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Taiwojon:
■ Because I am not answering that You brought it up aunty Why need my opinion on that Since neither you nor I are married May I recommend you to direct this question to a marriage man or woman

So, you are not married but you are fully convinced that there is a magical component to being married and only married people know of it? 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

Taiwojon:
■ Who is insisting religion is Jesus Just repent abeg Na beg I dey beg you for your future
■ You know what Am getting tired of all this grammar At least leave christainity alone Jesus save

See lame attempt at backtracking! 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

2. How can I leave Christianity alone when you have in the name of Christianity lied against Jesus Christ over and over on this thread alone?

Taiwojon:
■ I ain't telling you anything aunty I too know. You brought up the woman being a property in a marriage Since you brought it up! Why ask me when you know the answer Anything I tell you Your delusional self acclaim I know it all won't let you see it my own way. So thank you

You still haven't told us what wonderful ability/property marriage bestows on the married. I asked you earlier about it but you brushed it off but we would like to know... at least I would

Taiwojon:
■ Repent from your anti-religion. It is making you bitter toward the love of Christ and God for humanity. You said you are antireligious yet you go about bashing Christian all in the name of woke or wokeness
■ If you are anti religion like you said Why is people being religious an offense to you If you must hate at least there has to be a cause on why you are hating!
■ And if it is religion people telling people about Jesus and love for humanity of which Christ died for them. How is that one your problem?
■ Leave religion people alone and stay your anti religion. Mind you, It is how satanism and Antichrist starter I hope you repent

The same you claimed not many posts ago that religion does not save but here you are insisting that religion is Jesus Christ. Why is it that religious folks such as yourself go around arrogantly beating their chests in their ignorance? Shouldn't you first repent from your religious confusion?

2. Religious people are not an offense to me. What offends me is instead the way they arrogantly go around beating their chests in their ignorance. You folks arrogantly throw lies out at others in your ignorance which you hide behind the many mentions of God and Jesus Christ.

3. Dude, you do not know Jesus Christ because if you did you would not have ignorantly claimed boldly. Religion is ignorance but your ignorance is made worse by your arrogance.

4. I don't even attack religionists; what I instead attack are the many lies you religious folks, particularly you Christians try to hide behind the mentions of the name of Jesus Christ. That is what gets me going after you and your particular kind of ignorance.

Taiwojon:
■ Yes invented by our Christian gods of men How Is that one your problem
■ I hope it won't be too late for you before you realized the truth Mrs anti religion

It is my problem when you go around imposing that brain-damage on others who do not care for that mental delusion you have chosen to subject yourself to.

2. Realize what truth? Just see how you have now resorted to threatening those who dont care for what you are selling. No be brain damage be that?

Taiwojon:
■ OK thank you. But get marry first . You are causing nuisance all in the name of ( I too know)

You still haven't told us what wonderful ability/property marriage bestows on the married. I asked you earlier about it but you brushed it off but we would like to know... at least I would.

Taiwojon:
■ Aunty calm down na. Who is talking about marriage being a property to woman here! Whatever advice you want to give. As long you are not yet married leave it to people who have does.
■ For the emotionally and psychologically bastardized by her husband. I didn't support that! Mind you God hate divorce, so divorce should not be a advice you should be giving her but for the fact it incuded adultery she has right to divorce but I think that will not be a best solution rather she should take it to go to intervene on their marriage
■ Note: this I just an advice the final decision still lie with her So please don't force your words on me or on the op We are only giving advice
Let her make her decision But divorce should not be an option

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2. So, God is OK with OP's being emotionally and psychologically bastardized by her husband all because, according to you, God hates divorce? You Christians never cease to amaze me as far as how low you are willing to go to throw God under the bus! 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

3. Religion is nothing but serious mindfuckery abeg! 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

komzy589:
■ Which tone? You’re only loud when you’re typing words to an anonymous person😁 It is pointless to be displaying strength when the obstacle is not even facing you. One can even insult the most powerful person in the world here and still go unscathed. What you’re doing is weak.

