What's that weird thing you do in secret that you're not sure others do ?

1)I take pics and videos of myself naked or in nice undies just to look at it , it boosts my confidence , I don't send it anywhere and my face doesn't show but I keep it coz I like it , it depends on my mood , sometimes I do all these trends like bust it and I don't post it , coz I know my family people

2)I talk to myself , out loud , like I'm talking to people , I use a different accent and just have a full blown conversation , motivational speech , is this part of some mental health issue that i haven't heard about?

3)I sniff my undies to detect any abnormal smell , and I check for any stain or discharge that's not normal , I love when I take it off , just about to wash it and it still looks good as new , I have never been caught but I don't think it's bad, but like I don't want to be seen in the process, that would be embarrassing

The only exception is when I'm on my period or ovulating but I still observe the color coz these infections can be tricky , not for me to be running around when it has really gone deep , I fear disease pass death

vybzkartel:
Has a lady proposed love to u before?

How did u feel?
How did u react?
What did u make of the lady?

Thanks

I did like 2 months ago

This weather is cold oh

Persephone1:
Mine is :

Mouth odour

Invisible bulge, I hate dots

Excessive display of material things.

Lack of respect and finesse.

Talking too much


I will add more later.

1) "you're the only girl I like , all these other hoes are fat , ugly , useless and bleached , but you're different, so I want you"

2) when he disrespects other women in my presence to make me feel safe that he won't cheat , I'm scared of those ones , one day he'll disrespect me too , a responsible man respects everyone first and foremost, I would never be proud of a man acting like a bitch to any woman just to make a point , leave that to me , if I see a crazy one , I'll do the dirty work

3) men who find it hard to receive compliments , I'm telling you you're fine and you're telling me that I should look at your haircut , such low self esteem , cannot be my spec

4) I just broke up with my girlfriend of 10 years , I'm not up for rebound sir , do I look be like Taylor swift, move forward

5) what do you bring to the table? You were finished before you started

6)0 talking stage , you entered my dm 5 minutes ago and you're asking me to be your wife , you need screening

7) how can you tell me that you've been in talking stage with me since 1 - 6 months , me I'm already in a relationship with another person , I thought we friend zoned each other

audacity and effontery to request we go Dutch , split the bills 50/50 in the name of supporting feminism , liar oshi , you won't remember feminism when you're asking me in the future if I've made dinner , that's if you even have a future with me , God forbid bad thing

9) you can spend your entire timeline in the gym , you're carrying 6 pack upandan , I like responsible looking men with Belle , those ones that eat swallow and credit my akant unprovoked , I don't need six pack , thanks don't mention

10) house you no get , car you don't have , investment e no dey , but you're using the latest Samsung flipphone , you have all of Apple's latest devices , your wardrobe Gucci , givenchy , your barber is the same person barbing Drake's hair unnecessarily expensive, I'm not about to start training a grown man on how to manage his money , take your money and go

11)you're always shouting how you're a man and how you take care of your Women , how you're very romantic , how you're an alpha male , that's a strategy I know you're the opposite of all those things , the real ones no too dey make noise , they just show up and do it , get lost

12) you've ever asked "can you cook?" To a woman , no I can't, I'm not about to be an unpaid chef for anyone , even me sef I starve because I no wan enter kitchen, move on

13) you're on every woman's post , commenting , liking , at your age you're using Snapchat not even LinkedIn tufiakwa

14) you're below 6 feet, you can't handle a stallion sweetie buh bye

15) you're chasing women and you don't have resources to keep your kidney in your chest , instead of you to face the issue at hand , you're looking for someone to join you and drown , instead of you to look for conferences , workshops , seminars and mentors , you're looking for a hotel , you're using your last cash to pay for Uber , and your small salary is spent on chicken and chips plus Cold Stone for Netflix and chill and you'll be blaming village people , I don't have respect for men that use their last money for relationships or men that are in relationships when they're not stable ,
Their defense is " so because I'm broke I should not love , you do you have money?" when you love you should make better choices not worse , because you want to make the person you love feel safe
Those ones prefer short term pleasure over long term peace , such a dangerous game

...

