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dangermouse:
All these gods of men. Why is the pull-him down-syndrome prevalent in all these churches? The body of christ is one. Churches is all about evangelism and winning souls for Christ and not about money making ,back biting and politics. The body of Christ should unite as one for the gospel to thrive!.

Even the Christ and this gospel thing wey una know, no be from the narratives from the mouths of una gods of men e come from? How many of una dey actually question all wey dem dey tell una?

FiveFootNinja:
✓ Who said anything about making judgements ON them?
I just asked a simple question that follows from your very own words. Since according to you, rape victims never really recover, does this make murder a better option than rape? If no, why? If yes, then what gives you the right to make that decision on behalf of the victim?
It's a simple question.

Your question does not follow from any of what I said in previous comment though. The claim that they never really recover does not come from me but from admissions made by so many of them who have come out to speak of the mental torment of life after the experience. Rape victims walk around like the living dead among us. Who am I or you to pronounce judgment of any kind on them particularly when we cannot boast of walking a mile or two moons in their shoes or moccasins? 🤔

FiveFootNinja:
✓ Since many rape victims "never really recover" from rape, and are "haunted for life", could an argument be made that some rape survivors would have been better off murdered than rape?
If the answer is yes, how do we possibly justify making that heavy judgment on anyone's behalf, apart from their own?

Who are you to make any judgement on them though?

Sunnyshinylight:
Why is the newly wedded man called GROOM and the woman called BRIDE? A friend of mine got tired of his WIFE just about six months after wedding. He complained bitterly to me about her and told me that he has concluded to break up with her; he went on to say that he was sure that he made a mistake. I did not respond immediately because I knew I must tell him the right thing, so I went home. And that is what birth this message.
Many MEN have broken up with their WIVES because they end up not being the WIFE that they have dreamt of. But they have forgotten that on their wedding day was when the man was commissioned for the new task.
Nobody calls the woman WIFE on her wedding day but BRIDE, because it is the man that will GROOM his BRIDE to become the WIFE. That is why the man is called ‘BRIDEGROOM or GROOM’ and the word grooming has to do with PATIENTLY NURTURING, TEACHING, TENDING and HELPING someone to become what he or she should be.
It is therefore believed that a MAN that takes a WOMAN to the ALTAR of MARRIAGE is matured enough to patiently GROOM his BRIDE to become the WIFE. The man is not supposed to just expect the BRIDE to automatically become the WIFE, she must be groomed.
It is clear that many men have unnecessary expectations when they were getting married, they want some magic to happen to their wives, they want them to become what they have had in mind about who they want their wives to be; not considering the fact that the woman does not know what is on your mind except you teach her.
Our expectations are often too unrealistic, because we don’t remember that change takes TIME and we can only expect something from someone that knows what we want
So before you think of breaking up, have you groomed her? Have you given her TIME to understand you? Hope you realize that a turtle will never become a hawk? God often brings People that are opposites of each other together in MARRIAGE so that they can HELP EACH OTHER in their place of weaknesses. If your WIFE is weak where you are weak, then where will you get the strength that is needed? The problem with many of us is that we don’t accept People before attempting to change them. Of course, your wives are not from your backgrounds, so it will take TIME for them to adjust. Stop trying to change her, ACCEPT her, LOVE her, TEACH her and be PATIENT with her; that is what grooming is all about. She is going to be your WIFE but she is your BRIDE now, so GROOM her. Stop complaining about her, she may be a turtle and you a hawk, she cannot fly so be PATIENT with her. I[b] don’t believe that your MARRIAGE can’t work, be PATIENT and allow GOD to HELP you.
May Almighty God continue to be with us, guide and protect us in all our affairs Amen!!! Wishing you the best Marital Life ever to all single Ladies,Bros and Married ones here. You will have the marriage of your dreams. A marriage made in heaven.[/b]

Very nonsensical bullsheet! I am not at all surprised that it came laced with religious nonsense by the way, as this is then the kind of upside-down reasoning expected from those whose brain-cells are chock-full of religious gobbledegook!

