what i still dont undastand is why and ow helpping out in a home becomes slavery.

i really dont like my ladies doin things for me ccos i can be good with chores, i cook almost all my meal,wash my cloths , scrub my floor etc, i dont see dem as work ,

i rememeber i did my ex's laundry, coooked her meals and help out in other few stuuff, but she walked away, my name ddnt change, so y must ladies attacch so much importance to some little stuff like dis as if dey are doing just for a purpose.

as someone said earlier, de intent and heart is wat matters and not de act.

the truth is dat most ppeople dat is against doin housse chores aint in a seriouss relationship yet.

i noticed dat even wen u are in love , u re free, u dont even allow anyone ask u to wash, clean, cook etc, it just happens,
before i make up my mind abt gettin married to a lady, i must have seen some qualities and her ability to manage and cclean my home in de future,

if u lazy about, dere wont be any word like "fianceé" between us.

amyg:
Xcuse u,let me c ur pic b4 I decide on an ans 4 u.even if u wr patrick dempsey,y would I beg u 2 take my no?

a guys's phhysical cuteness trips some ladies, attitude humbles most ladies.

u wanna see ma pix?? ..ask ma lady to show u

poshdiva: not giving me money when i need it.....must i ask first? stingy mofo
expecting me to pay my BIS myself...then why are you my boyfriend?
asking me to cook when i get to his place.....where is the bride price?

are yu dis cheap and hungry? smh

Idowuogbo:
Lmao!!!

Idy whats up?...missed u ooo

amor4ce: I also hate that 'whatever'.

u no hate am reach me guy, , especially wen u are serious and de lady says dat "whatever", it kills ma bone dat second

sweeti14: As long as it takes for me to know his true intentions and true character

please how would u know de intention of a man u are not even close to, no chance to express or show his intentions?

de guy must have to inform de parents abt de other marriage but have to make his parents know how much she means to him and thus just for information purpose dat he inform dem abt de failed marriage.
age aint an issue obviously, but advice yur sister to watch wat may have broken de other marriage and try correct, avoid or ammend so it doesnt happen again,
Prayer is de key .

Temi 23: Cos we are proving hard to get. But nowadays I think
guys don't have time again... if u prove hard to much they will move to the next person but I believe someone that find something special in you will wait for ad many time as possible.

sometimes i wonder y a lady would keep a guy on the waiting list fr that long, y?
its not like de lady is tryin to know de compatibilty level cos u cant know an individual nless u get close, just de shakara, if i value de lady enough, she should be smart enough to know i mean business and not joke with me.

@op,
i really dont woo per se,
i do stage by stage kinda stuff= MEETING-ACQUITANCE-FRIENDS-SEAL DE DEAL.

if u take it this way, u will find out de lady wont even have de opportunity to say NO or YES, square pegs automatically fits into square holes .
and during the Acquitance and friends stage, u know if u have a chance to progress or not and den u advice yurself nicely and aright.

amyg: I hate it wen a guy takes my no and calls only 2 ask y I nevr bothered 2 cal.wot d heck am I calling u 4?did I ask 4 ur no?

thats y i dont ask for numbers unless i am ready to call, but if u make me collect it even wen i dont want to...i loose it

i always crave for such a lady but de truth is dat if a lady is smart, she is just gotta be veryyy smart to beat me, she can be moore BOOK inteligent dan I am,
but if u meet a lady whoo is over smart(over sabi), dats headache cos it gets into her head and some sense of insecurity makes dem act it out so much without contol.

once met a lady who i got attracted to cos she smart and intelligent, but along de line....o' Boy, she come dey even try mumuu me for public, i outsmarted her and humbled her wella , den i toook a long walk.

the truth, inteligent and smart ladies always wants more intelligennt annd smarter guys

how much a man is he?
how long have u been together and wats de motive behind the relationship?
does he really care abt de age stuff?

if u arent confortable, quit now

good luck

it wont make any sense to quit yur job...u guys can actually control yurself and make it work outside de office environment..
one of the reasons y dat guy may have picked interest in yu was cos i pressume u are hardworkin ..
how do u think he will see u when u quit yur job and lazy about just cos of some feelings yu dont even know if its mutual.

