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Elyonboy:
➜In every humans soul, there is a deep longing and void that only Jesus Christ the Savior can fill. No amount of material wealth , power or a false sense of peace can fully cover that void. Only the prince of peace can give you true peace and full satisfy the genuine cravings of the soul. And now the enemys pathetic tactics and lies. Give this natural soul longings and cravings fanciful names like depression, loneliness etc and trying to treat the spiritual with the physical with medications and emotional therapy. How pathetic. You see, the enemy is a master of lies and the father of it, no matter how he may try to hide his pathetic deceptions. The spiritually discerning can clearly see the spiritual signals. How to conquer this deception? Truly accept Jesus Christ as your personal Lord and Savior and come to a true and genuine relationship with him and let him fill you with his Holy Spirit as you come to a deeper understanding and relationship with him as the spirit gives Utterances to your flaming tongues in prayers and worship.
Hallelujah 🙏

Depression can happen to anyone. Some examples of characters in the book who you pretend to quote from that suffered depression are Elijah, Jeremiah, David, and Solomon, making your claims here of no meaning. If you are struggling with depression, I suggest you seek professional mental health care immediately and stick to treatment for as long as is necessary.

Worried54:
➜...she and my daughter later moved in with me in Ile -ife ..but I wouldn't deny I got drunk sometimes because my present situation and frustrated I had to hit her on few occasions ... So she moved out back to Ibadan to her Aunty ..
➜ Now I have been sending money to them everytime in Ibadan since 2023 December ..but I'm getting fed coz I'm lonely and it cost me alot sending money and I feel that I'm no gaining anything in return .. I cook , wash , hustle for money all by myself .she is there in Ibadan and not helping
➜ ... She is now insisting that we have to do a traditional wedding before she can come back to me and dropped drinking ..To God be the glory I have stopped the drinking attitude since last year 2024 .but I don't have the fund for traditional wedding...I told her if that is what she want then she need to take care of themselves over there in Ibadan while I hustle to save money here for the wedding ... Please am I thinking right ?
➜I can't afford to be sending money everytime and still expect me to save money for wedding ..without her coming here to help me .

1. So, you physically assaulted her, and rather than report you to the police to get you locked up, she decided instead to go back to her parents? OK! 😏

2. You had a child with her, but you don't want to be responsible for the upkeep/education, etc., of the child anymore because the child's mother is no longer staying with you, where she was at risk of being physically assaulted by you? 😏

3. Does the woman work? Does she have profitable skills? I mean, how does your child take care of herself while you figure your financial situation out? Does it need to stop breathing until then(this is not to be construed as advice of any sort)? 😏

4. I would think that the primary reason you have to send money is for the child, right? 😏

FreeIgboho:
➜Well, thing is, just as in the clip, God, or even a seer, already knows if you will click or not. So where does that leave things

Let's assume that is the case with your deity, so what? What if he already knows what I will do? Does it change the fact that I will be the one choosing to do it? Does it change the fact that the particular choice will be made by me only when it presents itself — not before or afterwards? I don't follow this illogical reasoning you pretend here.

FreeIgboho:
[size=8pt]➜1. What else does the Bible say never fails?
2. Where does Paul say love is eternal and never-ending?[/size]

The book has it that other things are equally eternal/never-ending/unfailing/without end.

2. In verses 8 through 10, he explained that the love he describes is eternal—it has no end, i.e, it does not fail. You keep refusing to read the passage right in front of you to comprehend his meaning. why? What is the purpose of quoting an idea only to keep inserting your own interpretation against that which is clearly depicted?

Arostar2023:
✓ Nope, I am not done discussing the topic. I understand your confusion and skepticism. Here are some Bible verses to help you understand better.

I have moved on from your private delusions. You can continue yammering to yourself. 🥱🥱🥱🥱

Na the wife cheat abi na the man cheat? The letter points to the latter.

FreeIgboho:
✓ Love NEVER fails
(1 Corinthians 13:8}
This is the ONLY thing that the Bible says NEVER fails. Amazing and worth contemplating.
✓ Does love really never fails?

