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Mentholated:
➜Imagine this scenario
A beautiful 20 years old lady meets a handsome 25 years old struggling businessman. They kicked off a relationship filled with love, trust etc.
A year later the lady got pregnant and the guy begged her to abort since they were not ready yet. She agreed. The relationship continued and the guy's business kept improving.
When the lady got to 25yrs, she got pregnant again and begged her boyfriend that she really wanted to keep the pregnancy and do not want to have the child outside marriage.
The guy pleaded that he was not ready yet as he was about to have a business breakthrough that required extensive travelling. She then promised the lady that if she aborts, he must marry her within the next 2 yrs. She agreed.
She went for the process and had some complications. The doctor that managed the complications told her that she could still give birth but it will be difficult to conceive again.
2 months later, her boyfriend got a huge contract, executed it and became rich. At the 2 years mark he started dragging his feet, and kept saying that he was not ready.
They had an argument and he shouted that he cannot marry a barren woman and stomped out.
Silent treatment continued for a while only for her to hear that her boyfriend has a 2 years old twins with a woman in another town.
They had an argument only to her to realise that not only was it true but the other lady gave birth within the period that she had her last abortion.
Her boyfriend then openly declared his love for the other lady and his 2 kids. He kept telling everyone that his former girlfriend was a cheat who kept getting pregnant for an Alhaji and lost her womb because of her numerous abortions.
People snap because of the cruelty of their experience, the lies that follow and the unimaginable wickedness from the person you once loved.

Na web novel you dey write abi wetin? 🤣🤣🤣

tommy589:
➜I am not religious and my friend is not a Christian. Why leave the subject of discussion that has nothing to do with church promotion and only focus on that part of the contribution that has to do with pastor declaring a prayer point in the revival.
➜Do you have problem with church? No where did I say he prayed when their's no precedent to make him do so.

Your post was intended to have us believe that the revival and the pastor's(a church operator in the religion of Christianity) prayer point had something to do with this eventual miraculous happening— story wey we no fit confirm bayi— in your friend's life, yes? 🥱🥱🥱🥱

2. Yes, I do! They are notorious for manufacturing such ridiculous tales as the one you posted earlier to con more people into believing that if they just attended one more revival, or donated money to one more pastor, their problems would magically be taken care of by a magical power up somewhere in the sky. 🤔

Tokotaya:
➜Not at all. Just saying this could have happened if the man isn't okay upstairs

. People who are not okay upstairs have the responsibility of seeking out the help they need, not stabbing at others in this way.

Mentholated:
➜Commit the crime, pay the price. You are outside the country and based on that I believe you have a good guess on what might have transpired.
She left the country first as a student and checked out of the marriage. Because she was pregnant at the time, she might not have worked. This placed a heavy financial burden on her husband.
He might have cleared her school fees, funded the whole relocation and kept sending upkeep allowance. He might have liquidated a lot of assets for that hoping to get them back once he settled in Canada.
He finally arrived in Canada and noticed he was used as a conduit to get their first son into the country.
The wife being the primary visa holder means she can simply remove him from her visa.
They got into arguments, one thing led to another and he lost his job. It might even be due to allegations of domestic abuse or poor concentration or incompetence.
He came to the conclusion that he might soon be on his way back to Nigeria with no money and no child. More arguments. Learns that his mother in law was aware of the above plot Loses control Jail.

Basically, the same old plot we have all gotten used to at this point in time, right? Rejected by the woman in marriage, he decided to take revenge by offing her, only in this case, he ended up offing his mother-in-law instead. 🙄🙄🙄🙄

Tokotaya:
➜There is a part of the story that has not come to light. There was something not yet stated by the woman. Except of course, if the man has a history of derangement.

And you say this because this derangement would provide some sort of justification for the murder that took place?

marlow1962:
➜From the few pictures, look at how clean the town of Love Machine is, but we can't boast of a single clean town in Nigeria.

And this is not very hard to accomplish o? Back when I was young and living in Ikorodu, I can attest that the town was a whole lot cleaner and cared for than it is today. Each time I traveled to other parts of Lagos, I would come back beaming with smiles, knowing how much cleaner and saner Ikorodu town, where I live, was back then. There wasn't a lot of government presence, as much of it was handled by community guilds and sometimes LGA partnerships. Although many neighborhoods eventually turned to crap by the end of the 80s, that place was well cared for back in the days compared to the trash heap you find everywhere where even at every doorstep today.

