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Why Strong People Attract Difficult Relationships

I have seen spiritually awakened, amazingly strong people fall into relationships that are sometimes abusive, stressful and manipulative and often wondered- why?


There are probably many reasons this happens, but it seems that strong people are already so good at working on themselves and digging through their own baggage, that often it takes a relationship to really push them out of their comfort zone.

While I have never been in an abusive relationship, when I met my partner it definitely felt as if I was being challenged by the Universe to unearth things that I believe, could only really could be unearthed by entering into a romantic partnership.

I was excellent at being independent and had done a lot of work on myself, but it seemed that entering into a relationship that really mattered, unexpectedly turned my life upside down.

Relationships often teach us the most about ourselves, especially when we are already strong characters.

If you are struggling in your relationship, if you are wondering why you seem to have everything else flowing smoothly in your life except romance, it could be a sign that you are a strong soul that is here to experience deeper, transformative work through “other”.

Here is why strong people often encounter difficult relationships and how to move through it-

Understand That Relationships Are Part Of Something Bigger

Strong people are often so good when they are on their own, but suddenly they enter into a significant relationship only to discover a whole suitcase of baggage they didn’t even know they had.

It is one thing to work through your own skeletons, but when they are triggered by another person, things can get messy very quickly.

It is important for people in this situation to remember that their relationship is part of something bigger and is there to help bring about growth, change and transformation.

In order for strong people to grow, their relationships often have to present some challenge in order to reach through to the other side.

This is not to say that strong people are forever doomed, but in the early days especially, it could be typical to attract these sorts of challenging relationships.

By focusing on the bigger picture and the growth that is to be had through the relationship, it can sometimes help to keep things in perspective.

Strong people often enter into relationships that also serve a higher purpose that perhaps may not even be revealed in this lifetime.

This is because strong people attract-

1.) Many Soulmate Relationships

Strong people are often destined to enter into many soulmate relationships.

Soulmates come into our lives to help challenge our soul in order to grow. Soulmate work can be very heavy, painful and amazing all at the same time, but the ultimate mission is growth of the soul.

It is through these relationships that strong people often do their most healing and self-discovery. This is because they are so good at being independent that merging with another person is where most of their weaknesses are highlighted.

Soulmate relationships also don’t have to be forever, but in terms of growth and evolution, the effects of the relationship are likely to last a lifetime.

2.) Healing Relationships

Many strong people are also healers and therefore, will attract partners that need a lot of healing and attention.

Strong people are also generally equipped to handle the pain and emotions of people who need healing, emotional support and comfort, which is why the Universe will bring them together.

Healing is never one-sided however. If you are doing a lot of healing work in your relationship, it is likely that both parties are experiencing the benefits.

Strong people are also often sent to help other souls work through similar patterns or skeletons that they have had to deal with either in this life, or in past lives.

The one thing to be mindful of here is not to get caught up in a one-sided relationship. If you are feeling drained from all the ‘healing’ work, it may be a sign that you need to also shift your way of thinking and being in the relationship in order for it to grow.

3.) Karmic Relationships

Often a challenging relationship is full of karma from past lives. Relationships can also trigger things within us that can cause us to feel heavy, confronted and confused.

Karmic relationships are often intense and heavy, especially in the beginning. There can also be a strong, unexplained pull to each other, or even a strong repulsion at times.

Healing old karmic wounds in a relationship is challenging work, but can also be a huge potential of growth and revolution.

When it comes to karmic work, the lessons will continue to follow you from relationship to relationship in order to be healed, released and cleansed.

Strong people often attract a lot of this into their lives because they are strong enough to handle it and have been given the tools they need to work through this karmic energy.

Doing karmic work in a relationship doesn’t mean that you have to tolerate abuse or other bad behaviour, but sometimes sticking with the lesson and making your way to the other side can be the most therapeutic thing for your soul.

What Strong People In Challenging Relationships Can Do

1.) Give yourself permission to be weak. Often strong people go through life always having to support other people, but challenging relationships can help stimulate the opposite. Allow yourself to be held and supported in the relationship, and resist always having to be the strong one.

2.) Learn to soften yourself and melt any barriers you have created surrounding receiving love. Often strong people are very good at giving but they are not so good at receiving.

3.) Understand that all relationships are just experiences that are here to help you grow and evolve into your highest potential. Embrace the challenges that come your way and remember it is all part of the journey.

4.) Focus on self-love. When you truly love yourself and make decisions from this place, it will help you to move forward in the relationship.