Religious eejits don't even realize that all they think and know of marriage comes mostly from the antics of comedians/playwrights and writings of pagan philosophers; most of these ideas came from drunken musings which have been demolished by other more intelligent minds many times since then.🙄🙄🙄🙄🙄

Inshame3:
➜I will get married early next year, but I am a perpetual visitor of brothel and my wife think I am a virgin should I reveal my past to her or I should let it go

Are you still alive?

ebubeson:
➜Do ladies still feel guilty committing abortion and killing a baby or are they just after the guy not dumping them after abortion? Please does guilt for abortion still exist? It does exist because God gave conscience. But maybe some ladies have dead conscience on that.

But where was the conscience/guilt of the men during the process of impregnating these girls, knowing fully well that they would not stay to take care of the consequence of their steamy rump?
Where was the conscience of the girls then? Na only when the gals, the end bearers of the belle result, dey talk of taking care of the consequence, the best way they know to, una dey like talk of conscience and god?

Love800:
But actively sourcing will lead to actively providing. Thats the point am making! Why wont they(women) accept it!! Okay, when broke, she should be jumping from one man to another, or she seek divorce? Thats crazy!

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=NSy4X6NiqfA?si=x6kxQai7Usu7nipt

Christmyhope:
➜The law was given to show us our sinful inclination and hence tells us of our need for a Savior who is Christ Jesus. The law doesn't have the capacity to make righteous before God. It lacks power to rescue humanity from his sinful tendencies. But in Christ Jesus, sin is destroyed and a man is justified by grace through faith in Christ Jesus. God gave us his righteousness free of charge through Christ Jesus by faith and not by relying on law. Even the law could not saved Moses from being overpowered by anger but he was saved by God through faith in the promises of the coming Savior, which is Christ Jesus.

Nonsense! Don't you people ever get tired of this silly religious nonsense you spew? 🙄🙄🙄🙄

The Law was given specifically to the people of Israel by YHWH, the God of Israel. YHWH chose the descendants of Jacob, the man whom He gave the name Israel to, as His people. YHWH, God of Israel — this title He gave Himself — proceeded to establish the nation of Israel in the Land of Canaan, which He then populated with His chosen people. The Law, He gave to them as the constitutional Law by which they were meant to live and abide by as citizens of the nation which He constituted and gave to them.

Nonsense delusional claims, as usual.🙄🙄🙄🙄🙄🙄

The Law of Moses, the Constitutional Law of the Nation of Israel, created by YHWH, who gave Himself the title "God of Israel, belonged to the nation established by Him. That is what is instead written and documented in the book claimed.

Islandlady:
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It is better to remain single and happy for this life, than married and miserable!

Single folks have numerous more options as far as happiness is concerned than married folks do. To appease the married and keep them believing they made the better choice of giving up their freedom to live as a couple and have— all for society's sake— society insists that the single life is more miserable, when in fact the opposite is the case. Being caged up in a miserable relationship with seemingly no way out and afraid one might lose more than one would gain if one broke free of those shackles is a terrible way to live life. So, enjoy your singlehood while you can and only settle for the best partner when and if you eventually find one.

NSNO:
➜ I understand your fears. Try to talk with him, sit down and talk with him, let him know how you feel about it, if he truly loves you, he may see reasons to reduce his porn habit or even stop completely. That's really all you can do. Force almost never works.
➜ And don't allow anyone here or offline to downplay your feelings. This is someone that if everything goes well you will spend the rest of your life with, so don't allow them to dismiss you. Don't start what you cannot finish. Wish you success

. Isn't that kind of like asking a woman can talk a cheating man out of continuing to cheat on her? Or as silly as assuming that a gambling husband would suddenly stop gambling if his wife were to talk to him? People usually don't change what they are doing because someone talked to them about it; change comes instead from a realization that what they once did is not of real value to themselves.

2. It is already gone bad at this point. This red flag is not going to magically vanish. The best she can do is end the relationship at this point or endure a lifetime of misery if she decides to move forward with him. Who knows! Her leaving may just be the wake-up call he needs, but she certainly should not bother thinking that means they will work out then either; old habits die hard, they say.

illicit:
What kind of porn does he watch...?

I didn't want to ask that question because something tells me, if we dig deep, we might find that the woman herself is unhinged — child porn, torture/rape, etc, might be on the list.

