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They have come again!
From the posts,it strikes me like shammaa 77 is an AIT/Darrsat employee.

I had this same experience with HITV,they preached too much,xtomers got so convinced
and bought their products,at the end of the day,they realized that time and money has bn wasted.

I fell for HITV's too much talk,bought their services and after 1months dashed the decoder
to someone else for lack of quality tv chanels and dearth of quality programming and pix quality.

Shamma,remember this adage,"[b]good wine need no bush[/b]"
Quit preaching,provide standard tv programming and quality,surpass DSTV offering first and formost,quality wise,
the market will swing in ur favor.

For now,as far as sat tv is concerned,is either DSTV or nothing.
Consumers knows better than waste money in the name of patrotism.
Business is business.

Criteria For Nomination
•Selfless Service
•Enduring Achievements
•Sincerity of Purpose
•Resilience
•Patriotism
•Uprightness
•Respectability
•Incorruptibility
So OBJ qualified for nomination based on the conditions provided by the organizers as stated above?

What is d use voting when Some nominees are wrong ab initio?

CNN,abi i dey craze?
Lagos streets are dirty,armed robbers abound everywhere,no power most times in MM Intl Airport,
no social infrastructure in lagos,nothing works,kidnapping in naija delta,
yet everyday,oyibo flock in by air,filipinos come in thru sea going vessels,
why then do d oyibos still come and refuse to leave lagos,abi dem dey craze?

U brand a place worst,yet ur ppl refuse to leave.

My first response is to ur comment :"Uk is in recession while Nigeria economy is growing"
Did u reach such conclusion with media indices or with what?

Nigeria's got no working infrastucture to support growth unlike the UK yet nigeria economy is adjugded to be in growth

Do ur maths and eco with passion all d same.U never knows,how many ppl earn a living with their first degree
certificate.Good thing is,with ur maths background,at the end of the day,u may c d need to zero in on IT or some other pro.
Good luck

Funny enof,each time they pick their guy's calls and even read text messages korokoro,
we always have a way of "riggling" out of the quagmire.
No matter how sharp a girl is,she can never beat a smart guy to it even when
she read texts messages dat contains i love u or i miss u.

To be on a safe side,women shud desist from dis act.It causes unnecessary problems.

Relationships should be built on TRUST,whether the man is guilty or not

Some ppls -here- says if ur wife slap u,u shud leave her,walk away cos u cant raise ur hand on ur wifey.
Reallllllllllllly?
Yet she can raise her hand on u?

Well,whether u "retaliate" or not,remember that women like their man to be in charge.
As a result,i ll "follow" her up,even though am againt women beating"
and show her dat am in charge.
That way when she realises and apologise,i guess me 2 will say am sorry 2.
"No dulling"

She slap u in private and u just walk away or let her be with or wthout her sorries,
someday in d future,she ll slap u in the presence of ur mother and friends.
Wont it be 2 late then.

Tolarance should be controlled and guided when dealing with women.

Mortiple:
@poster
With all due respect, this your friend must be a SAINT. You took time to enumerate the sins of this devil-incarnate of a lady but NEVER mentioned one FAULT of your friend. Haba!

Kx:
In addition,the fact that he does not help anybody does not mean he
does not "pay" women!
Infact,ask him for 10 bucks,he will say he did nt have a dime
but when a woman surfaces from no where,he "pays like shell"

@Mortiple,I even posted d guys wrong attitude above b4 u asked that quaetion.

I listed above that the guy does not care about nobody.-----stingy/"aka gum" to male friends.
I equally mentioned that on scale of 1 to 10,the guy scores 1,very low on woman management- poor interpersonal relationship.

What am saying in essence,the fact that I did not enumerate the guys ills does not mean he is a saint.
I only listed d reasons d guy gave.I could nt obtain and list d wife's side of the issue.

