₦airaland Forum

Lifestone:
➜Which damage, he should adore the Woman for sacrificing her dignity to give him a second shit at libe. He should be grateful forever. Did the judge go away with her P. s. sy?

Grateful to be loved by a woman who has literally no self-esteem or respect left for herself as a human being? If that were your son, would you advise him to do that?

uchkochi:
➜A woman goes to preeson to visit her husband who has just been sentenced to forty years imprisonments.
As soon as she enters the visiting room, she hugs him and exclaims with tears in her eyes,
"Oh! Roger, 40 years, Roger?"
"Well, my love, what are you going to do?"
"Let's leave everything to God." The husband replied.
"Dearest Roger...!" "I spoke to the judge handling your case,"
"And what did he say, my love?"
"He told me that for every time I make love with him, he will reduce your prison sentence by one year..."
"What !!!" The husband exclaimed "What a miserable bastttard" "And what did you say to that son of a beetch?"
"Oh, Roger! We'll talk about it at home, pick up your stuff, let's go… !!!
Your sentence has been covered already"
Is this woman to be congratulated or not?
Does she love her husband?
THE DEBATE IS open! MARRIAGE OR DIVORCE?
Which would be your next step should you be the husband.

I have seen many variants of this story many times before. The major issue to be discussed is what would cause a woman— somebody's daughter— to have her self-esteem eroded to the point that she would deprecate herself—her dignity as a human being— in that manner to save a man from the sentence he deserved?

Chilipepper:
➜My husband recently bought a brand-new car, and the whole family was excited. Not long after, he mentioned that he wanted to sell his previous one and upgrade to the latest version. I didn't think much of it,until a friend called, saying she spotted his "old car" at ShopRite being driven by a woman. When she confirmed the plate number, my heart sank. It was indeed my husband's car. She even sent me a picture, and the driver turned out to be his girlfriend. He gave her that car as a birthday present, while I, his wife, am struggling with two kids and no car to ease our daily movement. I feel crushed. How am I supposed to deal with this kind of betrayal?

I am shocked you still regard him as your husband, assuming this tale is real in her case. 🙄🙄

Clearly, you are the wife material/good wife/submissive wife your husband settled for to build a home for his sake, while his side-chick is the woman of his dreams, whom he maintains and builds up.

iSense247:
➜The total approximate costs to earn a degree at UoPeople are the following:
Associate Degree: $3,260
Bachelor’s Degree: $6,460
M.Ed.: $5,260
MBA: $5,460
MSIT: $5,460

The school advertises itself as a Tuition-free establishment(not administrative cost-free). Ask your friends who attend schools in Nigeria and other schools abroad how much they had to pay for tuition, and compare that to $0 for tuition-free schools.

“Tuition-free” means that, unlike other universities, UoPeople doesn’t charge students for taking courses. UoPeople also doesn’t charge students to enroll, to pay for books or other course materials, or for campus fees. Our unique online model of higher education allows us to bring the classroom to you– cutting the cost for our students overall.

paragon10:
➜everything you stated is caused by men's lack of awareness. They are becoming more aware now and are learning the game better .
➜ The hookup you mentioned still comes down to women being dependent on men for survival.
➜ why can't they go work in the industry and make money like men do?
➜ How long are you gonna keep selling your body to men? Prostitution is a career that has short span. In a country where the purchasing power is extremely low, coupled with more supply of hookup gals against lower demand of service from men. No be man when don chop belleful go dey find hookup babe,lol.

So, clearly, this "men's lack of awareness" has indeed also contributed to women no longer seeking validation from men, as pointed out? And you were ranting about feminists like a crazy loonie, why? I mean, none of what I listed there had anything to do with feminism, and you did submit that these things are facts of reality in today's world.

2. Are you OK? Is that like saying the Dangote Refinery, which sells gasoline to Nigerians, is dependent on Nigerians? Don't you see how dumb that sounds?

3. Why should they do that when they can get easier money by having those men who work harder elsewhere as their customers to buy their own products? I don't understand the way you lot reason at all. It should not matter whether prostitution spans 10 years or however long, as what should matter is that it is a way for many men and women to make money.

4. This is a country where even teenage boys have been reported to rape old grandmothers just to get their egos replenished? Are you sure you are OK at all?

... look, these immature responses of yours are getting really irritating. Here is a link to a man on tiktok better explain the problem for you, if you will.
https://www.tiktok.com/video/7521878433660439838

Nnamdipapa:
➜Cost of a bachelor's degree at the university of Illinois is totally irrelevant to the discussion. It becomes a scam if advertised as "free". It may be my opinion though.