😗😗😗😗😗😗

Taiwojon:
■ Nawa ooooo. I can truly see, she is not married. All this I don't care feminist attitude of a lady

So, being married bestows on a woman what property again? Is OP aware of this since she is complaining that she has been emotionally and psychologically bastardized by her husband's cheating?

Taiwojon:
■ OK All this grammars just to say you are anti-religion. Thank anyway but please leave the religious people to do their bidding. Just for you to know . Religion doesn't save one JESUS does .
■ I hope you repent

Religion does not save yet you and your gang came brandishing religion at OP and everyone else who doesn't see it according to your religion on this very thread, how come?

2. Repent from what exactly? Being antireligion?

komzy589:
■ You may not like it but that doesn’t mean I’m not right.

Right about what exactly? All you have done is attempt to create a complicated picture of what is supposed to be simple. Even your posts suggest it should be a simple case for OP, yet the same you continue to insist, against your very own reason, that it shouldn't be. What the heck!

Taiwojon:
■ This thing or this kind way wey you dey go na hell fire ooooo. You need to repent

Hellfire and repent as invented by your Christian gods of men, abi?

komzy589:
■ Everything just dey make u angry.
■ Quit using fk and all those hideous words. It doesn’t fit you at all. The person is politely talking to you and you’re just spreading everywhere with emotions and fk. Haba 🤷🏻‍♀️

Angry ke? Your anger no be my own at all!

2. Nonsense! I can say the fk what I want when I want and it ain't none of your business or right to tell me how to converse with whom I chose to converse. You don't get to define in my case what constitutes polite language, ok? You can easily waka pass me if you cannot stomach my tone.

IDERAWOLE:
■ Pity you!

Your pity is worthless though.

Taiwojon:
■ The person was just asking a question but you took it the other way round just to bashed Christianity and satisfied your ego.
■ Between you didn't answer my own question whether you too are born again or not. I await your answer

I was merely stating a fact regarding Christianity which is that it brainwashed its adherents to the point they are incapable of really reasoning issues.

2. If your particular question is whether I am a Christian or not, the answer is that I am anti-religion of every kind.

KingExalted:
■ If you're a Christian, turn to God in prayer. You don't have to worry yourself. There's nothing God cannot do. If you're not a Christian, recommend Christ to you. Jesus is the prince of peace!

This your Christian god don answer the same prayers of the 10s of millions of Nigerian women stuck over the years in prayer and fasting rituals wey full of una churches?

If say na your own wife dey cheat on you, will you equally subject yourself to the same rituals you proffer as a solution to OP?

Kyng1:
■ I didn't intentionally got her pregnant.

Please don't tell us your dick mistakenly fell into the space between her open legs abeg!

Taiwojon:
■ Why are you taking it so personal. It is just a question! The husband is not born again. But mine to you mr religion judged . Are you born again?

You thinking it is personal for me is all you and not me. I just wondered why the fk it should matter whether any one of them claims to be born-again in this situation.

IDERAWOLE:
■ You have not shown that you know better to advise the woman. See your guts in your comments. It's easy to decode where someone like you is coming from.

At least I am not sending her into your churches which have proven themselves deadends for women in her situation.

Kyng1:
■ Troublesome and disrespectful Is an understatement, they're extremely troublesome and disrespectful. I really do not want the episode I wrote up there to be a lot longer than it already Is, I have a lot to say, a lot that happened on the traditional weeding day, and it all boils down to how troublesome and disrespectful they're.

If you had respected your own self to begin with, you would not have ended up smack dab in that pot of soup you described.

You disrespected the girl when you got her pregnant knowing you were not ready for anything more. So, what makes you deserving of their respect? This is a classic case of trouble dey sleep, yanga go wake am! Stop pretending this all happened out of the blue. You brought it upon yourself!

Kyng1:
■ Not actually in a short while, but I'm certain I'd have gotten married to her in the future.