Puss360:
➜Lol.. funny how most people comment like they are teenagers.. @Op, you did well to delete the videos..
➜ Now sit and talk with him . Nobody is perfect, but relationship thrives with honesty and openmind. Discuss with him, it might be an addiction.. Tell him that u can't settle with someone having this kind of addiction. But because of the love U have for him, you will follow him thru the path he will take to reduce and finally stop watching it.. Be supportive...
➜ Pornography is sex for goodness sake!! The sex you both are having isn't it enough for him? That you'll give him more but he should try and stop... Good luck with Ur relationship dear...

1. She was wrong to delete those videos. It is sort of like a woman deleting the text messages between her boyfriend and his lover, pretending that doing so means the cheating would be brought to an end. She is doing herself a terrible disservice in turning herself into a manipulative woman — manipulation breeds fake happiness — before marriage.

2. It might be an addiction, so talking to him about it would resolve it? Are you trying to assume that addiction problems can be resolved by this? If it is an addiction problem, OP should cancel plans to marry him immediately until long after— a 1 year at least — he has dealt with the issue.

3. Giving him more sex will help resolve the problem? OP should turn her body into fufu to be pounded to make him happy, and maybe get him off pornography? Has that formula even really worked for anyone before now? 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

Islandlady:
➜Good day nairalanders. I need your advice, if this is right or wrong!
I met my fiance October last year, we were doing well and he has introduced me to some of his family members including his mother...They all know me. But the problem is, he has a lot of nasty and pornographic content on his phone and laptop, and it does not sit well with me.
Initially I did not go through his gallery or files but I decided to watch movie on his laptop last week and was surprised at the rubbish pictures and videos that I saw, I had to delete it all
➜ I could remember during the Christmas holiday last year, his 12 years old niece and his mother came to visit us for the holiday and he gave his niece the laptop to watch movies so she will not be bored and I believed the little girl must have seen all this phonographic contents, which is bad. So I told him about it and express my displeasure with such attitude that he is a grown man and ready to settle down...that he should do away with all the rubbish stuffs he has on his phone, because I have the deleted the ones he had on his system. He flared up and started getting angry that I can't tell him what to do and have on his phone and walked out.
➜I am not a saint but I will appreciate my man to be decent, responsible and disciplined. I am thinking of ending the relationship with him, he is unrepentant...what do my fellow nairalanders think?

1. If this is a red-flag for you, then the better question is, why are you still holding on to someone whose habits you believe are nasty to you?

2. Why are you desperately trying to change this man when you ought instead to go out there and find for yourself someone more compatible with you in terms of values, interests, dreams/ambitions, and hobbies? Admitting that you have had to delete some of his content means you are already manipulating him in attempts to change him to suit your ideas. Don't you see that is a huge red flag in your relationship? He is a grown man, as you said, and this is who he is. He is not the problem here; you are, since you continue to cling to him even with this apparent problem you have with him. You should leave him at this point so you can find yourself a partner who better fits who you are; do not try to change for him, please.

3. You don't need to be a saint; no one demands that of you either. You, however, are better off with a man whose habits, values, desires, dreams/ambitions, and even hobbies better align with yours. Sameness is not what is needed here, only compatibility, which you don't have with this particular man you are with.

P.S. This is the same advice I would give my younger self in this situation, too.

FiveFootNinja:
➜But rape victims can embark on a journey of healing to overcome trauma and experience small moments of joy.
➜A victim of murder cannot enjoy such privileges. What say you? Na me be OP, by the way.

According to research, most rape victims never really recover from the experience as they are haunted for the rest of their lives by the experience. With that in mind, does simply having the ability to embark on this supposed "journey of healing" really amount to much when compared to that lost as a result of the trauma?

2. A murder victim has no more journeys to embark on and no more cares. He is dead because his life was unjustly taken from him, sought of like the traumatic experience rape victims are subjected to at the point of their rape.

nnamdi640:
Once you know that he is serious, you will want to frustrate his life......
I still don't understand why a lady will open her legs freely for a guy that careless to chop but when he sees the serious one, she will start proving hard to get.

Do men only sleep with women they are serious with? Why should women only sleep with men they are serious with? Are you OK upstairs at all?

JAOS:
He will try to impregnate you before marriage

Go tell that tales by moonlight to the millions of babymamas and abandoned brides in Nigeria who were abandoned by men who impregnated them before marriage.

Love800:
➜From time immemorial, ours has been there. JW came out later on, maybe some sub-unit of dem, delve out of protestants, to start their own.
➜ Atleast we have been hearing different stories of heaven and earth, plus great saints of the old, who saw visions of dem(heaven/hell).
➜ So tell me, have you heard of anyone who came to this earth and did not die!

