₦airaland Forum

Aify147:
➜As for me, 2 weeks is enough. Once I wait for 2 weeks, I resume activities, na me getam

I pity women who put themselves in the way of people like you.

SpaceX:
How about not getting married you won't need to go through this torture keeping you pencil in a jar until she recovers. You go wait tired...........

And making certain to use birth control all of the time, like sensible beings should.

Sonnobax15:
➜Na so e suppose be.........If not for the fact that I owe my future kids a debt of a pretty mom,I don't think I'd have had any business with a pretty banny in the first place,let alone a fair one in complexion
I've equally noticed it about all my married nighas . Especially the handsome ones who were players back then . They all ended up marrying scare crows for the sake of their peace of mind
➜Reminds me of the story of one of my uncle whose Beautiful wives were all snatched away from him by wealthy men . He ended up marrying a crippled woman so that no man could look her way......That was when and how he finally found peace of mind and enjoyed his marriage till the end of his days on earth. As a man, whether you agree with the man in the Op's post or not,but the truth is that marrying a pretty wife has the highest probability that many men would wanna steal her away from you . And I can't imagine myself hustling and struggling to put food on my table and the same time be thinking of fighting my fellow men over a lose woman

1. Na, those women I pity pass... many of them busy playing wife at home, oblivious to the fact that they are no more than glorified house maids/nurse wives/baby mamas— single married women— for their husbands— the women he settled for because he failed to level up to get his type. Very sad life indeed!

2. A crippled woman he probably detests but chose because he would rather settle than be alone. Kai!

Chilipepper:
I married my wife when her looks was not in the best form because I was sure I’ll enjoy peace and tranquillity — Engineer Shares

The woman was already beautiful when you met her just that she may not have had access at the time to make her beauty shine.

OP, the title is misleading. Please update it.

Polydo:
➜A young woman confessed the truth that she killed her own child because the father couldn't give her a dime. " I did what I had to do his family did not want me" she said.
I tried all I can to prevent the abortion but the fact that my own boyfriend did not even buy towels that alone made it worse on my side since my family does not support me. On the video she kept saying that what she wanted from her boyfriend was money to prove that he will care for the child.
" The fact that he kept going out with friends made it worse on my side" she said. I tried to be a girlfriend to have however fake lifestyle was not even on my mind. I had to show him and his family what I am capable of doing. Even today I do not regret leaving him for another man, lady confessed via a shared video on social media.

She escaped being babytrapped by a deadbeat man. Here's hoping this means she will choose better men in the future. Women should learn to stop breeding for irresponsible men.🥱🥱

ablogroup:
True story:I know of a very nice Urhobo man. He worked with Daily Times in the late 80s, He retired some years after and his graduity was paid. He decided to invest and he involved his lovely wife, they both opened a beer parlor and a provision store in both of their names. The business became an instant hit. Over the years the wife started taking more control of the business, she went behind his back to change the bank details from a corporate account in both of their names to her own personal account without the man's knowledge. To cut the long story short, she started to frustrate,starve and dehumanize the man cos she had total control of the business that was funded 100% by the man. Eventually she asked him to park his bags and go back to his Village. When the man told me the story I cried. Ever since then I have been supporting the man (now in his mid 60s) with some monthly stipends and hopefully I will open a small business for him over there in Delta state.

This your story no make sense at all. You said the man worked at Daily Times, meaning he may have been exposed to some of the workings of the law and the legal system. If indeed his wife fraudulently switched the bank information and all, as you claim, why didn't the man sue her? 🥱🥱🥱

Somebody is lying in this story of yours.

tollyboy5:
➜Reality is different from illustration. You're carried away with wokeness. And not reality

➜Nigeria, as a signatory to the United Nations Universal Declaration of Human Rights, is a reality, not wokeness.
➜ Nigeria's recognition of marriages registered in the courts — even after traditional rites have been done — is a reality, not wokeness.

grandstar:
➜She said the truth. There are no jobs in SA. Unemployment is as bad as Nigerias if not worse.
➜ Many Nigerians there turn to crime.e to survive. It's a gangsters paradise.

