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ZeroWorries:
If a man finds himself in this situation, what should he do? End it all?

End it all for what reason or purpose? The man should instead focus his mind on getting a job, developing his mind intellectually, emotionally, and socially, and working on his health at the same time. Problem solved!

ricson11:
➜Drama unfolded at a wedding reception when a Nigerian lady stormed the venue and disrupted the event, claiming the groom was her boyfriend.
According to reports, she discovered he had secretly gone behind her to marry another woman, sparking outrage and chaos at the celebration.

It is never too late to bolt after discovering the red flags. The bride should best postpone wedding night and begin looking for a way out of the charade for herself; otherwise, she is likely to regret ignoring this sign in the future.

Trymeee:
✓ That's your perspective, doesn't make it right, have a great day ahead.

That's not a perspective but a fact given that divorced male pastors are all over the place to be seen. Can you even begin to compare that to the push back against females pastors and divorced female pastors at that? 🤔

BlackViper:
➜https://www.rfi.fr/en/africa/20250720-madagascar-man-guilty-of-rape-and-murder-of-child-sentenced-to-surgical-castration

After the castration, I hope he will be left in jail.

Trymeee:
The woman died of abuse from the man. They're members of apostolic Faith church (which I attend) but guess what, Christianity doesn't allow divorce. Also the man was tried and detained for the wife's death after autopsy but he was bailed or so.

If the man had been the one to divorce the woman, I bet Christianity would not have batted an eye over it. Why? Because Christianity is, at its core, a misogynistic movement after all.

DoWhatThouWilt:
AI will soon declare itself to be God.

Abi oo! 🤣🤣 🤣

Hellisreal70:
Good, that is a real bible christian life, a very good example for this generation to emulate.
But am I missing the part of the lady been a virgin?

There is nothing real about any of it all.

Moniya4Real:
Abegi! Says a certified BOREHOLE.

The story does not say the man was a virgin, so if this here poster is a borehole does that make the man and other non-virgin men out there worn-down screws? 🤔

SeyiDominion:
Good to hear.
People should stay away from premarital and extramarital sex.

The story does not say the man stayed away from premarital sex and there is no evidence that women who do same as the man do not go on to get married and have kids. So of what true benefit is this story to you or to those whom you pretend your advice is for?

Chilipepper:
Bro, allow her body touch ground first: Reactions trail man’s search for a new wife barely days after announcing funeral for late partner 😳💔

Sigh! Who knows if the death has been at least investigated to ensure there was no foul play? Make e no come be say this man na serial killer preparing for his next victim.

Omihanifa:
Why is the woman bitter again nah. Is she angry because the man found love almost immediately? Or she's angry that the lawyer prevented her from cashing out

Una no dey read ...that remains the number one issue with a whole lot of you. 🤔

RollinTNDA:
➜What do you think? I want to completely move in the compound and live there and marry and born my children there.

It is OK to say that the state of the economy is what is driving you back home to your parents. No need to think we will belittle you for that. I actually expected a lot of people to reasonably do the same — move back home with parents or buckle down to ride out the situation together. During the 2007-2008 recessions here in the United States, many people did exactly the same, and it turned out to be the best decision for most of them.

IblivinProgress:
➜ what do you say to this? I think it's a nice idea but would like to know your view on it. ...🙏

I don't recommend it at all. You lose out on the opportunity to build on your maturity as a professional and may end up making the situation worse by employing manipulative means such as those described. You should learn to stand up for yourself in the best way possible. Clear the air by way of the truth.

DrChukki:
There's something I want to understand please, why is US not sending them back to their country of origin?

This is Trump we are talking about here. 😂😂😂😂

Worried54:
✓ My brother thank you so much .. this is what I tried to do 2 weeks ago when they came to visit me ife .. I said I need to change our daughter school closer to me but if you see the problem I encountered that day , she went straight to amotekun office that I want to take her daughter away from her ..though she is only 5 yrs old ..I said I want to take her to my mom in ilesa that way everything is free for me I will only pay school fee . I had to spend money I didn't plan for ..I left her alone and she went back so xe that day I have been having this thought to cut they off for sometimes ...that is why I came for advice here

Sigh! This is the reason why it is hard to get through to a whole lot of you! 🙄🙄🙄

I said you should, like your girlfriend, take custody of your own daughter and raise her yourself. However, you are telling me that handing your child over to your own mother to raise her is the same thing as that. Are you sure you care at all about that child ? You came here complaining of being lonely, cooking for yourself alone and what not. And I suggested you take the child so when you cook and clean you do not do it for yourself alone but as a father, for yourself and your child. But here you are suggesting that handing the child over to someone else is the way to go about that. Na so your own parents throw you to some other person to raise and care for you be that? 🤔

I don't even think you care much about your mother either. She don raise you finish and now the omodo(servant) has to also raise your own child for you too? 🤔

Ilekokonit:
➜Imagine working at his company and you have an issue with him and you report to HR not knowing that HR is headed by his mistress
Your own don done be dat as the Chief People Officer (HR Director) who should normally have your back will be leaking your discussions to the person you are complaining about and they will conspire to victimize you the more and get you out of the company.

🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

FreeIgboho:
➜Even if words have a million meanings, FAILS can never mean ENDS.
"Love NEVER fails" is a very powerful statement
"Love never ends" is nothing, almost meaningless

Storyland! 😂😂😂

FreeIgboho:
➜All due respect, it seems to me you have religion in the brain. What has this to do with religion?? Whether you believe free will is an illusion or not should have nothing to do with religion. It is a PHILOSOPHICAL question (see below) and you have not answered why you believe it is an illusion or not!

Storyland!

BeautybyTy:
➜What brought me to this site is that my current talking atage keeps complaining bitterly about it and is asking that I set an alarm each day so I can tell him :
1. When I am at work
2. When I am having lunch
3. When I am leaving the office
I feel when someone loves you, this is not supposed to be a big deal.
We are barely one month in this talking stqge, I just want to be sure he is invested first before I start throwing my cards out.
Please help. Thanks

. First of all, there is nothing wrong with you, and you don't need to change who you are for anyone out there, including someone who supposedly wants to date you. You don't seem to be the dramatic talker, and that is very much OK. If the guy demands you communicate with him often and you are not comfortable with it, you are allowed to look elsewhere for what you seek instead. The moment you begin to change your person to please others, you begin to hand power over your person to them.

You are at the age where you need to have figured out at least much about what you would need in a partner and what you should not settle for in a relationship. Then search yourself, and honestly ask yourself if this person you are with now is someone you should truly invest your time and effort into. (Note that it could also not be that the person is wrong, but that you are just not ready now—timing is simply off.) If you conclude he is not the one or good for you, please let him know you are not ready, and kindly move on to focus your attention on other, maybe more productive, things. If you see him as the right partner and the timing is right, ask yourself why you are still unwilling to step out of yourself to initiate communication. Is it your personality at play, or just that you are not as convinced of him as you would like to be at this time? Be honest with yourself and be honest with him, too!

Only ever make a change if and only if that desire for change comes from within you, meaning that you have kinda resolved that the particular change would be to your very benefit(and maybe to others as well). Resolve never to change anything about your person in order to please others or because you are being pressured into doing so. That way, you minimize the chances of losing yourself to others. Don't let anyone bully you into doing what you are not ready for or wanting to do. This is your life, so live it the best way for you, and that way you will have no regrets to cry over.

By the way, if you decide that being single is the best way forward, that is OK too. Approximately 50% of the population live and die single— they never get married. So, if you decide singledom is the way, you are not even remotely alone in that.

FreeIgboho:
➜Where is religion in it?
➜ I don't know how on earth "fails" and "ends" are synonymous in your head.
➜ How on earth does "The TV series has ended" mean same thing as "The TV series has failed"??!!Recall my previous response to you regarding the subject.

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Kobojunkie:
Free will is an idea that was created of religion, with no usefulness to those of us outside of religious circles. ...

2. I can't help you anymore there. Remember that I gave you the dictionary and the thesaurus to help yourself.🥱

3. What I find funny here is the fact that you think I have a hand in your refusal to—maybe for the first time in your life—realize that words can have more than one meaning— you were provided a link to Webster's Dictionary that clearly shows this too. I really can't help you with any of this. 😂😂😂😂

FreeIgboho:
➜The opposite of "fail" is "succeed" NOT cease, still, pass away, disappear, etc. "Love never fails" is NOT same as "Love never ends" or "Love never passes away"

. You have never used a dictionary or a thesaurus in your life, have you? 😏

https://www.merriam-webster.com/thesaurus/fail

FreeIgboho:
➜You know, I can't believe you're arguing this. Say you're writing a book, you have the plot set out from beginning to end. Now, as you are writing the book you come to a place where a character, John, could go left or right, and you make John decide to go right because that's what's appropriate to the end you already ploted. Please, how does John have free will??

So, it is no longer just the case that your deity knows what I will do, but that he is also making me do the things that I do? Just look at how many leaps you have to take to force a logical interpretation on this idea that should otherwise not even be considered a thing. 🙄🙄

It is no longer that I know that the neighbor's dog is going to bite the mailman, but that I am also responsible for the neighbor's dog biting the mailman. Oi vey! 😩😩😩

FreeIgboho:
➜Please see NIV version below which is what most people use. Can you show us anywhere else in the Bible it says something never fails like it says it here?

NIV is no different from the others. The same information recorded in the others is also recorded here.

8 Love never fails. But where there are prophecies, they will cease; where there are tongues, they will be stilled; where there is knowledge, it will pass away.
9 For we know in part and we prophesy in part,
10 but when completeness comes, what is in part disappears. - 1 Corinthians 13 vs 8 - 10

Fails also in this case implies ceasing, stiling, passing away, disappearing. Basically, not eternal. So, again, why reject what is reported to assert an entirely different message?