So, it isn't a case of one idea being valid while the other isn't, but rather a case of one idea — most likely a delusion— is older than the other?

2. Hearing different verified stories of this heaven and earth? Or different fables told by people with great ability to lie well?

3. I may not have heard of any humans that did not die, but I also have never heard of any verified claims of humans leaving this planet after death without a spaceship.

cutecommend:
➜There are miracles today, but in the time of old, the miracles were profound, deep, convincing, real, raw and powerful. Even several sinners could not doubt it because it was real. But today, the miracle power is not as visible as before, though God is still the same. In the time of old, if Christians wanted someone without a leg to have legs appear, they could pray to God and God can bring new legs. An Apostle like Ayo Babalola could suspend on the air. He could disappear. And if you talk of genuine salvation, when people get saved those days, the salvation was so real that sinners could possibly see clearly that such a person is born again in character, lifestyle, dressing e.t.c.
Why the church no longer experience miracles as before.
(1) Lack of Emphasis on Rapture: The more the church lose interest in the world and is eager to leave this world and meet Jesus, the more Jesus brings His power to the world.
(2) Lack of Prayers: The church does not pray much as before, and several prayerful people are living in sin.
(3) Lack of Holiness: If the church does not live holy, the power of God will not be much or may not come.
(4) Lack of Bible Study and Sound Doctrine: Not sermons on vision, goals, purpose e.t.c, but gospel of righteousness, evangelism, prayers, love, fruits of the Spirit, Bible study e.t.c
(5) Lack of Deep Evangelism: If the church wants power, it should also engage in massive and deep evangelism with followup and discipleship.
It is a beautiful Sunday with another chance, tell Jesus to forgive all your sins and come into your life today. Happy Sunday to you.

Lies! Your churches never experienced miracles from their beginning. The same tricks used today are many of the same that were used when the Romans decided to set up the religion of Christianity.

Love800:
➜Mine is heaven and hell. At least heaven and hell is more suitable to the ears compared to when you say someone will not die but remain on earth!

Is more suitable to the ears of those who were made from the dust of the ground of the earth? Or more suitable to your particular ears because you have claimed it as so? It makes more sense to you that you will fly off— no spaceship necessary— to another universe/planet/location, far from Earth?

Agbaranze:
➜What's the way for us (Igbo). At first we're fighting for biafra, now we're fighting Christianity, tomorrow only God knows what we'll fight against.. misplaced priority
➜ Does anyone stops you from making choice of your religion?
➜Is God ( I'm what i am) the God of the Europeans alone?
➜Did christianity started in England?
➜ was Abraham born in Christian home?
➜ We need to answer these questions before bashing Christianity
➜In Joshua 24:2 it is shown that Terah Abraham’s father was an idol worshiper, in Genesis 12 God designed a new fate for Abraham, God ordered him to leave his father's house to the new land he will show him, Abraham obeyed God's words. At that time God introduced foreign religion to Abraham just like what we see toda.
Matthew 23:2-3 NIV‬
[2] “The teachers of the law and the Pharisees sit in Moses’ seat. [3] So you must be careful to do everything they tell you. But do not do what they do, for they do not practice what they preach. We should not speak ill of Christianity because of the life of the people that brought it to us, neither because of the lives of clergymen we have around, believe in Jesus Christ today to escape the looming damnation because Jesus Christ is the way, truth and life, no one comes to the father (God) except through him (the son)...John 14:6

1. When you say you are fighting for Biafra, are you fighting for something that is proven or something that you think will magically happen in the future? When you say you are fighting for Christianity, what is the substance behind claiming to fight for a religion that currently boasts of over 46,000 different interpretations/denominations? Are these fights worth any real value to anyone, including yourself?

2. Generally, no one does that is why Christianity boasts of over 46,000 denominations, and Muhammad, a mere mortal, was able to begin a religion of his own right while living in squalor.

3. The God of Israel, YHWH, said instead that He is the God of the people of Israel alone; He gave Himself that title. He never declared himself God of Europe or God of Africa. Africans already boast numerous deities by the way.