It really isn't hard to get towns and communities cleaned up, even in Nigeria. If the people want the place to be clean, they can do it for themselves.

tommy589:
➜It applies sometimes but I think determination not to be constrained by circumstances of poor background helps mostly.
It reminds me of a close friend struggling with house rent that attended a church revival many years ago. Knowing no one in his family has ever owned a house,he said he could not mutter a word when worshippers were asked to pray for landed properties in the next 12 months.
His story changed years after. He has turned out excellently well beyond his own expectations

Considering the revival probably took place in Nigeria, 100s at that same revival likely prayed for the exact same thing, and many others also probably had no words too but never got any of their prayers or yearnings met. But this one exception to the norm— assuming this story isn't even cooked up, mind you— is why others should flock to such revivals to pray for similar things, abi?

Esthered:
➜You dey dere to know that she was an endurance wife?

Na! The response was the best I could come up with to a question that subtly suggested the woman intentionally left her mother in the way of her husband's blade.

dokpanefe:
✓ Let me break it down for y'all that know nothing about this couple
Lucky was dating Lydia in while they were student in Auchi poly, later on they broke up after some while cox lucky was broke
After some years after school lucky was doing well for himself and he invited Lydia over for hangout and one thing led to another and Lydia got pregnant.
Lucky was already in his 30s and decided to get married to Lydia cox she was already pregnant.
Lyday gave birth and everything was going smoothly here in 9ja, I no go lie, I even envy their marriage, cox Lydia dey very welcoming and I never one day hear say them get fight.
Year 2022, lucky decided to send Lydia and his son Lucian to Canada, while processing the visa they discovered that Lydia was already pregnant again, hence they were advice to cancel Lucian visa processing. So only Lydia traveled alone.
Lydia was now staying with her family member In Canada, but lucky was sponsoring everything, after Lydia gave birth lucky applied for visa for him and his son and they got it.
Lucky told me, my bro you know say 9ja no too bam as before that's why I'm relocating for a better life for my family.
He sold his fine house, lands in warri and Auchi and 2 cars
Lucky arrived, hence he can't stay with his wife family so he rented a good apartment in a good location.
He got a job at a hotel and which I don call am several times when he dey work.. he said they normally pay 20-40 cad .. and he works sometimes 16 hours., Sometimes 10 hours
But ever since he came to Canada the wife changed, stop cooking, don't want him to touch him anymore.
Lucky was thinking he could handle the issues himself, although he reported to his sister's and mom, but the never told me or his brothers, that was his second mistake, cox na man fit calm man down. All men in this house can relate to this
Lucky bought a car, cox he carry better money enter Yankee.. but his wife go dey hide the car keys or even drive am go park for her Tunisian friend place, the wife don draw tattoos allover her body, she don belong to oyibo people.
Omo I don tire to type.
✓ Una go see update from news soon, he's out of coma and he will speak for himself, all what you have been hearing was what the wife said in her Go fund me. As we speak 2 police mount the hospital with lucky. Cox this matter pass Nollywood

. This story only matters in the pages of web novels, say, "Nigerian Japa Marriage Stories," abeg! It is not available, but please feel free to compile and post it out there make those who care go read am. As far as this situation is concerned, all we care to know is why the man killed the woman. 🥱🥱🥱🥱🥱

2. Even a boy who accidentally shot his friend no go Scott free, talk less of a man wey stab his mother-in-law to death. 🤔

waice6571:
✓ Woe betides you if a woman is the one providing shelter over your head....
✓ If your assumption is the reality, you can imagine the kind of frustration that Mr. Lucky could be going through on daily basis which might led to the most unfortunate situation....
✓ Keeping a woman in your house without going nought takes the grace of the Almighty, let alone being a tenant to your mother-in-law and her daughter in the west.

In your Nigeria alone, it is reported that almost 50% of marriages are run with the woman as the primary breadwinner. Dey there dey deceive yourself with religious foolishness that supposes you will forever be the breadwinner and ruler over your ruler over a woman in marriage. 🙄🙄🙄🙄

2. Again, with foolish nonsense! In many immigrants homes on this side, many married people live with in-laws. Why all of them never kill their own in-law? Nigerians and cooking up the most ridiculous excuses for the most inane are inseparable! 🙄🙄🙄

3. Always blame shifting! 🙄🙄

shegs2009:
➜Una just wan force my mouth make I talk
1. if I am The type that bully my woman do you think your opinion matters, I will do things my way end of story.
2. I don't discuss my marriage with my guys not to talk of public forum, it private for a reason
3. Situation that lead to the discussion in the first place happened at the bar, una go still find way twist the mata for my head so I no fit shout...the guy on point has best say for me

Sigh! 😩😩😩

1. Seeking control over another individual is akin to wanting to bully that individual/reduce that individual's will to a status lower than your own, over even their own lives and happiness. If you didn't know this before now, please note it.