Unemployment in SA Is nothing close to what you have in Nigeria, not by even a mile!

2. You mean as opposed to the millions of Nigerians in Nigeria who are fully and openly into crime as a whole sector of the economy?🥱🥱

grandstar:
➜There's nothing in South Africa. That's why is back. Unemployment there is sky high, and crime rate is high. In addition, xenophobia is real. Black South Africans are showing up at workplaces and demand that all migrant workers must leave, to make way for jobless locals. Many Nigerians turn to crime to ether sustain themselves or to thrive.

But Nigeria rates a whole lot worse on all three indices.(Replace the third with tribalism/racism)

tollyboy5:
➜Let's end this discussion here. It's a men's world so men protect female they love from harm coming from other men.

Be sure not to raise your boys or any boy you love with this mentality, as the world is, even today, already moved well away from this mindset you continue to hold fast to.

casualobserver:
A lot of very dumb comments inferring taxing illegal activity means endorsing or legalizing illegal acts. Al Capone the famous Mafia boss was eventually convicted for tax evation when they couldn’t nail him for racketeering and murder.
Income is taxable whether from legal or illegal activities. You will pay the taxes on your drug income and if NDLEA catch you you will still go to jail!

Declaring that the income earned by individuals is taxable is completely removed/different from declaring that prostitution sector — via the services provided by prostitutes— will be directly taxed for the services they provide. Read the OP again! 🥱🥱🥱

Omihanifa:
➜The administration, according to Mr Oyedele, will levy taxes on all services rendered in exchange for money, a rule he explained applies to sexual transactions.
“If somebody is doing run girls, they go and look for men to sleep with; you know that’s a service,” Mr Oyedele explained to the RCCG congregation. “They will pay tax on it.”
The tax czar further stated that the law itself does not have the capacity to distinguish between income obtained from legitimate means and illegitimate ones; hence, all income is deemed taxable.
“One thing about the tax law is it doesn’t separate whether what you’re doing is legitimate or not; it doesn’t even ask you. It just asks you whether you have an income. Did you get it from rendering a service or providing a good? You pay tax,” Mr Oyedele said

. Alcapone was not convicted on tax evasion based on his illegal goods or services— drugs, bootlegging, etc,— but rather on the income he had declared as his own.

11doubledee:
Oga i don't have power for unnecessary arguments. You just want to sound right like i said ,simple comprehension on your part is the problem.
Cash inflows through the Nigerian financial system will now be taxed directly which is unprecedented in the history of Nigeria.
So how do you differentiate whether it is legal funds or not?
Secondly ,who will be so dumb to go and report him or herself of receiving funds for drugs, prostitution, kidnapping or fraud?
The only way to circumvent such tax law is through direct cash payment but definitely not through the banks.

As expected, nothing but gibberish!

11doubledee:
➜Not at all o ,it is like saying drug trafficking is now legal because it's proceeds were taxed.

Again, if the government declares it will now tax drug traffickers, the same is invariably saying it is looking to legitimize drug trafficking to tax it— the government can only tax that which it legitimizes, not criminalizes.

11doubledee:
Just because you want to sound right ,do you even understand what i stated?
Has any Nigerian ever lived January 2026 before as of today?

You should probably re-read your previous post a couple of times so you properly comprehend it before moving forward.

11doubledee:
➜A very wrong assertion,it is like saying drug trafficking is now legal because its proceeds were taxed.

Prostitution is currently not legal in Nigeria. Unless it is legalized/legitimized—voted into law as such— before January 2026, Nigeria cannot rationally move forward with plans to begin taxing prostitution at that time. The same applies to drug trafficking.

11doubledee:
➜A very wrong assertion ,it is like saying drug trafficking is now legal because it's proceeds were taxed.

Only legitimate businesses can be taxed; illegitimate ones cannot be. Drug trafficking has, before now, never been taxed in Nigeria since it is considered illegal/illegitimate.