Mayemavins:
Her mom and some of her family members had been begging me since the day I got her arrested,Her mum in particular, has been on my neck begging me, to get her released! I can't even celebrate Eid in peace yesterday cos of unnecessary bugging, Getting to station today I really pitied her , she had lean within 3 days even tho I make sure she ate best of food in the cell, but one of the officers told me she rejected all food brought to her!! Am actually confused, should I get her released or continue with the plan to charge her to court
Even DPO advised me to release her, I av proving grounds already, and I brought the evil sister unto her knees! Nairalanders, Should I?

I made the right choice to not get married to these men , imagine being sued for decisions you made about your body , this is why I will die a career woman , probably a child , and a cat

Thonia69:
I try to clear my head and sleep.

What about you?

Host a talkshow with my imaginary YouTube fans , "so guys as I was saying...."

siofra:
Not the ones you insert into your vagina.

The ones you put in between your labia majora and thighs.

I've searched everywhere, even foreign sites and I can't find it.


Do you know where I can get it?

I need it ASAP.

I was using one of those , it's a total scam , your vagina has a normal smell , the only thing you need is water , all those deo or wash bullshit is a waste of money and could result in health issues in the future

Astrokid911:
tutorials it started with I'm tired I want to lie down a little ,and help me massage my hair

Mine was an unexpected one night stand
It so happened I slept over at my aunt's boyfriends house and she left me with the guy's friend and stayed in the room with her guy

It was play play oh , I told my friend my ex was good in bed and she was like how do I know when it was literally my first experience having sex , so I was curious to know if it was just me or if he was really good , so I allowed this guy touch me , he was handsome , totally cute but he was nothing , a waste of body count

first off my ex was older and had bigger dick and stamina and most of all he put me first , when he goes in there , I want to faint , perfect fit , he was my first and everything was good , smooth penetration , oral etc

But this other guy was 30 , just looks good but empty , his dick was so small , limpy , he'd cum in seconds ,I gave him a second chance but it was still a waste , he cummed and left me stranded , angry and irritated , tried to cuddle me after ewwwww , mouthodor join
I regret ever taking a chance on a total stranger , now I only like men with small tummy , they're the real ones , all these ones with packs are just decors

sanesta:
In your view, What are the disadvantages of not having a child.?

I am definitely going to be a parent to one or two little ones by whatever means possible but I'm going to be a mature mom , I don't plan on having a child just because it's the right time , or I'm expected to , I will have a child when I'm ready to be responsible and to dedicate myself sincerely
There are no disadvantages to not having children , mostly just stereotypes , built from the outdated mindset that children were created mainly as business investments to serve their parents when they're older and can't take care of themselves anymore

many poor people have multiple children in case something happens to one of their children they have backup and not really understanding that your child did not ask to be born and therefore do not owe you any favor , they were born because "you wanted them" they never asked to be here and neither did any of us

I know a woman that had 12 beautiful children , claiming they were God's gift , like did God put his penis inside of you ? No it was you ,and now her daughters married off at their 18 birthdays and the boys are working for their daily bread , I'm sure most of them hope to not have children like their parents did because see suffering

It's the poorest people that have an army of children for survival purposes

I think many people aren't aware of the situation of motherhood , it's a total scam , don't do it unless you really want to , kids are not pets , they are human beings and one tini tiny mistake and their life is ruined because of you
Your vagina could tear and the society will give the child to its father , when it's you who goes through the sleepless nights and the the back aches, boob aches , leg aches , face aches , heartaches
You will be in charge of their health
Their academics
Feeding
Clothes

They will want the lastest iphone100
They will ask you why you don't buy them the clothes their classmates are wearing
They will tell you they need money and they'll use your hard-earned money on video games or something like that
You can't eat what you want first , their needs first , if that's not the case BAD PARENT
Basically if you try to raise them the way you're planning before you had them , they will hate you because they're humans , they can't be programmed , they will always change

Then there's peer pressure , there's serious issues ( paedophilia , bullying , drug abuse)

people will never tell you the side effects , you'll just see the cute baby videos and you're shouting my ovaries

Basically the reason why most parents emotional blackmail you is because they had you, so that they could use you in the future and when they invest all this time , money and effort , only for you to do what?

