➜ I can tell you now that,we later changes locate and I m still in touch with mum gladys, the man is now responsible.
➜ Kobo... Sometimes it's good to beat the man on the spot to recently his brains.Days ago i mistakenly watched a video of a man pummeling his wife,till day that scene still hurt me,she was badly bloodied.

1. You had to explain why you beat the man to your husband?

2. We don't know that these abused women are very good at lying and covering up for their husbands, right?

3. I am not convinced at all that in society, violence is used to resolve violence. I would rather the man be handed to the authorities and be made an example of so that other men and women realize that there are clear and sure penalties for such behavior.

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I am not trying to belittle your attempts, but I grew up around similar messes and saw how it seldom led to better outcomes for the community or the abused.

Caaz:
➜Why call the police,them suppose fess mend ham first....

Violence will only breed more violence. That will not stop him from finding the woman in secret and taking revenge on her then. The man ought to be thrown in jail and punished according to the law.

mrvitalis:
➜Women trying to bully women is now a mans problem. U already told you no body can challenge umuada... If they decide to degrade women then it's women issue not men

No gang — not even one made up of women —out there should be allowed to go around bullying individuals in the community. This is simple enough for anyone to understand, or is it not?

In any sane society, women bullying women— same as men bullying men— is actually a societal problem, but I guess expecting you to understand this is expecting too much.

EdonhappenTv:
➜Residents of Asaba, Delta State, were left outraged after witnessing a disturbing scene where a man was seen flogging his wife, who is reportedly a nursing mother.
Eyewitnesses say concerned neighbors immediately intervened, confronting the man and condemning his violent behavior. In the viral video, voices can be heard shouting at him to stop as the visibly shaken woman clutches her baby in tears.
The incident has sparked a heated conversation online about domestic violence and the urgent need for stronger community action and legal penalties against abusers.

Why didn't someone call the police on him for violently assaulting a woman? If the one who is being abused won't use her head, then someone else should do so on her behalf.

nnamdi640:
➜ If you have heard about Umuada without their consent, you as a person can't carry out the burial of you love ones, apart from that, they are highly respected, then you will know that Igbos respect women a lot, the rich ones among them gives properties to their female daughter.

What you just typed makes an even worse case for the existence of such a group. Why should consent be needed from such a group on such things?

Ibtxxo:
➜I started betting in 2013 and the highest amount i have won is 250k (2014). 12 years no car, no house or wife or work. Betting is demonic and can render you useless. ..
➜19 years old boy in my hood, that just started yahoo last year. He don build house, duplex and dey drive GLe . This life is indeed spiritual!!!!!!!

How in the world is it demonic when from the start, you were playing a game where the odds were always against you?

2. What is demonic is your reasoning that you and the 19-year-old ought to have had the same outcome.

chiagozien:
Are Igbos looking for members? You are free to go where women are the ones feeding their husbands, the good reason inheritance should be given to only women over there.

Wait, what about the Ibo women out there who are equally feeding their husbands? The tradition does not exclude them from what OP describes.

agadez007:
Feminists should marry themselves

They do that too.

mrvitalis:
✓ Women given independence to rule and judge their matter... Isn't that what feminists wants?

Nonsense! 😩😩😩

The only rule of law necessary is the same law that rules over the men and that is the criminal code established in the country for all citizens. All should receive equal treatment under the law for whatever crimes committed, regardless of gender, age or creed.

Trying to bully women into submitting to acts they would otherwise not accept by way of an all-female gang of thugs is nothing short of tyrannical.

agadez007:
Otu Onitsha amaro na ofu Onye Abiaro
All these online igbo feminists,after all their shenanigans and shouts online,they will later marry the same Igbo men quietly
I don’t take them serious,I am in my town and have attended more than 5 weddings in less than 2 weeks

Let me guess...in your own cookoo ville, feminists do not marry? 😩😩

mrvitalis:
Someone tell me which society in Igbo land is more powerful than "Umuada"
Even eze in council would never challenge umuada
No tribe reverence woman like igbos
No where in igbo culture does it say your fathers property can't be shared to female daughters
Your father can share family land to female daughters simple because they don't belong to him... He is given in trust by the community and only men of that community can hold land in trust

. You mean the same gang of women who are known to bully women into submitting to the will of their husbands, regardless of how unjust the situation? Come on! I saw a documentary sometime ago of how that group has been used in many cases to silence justice, all in the name of supposedly keeping peace and tradition. 😩😩😩

immortalcrown:
The same way your husband's assets belong to you if he dies before you, and your sons will inherit your assets. So, why exactly is your point?

This is untrue! According to research, the husband's property does not automatically become his wife's upon his death in iboland. However , a wife's does. 🤔

AMI3:
✓ U haven't answered my question sir. For ur information a man is entitled to married more than one wife provided he is capable of taking care of them.
✓ Islamic is not exceptional, any woman that can not have that understanding or can not tolerate such a man is not ready to settle down and let be the desire of the man to say I want live with only one wife till death.
✓ Nobody should choke anybody with that ideology that a man can not marry more than one wife.
✓ And it is not even compulsory that everyone should marry.
✓ If u are comfortable with one wife it's a choice

1. Where is this entitlement you refer to, dictated or codified? 🤔

2. I don't understand what you are getting at. 🤔

3. The same way nobody should choke a woman into believing she can only marry one husband, right? 🤔

4. Of course, marriage is not compulsory, nor is "Til' death do us part" compulsory in marriage, even though some choose it for themselves. 🤔

Everything as regards marriage is of choice given hT no human is born married from the womb to another human...even the entitlement you claimed you have as a man is equally a choice which you can not force on those who do not want or desire any such.

Kwinesther:
Ned nwoko this and that, we are talking about sperm quality you are talking about erection. if you don't know the two kids Regina birthed for Nwoko are through IVF

That is interesting to note! 🤔

AMI3:
✓ The contract does it include that the man should stick to one wife till dead do them apart? I am listening sir.

The traditional marriage contract which was created for the benefit of men --- the women is solely responsible for carrying the emotional and physical labor of maintaining the home and marriage while all the man has to do is provide financial resources necessary for running the family and compensating the woman for her efforts -- by men does not directly stipulate that the union is until death even though it has typically been practiced as such or until the man tires of the woman(as is the case with your ancestors who believed in marriage Abandonment).

Squirrel1:
➜ do you have a goats mind?! Understand, if he been get more wives , he wouldn't have kept a deranged and mentally ill side child with long milage!

He wouldn't have yet, even in the North, where the religion allows for 4 wives— polygamy is celebrated—, many men married to the maximum of 4 wives are known to keep sidechicks still? You seem to think too highly of your reasoning abilities. 🥱🥱

Squirrel1:
➜If to say the guy religion allow marry three wives, all this shit wouldn't have happened!

Religion allows three wives via apparent adultery?

AMI3:
➜Please what is the contract? I want to learn

Marriage is a contract between a man and a woman.

Emeskhalifa:
➜Not saying what he did was right but saying the fact that the wife is yet to be caught in the act doesn't mean she's a saint.

Stop lying! 🙄🙄🙄

Own your bullsheet with your whole chest! Your statement was regarding the wife was meant to justify the man's literal abuse of his marriage and his wife. 🥱🥱

Emeskhalifa:
➜So the wife is a saint abi??

Is his cheating — abuse of his marriage vows and wife— made OK because of this idea that his wife is not a saint?

muyico:
Depression! She don patapata scattered the man home, house wife go don hears weytinz happened

Stop with these bloody arse lies already! The man scattered his own home and marriage by breaking his contract with his wife. 🙄🙄