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3. Is it me, or are you being a tard defensive about this? If the situation no concern to you, then you simply pass the information along to those for whom it should matter. Why the fuzz?

armyofone:
➜Why do men feel overly angry when a woman wants to leave a relationship they are no longer interested in ?

Na our toxic culture and traditions dey cause much of this. We need to begin to dead all these useless traditions before it gets worse than it already has. Imagine the notion that a Nigerian woman is not supposed to talk back.

dokpanefe:
Yes we getting him a good lawyer tomorrow, he was supposed to appear in court tomorrow but it was adjoined due to his condition

Court ke? I thought the investigation was still ongoing? You mean say this case don dey court already?

dokpanefe:
➜You're right, it's not really worth it. But let's hear his own side of the story firstly. What if he was fighting with his wife ( choking) like they said in the charges. Then the MIL came with knife and started attacking him, cox he was stabbed at the back close to his spine.. then he managed to get the knife from her and give her a taste of her medicine... The Lydia na scratch she get oo.. na my guy and the MIL collect better injury o

A taste of her own medicine sent her to her early grave? I suggest you tell your friend to get himself a lawyer immediately if he has previously received advice on this from you.

dokpanefe:
➜Na him do student visa for Lydia and he single handled sponsored everything, she even went before him cox she was pregnant, na my guy rent the house and when he joined them with his other son, he come buy car self, he carry better money enter Canada, he sold better house and land when dey good location for warri and also 2 cars.
➜As for the attack matter I no fit conclude until he speak up tomorrow... but he was stabbed seriously oo.. only u fit stab yourself for head, neck stomach and leg, even he back close to his spine. Make we no assume...but las las fear woman

I hate to say this, but all of these stories we like to tell are meaningless in the end. There was no gun put to his head when he was busy doing all of this and spending all of this money, so these stories no mean nothing at all. Spending on a woman does not grant a man the right to her mind, body, or soul, so make we leave these matters for there, abeg. 😩😩

2. All the stabbing should have and could have been avoided. You claimed the wife said she no wan marry again. It should have been a separation and a court straight. Wetin, come bring all of them in proximity with each other again wey it come reach all this stabbing? Worse, someone is dead. 😩😩

dokpanefe:
➜Omo we go hear from him soonest.
➜Make we no just assume...but las las to carry Nigeria woman go abroad no worth am again.. mostly if she dey talk back at you for 9ja

We don hear say the man stabbed and killed the mother-in-law, Wetin we wan hear again?

2. So, Oyinbo woman no dey talk back at all whether for abroad or if you carry her go back naija?

dokpanefe:
➜Na my guy lucky get the house, he even bought a car, but the woman no dey allow am drive am, them frustrated him. Go online on Canada news you will see the video of where he live and also the car is outside the doors open, he was doing fine

. If na him own house and all, why did he decide to attack and kill the woman? Please don't tell me something like the wife killed her own mother, abeg.

dokpanefe:
✓ Na my guy lucky get the house, he even bought a car, but the woman no dey allow am drive am, them frustrated him. Go online on Canada news you will see the video of where he live and also the car is outside the doors open, he was doing fine

They frustrated him and instead of waiting on the law, he decided to take the law into his hands?

waice6571:
The only mistake Mr Lucky made was to keep both his wife and her mother-in-law under the same roof in a country where the law is always on the side of the woman.

Why are you folks quick to assume that ex Mrs Lucky(I hope) was not the one keeping a roof over Mr. Lucky's head?

dokpanefe:
✓ This person na my best friend, omo leave many talk for vdm. He just comot coma today, I go drop update here. The wife na set this up. She don dey tell my guy since say she no one marry again. Them stab my guy for head, neck and stomach and leg, but police say na only leg self inflicted wounds. Them shock to see he condition aftermath. No worry I go drop update here soonest

Since? Was your friend daft or something? Woman tell you say she no wan marry, she even knife am --- according to you --- so wetin carry am go their side again?

Thunderfayamods:
✓ Exactly 💯 I can never allow my mother in law to live with me, even her visit is limited. Bad woman causing problems in my house but the last thing I will do is to kill anybody.

Always so quick to conclude the house belonged to the man. You people ehn! Na because the house belong to am im con decide say make him take knife kill the woman? 🙄🙄🙄🙄

shegs2009:
➜I have been married for 4 years now. A situation occured which made me n my guys having dis discussion, just want to hear opinion on a larger scale. How u come to the conclusion that I am single makes me wonder how pipu judge easily

Bullying your woman into accepting your opinion is never a solution to the problem in marriage. If you are at the point that you feel you are frustrated that you are not getting your way in a relationship that is supposed to exist between two people, then you should probably seek professional marriage counseling to help you better work on bridging the communication gap that exists in your marriage.