The wife's point of view dat i heard from anoda friend dat she complained to,is d fact that
any little thing,the husband complains to his family members.
Althoug a guy should be man enof to keep his family issues to his chest,nevertheless,
when dey have caged u,dey expect u to play along mumuishly without telling ur friends and family so
dat ur eye nor go open.

In addition,the fact that he does not help anybody does not mean he
does not "pay" women!
Infact,ask him for 10 bucks,he will say he did nt have a dime
but when a woman surfaces from no where,he "pays like shell"

The legal angle to divorce may not necessarily apply here.
In my place,marriage could be broken easliy traditionally without going
thru the legal tussles except if the girl mean to make trouble for alimony and stuff.
But in dis case,once both parents agrees regretably though,which is most likely,it could be all over btw them.

I have to come in again because alot of ppl have bn saying things like,perhaps this story aint true.

I have nothing to gain from "conjuring" something like this.
Believe you me,if i had the skills to build a story and so embellish it with
all the scary pieces,I would be script writing for Nollywood or hollywood.

This is a true life story.

Sometimes in life,we guys fail to realize we should take our time,listen to ppls advice b4 we do things.
My guy only told me all this because according to him,he appreciates my all round support,
mostly financially when he was consumating the wedding .He felt he owed me a duty of
"proper explanation" be walking out of the marriage,that was why he told me all those reasons he had ealrier hidden from
everybody.

Yes, no doubt the guy is quiet and d cool type.On a scale of 1 to 10,he scores 1(very low)
on woman management.He never used to help anybody,not even his close friends.
He felt bringing a wife to d house the moment he landed a good job would scare friends and family away from
him,i mean ppl who ordinarily would have come to him for financial assist.

This saturday I shall lead committee of friends to his place (since the wife is
in NYSC Orientation)camp to ask him to thread carefully.I support the divorce no doubt-i never supported the marriage-
but then,the advice to divorce must not come from friends whom he didnt take their advice not to marry her earlier in the first place.

The father is poor,in response to somebody's question here.She is from a poor background.
When d guy went home some days ago to brief her parents on his intention to divorce,d mother"rolled"
on the ground crying and pleading.I asked what the father's input was,and he confessed that the
father said he wont appeal because he had always bn warning the daughter to change and bcome responsibible
but she wont listen.

My interest here is to affect my generation positively.Lets all look b4 we leap.

ofala:
So many things do happen in the name of love but there are some issues that are so wired and scary,even as a professional counsellor,you may be unable to properly advice.But i really think in this issue,there is every need for the guy to get to the root of what actually caused his supposed sweet heart to want to kill him!!, Know why i say this?If for any reason he caused or at least contributed in 'pushing' the lady to that extreme[i still condenm the act of wanting to kill anybody],there is every possibility that he still 'push' another person, yes, yes, yes.i am talking fromsome real life experiences i had been privileged to handle.

Well as per the guy pushing the girl into all these, that’s not true.
I know this guy real well. He  aint d type.
The angle of her “fu-cking” him into marrying her was my logical conclusion.
Reason being he barely knew d girl 6months b4 proposing marriage .

Chaicover,
No doubt 50% of those signs surfaced b4 the marriage.
The truth of the matter is this.
The guy said he thought he could tolerate all that shit,he did nt even mention
those reasons to anybody until he mentioned them to me just last weekend.

This aint no joke ppl,this guy married 27dec 2008,he works with a bank in lag,need i call
names.It could happen to anybody who fails to listen to advice.

Infact he said his dad gave him his support on the ground dat if he had tolerated
all these nonsense b4 now,he could as well tolerate his wife if she bcomes adulterous.
Wife's infidelity kills d husbands faster dan AIDS in "native ways"in my place,as a result
his father gave his the nod to divorce without further ado.

All our friends are hearing dis whole issue through me cos the guy is so ahsemed to
expose the extent of his "blindness" b4 d marriage.

Well,d divorce could be obtained so easily traditionally if he really want to
at least its not oyibo divorce with all d court wahala.

