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joseph001:
IF YOU REALLY RESPECT US AS YOU CLAIM THEN YOU SHOULD DEFEND OUR HON OUR

YOU GUYS ALWAY AGREE WITH THIS MEN IN NIARALAND

MY MOMMY IS A LAWYER AND WHEN SAID WHAT YOU MEN OR MOST OF YOU MEN DONE TO YOUR WIFE AFTER SO MANY YEAR OF MARRIAGE. SHE WONDER WHY PEOPLE STILL GET MARRY

BLACK WOMEN HAVE THROUGH A LOT, THEIR HUSBAND THROW THEM OUT OF THE HOUSE JUST TO BRING SOMEBODY YOUNGER, MEN MEN COME ON YOU KNOW WHAT AM TALKING ABOUT, despoil, ABUSE, BEATING, CHEATING, THIS STORY IS SO COMMON, SO DON'T PRETEND AS IF YOU DON'T KNOW WHAT I AM TALKING ABOUT

I know exactly what you are talking about.

But please stop generalizing. That is all I ask.

You need to be positive to get a good man by your side.

All this negativity aint gon help you in anyway.

Yes I do. for my household.

Again, go hang urself since you cant find a man to take care of you as such.

Can you believe some ignoramus now trying to diss me cos I said I wash plates at home??

Confused human being.

They want a man that will take care of them but cant bear the fact that some men are already doing just that.

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Same goes for you.

I will never insult women. I have a loving mother, wife and sisters.

You are condemning all men because of a few.

Some of us are good men and we appreciate our wives.  And I'm sure some wives also do the same.

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I'm cool with all except the last one 'be o ni?'

Not so sure about it . . ,

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Oh so it is only jobless men that wash plates? 

Other ladies, here we go.


If you must know. I am at work right now.

I am a consultant with a major telecoms company.

So you can go hang urself.

this poster should be locked up for life and fed by deafs and dumbs

@ poster.

Sorry for urself if your life is messed up but dont come out here and start taking it out on other men.

I am a Nigerian man, married to a Nigerian woman. We do everything together and we are happy as a family. I rub her feet, cook for her, scrub her back, wash the dishes, take out the trash, buy her jewelries and clothing and I also make sure the bank account is never empty.

My wife is both my queen and my princess. She is very curvy, has both chest and backside - just the way I want it. Eat ur heart out

So dont come out here crying if you made the wrong choice and married a loser - It takes one to marry another.

btw, they all eat their own food in their cubicles as well . . .some of them smell too but I dont find them offensive. . .or even care.

I usually eat my food in my cubicle . . with foreigners all around me. You know how we do it . . rice with stew with egusi soup and stock fish.

I know the smell and am ok with it cos it's my food.

But do you think other may find it offensive cos it is different from what they are used to? but noone has never walked up to me to say something.

Should I just live my life I enjoy my food since no-one has complained. .or eat this kinda food at home alone?

in pele l'ube oo

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and Omolola would be fine with that?

why dont you give Omolola belle and let her go deliver in yankee . . .fair enough?

190, why you creeping. . . did you and omoloa break up?

hope it aint because you left for England   

Funny but true.

TOXTOX:
Good KOKOYE. But you will agree with me that sometimes you shift your ground - to make peace not so?

Of course I do. For peace to reign.

But if her suggestion is going to have an adverse effect on the long run, it aint happening.

That is why the person you marry matters. Your wife must be able to trust your decisions.

But you must earn that trust. . . not demand it.

I love my woman to dress like a lady.

Show some cleavage but be respectful with it.

I love mini skirts so I buy them for her. If her skirt is too long for me . . she aint leaving the house.  

I prefer beads to chains so I buy them for her. I wear the chain  

I am a sucker for leather so my wife has loads of shoes and bags that I bought.

If I aint comfortable with what she's wearing  . . I tell her and she changes it. Same for me - she does the same. We are each other's best critics since we will aways be sincere.

I prefer her walking around in the house with only shirt and her panties on . . not thongs. So she wears the kinda of pants I like around the house. She wears thongs as needed when she's is going out.

She asks me how she's looking on her way out and she can tell when I aint feeling her sexy . .  

The only time I lie is when she's tying gele. If I am sincere about that then we'll never leave the house  

next?

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Right, so in a situation where the woman does not understand, what should the man do?

I think this is the advice the poster is here for

lol

I will think about her suggestion. We will sit down and discuss the upsides and downsides together and hopefully come to a reasonable conclusion.

But if I decide her choice is not the best for the household and she insists, that is when I put my foot down - that is why the Lord made me the head and not the tail.  . .we realise women can be emitional in making decisions at times. The tend to think short-time while we think long-term at times.

My wife wanted to change our son's day care cos she felt they were not helping with his potty-traning process. I told her the little boy was not ready and changing his school would not help in anyway. She tried to influence my decision with blackmail and tears (like they always do at times  ) but of course I stood my ground since I knew what I said was right.

Our son started using the potty on his own just a few weeks later. I reminded her about the fight we had over this a few weeks back. Guess what her response was? :  Is that not why you are the man and the head? . . you simply did what you were supposed to

Your wife will respect you when she knows your decisions are always for the good of the family.

Now there are also a lot of decisions she's made that have been implemented. She is my partner in progress.

Hope this helps.

Ujujoan:
See what I mean when I say men should have money to take care of their wives/families

And that is precisely every responsible man's intention.

But what happens when 'the man' loses his source of income and has to depend on someone esle while he tries to get back on his feet?

or . .is that a crime as well?

Chookym:
@ Poster Pls take this advise from mengi and several others. Its what u need. but do it prayerfully with Fasting oo, because so many things dey fight marriages this days, Its yr marriage , dont give up easily . Be careful not to drive yr man into the hands of other women, that is if he hasnt gone yet. . . . . .

what the heck are you talking about . . he is killing her!

myhome10:
south-south region. since he doesnt discuss issues wit me as they arise, it gets to a pt whr he explodes, & dat normally results in him beating me, squeezing my neck, bruises evywhr. hhhmmmmmmmm, i pray God gives me the strenght to hang on here all the way.

You need to get out of this marriage as fast as you can. . . or yo may never leave to tell this story again.

Who d hell is Adam . .what does he have to do with the decisions in my family

Bintu16:
is it a crime to be a 2nd wife?

In this day and age. Yes it is.

Go find urs.

If you become a 2nd wife, you have automtically created enemies for yourself and your children without knowing it.

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For ur own sake, you cannot forgive a perpetual liar. Their entire life is a lie and I know loads of people like that.

Like you said, they are cowards but wont admit it so they cover up with lies.

They actually start to believe their own lies.

Insecurity and low self-esteem if you ask me.

I pity some husbands / households.

na wah.

thread created from the movie: The Brothers.

Grab your copy now

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She aint damn right as long as it is not all men.

Some women do it too. HATE YOURSELF for that as well.

of course she just got her heart broken.

sorry pu pu.

Now why would she go and marry a family man??

And she thinks all will be well because the other wife is not in the country.

That's how some women indirectly bring curses on thier kids and they then blame someone else for it

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Na, we aint talking about that kinda lie. There are white lies and black lies.

That one is a dark, black lie. And the person who'd tell that kinda lie does not really like you anyway.

and just so you know, some chatterboxes do lie all the way thru 

You are welcome shy-one . . .though I can tell you aint really shy

Goodluck in all you do.