✓ Wrong! This isn't the only thing that never fails in the you pretend to quote from, rather this claim is of your private interpretation. The one whom you pretend to quote instead said that of all the gifts, only love will not fail.

2. Given that Paul's explanation is that since love is eternal in orientation--- neverending ---then one can easily see how it cannot fail/end.

FreeIgboho:
✓ But how are you sure it is YOU making the choices?

Are you really asking me if the decision to click and respond, or not,to these questions are truly mine?

Arostar2023:
➜Denominations are man's creation. There is no denomination in heaven. Salvation is of the Jews, no doubt but Jehovah is universal. Father Abraham obeyed and walked with God, and thus became the father of faith. He showed his progenies (Jews) the way.
Genesis 18:19,
New Living Translation
I have singled him out so that he will direct his sons and their families to keep the way of the LORD by doing what is right and just. Then I will do for Abraham all that I have promised.
Unfortunately many are still searching for God through various means (religions). Believe and receive Jesus into your life today and you shall be saved

. Denomination is of men, yet you belong to one of the over 46000 denominations that make up the religion of Christianity, meaning your deity is just an idol of the Israelite God and nothing of Him.🙄🙄

2. Salvation, according to the Israelite Books, is of the Jews and belongs only to Israelites, of whom the Jews are a subset. Your claim is not that you are an Israelite, but that you belong to a religion of non-Israelites who were magically added to the list of those to be saved by the words of their popes and their pastors. 🙄🙄

Abeg, make I hear word, o'jare! If you are don discussing the topic, simply waka pass! 🙄🙄🙄

Arostar2023:
✓ Like I said before, God has given a template for marriage, but men (including Christians) chose to do their own thing. Putting the cart before the horse is going about marriage without taking cognizant of God's plan or template for marriage. Why blame God? Before you ask, some people, even non Christians, inadvertently follow God's template for marriage and so had a happy marriage.
By the way, the God I am talking about is Jehovah, the father of our Lord Jesus Christ. Not those man made gods, powered by unclean spirits AKA demons.

Christianity alone boasts of over 46, 000 different images (denominations) all claiming to reference the same God who is instead recorded be God only to Israelites. This means your particular delusions do not apply to Christians of other denominations so what makes you think your particular delusions should carry weight of any kind outside of your own denomination let alone religion?

Arostar2023:
✓ What a shame! You put the cart before the horse and expect to make progress. Take God out of the equation and man becomes a beast.

There are over 4000 different deities out of these, so which of them do we put before this horse of yours?

Also, the average Nigerian claims their marriage was as ordained by at least one God or another, yet the divorce rate, rate of violence, neglect and abuse in marriage among the religious mirrors that which is obtained from the non-religious. What use is this placing of a god before this cart that is Marriage?

Arostar2023:
✓ Marriage is divine It's the first institution established by God on earth. And if we follow His template on marriage, the outcome will always be good.

That is only according to your particular delusion, though. Even the book you pretend to quote from instead submits that the care of the environment, the land and animals came before this marriage of a thing but of course, I expect you will disregard all of that to instead stand on what you wish to focus on instead.

Arostar2023:
✓ Okay. Now, that's clearer. I at first thought you were one of those anti marriages people

I have never been anti-marriage. I am instead against the bullsheet lies people particularly the pro-marriage aka marriage-is-divine crowd spew regarding expectations and reality of things about the institution.

Arostar2023:
✓ From your submission marriage is to be blamed for the way things have turned out in today's world. So what exactly is your position with respect to marriage?

I think I more than made myself clear that since married couples make up a portion of the family units out there responsible for raising the citizens, it takes part of the blame --- not all of it . ,🙄🙄🙄

Marriage is marriage. Whether it is good or bad depends wholly on the quality of life and opportunities for advancement it avail both individuals in the marriage. In the case, the marriage produces children, the quality of citizens produced can be considered a co in contributing indicator as well.

DesChyko:
Unsweetened Yoghurt. That drink is punishment.
Picked it at the mall; got a nice bottle and boldly written Yoghurt with big balloon fonts(with the unsweetened in very tiny letters).
Then I decided to take a swig (one for the road).. Ol' boy! Ain't nothing yoghurty about this one. Even the icy chill did not do any favours at all.
The frown on my face followed me home.

