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^^^ keeping it real. some women no go gree.

You don see naija woman stalking b4? , na die o!

plus restraining order no too dey work for naija 

mekula:
What if the lady in question is the clingy type? I've been there, trust me. even after straffing her friend, she still dey cling.

Then you move on to her family member. 

win win situation for you

Guys, be smart about this . .make the lady break up with you . . . except there is no other way around it.,

Remember a woman scorned can go ahead and date ur boss or benefactor just to show you pepper.

If na boy, tell him you missed your period.

If na girl, ask her for money ALL the time. When she don give you di money, then ask for a quickie.

Do this diligently and without repentance.

Your desire will be granted.

^^ All will be well. Hold on to your faith.

^^^^^ response pls.

True,

some of us have more power and control over good girls when we keep them at arm's lenght. That is why some ladies wonder why you are 'running' from them. They start to feel they you are not sexually attracted to them . .when the reverse is actually the case.

^^^ I dont want you to have to go Nigeria because I do not believe in long distance relationships. Neither am I encouraging you to lower your values or expectations - this will just make you unhappy and depressed in the long run. and by the way, smart guys do not break up with ladies, they encourage the ladies to break up with them.

I just do not want you to start thinking guys are running because you might be more accomplished. Believe me, it is not a good way to start off.

You deserve what you hope for . .you have made yourself ready in the financial aspect . . a lot of guys here are still trying to accomplish that and may too busy to 'see' you. That's where your positive attitude, confidence and reference will come in.

I do not want you to start thinking negative . . that's why I am trying to help out, since I know some guys who are ready but not really looking - guys strive to be financially stable first.

goodluck again.

^^^ plus you are also an unserious fellow.

^^^^ Are you in the U.S?

If not, sorry. I do not encourage long distance relationships.

Ladyjide:
I would like to see answers to this questions. In my "OPINION" honestly I think that these days that a lot of Nigerian men are intimidated by the educated Nigerian women a bit!! They would rather go for the less educated, dependable type, There for these days being educated does not ensure you a mate, in my case it hasn't yet!!

OK here we go again.

Again, I will tell you that this opinion of your is not goin to help you at all. Are you really sure you want successfull relationship . . or you have accepted your fate and started making excuses . . or you were expecting to buy a naija guy with your education??

If the latter is the case, maybe you should go to nigeria and get a man . . i'm sure you will find loads who would not mind.

Specific tribe . . or you dont mind?

alright then . . send your details to kokoyemalibu@gmail.com.

send whatever you would like the person to know about you . . religion, willingness to relocate to another state. .

we'll start from there.  I'm sure you know it takes two .  . .all I can to is hook you up with a few guys (who are really really planning to settle down), maybe thru facebook and then it'll be up to you guys.

I have friends (33 and above) who are thru with school . .they cureently work and want to settle down.

When you meet a guy that is really ready to settle down, the ball is in your court, really.

goodluck

you can ask the dogs on this forum. dem plenty

if dey no answer you, go find paul the octopus.

Ladyjide, this is a public forum - you will have to learn to ignore some posts here and not take things too personal. take and reply to only those posts you choose to.

what's wrong with you droping ur statistics here . . nobody know who you are . . just yet.

I see no problem asking your boyfriend / girlfriend for some financial assistance when you truly need it. It is not like you do it all the time.

I'm sure most people wouldnt mind asking their best friends for money when needed . . why not a boyfriend who can afford it?

^^^^ Yup. How many girls do that . . even the good ones?

tolutara:
^^^^^^^^^^^

Funny Enough, My honey said "it quite refreshing to find a woman who was able to say exactly how she felt"

Yes, It was scary, Yes he is extremely handsome and it was quite intimidating to reach for someone not knowing if you would be turned down, however, I did not care. It was a risk that paid off. It could easily have gone the other way.

Would I do it again, Absolutely, BTW, I also paid for the food. He could afford it but I wanted him to know I liked him and I am different from all the other women he was used to.

The experience made me understand the serious emotional and physical work it requires for our men to ask us out. I bow for Una men, it isn't easy at all.

A responsible amd mature man will never turn a lady down no matter what. There are much nicer ways of saying 'no'. So Tolutara, that was a pointer that you were making the right choice.

Never say 'no' to a lady . . cos she can go ahead and date your boss.

Two female friends I politely turned down are happily married to male friends I hooked them up with.

When the movie Barbershop came out, some smallie Howard University girl invited me to go see the movie. So I saw the same movie twice in one day (I'd promised to take another girl to see the same movie) and guess what, this damsel paid for the ticket!! I ended up being the bitch by offering to buy the drinks and popcorn

The girl is still in college but i'm sure she will make a fine wife someday.