What in the world is going on here?

How is it irrelevant if it clearly shows that the tuition cost alone is at least $11,000 at UIC for the same degree? UOP is advertised as tuition-free, meaning the person will pay $0 for tuition costs. Again, how is that a scam? 🥱🥱🥱

Chilipepper:
➜Man cancels wedding after his fiancée refused to let his sister join her bridal train.

He cancelled the marriage because he could not get his own sister into the woman's bridal train? 😏

Anyways, red flag na red flag! They both dodged a bullet there and should count themselves lucky.

Women, please stop marrying controlling men. Your worth to these types of men comes down to whether they can control you or not. And the end is never good as your beings are reduced to near nothing by all of that control. Go ask your mothers and grandmothers for details on that.

Nnamdipapa:
➜"Tuition free" is a scam. Is more like UHaul advertising 19.95 for for their cube van and ending up charging me $105 for mileage in the fine prints.

Your analogy makes no sense!

The cost of a Bachelor's degree at the University of Illinois, Chicago is estimated to cost $18,958 for a resident/in-state off-campus student(does not include cost of books, housing, personal expenses, transportation, etc.). How can a program that costs approximately 1/3rd of that amount be considered a scam?

paragon10:
➜In your dreams, they no longer seek validation from us. Women need us more than we need them. They derive their worth from getting married to men.They get respect by answering 'Mrs' .The world is changing alot and very soon they will be replaced by humanoid robots. The worst set of women are these Nigerian feminist women. Someone that can't even feed herself will be claiming feminist. Is that not delusional? The western women they are copying feminism from are financially independent,then you will be in Nigeria and be claiming feminist. I'm glad men are now seeing them for what they truly are and these women would regret everything in the end.

This clearly reads like a response from a seriously unhinged mind. 😣😣😣

You clearly have not been paying attention to
➜the trend of many more Nigerian women turning to hookups— selling that body you feel needs your validation — rather than waiting around for a man to save them?
➜ the trend around the world and even in Nigeria, where more women are choosing to delay the need for marriage, opting to have babies outside of it, where possible.
➜ the rise in women opting for multiple partners rather than clinging to just one?
➜ women in marriage, cheating at pretty much the same rate as the men they are married to?

Which of the above screams need for validation from these women or feminism, which your rant seems to go on and on about? 🥱🥱🥱

paragon10:
➜Never compare our mothers to this lazy, entitled, feminist women. These new generation of women don deserve marriage. Na baby mama fit all of them. They don't deserve to be taken seriously.

Because your mothers are not to be seen as humans deserving of the same freedoms that women today have and boast of, abi? Because your mothers deserved the suffering and diminishing of their worth as humans for the sake of marriage, right?

Funny thing is that the women you love to hate today were raised by those grandmothers and mothers whom you thought should not be seen or heard. Yes, those same mothers and grandmothers raised their daughters to demand that their voices be heard and they be seen. Those women of old dreamed of this freedom, which they then instilled in their daughters to strive for. Now, when you rail against the women of today, you are actually railing against your mothers and grandmothers who raised them to be this way.

The same way you did not take the pains of your mothers and grandmother's seriously is the same way you think these current women should not be taken seriously, and that is OK because they no longer seek validation or their worth from you lot.

Nnamdipapa:
➜Its very cheap but not free as you have stated. Free means free.

Wrong! It says it is tuition-free, and that is what I showed there. Basically, you pay administrative costs alone and get a bachelor's degree for free.

“Tuition-free” means that unlike other universities, UoPeople doesn’t charge students for taking courses. UoPeople also doesn’t charge students to enroll, to pay for books or other course materials, or for campus fees. Our unique online model of higher education allows us to bring the classroom to you– cutting the cost for our student overall.

LoneSoldier:
➜Your number one point, I don't go along with it, women doesn't have that right to say such, because behind every mans success is his sweat, hard work, determination, dedication and a slim curve of hope to make it, not you.....
Your number two point, so now marriage is now a business venture, enlighten me more..... You just proved my points, so a man's money is actually for the wife also, because they did an agreement, why a woman's money becomes hers when she works for it, I want to ask you a question, does the man not work for his money also, does he sit and wait for money to fall down from the sky before he gets it....... You people are just something else honestly speaking.......

I already made clear that the ones I blame the most for this are mothers who raise sons who are completely removed from the realities of life and the rights of a woman in marriage.