5.) Remember that challenging relationships can sometimes be the most rewarding. When you can move through the issues and into a clearer space, it can create a strong relationship that is often for life.

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I launched today a free access audio book series.
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I launched today a free access audio book series.
kindly follow the link below
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I launched today a free access audio book series.
kindly follow the link below
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I launched today a free access audio book series.
kindly follow the link below
https://soundcloud.com/josef-eja/understanding-faith-part-1/stats

I launched today a free access audio book series.
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Einstein is light years ahead of Edison...he is the father of modern quantum physics and chemistry....his theory of relativity of matter holds sawy till today!

Honest question guys.
Pls is there gender quality to being a boss? I've been seeing a lot of grammatical tautologies on my time line....I mean the 'Boss Lady crews'. I think a boss remains a boss , and we need not attach gender to it. That's why in military all ranks are same and not something like 'boss lieutenant' but lieutenant or men of the armed force and not men and women of armed forces. This is because it is belieced that ones an order is made by superior officer one need not check the gender of who made such orders. Ok, what would you make of gender tag 'boss man', doesnt it sound awful?You people want gender equality but you rob yourselves by adding gender to your boss status. What do ladies really wants!
I think its a crass fallacious contradiction!
#justsaying
I stand to be corrected.

fratermathy:
First off, which school is that?
Most schools often tender the statement of result automatically after a student must have completed the final defence and effected corrections.

Secondly, your statement of result/certificate is the only thing recognised for a job.

Bro its Nigerian Defence academy, they don't release any of their document before convocation. They run a highly close system

I am through with my masters program with 4.4 cgpa after dissertation and two publication in international journal to my credit. I've applied for statement of result for uncountable times but they just wouldn't process the damn thing. Pls can you advise me

Toks2008:
I always tell ladies that 9 out of 10 cassanovas were at a time in their lives faithful to one lady until they got heartbroken.

Am worst off bro...I hate dem fake ladies...game on!

Anything in life is possible, if only you believe

Nice one. Meanwhile today is my birth day. Can I get a like/share

I write to humbly reach out to nairalanders as a family to help support me in my on going audio book series titled "understanding faith part 1".
kindly help me rebroadcast as you visit the link below on various social media platforms. For sponsorship/support kindly reach me in the correspondence below. Feel free to drop you comment, recommendation and honest criticism on the except of the work in the link.

Our vision is to touch and add meaning to lives through our messages. It will empower you both physically and spiritually for exploit and quick realization of Gods purpose for your life.

In this message, a general overview of faith is undertaken with focus on Heb 11 v 1, we hope to conclude our teaching of understanding faith by various other upcoming parts in the series. we have decided to keep teaching as simple as possible.

About the Presenter:
Efiok Joseph Akpan aka (EJA), is a diligent and focused upcoming motivational/public speaker with passion to touch lives. . He holds a Bachelor of science Degree (BSc.) in Marine Chemistry from University of Calabar, Master’s of Science Degree in Physical Chemistry (MSc.- Material’s Science) Nigerian Defense Academy, holds safety certificates a Prospective and a prospective Ph.D candidate. He has published scientific research works, published in two international journals to his credit.

He believe that he has a mandate to liberate men from place of despair and desolation, as a distant Protégé of Rev Sam Adeyemi of Day star, his Philosophy is that life will never make sense the moment we veer off its Essence, which is to serve God all mighty and Humanity.


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ladyF:
hehehe... of course

Happy weekend. From Team #Fynestboi and Fynestgeh

Tnx a bunch...mean while, kindly use your popularity here to promote my first audio message series.
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Cheers
!I write to humbly reach out to nairalanders as a family to help support me in my on going audio book series titled "understanding faith part 1".
kindly help me rebroadcast as you visit the link below on various social media platforms. For sponsorship/support kindly reach me in the correspondence below. if you are interested in distribution of large quantities at discounted premium nation wide then this work is for you. feel free to drop you comment, recommendation and honest criticism on the except of the work in the link.

Our vision is to touch and add meaning to lives through our messages. It will empower you both physically and spiritually for exploit and quick realization of Gods purpose for your life.

In this message, a general overview of faith is undertaken with focus on Heb 11 v 1, we hope to conclude our teaching of understanding faith by various other upcoming parts in the series. we have decided to keep teaching as simple as possible.