Fekumzi123:
➜After you leave with your badluck, the man now got another better job, you'll now run and come back when your business collapse. As you know, anything can happen.

Tell that joke to the millions of men out there who, many years after their women left them, are still plagued by the same bad luck. Africans and delusions are siamese twins joined in the brain.

Jennyclay:
Depending on who’s seeking for divorce. If it’s the woman, it’s advisable she gives the man 30% - 40% share of the business but if it’s the man Otilo niyen

Investing in her business is a good idea as that makes him a shareholder of sorts meaning that even if they were to get divorced, the woman would still need to pay him his share of the dividends from the business regardless. 😏😏

Okhuadams:
Real pain makes someone tell pple what happened in the bedroom between their parents, saying things they wouldn't say if ok

Abeg! Again, love is not what love isn't. If you fixate on the things you lost out to someone you supposedly love, then it means your giving was in hopes of a return i.e. it was never love, to begin with, but a transaction. And that is OK,too. 🥱🥱🥱

I recall that particular October, back when I was still in highschool. One of my class mates, a JW, used all his allowance to buy us rice, dodo, and meat at the cafeteria stalls. He believed that sheet for real. 🥱🥱🥱

Mrkc:
✓ After over one year in SA without anything to show for it, I have finally decided to come back to Nigeria.
With no job, house or anything tangible to fall back to but i am just determined to start all over again because i believe no matter how far you have gone on the wrong part it is never too late to start again.
In my late thirties, no qualifications, no family, no flourishing or tangible business but determined to learn anything that can at least substain me.

What are you coming back to in Nigeria though? You claim you have nothing to show for the over one year abroad, but what are you heading back to Nigeria to find?

What do you have back in Nigeria that is waiting to give you the success you could not find back in South Africa?🥱🥱

tollyboy5:
✓ Which constitution.
Lol.. even kobojunkie better pass you.
✓ It has never been 50/50 and it's not even about authority or no authority.
✓ Is just who feel the others need to be protected

The other poster is actually right. What you keep insisting on is not codified in even the law of the land -- it exists only in the minds of individuals who hold these ideas. (Your traditional laws are not, to this day, documented or signed off on by the people, rendering them of little to no value to most of those who adhere to them.) 🥱

2. By 50/50, I believe the other meant a partnership with is upheld by the fact that Nigeria is a signatory to the UN Universal Human Rights agreement that declares by which all humans are recognized as equals - irrespective of status, age, religion, gender, or creed. 🥱😐🥱


3. Protected? The majority of crimes against women in Nigeria are committed by the very men in their lives...fathers, husbands, boyfriends, relatives, neighbors, boss, etc. What protection does a woman obtain from a man who, for example, abuses her?

Olaolar:
Why is it that, In Africa the first year of marriage, the man speaks and the woman listens. In the second year, the woman speaks and the man listens. In the third year, they both speak and the neighbors listen. 😂😂 🚶🚶

If you really believe this to be the case in all marriages, shouldn't you start then by asking your folks?

beardedboy:
✓ Zero substance.
1. I don't know about your forefathers but mine weren't children killers. And they definitely didn't treat their children as slaves.
2. Maybe you treat your employees as slaves but I don't. Even in the west, employers have authority over their employees. But your myopic mind thinks all forms of authority is enslavement.
3. Thanks for admitting your bigotry. And, no, I'm not a bigot like you.

1. Oh, wow! This is all now just about your stories with your own father and not about the traditions in marriage in Nigeria? And this is what you consider to be substantial, abi?

2. Oh, wow! This ain't about what is generally obtainable but of how you treat your own employees vs how I supposedly treat mine? Slavery is judged simply on that, right?

3. Abeg, allow me move on to more meaningful things at this point. 🙄🙄

Onewazobia:
✓ Nothing to think about, I think ant are wiser

Nonsense! 🥱🥱🥱

beardedboy:
✓ So your children that you have authority over are your slaves and have no rights?
✓ Your employees that you have no authority over are your slaves?
✓ You people will let bigotry delete your common sense then start wondering why your life is a junkyard!