Nice2023:
This guy should go and marry and see whether his marriage would last one month. How can go into marriage with only one mission "to control a woman". U guys think marriage is a place u go to rest or what? Is it that u have no mission in life other than controlling a woman? The man is the Head of the family and every woman knows this,so why creating a topic when it is obvious u don't know what marriage is. I swear,if u try go into marriage with this wack mentality,u will run for ur life. If u want a slave look for one but if want a wife then forget this controlling spirit,as it will send u to damnation.

Wrong! A man can only claim to be the head of the family if and only if the woman in the relationship with him agrees to such a union. Otherwise, he is a partner, more or less her equal in the relationship. OP needs to figure out his exact kind of relationship to understand how to move forward in his case.

ednut1:
When will people learn to walk away instead of all this rubbish

When your church gods and imams stop feeding the people bullsheet about marriage being til death. Till death don turn to mother-in-law's part. I won't be shocked if the yeye woman refuses to divorce the man immediately for this act.

Creamypie:
While I condemn this action entirely, I also wish If Una truly understand how the mum inlaw pocket the man in his home through exploring his love for her daughter, his wife.

Nonsense! So, this understanding would justify the man literally killing the woman? Some of una ehn... 🥱🥱🥱🥱

Esthered:
Why didn't the wife take her mum away from her home when she must have seen that her mum and husband don't get along well.

She must have been an endurance wife, hoping that some day the magical being in the sky would turn her marriage around with his magic. 🥱🥱🥱

placeofallure:
➜What job do you do? Have you conducted a research on this subject matter? I am talking from experience. I work with young people, I consult for NGOs, wẹ have interviewed people, agencies, we've done researches, I work with parents and their kids, we've done intervention activities.
➜ After all said and done, there's nothing wrong with the parents of the Gen Zs, they were raised well because their own parents were dutiful and responsible. Unfortunately, they couldn't raise their own kids the way they were raised because they've suddenly stumbled upon a new thinking, a feeling of wokeness, a fantasy that made them delusional raising rebels, social misfits and entitled young people. It's a pity!

I don't believe this claim of yours, though. From my observation, these things don't magically happen. Much of what you see and have today can be traced back to the issues of the past. 🥱🥱🥱🥱

IblivinProgress:
➜Double signals Please tell me more and what I can do to stop it.

Your previous post...

IblivinProgress:
➜Yes their husbands are the only reasons I won't like to date them. I think they are all people I imagine how comfortable life would be to have an affair with them but in reality I don't let their cars ,look or position make me fall cheaply for them. I put my imaginations aside and face reality

...indicates that you may actually be giving them yellow-light rather than full-on red light.

IblivinProgress:
➜Yes their husbands are the only reasons I won't like to date them.
I think they are all people I imagine how comfortable life would be to have an affair with them but in reality I don't let their cars ,look or position make me fall cheaply for them. I put my imaginations aside and face reality

And you don't see how the double-signals you may be sending their way may be at the core of the advances which you would like for us to believe are unwanted?

Just imagine for a second, a Hot guy trying to win over a girl who keeps giving him double signals — she is not cutting him off completely, meaning she may not be too sure of her current answer. Don't you see how such a guy might continue pursuing her until maybe he finds himself some other rabbit to distract him after a while?😐😐😐

Nnamdipapa:
➜Nigerian Man Lucky Ogbeijielele Arrested For Stabbing His Mother-inlaw to Death in Canada
In what’s being called a case of intimate partner violence, police have arrested a 36-year-old Nigeria man, Lucky Ogbeijielele, for st@bbing his mother-in-law to d3ath in Greater Sudbury, Canada
The incident occurred on Tuesday morning, July 1, 2025.
A 32-year-old woman, believed to be the suspect’s wife, also received serious but not life-threatening injuries in the incident.
The Greater Sudbury Police in a statement said two children were found inside the residence, but had no physical injuries.
“Shortly after 12:35 a.m. this morning, July 2, 2025, officers were dispatched to an Intimate Partner Violence-related incident at a residence on Lorne Street,” the statement read.
“Information provided was that a community member and a family member had sustained serious injuries after a violent altercation with the community member’s partner.

There is an urgent need to begin normalizing divorce as an acceptable and valid route out of a bad marriage for Nigerians, abeg.