About the Presenter:
Efiok Joseph Akpan aka (EJA), is a diligent and focused upcoming motivational/public speaker with passion to touch lives. . He holds a Bachelor of science Degree (BSc.) in Marine Chemistry from University of Calabar, Master’s of Science Degree in Physical Chemistry (MSc.- Material’s Science) Nigerian Defense Academy, holds safety certificates a Prospective and a prospective Ph.D candidate. He has published scientific research works, published in two different internal journals to his credit.

He believe that he has a mandate to liberate men from place of despair and desolation, as a distant Protégé of Rev Sam Adeyemi of Day star, his Philosophy is that life will never make sense the moment we veer off its Essence, which is to serve God all mighty and Humanity.


Cellular Line: +234 (0)8-0309727-30
e-mail: mails4joe3k@yahoo.com

https://soundcloud.com/josef-eja/josef-eja-understanding-faith-intro

ladyF:
hehehe... of course

Happy weekend. From Team #Fynestboi and Fynestgeh

Am am blushing red

ladyF:
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And also Donsmith123 mamagee3 blyzz koife domopps

Woa...u recognized me...wow, am flabbergasted!

I saw this and thought to share..
Pls comment what you make of it

Thanks giving service for FFK bail

I write to humbly reach out to nairalanders as a family to help support me in my on going audio book series titled "understanding faith part 1".
kindly help me rebroadcast as you visit the link below on various social media platforms. For sponsorship/support kindly reach me in the correspondence below. if you are interested in distribution of large quantities at discounted premium nation wide then this work is for you. feel free to drop you comment, recommendation and honest criticism on the except of the work in the link.

Our vision is to touch and add meaning to lives through our messages. It will empower you both physically and spiritually for exploit and quick realization of Gods purpose for your life.

In this message, a general overview of faith is undertaken with focus on Heb 11 v 1, we hope to conclude our teaching of understanding faith by various other upcoming parts in the series. we have decided to keep teaching as simple as possible.

About the Presenter:
Efiok Joseph Akpan aka (EJA), is a diligent and focused upcoming motivational/public speaker with passion to touch lives. . He holds a Bachelor of science Degree (BSc.) in Marine Chemistry from University of Calabar, Master’s of Science Degree in Physical Chemistry (MSc.- Material’s Science) Nigerian Defense Academy, holds safety certificates a Prospective and a prospective Ph.D candidate. He has published scientific research works, published in two different internal journals to his credit.

He believe that he has a mandate to liberate men from place of despair and desolation, as a distant Protégé of Rev Sam Adeyemi of Day star, his Philosophy is that life will never make sense the moment we veer off its Essence, which is to serve God all mighty and Humanity.


Cellular Line: +234 (0)8-0309727-30
e-mail: mails4joe3k@yahoo.com

https://soundcloud.com/josef-eja/josef-eja-understanding-faith-intro

I write to humbly reach out to nairalanders as a family to help support me in my on going audio book series titled "understanding faith part 1".
kindly help me rebroadcast as you visit the link below on various social media platforms. For sponsorship/support kindly reach me in the correspondence below. if you are interested in distribution of large quantities at discounted premium nation wide then this work is for you. feel free to drop you comment, recommendation and honest criticism on the except of the work in the link.

Our vision is to touch and add meaning to lives through our messages. It will empower you both physically and spiritually for exploit and quick realization of Gods purpose for your life.

In this message, a general overview of faith is undertaken with focus on Heb 11 v 1, we hope to conclude our teaching of understanding faith by various other upcoming parts in the series. we have decided to keep teaching as simple as possible.

About the Presenter:
Efiok Joseph Akpan aka (EJA), is a diligent and focused upcoming motivational/public speaker with passion to touch lives. . He holds a Bachelor of science Degree (BSc.) in Marine Chemistry from University of Calabar, Master’s of Science Degree in Physical Chemistry (MSc.- Material’s Science) Nigerian Defense Academy, holds safety certificates a Prospective and a prospective Ph.D candidate. He has published scientific research works, published in two different internal journals to his credit.

He believe that he has a mandate to liberate men from place of despair and desolation, as a distant Protégé of Rev Sam Adeyemi of Day star, his Philosophy is that life will never make sense the moment we veer off its Essence, which is to serve God all mighty and Humanity.


Cellular Line: +234 (0)8-0309727-30
e-mail: mails4joe3k@yahoo.com

https://soundcloud.com/josef-eja/josef-eja-understanding-faith-intro

Why is the brukutu drinking man always having bad luck...bad event seems to prime out when he is at the helms. Gosh! Is it that this man carry bad luck antena...why is things falling so badly. Why would briext now when booboo is on the throne..ehn, haven't we had enuf of fin. Downturn already. Britext no doubt will be bad for nja!