IblivinProgress:
➜Thanks for your input (I really appreciate it). I am just being professionally friendly anything short of how I behave would be me being overly religious. I'm trying my best to avoid escalating the issue by directly pointing it out to them that I am not comfortable with some of their actions but Whose son am I to say that?
➜ After seeing me as being overly religious which I don't think they would then pour out their full wrath. I'm trying to address their advances as office jokes but it's getting really messy.
➜ Modified: I will surely look into what you said by trying my best present myself in a social but different way. If I may ask,do you have any tips on how I can re-present myself as I interact with them daily?

Professionals don't really discuss private matters with co-workers. You probably mean instead that your approach has been to try to keep a casual, open friendship with people in a professional environment.

2. None of those sound like office jokes I have ever encountered myself.

3. Remove private information and personal references from conversations when dealing with your colleagues. I mean, your religion shouldn't even be mentioned in a professional setting, let alone your relationship status. If anyone asks, simply respond that it is private and you don't think it appropriate to mention in that setting.

placeofallure:
➜Who verified your own claims?
➜ I've known you to be like this honestly. I should not waste anymore time on a troll like you. No matter what you type next, I won't dignify it with a response. Suit yourself!

1. The field of behavioral science clearly teaches that humans do not magically acquire good character simply on the basis of advancing in age. You claim you do ngo work, right? You should try studying it sometime.

2. Stop yammering!

Worried54:
➜Firstly there is Notting like assault anymore it was a mistake that I regretted and I'm out of the devastation already ..I have begged and promise not to drink anymore.
➜She is working in Ibadan getting 22k per month. I'm managing with Unilever as a merchandiser . I have been sending money to her since she left my house ..sometimes she comes visiting and I do go see them too but all this I'm fed up ..I am thinking she need to choose one ..I stop sending money to her for anything so I can save money for wedding ..or she move down here under my roof to help me out ..that way we both help each other

1. We don hear! 🥱🥱🥱

2. You know what? Since the child is yours, and she has a job. Maybe she should instead send the child over to you so you can care for your own child yourself. That way, you can stop needing to send her money and save up for your wedding. And by having and caring for your child, you won't feel lonely, cook and clean for yourself alone; having your child with you every day will help you overcome some, if not all, of your other complaints. 🥱🥱🥱🥱

placeofallure:
➜You can't believe this claim... I'd be damned if you believe.
➜ What does one expect from someone who holds opinions based only on his observations?

I can't believe it because I know for a fact that if I asked you to allow me to peruse the same information you claim you gathered to reach this conclusion of yours, which is that older people in Nigeria have good manners, you would instead shove excuses and yammerings my way.

2. That is what you do, not me. My opinions are based on factual information, while you are here attempting to scam with unverified claims, thinking you can somehow win one by doing so.

FreeIgboho:
➜Well, if God or anybody already knows what you'll do that means things are unfolding as they are meant to unfold - they are not dependent on your will

This statement does not answer any of my questions to you nor does it make any sense. I mean, so what if the things I do are unfolding as they are expected to unfold? In what way does that take away from the fact that the decisions are mine each time? How does the first imply the conclusion in bold?

If I know that the neighbor's dog is going to bite the mailman coming down the street once he reaches the gate, and it happens, how does that all become dependent on my will and not on the dog's own will?

FreeIgboho:
➜Ok, I see the problem - your particular translation has it as as "Love never ends", but all other translations have it as "Love never fails"

Wrong!

The translation isn't the problem since all of them detail the particular meaning to be applied as far as the term used. In the following translations, we see included references to other words(synonyms) explaining the particular meaning to be applied to that describing Love.
1599 Geneva Bible

8 Love doth never fall away, though that prophesyings be abolished, or the tongues cease, or knowledge vanish away.
9 [k]For we know in part, and we prophesy in part.
10 But when that which is perfect, is come, then that which is in part shall be abolished. - 1 Corinthians 13 vs 8 - 10

...King James Version

8 Charity never faileth: but whether there be prophecies, they shall fail; whether there be tongues, they shall cease; whether there be knowledge, it shall vanish away.
9 For we know in part, and we prophesy in part.
10 But when that which is perfect is come, then that which is in part shall be done away. - 1 Corinthians 13 vs 8-10

So, the question remains, why do you blatantly reject the information presented in the context?

Tohsynetita1:
➜Please what can we do o.
A family of mine delivered of a baby some months ago in Lagos via surgery. The medical fees is calculated to be 1.2 million naira, and the family of those guys are very poor. In fact to eat in a day is a miracle for them. Now, the hospital has hold her down going to 2 months now and the husband family is still looking for money to balance the fees. Currently, they are still living in the hospital, which mean the bills might be increasing. Please what do you suggest to do in this situation? Those family that gave birth are semi literate. We have contributed our own quota for them but it’s nothing compared to what is on ground. Please what can we do?

Advise other families to learn from this case not to get pregnant at all if they do not have the money to pay for the delivery and whatever emergency procedures may result. Also, have them see that making sure to choose hospitals they can afford for the delivery is in their best interest. Additionally, people should probably consider signing up early for available health insurance plans that can guarantee payment of health costs in this and other situations beforehand.