Wetin you una dey drink?

Arostar2023:
✓ Everyone has a share in the blame, not just the married folks . There are kids that came out of good homes and later chose to be rascals later in life. Adults make their own choices, you know.

Kids that came out of good homes and were on track to becoming productive elements in the Nigerian society until those same kids decided against their training to become bad elements instead?Usually, kids start off rebelling early only to then settle on making better choices later on but what you described is the opposite meaning the foundation was not as good as it should have been. If the programming they were given by their parents can be so easily demolished and done completely away with, don't you see there that there is a problem with the upbringing they got?

Arostar2023:
➜Yeah. According to social studies, the family is the smallest unit of society. But that is distinctly separate from the institution of marriage.
➜ Being faithful and steadfast in marriage, as well as being a good parent, doesn’t automatically translate to a better society. There are other factors that influence how society turns out.
➜ Marriage alone is not to be blamed.

Well, a marriage is a type of family, is it not?

2. All of these you point to are intended to ultimately be of benefit to society, are they not? If they do not, then something is wrong somewhere, and that something has to do with either the ideas themselves or the particular interpretation given to those ideas within those units, right? For instance, if parents continue to churn out children who turn out to be, for the most part, unproductive non-law-abiding elements in society, are they really good parents? Is that

3. No one said marriage alone is to be blamed, but the blame is to be shared by the married in society since they, too, have a hand in raising many of the corrupt individuals in that country, including many of those who rule it.

FreeIgboho:
➜How true is this 30-seconds clip vis-a-vis free will?
➜ Will we ever know? https://youtube.com/shorts/PLclzmowpHU?si=ft6EVAxkOGczbsqY

Free will is an idea that was created of religion, with no usefulness to those of us outside of religious circles.

2. I know why I make the choices that I make, and the reason is simple. Because those choices are available to me and aligned with the direction or trajectory in which my life was headed, as well as the need/want I had at the point when they were each made.

Arostar2023:
✓ It wasn't their marriages that resulted to the state of things in Nigeria.
✓ It's the black man's inability to abandon what Ibrahim Shekarau called , "primordial sentiments". The above is made us abandon sensibility/unity in favor of tribalism and feudalism. The results are lack of patriotism and unbridled corruption.

What happened to the family is the unit of the society? 🤔🤔

2. Well the same black man is responsible for managing the unit of the society and what you have today-- the tribalism and feudalism, disunity among units---is the composite result of all of that managing going on.

Arostar2023:
✓ Your first sentence is the reason why marriages are no longer lasting. People now follow your advice. Our parents stayed put in marriage, in good and bad times.

And they gave us the Nigeria and Nigerian society as we have it today. Why would anyone suggest a continuation of the same old withi this knowing? .

FreeIgboho:
✓ Well because a thing is what it is in itself, while qualities are what it is in relation to how people see it. Example, love is a FEELING of total good will towards something, as opposed to listing "love is kind, etc"

Well, He is telling you that this thing is love and he differentiates it from other forms or ideas that go by the same by stating its qualities. So? Is that not a definition of what he means by love?

I am reminded here of the of Plato's Symposium where in defining love, the many individuals who are recorded listed it's many characteristics, something Socrates pointed out was not entirely invalid to do.

FreeIgboho:
✓ I get your point, but what I'm saying though is, if someone were to ask you what is love (Paul's love), how would you respond. Listing the qualities of a thing is not same as saying what the thing is

Why can't listing the qualities of a thing be construed as defining the thing?

FreeIgboho:
➜Ok, I see what you're saying but that still does not tell us what love is.
➜Let's say someone asks, "Who is Kobojunkie?" and someone answers him, "Kobojunkie is kind, patient, does not keep grudges, etc". That still does not tell us who he is

. If you again, focus your attention on the statements made by Paul, the Jewish Israelite, you will gather that he was not referencing a who, but a what.

In verse 3, he compares various acts of endearment that we may produce and asserts that they are nothing to what would result from his having this love he refers to, implying that this love results in action that does not compare to the typical ideas we are used to.