For Pete's sake quit telling that joke! 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

OP, your first paragraph tells us everything we need to know about how you felt about this woman even after you had impregnated her. Come on! Your problem was created by you in this. You said you are now married to her, and it's been 2 months. If you plan to divorce her, that is your choice, but at least accept that this all started because you chose to court and impregnate a woman you had little to no respect for so you do not end up repeating the same mistake in the future.

Kyng1:
■ I'm sure not going to abandon her, if she had behaved herself I'd have surely gotten married to her In a short while, but as at then "last year" that she was pressurizing me for marriage, I wasn't in anyway ready,
■ I need to stand on my feet first. She manipulated me and I was left with no choice than to agree and proceed with getting married to her.

🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣 Dude... how old are you? Even a child would not fall for that obvious lie.

2. So long as you think she is to blame, you will never really learn the true lessons from this.

Kyng1:
■When I first met her, she was good to me.
■The only thing that I despite about her was her suicide attempt at any slight quarrel or arguments.
■ But currently now, she has completely turned an entirely different person.

LOL... your second paragraph, abi na third one, clearly details the fact that you did not value her as your equal even in marriage that is why you never asked her hand in marriage before that but you went ahead and impregnated her anyway. You seriously did not think we would all pat you on the back and say you did great, did you?

2. You despise her suicide attempt? You are kidding, right? According to you... na you talk am ooo... you despised the fact that she did not suffer with you and she was a liability you had to feed. Na you talk all these things. Why you come dey try to blame the girl for attempting suicide after she found out she was about to be abandoned by a man she thought respected and loved her?

3. You chose to marry a woman You yourself had no respect for. Why would you think that marrying her would automagically cause her to begin respecting you?

komzy589:
■ Unfortunately the implications are different for men. It is not the only one though; responsibilities and so many other things are not the same as it is with women. Many will imply that society made it so, but is it really society! The reality is that one stands a good chance of missing out if one goes against the norm. I know of men that believe they will only get married when they find a woman who’s ready to share equal marital responsibilities. They are still waiting. That’s what happens when one goes against the tide.
Society didn’t make it so. It is just the model.

Stop using my mention to continue this yammering abeg! 🤔

None of this directly addresses any of the concerns raised in my previous post so why tag me in this? So, what gives?

Kyng1:
■ Storyland I don't know if you're doubting what I just put up above, but if you're then you're absolutely wrong, because all what I stated is 100% true and a fact that cannot be erased. If I had lied on anything that I made mentioned above, then let nothing good ever comes my way, make life nor ever favor me, anything I dey find for my life make I nor see am, make me and my entire family nor see the end of this year.

E for better pass if say you lie!

Kyng1:
Good evening nairalanders, I'm sorry but this is going to be quite an episode.
I got married barely two months ago, February precisely. I'm In my late thirties, 28 years precisely and my wife Is 24 years old, during the buildup and period of my marriage there was lot's of problems and confusion.
It started when my wife. (then girlfriend) got pregnant (September precisely) immediately after we found out things seems to be going smoothly until November last year when she popped the question "when are we getting married" I told her that I'm not yet ready for marriage but I'm willing to do introduction, that night was hell for me.
Note, it wasn't hell and shocking to me because of what happened that night, it was shocking to me because it was the very first time she asked me such a question, and her reaction was shocking to me. If she has previously asked me this particular question severally and I'm not telling her what she wanted to hear I'd have understood why she reacted In such a way and manner, but it was the very first time she was throwing that question on me.
Back to what happened that night. Immediately I told her that I wasn't ready for marriage she started crying and laying curses on me, that I'm wicked, after suffering with me etc, then I responded that she never suffered with me that this should be the very last time that she should utter such word, I said so because she has been uttering it frequently on any slight quarrel, but on that faithful night, I couldn't take it any longer I told her that you suffered with me and I have two A.C on both parlor and room before I met you, that you suffered with me and I have a 75 inch TV, freezer, inverter, luxury center table, dstv etc. You suffered with me because of what, that I'm living in a self contain, or don't have my own house or car. This is someone that I'm feeding on a daily basis back then that I'm still a tenant and yet to have my own house, we went to eatery to eat almost on a weekly basis, to the extend that she refused to go to her parents house for months.