"You're studying mass comm , what happened to doctor , they pay them well"

"You're marrying Emeka , Chief Agwuna my classmate from secondary school wants your hand in marriage , don't be silly"

"After all I've done for you , you've chosen to embarrass me , why should I reduce your brideprice , the money i spent on you is more than the $1 billion chicken change , I'm asking him to pay, my friend go and sleep"

" Music? God forbid why would you be doing music? See I've enrolled you in computer class WHETHER YOU LIKE IT OR NOT"

"everything is for you , I'm doing this for you , when you grow up and get a job ,you can help us train your younger ones , all of this is for you my dear"

This is as a result of parents feeling cheated and resorting to emotional blackmail and manipulation to get back all that they gave during unforced parenting period , because society , their background and lack of education or lackof self will ,made them become parents when they didn't fully understand the concept of Parenthood , especially mothers

There are no disadvantages to not having a child , it's a matter of choice , and don't even bring up that talk of biological clock

virginprincess:
Having children is very important especially in a country like nigeria, let even forget about old age and legacy, can you bear the pain of being called barren and impotent from your fellow man and woman even though you're the one that sided not to have children, besides there is joy in motherhood and fatherhood so I wonder why one who is fit to have children will decide not to have one.

These are all selfish , superficial reasons

TheGistDay:
Nollywood actresses, Caroline Hutchings and Iyabo Ojo have engaged in a Twitter face-off just after their reunion show was aired.

The actresses/reality show stars' fight centered on lies, age deceit, fake life amongst other things.

https://thegistday.com/2022/07/08/caroline-hutchings-and-iyabo-ojo-come-for-each-other-on-twitter-after-their-reunion-show-airs/

This show is just noisy ,just to come and fight , if I was there I would just have headache , a toxic environment with bitter women

Candbud:
Abeg which Nigerian university and course I go apply too, to become a therapist. Age doesn’t matter Shey? & if you know basic requirements kindly drop it . I did appreciate it .

I'm a psychologist , it's a 4 years course
You get BSc first and it's the Masters program that you get to choose what area you want to focus on clinical psychologist, educational , industrial, child psychology , social psychology etc

ChiefSosa:

How's it cruise, because a guy said it?

Dear OP, I don't see anything wrong. It's called 'Preferences', and women have demanded exact or even more.
Good luck! You'll definitely find. You're human, and you deserve the right to have preferences. Just make sure you have the mental, emotional, and financial capacity to maintain someone with your preference(s).

The problem go be when he no come be the preference of hin preference

Winter03:
Daddy issues: an informal term used to refer to women whose dysfunctional relationships with their absent, emotionally unavailable or abusive fathers have affected their relationships with men.

Signs include:

1. They have anxious attachments: the fear of being abandoned.

2. The fear of being vulnerable: the natural instinct to protect themselves from being hurt as a result of having a neglectful father.

3. They have sex a lot to validate their desirability.

4. They have trust issues.

5. They pick unhealthy partners.

6. Have issues with boundaries: they may reveal too much about themselves on the first date. Or fall in love really quick and except partners to immediately commit.

7. They put their partners on a pedestal: kinda make them the father they never had.

8. They usually date older men.

These women (and even men) have an insatiable need to recieve love.

Mynd44

Seun

Lalasticlala

Dominique

1) yes but sometimes they abandon people first to avoid being abandoned , coz they believe you'll leave anyway , they brag about leaving first

2) they are very suspicious , questionnaires, what do you want from me ? Why ? Any small mistakes and she's going to withdraw

3) they either have too much sex or no sex at all , or they talk about it 24/7 , and when you have sex with them , they try to please you , more likely to invest in sex products,body enhancing products due to low self esteem , e.g weight gain , vagina tighter abi sweetener , daddy issues or mummy issues goes hand in hand with low self esteem

4)trust issues is very visible , less likely to meet up with strangers from online stuff , have very few friends , less likely to show up at any hangout and when they do they're either the loudest or the shyest , they are suspicious of everything ,

paranoia , they believe everyone is bad and out to get them or that everyone wants to hurt them and take advantage of them , they don't really love , they just get attached and become clingy but the moment you trigger them , they find it easy to jump so far as they see someone who they feel is better , they find it hard to relax and actually fall in love , it's easy to replace her man

5)they pick controlling men , older men tend to be more authoritative that's why they choose them , e.g those girls that will be in JSS2 and are playing with their handsome maths teacher like he was her mate , they are very free with their friends dads and big brothers , they attract predator men , men who like young girls coz they're easier to manipulate