1. I may speak in different languages, whether human or even of angels. But if I don’t have love, I am only a noisy bell or a ringing cymbal.
2 I may have the gift of prophecy, I may understand all secrets and know everything there is to know, and I may have faith so great that I can move mountains. But even with all this, if I don’t have love, I am nothing.
3 I may give away everything I have to help others, and I may even give my body as an offering to be burned. But I gain nothing by doing all this if I don’t have love.
4 Love is patient and kind. Love is not jealous, it does not brag, and it is not proud.
5 Love is not rude, it is not selfish, and it cannot be made angry easily. Love does not remember wrongs done against it.
6 Love is never happy when others do wrong, but it is always happy with the truth.
7 Love never gives up on people. It never stops trusting, never loses hope, and never quits.
8 Love will never end. But all those gifts will come to an end—even the gift of prophecy, the gift of speaking in different kinds of languages, and the gift of knowledge.
9 These will all end because this knowledge and these prophecies we have are not complete.
10 But when perfection comes, the things that are not complete will end. - 1 Corinthians 13 vs 1 - 10

But Kobojunkie cannot cause action in you that is different from that which is your will. Paul is saying that this love, which he is required to have, causes an action that embodies the listed attributes. He compares this love to acts and to things, whats and not whos.

FreeIgboho:
➜Thank you but I don't know how this below defines love nor how it never fails:
3 I may give away everything I have to help others, and I may even give my body as an offering to be burned. But I gain nothing by doing all this if I don’t have love.

Well, in the world we live in today, we see that people do giveaways— even politicians would claim to give away all they have out of love for their constituents. And others claim to sacrifice their lives for the sake of others. What Paul, the Jewish Israelite, is saying is that those acts in and of themselves do not embody the sort of love he is referring to. Or I could say, the act he describes as love goes beyond those ideas. And then in the verses that follow — verses 4 through 10 — he goes on to describe the qualities of the kind of love he speaks of.

In beginning in verse 8, he adds that the kind of love he speaks of never ends/fails, unlike the benefits of doing giveaways or dying for a cause or person in this world... implying it is eternal in origins, orientation, and benefits.

FreeIgboho:
➜Thank you very much for your erudite response. However you started out with: "One has to clearly realize what Paul, the Jewish Israelite, meant by Love".
But you ended up not telling us what he meant by love.

Paul, the Jewish Israelite, explained it in verse 3 of the passage (made bold in red)that it is an action which he deems required of him. Love is an action he deems necessary for him to gain something instead of nothing.

Dpaulie:
➜Ok, grandma

OK what?

Dpaulie:
➜Firstly I'll like to know your age, so that I'll know the generation u belong to... no offense pls

Probably your father's generation.

FreeIgboho:
Can someone please explain this verse to me and HOW it is true:
Love NEVER fails(1 Corinthians 13:8}

To understand the statement, one has to clearly realize what Paul, the Jewish Israelite, meant by Love in that context.

From the text below, we see Paul, the Jewish Israelite, assert that the act of showing love to others as a requirement in other for him to gain something, rather than nothing.

1. I may speak in different languages, whether human or even of angels. But if I don’t have love, I am only a noisy bell or a ringing cymbal.
2 I may have the gift of prophecy, I may understand all secrets and know everything there is to know, and I may have faith so great that I can move mountains. But even with all this, if I don’t have love, I am nothing.
3 I may give away everything I have to help others, and I may even give my body as an offering to be burned. But I gain nothing by doing all this if I don’t have love.
4 Love is patient and kind. Love is not jealous, it does not brag, and it is not proud.
5 Love is not rude, it is not selfish, and it cannot be made angry easily. Love does not remember wrongs done against it.
6 Love is never happy when others do wrong, but it is always happy with the truth.
7 Love never gives up on people. It never stops trusting, never loses hope, and never quits.
8 Love will never end. But all those gifts will come to an end—even the gift of prophecy, the gift of speaking in different kinds of languages, and the gift of knowledge.
9 These will all end because this knowledge and these prophecies we have are not complete.
10 But when perfection comes, the things that are not complete will end. - 1 Corinthians 13 vs 1 - 10

Then Paul goes on to explain, beginning in verse 8, that all other actions associated with his mission —prophecy, speaking in different kinds of languages, and knowledge— would come to an end implying they are not of internal configuration. However, the requirement that is love would continue on without end, implying that there is an eternal nature to the command that he love.

