₦airaland Forum

Undaunted11:
■ It's because life happened. One moment in ecstasy basking in abundance of love, next moment, it's like all hell let loose. Enjoy the moment and prepare for the worst while you expect the best. Through it all, God is good.

IDERAWOLE:
■ The first question to ask is: Is this woman born again? If she's not born again, of what use is the answer to your question to her?
■ She can't make use of a born again husband if she herself is not born again. If she's born again, she should know what to do with her husband now!

Some of you are just plain wicked and have yet to even realize your wickedness!

AbuTwins:
■ When he said he was the bread of life it is literal so they at him literally! They also drank his blood literally too! When a typical Jew will never play with wine calling it blood! Abeg rest!

tfrancis:
Isaiah 26:9 says "My soul yearns for you in the night; in the morning my spirit longs for you. When your judgments come upon the earth, the people of the world learn righteousness."

Fineman2:
I'm not lying and you know it

Fryx:
■ Well, I responded with what I know brings happiness. But since you are more interested in turning stone into diamond, go and ask those who enter marriage to be happy and how they are coping with their misery.
■ I don't live in misery, stop asking me miserable questions.

komzy589:
■ Your words are sweet and sound like they are logical but are completely void of anything in reality.
■ I don’t want to say much because issues like this are not as complicated as you’re making it seem.
■ Divorcing her husband is not an option for her and most sensible women. Otherwise she will not be here to ask questions.
■ She made it very clear that her husband provides and doesn’t abuse her.

Fryx:
■ Family. That’s the building block of society. That’s what marriage is for. Just as money doesn’t make the wealthy happy except for the fulfilling of their desire. Marriage or relationship won’t make you happy either except you learn how to be happy. If you don’t already know how to be happy, you will be miserable. Humans are selfish by default, your happiness is no one’s responsibility except you first offer them happiness.
Therefore, if you want to be happy with your husband in marriage, then you both don’t need to seduce each other. If a man and a woman naturally makes each other happy without effort, they are bound to continue being so even after marriage. And if any one of them change, then you look for something else to replace him or her without necessarily cheating on him. Except sex is a source of happiness to you.
■ For your second point. People are drawn to what they don’t have. If you live with a sadist but you manage to be happy without them, they will be curious and will want to be like you. If they see you as the prize, you have a control over them. At least, till when you become as hopeless as they are and they look elsewhere. The point: Humans are selfish, don’t ever desire anything from a human. You will never be happy or satisfied. But you can always trade what you have for what you don’t have.

tiswell:
■ na ya type dey eventually marry and won't divorce even if the hubby cheats.
■ I pity vulnerable married ladies taking your words serious here. Let me be explicit here,you aren't good with marriage and relationship advise.

Fryx:
■ Your husband is not supposed to make you happy. Putting your inner peace and happiness on the action of another human is a recipe for a life of sorrow. Get busy with your hobby and you will stop noticing your husband cheating.
■ You can even infect him with your happiness. However, he paid your bride price and had the right to run his home as he wishes. You can only contribute or leave if you are not happy with how he run his affairs.

tiswell:
■ yea,some extreme attitudes from a wife can change a man into something he isn't. I guess you are very much single and lacks experience yet to meddle in marital affairs. Marriage isn't arithmetic nor logic!!!

komzy589:
■ You are still not getting it. In an ideal world, your suggestion may be right, but is that the reality?
■ I don’t think it is. Most women in these parts are married for survival. You’re married to a cheating husband who’s taking care of you financially and doesn’t physically abuse you. Think rationally and stop dolling out unrealistic solutions. I don’t think this woman will accept your advice of leaving because she wouldn’t come here to ask questions at all.

tiswell:
■ Have you really taking time to ask or verify if the audacity to cheat by the husband was triggered by the wife's attitude?.
■ Or did he just suddenly start cheating on her after years of marriage.. Don't always jump into issues with emotional sentiments just to prove you are feminist wannabe.

AbuTwins:
■ You sef dey laugh! Jesus is many things he's not according to the Bible. Anyone can interpret and get what they want from it.

BlueAngel444:
so even the pastors like Peter that Jesus sent are scammers?
please who are you?