Emperoh:
Poster
Don't try to stop this divorce
You can very sure the wife is also cheating
The guy's life is at stake here.

Hey,i dont have d power to stop d divorce.who are my?
I only wanted to sound different from every other person,knowing that his
family members has given him their nod.
Sure,when i said ashawo tendencies i meant the fact that
the wife's wakabout b4 d marriage was common knowledge but the
lover man was simply blindly in "love"

I brought this issue up in my office yesterday and u need to see how my colleagues
("all pastors") almost ate me up.

My concern is if Bill Gate had to come all the way from America to donate to the course
of Polio in naija,yet we dont seem to see and solve our lerthargy of problems
with our resources,what then is d hope.

"Go and give it to the poor" is a bible instruction dat perhaps has now been
left "jejly" in d bible.

My submission,everybody shud serve his/her God in ur own way.

JJYOU:
you sure say this is not you?

JJYOU,thanks for your response bro,you know 2 well this cant be me.
To say the truth,we saw it coming.My ppl dey talk say fly wen nor dey hear
word dey follow dead body go grave.

My guy did nt listen to advice at all.
To ansa anoda fella's question,d uy is about 35 and the girl shud be btw 23 and 26,cant be 2 sure.
She's from some where in niger delta,although u ll agree with me,place of origin has
nothing to do with character.if u dont have it u dont have it.

If i must say the truth,my honest advice to d guy would have been for him to divorce her immidiately
but who are my to put asunder what God has joined together especially wen d guy nor take our advice earlia.

I intend to sample opinion and print the responses and give to d guy so that he will realise
that one shud always listen to the voice of reason and look b4 u leap.

I appreciate u all.

I just consulted a pastor and he said that staying in the marriage
could make such "naked swear swear to have effect on the guy's life" and that
even if he divorces her,the curse may have no effect since the guys' hands are "clean.

I dont know if the pastors position is  entirely true.

The guy spent so much in the course of the mariage ceremony and
but he has resolved to regard the wasted funds as life sacrifice in order to live in peace.
He also indicated that having tasted a sore bitter 2 months marriage,he might as well
remain single for life and get children outside wedlock in the future.

I ll appreciate everyones thought on this.
Just 2 months into a marriage,a friend is neck deep in divorce proceedings.
He met her just a year a ago.I guess she gave him the fu-ck of his life and be4 u could
say jack,he has proposed marriage ignoring friends and associates advice not to marry her on the grounds
of her lack of character,"ashawo tendencies" etc.

Just 2months into the "for better for worse",he has gone to his family to "table" the issue of the
wife's irresponsibilitites and excesses.Mind you,they (husband and wife) are adults.

On a one and one interaction with him last weekend,he opened up and gave the following reasons why
d marriage must be discontinued without further delay.

Before their marriage ceremony in December 2008
1. Late last year while they were planning marriage,they discovered that she was pregnant.Against
    the guy's entreaties to keep the baby,she aborted the pregnancy without the guy's consent.

2. Still in 2008 while they were planning for the marriage,they had a quarrel,she rushed to the kitchen,
    picked the knife and stabbed him on his elbow leaving a mark to date to show for it.

3.Still before marriage,they had a fight and she bite him almost chopping off his fifth finger.

4.While they were lying on the bed one saturday,his fone rang.She enquired who the caller was and on discovering that it was
   a lady caller,she reached out and clobbed his eyes with an object,almost blinding him and ran away.

5.Each time she travels to school to check result or something(she has just graduated from  a tertitiary institution) or to the village
   she demands for and is placed on a fixed daily out station allowance.


  After marriage Ceremony

1.She put an end to saluting the father-in-law.

2.She demands unreasonable sums of money irrespective of the guy's fixed monthly income.

3.She demands for sex everyday even when the guy is ill.

4. The guy now run away from the house,on the face of the wife's unreasonable demand for sex,attention
     and money just 2 months into marriage.