It is indeed a sad thing to see a son claim his own mother has no right to claim the success of her husband as her own in marriage. It really makes you wonder if this son ever really saw his own mother as a human being at any point growing up. It shakes one to the bone to see a son literally declaring his mother was merely a slave who suffered needlessly in marriage with nothing(not even a share in the success of the man she slaved for) to show for it. 😩😩😩

blesdman:
check again...compare American, Europe and Africa...distinctly

Stop distracting from the issue!

MrNice04:
really appreciate bro but the issue is I don't know how to make friends with people that are better than me

This is the reason why I gave you the advice that I did which is you need to deal with knowing yourself and finding out why you feel little around those people who you believe to be better than you. I gave you those links to help you get started on realizing the problem is from within you and would be resolved by you visiting yourself. You need to find yourself, know your strengths and your weaknesses, accept and use them to your benefit. That is how people who have nothing are also able to relate to those who have more than they do. It starts with having a healthier inside.

isyourboy:
I’m quite of old age. Going to be 39 in few months. Most people I relied on to help me stand on my feet have either refused to help me, and even at time when they do, they give so little.
My plan is to back to school. Looking at my age, I feel I’m more deserving of a PhD since I know of a guy we went to secondary school together who’s now a lecturer at UNIBEN, and he told me a PhD and some papers or articles he researcher (I don’t know what that really mean) got him the job. I love physics and I had D7 in that which is a pass
Is it possible to do this PhD in a country like Germany 🇩🇪 or Denmark 🇩🇰 or even USA 🇺🇸? Or if at all Nigeria so I can get a lecturer job too? I really have passion for teaching high level student like the ones found in UNIBEN.

You need to have at least a Bachelors degree from an accredited University before you can apply for most PhD programs out there. There are tuition-free Bachelor's programs from accredited Universities that you can obtain online(you pay an administrative fee).

https://www.uopeople.edu/

Tboyfrosh123:
➜Good Morning Folks, I really need your candid advice on how to navigate things at this point. I signed out recently this year from school in July, I studied Microbiology, my last results came out I made a second class upper, even though many are saying the course is useless.
I didn't want to be idle at home, I took up teaching the Primary six class of a school trekable from my house with a 42k Salary pending when my school starts the next NYSC mobilization, I tried applying to some jobs and most of them are requesting for my certificate which it would be up to next year before i could get it. Not to exaggerate, i noticed am the most educated in the place, I feel like the job is below me in a way, though everyone there are very friendly to me Also, if It would enable me to be able to save up the amount I need till I get clearance for my NYSC mobilization or I should drop the job?
I'm planning on completing my Data Analytics pro efficiency during NYSC also to give me more edge in labor market.What advice would you give me if I were your brother or sister about the next coming years, and what career path to follow?I'm 22 by the way.

A job you literally have need of is below you? 🥱🥱🥱🥱

Testimony1988:
➜She's wicked and ungrateful,
➜I will blame him for spending on a lady he's not even sure of settling down with in future.

She is wicked and ungrateful because he concluded that her body and life would belong to him by virtue of the many donations he made towards her education? Is she a prostitute? 🥱🥱

2. Is there any woman out there that a man can spend on and be certain by just that of settling down with in the future? I mean, you continue to assume that a woman's body and loyalty can be bought... that women are objects or prostitutes up for sale. Why? And then you wonder why the same women drop you all when they find there is nothing else to be obtained from you except just that... money. 🥱🥱

MrNice04:
have been trying to create worthwhile relationships. But you know the reality of a less privilege man is different from that of a privileged man.i really want to know how to network with the right people.Most times when you try to be friends with someone who's doing better, they think you are an opportunist. Not knowing Most times you just want to learn and make yourself better.
How can one have the right relationships? What are those things to put into perspective and how to build friendships that will propel one to heights of greatness ? Nobody got to the pinnacle of greatness or wealth without solid relationships.

The very first thing you need to do in this case is start by learning who you are and how to love who you are. I am of the mind that one has to love be on his own side before he can truly get others to be on his side.

For information on how to go about there, there are psychotherapy books. Two channels on YouTube I would recommend are
➜ The School of Life
➜ Psych2Go

These give lessons on how to find yourself—emotional, mental, and social intelligence-wise—, so you can identify relationships that are worthwhile for your self-esteem and peace of mind from those that are literally weaponized against you.

ZombieTAMER:
✓ These things happen, I've seen it happen at orchid road

What was the name of the person who defrauded his landlord on orchard Street?

lagostrendboy:
https://eyesoflagos.com/tenant-disappears-after-selling-landlords-duplex-for-%e2%82%a683-million/

No name published ? Likely a made up story.