1. Your very forefathers and your fellow men to this day believe it OK to disown those same children at the drop of a dime. If given the chance, they would literally kill, not abandon them too.

2. You mean employees out in the West or the ones you have in Nigeria who are treated no better than slaves in many instances? Even the Nigerian government treats it's people like slaves, so what in the world were you thinking asking me these questions?

3. Look who's talking! 🫤🥱🥱🥱

tollyboy5:
✓ Who drops the bigger responsibility is the leader.
These things are common sense. It's always not common with ladies I know that. So I'm not surprised.
✓ Women hustling is just a support and not the bigger stake

It is always not common with ladies even though in Nigeria alone, almost 50% of marriages are supposed to be headed by the females who are reported to be the breadwinners?

2. Women hustling and paying all the bills are just support for their deadbeat/hobo-sexuals of a husband?

Onewazobia:
✓ Not necessarily because of money however, of a truth man is/should be the authority/leader of his home otherwise what befall a troop without a leader will soon befall them. Happy new week

There is no truth to that old fable that has only helped make many a small man believe he is entitled to that which he cannot of his own wit earn for himself. 🥱🥱🥱

Think careful before responding so you don't drag this on and waste both our times here. If it were a truth, it would have been codified and signed by authorities but to this day, it has never been.

Gerrard59:
➜The man already does this. Both parties do things for their children.
➜ If at least 90% of a man's earnings go towards the household (wife and children), where do the woman's earnings go towards?
➜ If "my money is mine, but your money is ours", what does she spend that her money on?

1. So, because you presume men do it, women shouldn't be equally able to do just that, too? Also, are you trying to get us to believe you are not aware that a great number of men die without leaving even a penny behind for their kids in Nigeria? '

By the way, not all men leave an inheritance for their kids. Studies in the U.S., for instance, show that about 54% of men plan to leave an inheritance for their kids, while about 42% of women intend to do so.

2. 90% of the woman's savings can go towards guaranteeing there is money left to spend after the man's demise or when the man is no longer able to provide. Those children are hers, and it is also in her best interest that she has money set aside to provide for them if and when the man is no longer able to.

3. Your money is yours if you insist on taking on the traditional role of head-of-household. It is not that complicated.

justli:
➜It shouldn't be an obligation for the woman but for for the man? I don't know what you all are smoking.

For the man who wants to have a traditional marriage, it is an obligation— he gains an authoritative role over the woman in that case. However, it ceases to be an obligation for the man who instead opts for a partnership marriage; in addition, he also does not hold an authoritative role in a partnership.

Gerrard59:
These beliefs are largely cultural, and I respect them.
My own is as the man spends the bulk of his money on the household, what exactly does the woman use her money for? The traditional model worked brilliantly as men formed the bulk of the labour class, both in blue and white collar jobs. However, with women carting away 50% of white collar jobs and encroaching on blue-collar jobs, it means there are fewer jobs to go round for men. It also means women earn very well, and in some cases, more than men.
So, what does she use that money for?

Women also like to have an inheritance prepared for their children, if nothing else.

abbey621:
➜ Then you're simply not exposed and would never survive in a country where the standard of living is very high. Marriage is indeed a partnership and your own definition of partnership gets k-leg! The real definition of partnership is assisting one another, abroad 90% of households run on partnership, even the full time housewives are saving their husbands from daycare/nanny costs.
➜ You don't command authority or respect by making all the decisions, what happens if you became disabled, unemployed or dead? You've just succeded in putting your wife and kids in a very desperate situation.......
➜ The world has moved beyond this myopic thinking, unless you're a real odogwu where money na water, you better believe marriage is indeed a partnership!

1. You dey mind am!

2. People like that believe authority in marriage is a birthright of theirs, and they hold on to that belief even when they find they are incapable of fulfilling the requirement for that status over their wives.

3. My happiness is that women are no longer like their mothers and grandmothers.