ask yurself dese questions, Do u wanna experience dat hardship of unemployment again?
can dis yur man put food on yur table without grudges for a long time?
Can he quit his own job to be with yu?
how are yu sure he wont walk away as soon as yu quit and move on?

please be wise, unless yu are married, nothin is sure!

can u get him to talk?
yu may be bothered cos u dont know wat the issue is, u dont if it was yur fault or not(though if its yur fault , he should be man enough to tell u).

just get him to talk and yu find out wat de issue is and move on if u have to but dont be desperate.....

good luck

notin wrong with it, u can actually cook for the whole house once in a while...kinda sexy

claremont: Help in doing what in the kitchen exactly?!

if yu cant help with anythin, siddon dere dey gist with de babe as she round off de cooking cos thats de onnly time u dont have anythin to do dere.

tnktosin: Back then when I was still single, I remember the night my g.frnd woke me up asking for a break up. I just told her to postpone d gist till morning, hw can u be breaking up at night, u b winch? She was shocked while me, I carry on with my sleep o.

LWKMD

i actually prefer talkin at night, my mom does so wen i visit,
could rememeber once ma ex woke me around 2am askin i loosen her weave-on she just fixed cos she aint confortable with it....mehn, no be small thing

most times, de quietness of the night tend to make issue sink well into de head cos dere are no distractions

candieangel12:

Yes I am some lucky man's future wife. Is there a problem?

sometime wen Cardie talk i wonder how old she is.....but i just admire yur innocence , i dont know if its cos here is a faceless kinda forum...but my dear. i dont understand yur ideologies attimes

^^^
lol

Shollypopz: This vivian chinaza girl is in serious mental bondage...... SMH!

thou shall not judge

Shollypopz:
I should also be in bed but I'm not....Now GTFOH and stop worrying urself about other ppl's sleeping schedule. You are no way better than her, stop judging ppl!!

lol,
i just loved de way u sounded, kinda tripped..
oh sholly baby, i am not judging hher oooo, just dat de lady never takes any advice though she always ask.
C'mom baby, i am not gonna leave once u re here, i will be were u are ...chikena.
*wink*

Shollypopz:
Now GTFOH and stop worrying urself about other ppl's sleeping schedule. You are no way better than her, stop judging ppl!!

lol,
i just loved de way u sounded, kinda tripped..
oh sholly baby, i am not judging hher oooo, just dat de lady never takes any advice though she always ask.
C'mom baby, i am not gonna leave once u re here, i care abt u and wouldnt want u to loose yur sleep cos of anyone ....i will be were u are ...chikena.
*wink*

Shollypopz: Don't mind Mynd and the rest....

Just tell ur current bf u want to see him and honestly confess what had happened and previous occurrences that might help him understand the situation better. He might choose to stay with u, don't break up with him yet. Just tell him what happened and hold nothing back, maybe he'll forgive u and look past it.

Sholly,
yuu think yu are helpi a sis huh?

she go fall yur hand patapata.
i wonder wen she will quit be over dramatic.

OP,
if u like, change, if u like, dont......na yur biz
BTW, y aint u sleepin cos u should be in bed now otondo

mtcheeew

^^^
iron??
maybe dats wat i am gonna do to u ween i catch u but i would ve done it on yur bu.tt ..yur bu.tt is flat so i would just forgive u

Mynd_44: So you date a girl for 4-5 days and fell in love right?

mynd,
forget dis girl....cardie is one of de Most COMPLICATED and cofused lady on Nairaland.....

OP,
u know u dont neeed any advice, cos u never took people's advice in de past....i rememeber all we said with dis yur so-called EX now and u dd wat u wanted , so y come here to rant...get a life jooor.

make i know if s*xkillz would come advice u here .i dey wait

mama-gee:
I personally prefer court weddings. . .

I just prefer smaller festivities to larger ones.

i tell u, i no like crowd and de drama dat goes with it, its always more ssexy wenn small.

@op.
i will do both church and court wedding but nothin big.......no traditional wedding..bride price don do

tpia@:



and what about the ones you dont even remember.

no be all of them you go recollect nah.
.