GIDIBANKZ:
✓ OP, where I come from, if a woman decided to CARRY the children and run away....we don't PANIC, bcose the CHILD OR CHILDREN will definitely come back to LOOK FOR YOU THE FATHER but just hold ya side strong

. That happens to be a notorious lie that has been used to justify the abandoning of children by many men since the times of your ancestors. If DNA were done on all Nigerians today, we would likely find out that many, if not all, of those from your place fathered children who never came back looking for the fathers who abandoned them. .

ufotunang:
✓ Which kind of agreement? ..it's I scratch your back.. you also scratch my back.. simple 🙄

This na why many of una dey end up in jail or at least at risk of it the moments you reach saner shores. 🥱🥱🥱

Kaido:
✓ If not for children, men no too send marriage.

Men have always been able to have kids outside of marriage since the very beginning. So, children have never really been the reason for men opting for marriage.

Gbengageorge:
This argument go far o, you are technically saying that if he comes home from work he can sit in front of the TV and cross his legs. The home front service is fully paid for. Through out the year.

First of all, point to where I stated exactly what you claim there, so I can at least understand what point you are trying to make. 🥱🥱🥱

SAMBARRY:
I am describing what naija men interprete different kinds of women as

You dey mind those ones. Na poverty mentally reduce them to that level wey dem dey always believe say women need to be brought down for their egoz to rise.

SIRTee15:
➜are u denoting christian is an insult and that Paul rejected it.
christian simply means christ like- i dont see any insult in that and there's no indication the disciples hated the word christian.
➜Peter used it in his letters.
1 Peter 4:16:
"Yet if anyone suffers as a[b] Christian[/b], let him not be ashamed, but let him glorify God in that name."
➜ FYI. so Jesus followers called themselves The way The Jews called them Nazarene. Gnetiles called them Christians.
➜ There's nothing wrong in any of the three names.

I have never pretended to speak on behalf of Paul or even Peter. So, I am not certain why you keep pretending the man should be of importance as far as the Gospel and the Jesus Christ of Israel in this. Instead, I make clear that the term which was used in reference to the followers of Jesus Christ of Israel by the Pagans(mostly Romans who were known to hate the Jews of the time) was not a term that was endorsed by Jesus Christ, nor the God of Israel whom they followed.

2. That Peter referred to the term in his letters does not serve as an endorsement of the term. He had his reasons for using the term. Maybe he decided to use that term in addressing a situation that seemed to impact many of the followers of Jesus Christ of Israel at that time.

3. Jesus Christ of Israel knows what His followers are called by Him, and that really matters since the master of the apostles is the one who made the decisions for his servants.

4. There is nothing wrong with any of the names because the decision as far as who gets called what is up to you and not up to Jesus Christ of Israel, right? That right there is the crux of the bullsheet that is the religion of Christianity, a religion that literally hijacked a movement that belonged only to the Israelites to decide as they pleased what should matter and what shouldn't.

galantjoe:
➜I don't really know what to say Your line of argument is quit complicated
However what I Will say is that without constant reproduction human lives won't be existing right now. Death of children will always occur e.g. Davido lost his son to death.so it is far better to have children so that they will survive according to Darwin theory (survival of fittest)

So, in your mind, with a population at an alltime high of over 8,000,000,000 individuals despite all the deaths that occur each year, including Davido loosing a son, you believe humans are at risk of extinction?

I can clearly see how complicated the simple things seem to you there.

SIRTee15:
➜Follow the train of your own conversation. ➜U said earlier Paul is not a Christian now U admitting pagans called them Christian.

If you are called an eediot by someone who does not like you, does that make you an eediot?

I don't understand!

TOPCRUISE:
➜In one year body count is rough estimate of 60. The kind of lady where after all the nonsense will now say she want to settle down with an innocent god fearing man there by inviting demons into his house especially if the man did not know her past.

Wait a second... You think all of the men who are with her right now are not some of the same god fearing men she would later want to settle down with? So the men don't invite demons when they sleep with these gals. It is when these gals decide to settle down with some of their clients that these demons will show up?🙄🙄🙄

The kain discombulation you religious folks carry for head, ehn....

SIRTee15:
➜But Paul was amongst the first followers of Jesus called Christians in Antioch.

They were referred to as Christians by Pagans, who later went on to demand the killing and exiling of all Jews(pretty much all Israelites) in the land of Judea, not long after. What has that to do with anything?

ChizzyBuna:
➜Popsi want to sponsor the upbringing of the kids. He has money He is desperate for grandkids

Your father will sponsor your marriage for you? 😶😶😶