Over to you mod

Residents shocked after Ogun river suddenly turns into a 'dry land' overnight. Makes me want to ask if God is angry with Nigeria. Or is it also part of the change?
http://www.channelstv.com/2016/06/18/ogun-river-turns-to-dryland-at-kara-market/

amicable09:
Ufan mi' , you told us your real name na
And I have some Akwa - Ibom friends, Akpan, Edidiong, Imaobong and the rest. ... I should be able to exchange pleasantries in efik

Wow...good to hear. Yh my moniker is on rewind....haha

Just applied and I am based in calabar, pls see below, I am the individual concerned.
Hello house,
Permit me start by introducing myself. I am Efiok joseph, I hold Bachelors of Science Degree in Marine chemistry(2008), Masters of Science Degree in PHysical Chemistry(Distinction :4.4-2015). I may not be the best brain around but I am humble, teachable and versatile. I am putting up this thread because at this stage in my life, I am having a great pressure within and outside my sphere of influence. I have done everything I think is worthwhile to have a descent life. I. Am almost feeling frustrated and depressed, this is due to the fact that at 30+ and still living in my parents house (insult me if you like), I feel I am just alone in this entire world. I can barely afford basic need of life. Before you crucify and blame everything on my laziness, let me give a bit of what I have been up to lately.

Rewind to 2008/2009- I had a job with a hotel..was paid 7 thousand as start up, I took up the job not even considering my academic status, I believed in God, while I was there I was able to save money and I enroled in many trainings and seminars. Some include basic safety course, customer service relationship, I also obtained a diploma in basic ict/computer appreciation, oil tanker farmilirization, LNG HSSEQ and other related oil and gas certificate courses. I saved enough money to buy a car and registered business name as a logistic enterprise, I was able to get an office space for that but some how high taxing and unfriendly business environment made me close down the office and returned to taxi (town drop) services. I had an accident and was forced to sale the car into instead of total loss, i could no longer afford my rent and moved in with my parents, i was devasted. As the saying goes that quitters never win and winnersnnever quit, I picked up my pieces, swallowed my pride and enrolled in sure-p, luckily I made it through the selection process and I was placed as an intern with an entertainment company with 15k take home after all sortings.

I simultaneously ran this alongside my MSc program which I almost single handedly sponsored myself till late last year..well, I had a further knock when in lost my 4yrs+ relationship, my fiancee who was hitherto very supportive left without any sign, I went bipolar, I hated life and depression set in. I sometimes wonder if there anyone out there with my kind of experience....as I write this I am sitted on the road side, I am confused, I am tired, I am teary...I sometimes think I have offended God so much that he has forgotten about me. I have updated my CV, I have applied for countless jobs, adjusting my CV accordingly. I have tried my hands on all sort of things, from marketing job, phone call business, laundry services trust me, have hustled. Many times I have contemplated suicide but I know its not the best option coz I would break the heart of my parents and all those who believed and invested in me and most importantly God. I have listened to lost of motivational/inspirational CD to stir my faith, but trust me its as if its taking forever, I ammlossing it BIG TIME.

I have read of stories here on nairaland about people who carried placard and some how were lucky, this is my own placard ooo, i am using this opportunity to beg you all for your assistance for a JOB or a loan.....I have written my proposals for companies telling them about the ideas I have but some of them end up hijacking them. I seriously need an urgent help, even if as PA, voluntary, paid, partial paid...anything' I am ready to relocate if need be.
Thank you and God bless you.
Kindly reach me through
08030972730, 08078661082

amicable09:
Hi Koife (I like your moniker by the way. Very creative way of spelling ) Your profile is really good. If I was to be in a position to help, I would not have hesitated to do so now ... however, I am writing to to say don't give up.

I'm tempted to write a story now to share an experience with you,but if I do so my mingled boo - Lero will say I always have a story to back me up ... LOl. But the truth is, I have met people with great profile like yours who were over 30 years old, hustling and doing menial jobs despite their rich academic qualifications, I make bold to say that today, they are in very good places doing well.

Don't despair and don't relent as well. I pray someone contacts you with a heart warming call or mail that will give you the desired level of euphoria you deserve now. I pray God to touch someone's heart to bless you soon.

Stay optimistic! Hope maketh not ashamed.

Thank you..your words were comforting bw I av a feeling you know my real name