I never even analyze any of the tale reach that one. What I have gleaned from at least your second paragraph is that your problems began the moment you decided to impregnate a girl you knew did not suffer with you and all of that. You had this up in your mind as a red flag in your case but chose to ignore reason so who do you want us to blame? You carry woman as liability for head, impregnate her even at that, come here come dey complain to us say liability dey act as the liability wey she be.... is something wrong with you?

Storyland!

CaptainJune:
■ I think Op should call the people the man respects so they can weigh in on the issue and hopefully fashion a lasting solution.
■ She shouldn't rashly leave her marriage when she can still salvage it, but she must never have sex with him until he proves he is disease free.
■ Her situation calls for wisdom and patience. It is said that he who comes to equity must come with clean hands. I commend her for not paying him back in kind. She may not know how that decision has saved her from a world of pain and regrets. Let her do what she can. If all else fails she can seek separation from him (not divorce) for the sake of her mental and physical health.

If OP's opinion, the one who is the wife in the marriage, is worth absolutely nothing to the man, what does it matter if the man listens to others outside of the marriage that he supposedly respects? Marriage is between a man and a woman. Once one of the partners no longer respects the opinion of the other partner in the marriage— there is no agreement between the two —, is it still a marriage then?

2. How did you determine that she can salvage the marriage though? The man does not respect her and OP admits to already being emotionally and psychologically traumatized by the experience in marriage. Maybe she is disease-free, but is that the measure as far as whether the marriage is salvageable or not?

3. So, divorce is never to be considered even after she has ascertained that the man has completely abandoned her in marriage? Why is that?

weslay:
■ 💯 She should Just give him a condom and ensure she protect herself as well. Some men will use their own hands to destroy their family. I remember a case where the man got his wife and her infant child infected. The trio died leaving their older son alone to suffer in this sinful world.

Interesting!! She couldn't get him to stop cheating, but somehow she can get him to use protection every time he thinks to mount her after his side chicks have many brushed off his advances? Brilliant.

CaptainJune:
■ Does playing his role as a husband include infecting her with diseases gotten from his girlfriend(s)? Should she look away even when her health is in red danger from his actions?

OP already confesses to being emotionally and psychologically traumatized by it all. Who tell you say na when her physical health go follow too she go get sense?

Mercisharelove:
■ Listen carefully, you don't know anything about marriage. Marriage is the biggest economic overflowing blessings you do be so happy to enter. What does the scripture say about he who finds a good wife? Obtained favour of the LORD, that means favour from the governor of the universe, wow. Favour means lottery tickets, You've won so much, so, where is the lack and excuses you mentioned? It's wisdom and understanding. You need to find a good wife first and taste and see that the LORD is good all the time!

Oh boy! here we have another psychiatric case hiding behind religion!

Mercisharelove:
■ Do you actually know what is marriage?

Oh, pray tell us what marriage is from what we have come to know it to be.

nathyx:
■ Men of today are like He- goats going about mee mee looking for hole to put prick. Ewww it disgusts me. Some foolish He-goats are busy commenting "One toto no dey belleful man" so your life should be kept at stake because of one He-goat of a man?? What if the He- goat goes out and brings one deadly sexual transmitted disease and passes it to you. That means automatically you both are dead all because of the He-goat called man of a husband. Divorce him!!! Let him go on gallivanting from one hole to another since thats his destiny

In that case, it ain't the he-goat alone to blame. His wife at home who sits back and copes with him allowed the community dick of a he-goat to boink her already emotionally and psychologically damaged self after it all. Remember, it takes two to boink and since wifey is playing the coping wife, it makes sense that she would equally wish to cope with the STD her husband brings home as well.