Oga, dd u even read me at all, note dat i ddnt write the number of ladies here, it coul 5, 25, 65, if u use yur glasses well, yu will see were i said dat i rememeber all, abi u think say i no fit rememember 58 ladies if so.

my point is in dis present day, she may actually be a saint,

those people talkin abt virgins, a female friend told me sat, dere is some stuff a friend gave to her and she used it and she was supprised to see her puss.sy crazily tight dat de boyfriend had to pass tru as if itss her 1sst time....so virgins aint de solution

funny how i am deviating but de pix i am carryin in ma wwallet is de pix of ma ex......pity huh??

its a pity we re all hypocrites here, except for MYND, BEREM and a few others, everyoe now claims to be holy,
i bet dat greater number of ladies from 17years loosees count of de guys dey ve slept wit.
make we no talk abt men sef, i read some peeople callin OP names here as if its not dia likes dat had some intimacy with op and many other ladies.

a lady asked me some days ago how many ladies i ve been with, i listed dem and told her as welldat i know all of dem and we speak occassionaly, den i asked her ad she was moping, its such a lady we have in Nairaland_claiming to be saints.

i rememember during my NYSC, deere is dis couple, so close , just 3 years later and i met de lady and wass askin abt her NYSC guy and she couldnt rememeber who i was talkin abt and she said _-"the name sounds famiiar", chei

OP,
dont mind de comments yu read here, de thing is, u have to understand wat u wat, dot give in to guys u aint comfortable with....what matters is wat u think and ot wat people spew here.

good luck

its a pity we re all hypocrites here, except for MYND, BEREM and a few others, everyoe now claims to be holy,
i bet dat greater number of ladies from 17years loosees count of de guys dey ve slept wit.
make we no talk abt men sef, i read some peeople callin OP names here as if its not dia likes dat had some intimacy with op and many other ladies.

a lady asked me some days ago how many ladies i ve been with, i listed dem and told her as welldat i know all of dem and we speak occassionaly, den i asked her ad she was moping, its such a lady we have in Nairaland_claiming to be saints.

i rememember during my NYSC, deere is dis couple, so close , just 3 years later and i met de lady and wass askin abt her NYSC guy and she couldnt rememeber who i was talkin abt and she said _-"the name sounds famiiar", chei

OP,
dont mind de comments yu read here, de thing is, u have to understand wat u wat, dot give in to guys u aint comfortable with....what matters is wat u think and ot wat people spew here.

good luck

Understandding is de key to efffective communicatio amongst couples...
what yu see in marriages dese days are just case of coming together "just" to answer "MARRIED" espeecially for ladies and we dont take time to really undastand our partners,
if partners understands each other; knows what to do ween he/she acts dis way, what to avoid at certain times, how to respond to some issues wen dey arise and how to present issssues, u will see dere wont always be a need for a 3rd party.
even wen anoda pperson comess to mediate and leeaves, its left for de both of them to make it up to each other.

@op,
just as someone said earlier, undderstanding and den effective communnication is so defficient in our marriages and as well, ladies do dis more coss dey dot have de maturity to fathom the unio called marriage.

it would do us goood if we would sit down and have a clearer knowledge and undastanding of our partners and see how to curb to de baresst minimum rate of misunderstandings lbetween each other and as well learn how to talk to each other about our flaws and inadequacies with a genuine willingness to change for de better and grow together......not until den, 3rd-parties would alwayss lord in our homes and complications will keeep being on de rise in marriages.

cardieangel & co.,
diss yur height fantasy, is it all abt dating or life partner??
do u want a man dat would adore and put food on de table for u and yur kids or dat dat would loaf around and philander cos he knnows he is "hot"?
I read cardie* severally say how she detest short guys and i am begigng to feel u are still in yur teens or early 20s, dont know what life is all abt.
ask a 30year old single female abt height preference and hear her response...but its always good to make wishes.

i am less dan 6ft but we dont wanna talk abt ladies and I.

Sunnshine Owl,
God will give u a great guy dat will put smiles on yur face everyday of yur life, just be positive abt it.

@OP,
taking note of the inncreasing rate of marriage failures....no room for fantasies.
height aint anywhere top in my priorities.