5. She  stripped and swore in daylight nudity (more than once) holding her private parts and cursing that,since the guy has
    sucked her brea-st and made love to her genitals,if he ever "crosses" the part of another woman,his life
    will turn miserable and unfortunate from that moment.saying that she did not beg to be married in the first place

These are just a few of his reasons justifying his proposed divorce proceedings in the traditional way.

I adviced him not to rush into divorce but he wont listen.Frankly speaking,he was adviced against the marriage
but he did nt listen. Am bringing this piece for ppls to be advised to take their time in marriage issues.

In conclusion,I 'd appreciate every useful suggestion I can obtain from this forum on what to advice the guy to
do in order to avert the divorce (if possible) especially now that the guy's parents have given him thier support to break up.The girl
is serving (NYSC) now.Many thanks people.

Italians will say " non commento" no comment
nor be every talk person dey put mouth.

I c tears in Old Traffford on wednesday.

The much P Square has achieved is continental fame,Usher is an intercontinental/international fame.
Usher may not have heard of one PSquare somewhere in "Africa".
Lets get serious, na Busy body dey copy Usher period.

@ All posters.
Pls does all these movies have action?
I mean the Sharon Stone kind of action in Basic Instinct.

Up Maurice Iwu,sorry,shame to Maurice Iwu

PurestBoy:
Which UME exam? Are you sure you're OK?

PurestBoy @ Sir means is an ibo man desirous of making the US army list.
By "What is the date for this UME exam" he was refering to
[b]U[/b]nited states [b]M[/b]ilitary entrance [b]E[/b]xamination.

Bro,whats the problem?
If everything is ok,she'll switch off,you back out,she come s running with
tears streaming down her cheek.

Marriage is not by force o.
I used to think u need much more than love to sustain a marriage.
You need compatibility which I can tell if u relationship have at the moment.

She's a celibate to u,are you sure she aint doing it with someone else?

If a woman is not as enthusiatic as u are in a marriage union,it not worth it.

There are things you dont know about ur girl,u are simply rushing her into marriage.

Dont back off completely,u may need tosuspend the marriage,re evaluate everything,
its ur choice to be haapy in marriage
dont short change ursef.

Even with all d home video wen babes dey watch,
ppll still ask dis kind of question.

Incase u dont know,oath taking na license for kolomental and scatter scatter life.

They have "superiority" complex.

stephen123:
I am passionate, and I just need a girl friend for phone chatting and online chatting and not the one you people are thinking about. here is my e mail stephen_20005@yahoo.com. and new in Nigeria, as I want to school in Nigeria, I just want to meet guys and friends

Oh Stephen,goof boyyyyy
Now dat we know what u need,permit me to prescribe where u can have what u need.
Go to legwork,everykindofppl,alperna and all dat dating site
A lot of lonely naija girls dey there dey wait 4 u.
goodluck in ur search

why were dey being allowed in d past to visit d queen without visa?
shebi ordinary joburg here where thief and criminals full,if nigerians won
go there,dem dey ask for visa,naim good for dem

some poster wrote "you said he opens the door for you and all that,  tell him to be real with you cos I doubt if he is being genuine in that aspect"
most Nigerian men who have imbibed the western culture do open house and car doors for thier spouses,i guess it buttresses the saying,when you are in Rome you behave like romans.Who said we cant do that because we are Nigerians?

@Capri
As for his further studies,trust me,nigerian men are good at pursuing thier dreams.We aint only hard working,we are about the most read in the Black world,ever heard of Soyinka,Achebe,Philips Emegwali? they are all Nigerian men.
You should feel pretty free with your man.Give him all the support and understanding he deserves,Nigerians are not all monsters and fraudstars like the world media claims,though we got some awful bad eggs,just like every other nation.You are in safe hands,but thread "carefully normally" too,when he bcomes pretty free with you as well,he ll open up on any issue, Relationship and open communication gets deeper with time worldover.