4. Christianity begin in Rome(now part of Europe), not England.

5. Abraham was born a Hebrew, and some(not all) of His descendants are those who are Israelites. The God of Abraham said that His only chosen people are the children of Jacob, the one whom He, YHWH, gave the name Israel to.

6. The answers to these questions of yours have been available for 1000s of years. Christianity as a religion is no different from every other religion out there. This isn't an attempt to bash it but to reveal that its foundation and evolution are similar to those of pretty much every other religion out there.

7. I am afraid you are mistaken. Christianity is in no way directly or indirectly connected to the man, Jesus Christ of Israel. Rather, the religion was created and established by the Romans in an attempt to hijack the power of a movement that existed before they eventually destroyed the nation of Judah and the city of Jerusalem. The creation of the religion of Christianity by the Romans was a political power move meant to further cement their control over their population, including those who were sympathetic to the plight of the jews during that time. A religion created by non-Israelites has nothing to do with Jesus Christ of Israel, the same one who proclaimed that non-Israelites could not handle what is holy.

P.S. That entire book you quote from is meant only for those who are of the bloodline of Jacob — the ones called the Israelites. They are a completely different tribe of people.

Love800:
➜Yea, mine is misleading to me too.
➜ But theirs is uniquely different. We are going reside on earth, and not face death, living happily forever inside planet earth. This is ridiculous!

1. What is yours? Let's compare!

2. Then let us know yours so we can compare and realize this "unique" difference for ourselves, then.

Aatami:
➜If you think deeply you will understand my point, someone living in abject poverty, hardly feed, suffering, praying for long life,
➜What is essence of life of suffering,.?

1. Ignorance! Such people were probably raised believing that the value in life is realized in how long one lives. As for your second question, well,

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-GoussBb5FM?si=veZG9zsGBjSp564A

HappyPagan:
- TP
- Fill bowl with water. Flush and scrub with hand.
- Bidet

TP isn't used to wash the arse but to wipe the butt. And using TP, you will need to practice wiping and know how best to wipe to get effective results, something that most can do. Washing can be done during showers, either once or twice each day.

Love800:
➜I would love to be a Jehovah witness, because of their gentle life. Relaxed service and programs(not those stressful and loud types), and serenity of their church yard. Infact, its this serenity of their abode that blows my mind!
➜But the thing that worries me, is their misled teachings.
➜ How can you say that we are not going to die, but remain on earth and unite with our love ones and live happily together forever!

1. A cultish way of life is what agrees with you? You may be shocked to realize you may already be living one of those without even realizing it. You know what they say, "The grass is greener on the other side of the fence." Only, your side of the fence may not be much different from the other side.

2. Can you prove your current teachings are not equally "misled"?

3. Are you able to explain to us how much saner your own denominational belief is when compared to this other denominational belief?

Greydebz:
➜Sometimes, a man can act serious I.e calls, attention, gifts, sweet words — and still not have genuine intentions. In a world where actions can be misleading, what signs should a woman really look for to know his heart is in the right place?
Let’s talk! What are the real signs of a man who’s truly serious about you — not just playing the part?

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=aUH8PV4PIr8?si=ZZBMONfwC1JhtJYq

Xavier0978:
Considering her age and the kind of person she is, I strongly believe that after marriage she will want kids and to start building a family. That’s not a bad thing, but I, as a man, don’t want to get stuck in that life yet because I know the kind of future I envision. I’ve always promised myself that I won’t raise a family on “manage-manage.” I feel like if I get married now and start raising a family, my focus will shift entirely to making sure they live well, which could make me lose track of my personal goals.
I swear, I know my girlfriend loves me. That’s not in doubt. But I’ve been pleading with her to give me at least two more years. If after that things are still not great, then we’ll settle down and manage until something better comes. Right now, to be honest, I don’t even have anything financially to plan a small wedding, and I definitely won’t borrow or ask anyone for financial support to do a wedding.
Please, I want your honest opinion. The two options here are: either get married before this time next year or end the relationship now, as there are other people already asking for her hand in marriage.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=JRtKwcUJ5xk?si=0fFhkYcxhysTKAGB

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=HT-c6Z_cnwI?si=B7sNmv1H3xG7bfk1

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=M0swUcJAtzs?si=0yBAOMNi2W7tNu9e

February30:
➜In a home, spouses can advise each other about their friends. Nothing wrong!

It always stops at just that, an advice, and never degrades into a demand or threat?