I am happily married to a lady who knew I was attracted to her but did not make a move because I felt there was no way she could be available. Plus we were both in grad school in the east coast and my paying my tution was really the most important thing to me at the time.  So we remained very good friends over the period  (she even hooked me up with some of her friends!).

What did the lady in question do? she calmed my fears in a feminine and subtle way and let me know she was available. Imagine this coming from someone I saw for the first time 2yrs prior and thinking 'This is exactly how I want my wife to be!".

4yrs and counting.

kokoye:
I will answer your question.

The 'quality' men (in your age range) you described were long hooked by the smart naija girls 9they caught them real early). Most of them are engaged or married.

When you see a guy you are interested in, you need to be bold and make that confident but subtle move. Most responsible naija guys here usually have other things on their minds other than marriage, so you have to make them KNOW you are the type that is meant for keeps.

goodluck.

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tolutara:
I believe a lot of the good Men are taken,

I remember 8 years ago when I asked my husband out on the first date, I had all my girlfriends laughing at me. But boy, I saw a good thing and I went for it. He is a wonderful and good man. They did not catch the vision, I did. He was not driving the best car or so I was told. 2 of those friends are still asking the same above question. Where are the good men?

Now dear hubby can have any car he wants.

So poster, Make hay while the sun shines.

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I said it . . preach!

CuteAngel:
This the coolest post you have ever posted here in NL

You may be a wife now but soon you will be a mother-in-law as well.

Tough choice o. lead us not into temptation.

^^^ you were 'playingly' saying a fact.  .

I am actually trying to see what she wants first . .I know a couple of guys in that area, was actually in philly / exton a couple of days ago.

Ladyjide:
Guys the import thing was a joke!! A little sarcastic humor, but I am in Philadelphia! ! East coast

Cool. what are you looking for: age range, height, complexion?

You need to be attracted to the person at least. not look at him like 'what the $#@%#$@

Lady Jide, where city are you in?

This is coming from a family man o. I am just trying to help cos it makes no sense at all to go import someone from another part of the world. Better to settle down with someone that's already used to the system here.

Inked_Nerd:
omg, i know how you feel. luckily for me i have family in the UK, the Nigerian guys there seem to be better than the US ones.

Hold on to that thought to make urself happy. Meanwhile your naija mates / friends are getting married all over the world including the U.S.

I bet you would say the samething about u.k guys if this thread was created by a lady in the u.k

I will answer your question.

The 'quality' men (in your age range) you described were long hooked by the smart naija girls 9they caught them real early). Most of them are engaged or married.

When you see a guy you are interested in, you need to be bold and make that confident but subtle move. Most responsible naija guys here usually have other things on their minds other than marriage, so you have to make them KNOW you are the type that is meant for keeps.

goodluck.

but na Jesu Oyingbo me I see sha o.

It is true. I was there.
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Even 'Hell hath no fury that a woman scorned.'



The best thing is to RUN. cos you can never win against those creations.

d bigrod:
My dear brother,y would a woman do all those stuffs (u wrote) to u?pls stop exaggerating.no matter wetin d woman do,just walk away from her.that

I know a woman who ran out of the house in only her undies and spead out on the husband's car very early in the morning to the amazement of co-tenants and other neighbours. She did this to prevent him from leaving the house after she had given him HELL in the house and the husband refused to say a word.  This was very early and the guy was on his way to work.

The guy went to report her to their pastor. The wife went to the pastor, lied blatantly that the guy beat her to a pulp that very morning . . started raining curses and abuses on the husband.

The pastor looked on and said "it will the the grace of God for me not to beat you with the way you have just behaved in my presence."  

Of course they are separated now. I just pity the 2 kids they had at the time. They were the laughing butts of every other child in the area cos their mom always created scenes for all to see whenever she did not have her way.

Virginity is not only physical but spiritual. Once you've had full penetrative sex, thats it! You lost your virginity forever. Any such suggeries is a deceit for yourself and your partner. It may not even be motivated by anything else except carnal pleasure.

is that not the idea

what else is new?

skylo:
because most men are silly and ends up miserable with their so called 'pretty' ladies.if u feel a lady is not attractive enough for u,why start the relationship, most men dnt know what they want, afterall,not all men are handsome and babes still stay with them, most guys who complains are ugly, a by product of their parent's decision, lol, sorry mean no offense but i just feel it's high time we all big up, dnt go for what u dnt want at first, shekena.

Jugding by your post, you must NOT be attractive.

Yes.

When the person loves you back. 100 - 100.