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I hope your response is for stillwater's comment  . .since she seems to think mothers choose their kids due to irresponsible fathers 

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Please read the original post again.

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That's the spirit . . your son is going aways to start his own family later on in his lifetime.

then you'll be all alone with your husband . . old and teeth all gone . .just the two of you

Every other city in Nigeria is pretty much laid back and easy going when compared to Lagos. #Fact

Maybe this is why.

Ronke, he wont be easy to ignore, especially when you share the same kitchen and bathroom.

@ op, sorry but I think the guy will have to move out. But seeing as your husband is able to tell you to keep quiet in this situation, I am truly sorry for you.

You need to face your husband . . he has to talk some sense into his brother until he changes . . or the brother will have to move out.

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I can accept that.

God bless.

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Riiight on

So . . why do you think . .with a responsible family man, the wife comes first?


Maybe . . just maybe they dont love their kids enough?

cant be real.

you missed out the part where dead bodies were flying all around the reception hall

chaircover:
I khow that this sounds weird, but I just love the smell of petrol. I noticed it when I was pregnant and it hasnt left me since.

please be specific . .cos naija petrol smells different from the ones sold in other countries.

Back when i was yound and petrol used to smell like original petrol in naija, i used to go around sniffing the petrol tanks all around. I dont think it was because I liked it though . . . .think that way my way of getting high

Sorry, but you cant take stuff like this lightly . .and you really dont want your husband to handle it.

My cousin's been in this kinda situatio nbefore and I will tell you how it was handled. LASU as well

She saved all his text messages and also got some phone call recordings as proof.

Then some wealthy and high society female family members went to her dept, asked for the HOD and lecturer, made sure they were available, then made a HUGE NOISE with all the accusations and proof. Threats of torture and jail time involved. Of course, they made sure a huge crowd gathered and played back the video recordings and text messages.

No one EVER tried messing with my cousin until she graduated.

Submission is a relative word and like respect, should be earned rather than demanded.

Men are egoistic by nature . . blame God and the 'system' that made it so.

When a man physically abuses a woman, we (all sexes) call him an animal.

When a man is physically abused by a woman, we laugh at the man.

yea, blame the 'system'

Submission does not mean you are dumb or weak. It means you are strong enough to let others be in control when necessary.

I keep quiet to prevent an argument from escalating. It does not mean I'm a punk.

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agiboma:
"there is nothing a woman loves more than what she bears"

Where did that phrase or saying come from . .is it a quote from you. . or someone else?

So basically, men are merely tools for achieving this aim of child-bearing.

Of course . .what was I thinking?

Blame God?

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However!

my point exactly

dayokanu:
If she waits till the child is 3, then another child would be on the way, wait till that one also is 3 then another

So she wont work for like 7-8yrs when all her qualifications would be useless

You do make sense Dayo.

Bottomline, you cant sit down at home in this time and age. who knows tomorrow?

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You asked for two but I'll give you three:

Who's More Important In A Marriage? The Husband Or The Kids?
https://www.nairaland.com/nigeria/topic-363901.64.html

Is The Love Of A Mother For Her Child Greater Than That Of A Wife 4 Her Husband?
https://www.nairaland.com/nigeria/topic-54032.0.html

Who Is More Important; Your Husband Or Children?
https://www.nairaland.com/nigeria/topic-341982.0.html


Satisfied?

As soon as your baby matures (3yes and above), please get something to do. tell him to setup a business for you . .anything.

Dont put all your eggs in one basket abeg.

I blame this on the govt . .when they wont pay teachers' salaries for 2 years.

how do you expect students to read and write properly?

G A Y and happy

it is what it is

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C'mon now . .weve seen several threads and nollywood movies created for the purpose.

my points exactly.

Let's here what the females have to say.

and then you wonder why there are armed robbers in Nigeria. . . when even the govt will not pay salaries.

no wonder secondary school students cannot speak proper english . . they spend school time working at the farm for their teachers.

I have a friend that was given an offer with GTB almost 7 months after her interview. This was in 2003.

- If you go into a business with the sole purpose of making money in a short term (others are doing it so you think it will work for you too), it will fail in most cases.

- If you go into a business without adequate planning, it will fail in most cases.  #project_management

- If you go into a business without enough startup capital (enough money to sustain the growth), it will fail in most cases.

- If you go into a business in an environment with no maintenance culture, it wont last in most cases

- The Nigerian environment also does not help matters - you have to generate your own electricity, water, security, etc

- If you go into a business where the banks are not willing to give you loans, it is even harder.

- If you go into a business where the little income you make is used for family events, it will fail in most cases.

- If you go into a business in a country where you friends and family believe they dont have to pay for your services, it will fail in most cases

- If you go into a business where the closest business partner, friend or family is always trying 'obtain' you, it will be tough.

- If you to into a business in a country where people call everything locally made 'fake' and only run after oyinbo goods, it is even tougher.

From most of the multiple responses I have observed on this forum,

In this situation, I am referring to totally responsible and faithful fathers / mothers; husbands / wives.

I noticed that when asked to choose between a spouse and the kid(s), most men will choose their wives while most women will choose their kids.

Why is this so?

Damysa:
Arrant nonsense, am boiling here right now even though am not the one in question.
make any body touch my pikin make them wait 4 fire

the man should beat hell out of the wife and MIL b4 the divorce

Did a female just type these words

lady dey make pass at you and youre dulling

in 2012?