Yashita:
∆[Have you ever wondered why early morning exercise is not included in the African home?
We & our African parents just wake up in the morning, do morning devotion, do chores, get ready for work/school and go out. We don't take at least 30 minutes to do some yoga or exercise most times due to procrastination or laziness or fear to go out in the dark morning.
∆ That's also why we easily store up body fat. No physical exercise. We also don't take up the benefits of morning exercises enough.
∆ In fact, we just don't encourage ourselves in this country. Me inclusive.

Topsido:
Fake videos everywhere to eat Elon Musk's money. There are no dnakes that big in the world or even under the ocean. I've seen the official biggest and its not a tenth of this size.

joseph1832:
∆ so according to you, there is no one genuine man of God living in the world today?

BlueAngel444:
I agree care, feed, look after, all pastorial qualities is what was referred including teaching them.

What you are taught is that not what inspires you, inspires people to do what they do. There are inspiration that comes directly from God and those that come from God. If not then what have you been doing.

Fineman2:
so you think this is a lie with all the numerous stories we read everyday online

NwaliE01:
■ How would you wake up and advise a woman to divorce her husband because he's cheating? Are you going to marry her? Are we even saints to start with? Lots of people pretend to be saints, because they have not been caught.

Bliztzer:
∆ Many scams have proofs these days. Though you have knowledge, Wisdom is far from you.

BareFacedLies:
■ Calvary247 I still stand by what I said earlier, most of your friends are also in the same boat.
So long as there is no domestic violence involved just ignore advise from ...and her fellow feminists. If you leave your husband because of this just know that your pússy will become free-for-all except if you have plenty of money to attract a lazy gold digger who will agree to marry you. The odds are seriously stacked a female divocee in Nigeria

Here's the kicker! If you dare to cheat on that same cheating guy you have there, he is likely to abandon your arse like a dirty rag and move on to marry another woman. And if one of his side chicks decides to elevate herself to wife status, that same cheating husband of yours might also abandon your arse like a dirty rag even then. If you think your stance is a righteous one, keep thinking!

Elusive001:
∆ Is your husband born-again? I did NOT ask if he is a pastor, minister, or worker in his church. I did NOT ask if he goes to church, preaches, prays, pays tithe, etc. I asked, Is he born-again? Is he crucified with CHRIST JESUS?

BareFacedLies:
■ If you like leave your marriage because of what Nairaland chief feminist ... said.
When you do you will realise that the only real options available to you in the dating pool in Nigeria are widowers and possibly divorcees. You're not likely to find a single guy in Nigeria who will readily marry a divorced woman with kids instead they will be taking turns to fuçk you. If you must know the husbands of most of your friends also have sidechicks but they are more discrete about it so stop envying them.

officialwdhtv:
Moment a very huge snake was trapped but no one could get close to it

okoro:
Bitter Obi was Anini in Anambra during his tenure

Calvary247:
■ My husband cheats alot. I tried communicating with him to consider my emotional and psychological well-being but he didn't really take kin interest. I have wanted to cheat back but thinking of it disgusts me. Just help with a piece of advice that will help me.

Hashabiah:
∆ You are contradicting yourself. The same bible testifies and tells us that God is our Father, so what kind of Father would not want to talk to His children and have a personal relationship with them ?
∆ When many of you neglect the Holy Spirit , you start falling for these false views on what Christians and Christianity should be , forgetting the fact that the religion is a personal relationship with God and man .
∆ Secondly why should God choose to talk only through the bible ? In the days of Joseph and Noah, was there a bible through which they communicated and heard God? Na wah o...repent and run your own race with fear and trembling .

Bliztzer:
■ No one asked for ur subscription. And you re not compel to believe what I believe. What is seen is not hidden. There is so much hidden away from our eyes, that only few can see.

emmaaolufemi:
I found this, kindly share your thoughts.

Bliztzer:
∆ You know I am right. But ur over confidence in your intelligence would make you see things like you know it all if mockers and vaintalkers like you are not in existence, the holy book would be just a script of deluded liars. You are doing the exact thing you re programmed to do.