In the last verse, he goes on to suggest that love is a part of the perfection to come, for him, while all other gifts are not part of that perfection and hence are expected to come to an abrupt end.

Hhh4444:
➜You have a point. Marriage is suppose to be contractual. The idea of till death do us apart is too ideal to be sustained. It was even societal pressure,shaming that kept some women in their marriage. If I am to believe your evolutionary view of marriage, I would say it will evolve into a contract based arrangement where one can exercise right to opt out or renew the contract when due.

Marriage was always meant as a business agreement between two individuals. Along the way, it was hijacked by families and then society. Now we see it making its way back to the original script, where the individuals decide for themselves the terms and duration of their marriage.

Hhh4444:
one thing I have come to realize about life is nothing is permanent.with time, everything eventually dies. Marriage is dying. It is more difficult to sustain marriage now than it was 30 years ago.

All relationships involving humans were only meant to be sustained for as long as the humans in the relationships are capable of doing so. It is no different with marriage. Yes, some societies have sort in the past to force couples into holding on until the literal end of their lives in marriage. "Till death do us part," was a scam written against people by traditional and religious scammers. But that charade is what is slowly being eroded with individuals choosing only to go for as long as they can or until they get bored out of their minds, and are ready to move on to the next.

That a marriage fails to last as long as the particular milestone you set in your mind for it does not make it any less of a marriage.

emmanuelbrown26:
*BREAKING NEWS: SHOCKING
*Man shortage all over the world*
UN publishes 1st quarter Demography Report 2025.
There are 7.8Billion people on planet . (earth).
The report shows:-
Women = 5.6Billion,
Men = 2.2Billion.
So, they advised women to be careful in showing attitudes to any man because out of the 2.2 Billion men:
• One billion are married already.
• 130 million are in prison.
• 70 million are mentally ill.
That means that we have just about 1 billion men available for marriage and out of the 1billion:
• 50% are jobless
• 3% are gay
• 5% are Catholic Priests
• 10% are your relatives
• 32% are above 66years.
So, ladies both the married and singles should handle men with respect.
*Man shortage all over the world*
Be guided!

This is a violation of Nairaland Report code 8, which warns against posting false information.

Gender ratio in the World
Source UN (World Population Prospects 2024)
Date 03 Feb 2025

As of 2025, there are 4,137,709,238, or 4,138 million, or 4.14 billion, males in the world, representing 50.27% of the world population. The population of females in the world is estimated at 4,093,903,832, or 4,093 million, or 4.09 billion, representing 49.73% of the world population. The world has 43,805,404, or 43.81 million, more males than females.

The gender ratio in the world in 2025 will be 101.07 males per 100 females. There were more females than males until 1971. In the world, the male-to-female ratio has increased from 99.183 in 1950 to at most 101.415 in 2016. It is now expected that females will outnumber males in 2088 and further decline to 99.800 in 2100.

The majority of countries and regions in the world have more females than males. But the two most populous countries, China and India, have a higher male population by a margin. Therefore, there are more males than females in the world. If the populations of China and India are excluded, there are more females than males in the rest of the world.

The sex ratio at birth is 105.3 boys per 100 girls. With 105.82 boys per 100 girls (0-14 age group), there are 1,032,539,699, or 1,033 million, or 1.033 billion, boys and 975,772,579, or 976 million, girls worldwide. The males-to-females ratio is at the highest point of 106.602 for the age group 15-19. The men-to-women ratio is 103.096 for the group aged 15–64 and 80.084 for those over 65. The world has more women than men aged above 50. In the age group 60-64 years, there are six fewer men per 100 women. Women outnumber men by a ratio of 2-to-1 in the age group 90-94 years and 4-to-1 for centenarians. https://statisticstimes.com/demographics/world-sex-ratio.php