6) my personal fave, when she starts to talk , you can know her past in a matter of seconds , you'll know her cousins second son's siblings birthday and the day her pet fish died , it's the first sign to spotting them , they talk to you like they don't have anyone else to talk to in life but trust me they do , they're talking to you now because you're still a stranger , they could easily just vanish later

another one is this week she's talking to you everyday , morning , noon and night and then she dissapears the next week , just responding to your questions with one word answers , and you're wondering is it the same person you were talking with til 4am or is she talking to someone else ? No she's not , she's just regretting talking too much and wants to make you go away

7) the speed she used to crown you ,is the speed she'll use to dethrone you , because she never actually loved you , the relationship is like a contract for them , once a better contractor shows up , the old one would be terminated ASAP , double dating is expected , she hardly feels fulfilled in relationships so she just dates people with things to offer , if two come at once she won't be able to let go of one because she fears to be abandoned by the one she'll choose , so she keeps both , like how you bet on 2 sure odds yadayada

they pick older men , they will always try and test you , if you're not careful , they will end up controlling you that's when the relationship is coming to an end , the moment they succeed in taking whatever control or authority you have from you , they have no reason to hang around anymore , in fact they'll feel like you've lost interest since you're not trying to be the older one , toxic

BigCowH0rn:



I was born and raised in Austin, Texas, USA.
Down there people have guns and horses.. and massive ranches with cows roaming.

I spent a weekend at a family friend's ranch and that Saturday was horse breaking day. They brought a team expert riders to break the wild horses in order to make them accept human authority.

One particular horse was so stubborn it was called Hellfire. I was given to understand that it was rare breed, a cross between an European war horse and an Arabian swift.
The result was this thing so huge, powerful and fast... but since it was wild, so dangerous.

You see, the process of breaking a horse entails others holding it and blinding it while an expert rider gets on and then they let go. The rider will try to force the horse to obey as it bucks like mad trying to get him off.
If the rider wins, the horse is broken and learns to accept a human rider from there on. It normally takes a short time.. minutes to an hour

Normal horses buck but hellfire bucked and spinned. No one could stay on for more than a minute. If the rider falls off it attacked
Many got injured trying to ride that horse and it go to a point that the owner wanted to shoot it. One old cowboy opposed the owner to no end, saying that he horse was an exceptional one that just needed the right master.

I understand the two of them eventually bet $13k on that horse which saw many expert riders try until one hardcase from New Mexico broke it. The horse went on to win trophies in at least 2 horse races i knew and one high jump event.


[b]What I'm trying to say my bro is that girl is like a powerful horse that refuses to be tamed.
You are not the right rider.

When she meets the right rider and tries all this nonsense you are complaining about he will bring her to heel.

Many girls that ran rogue in their family have ended up with men that handle them well enough to change them... there is even an old British love story about the issue.. I have forgotten the name

On the other hand, many girls that have been the perfect daughters have gotten married and gone crazy.

That girl is not useless... just needs fixing and you clearly can't do that.

She needs a man she will fear and love
Someone who is bigger, older and firm.
He will be her boyfriend to be loved, her daddy to be obeyed, her friend to be with... FEAR AND LOVE... respect.. will run in her blood
Her type don't do well in relationships with men her age or size... which is what you are

Her problem big pass you.
You are not the solution... you can't tame her... move on.

Good morning.[/b]

I understand where you're coming from
That's a fantasy , a man that can heal you and give you what you desire
I believe if something like that happened , you've gotten yourself a partner for real
People barely forget those who came to their rescue , they secretly worship them
But that task is bulky , only a committed person with a risk taking attitude would invest in the healing process of a partner ( like people that invested in btc when it wasn't really as big as it is now , those kinds of people are hard to find) , most people just want a ready made person , pure and holy

For me I see these untameable horses as diamonds in the rough , they are unable to exercise their potential due to the setbacks they might be having in their mind , it takes a lot of work to clear the dirt and get to the diamond but it's not impossible

Physical disability or physical illness is better than mental illness ,at least with physical illness there is proof and your mind still works , you can still cope, but mental struggle can even hinder your cognitive processes , you will forget you've not eaten sef , you can even forget how to breathe , just like how you sleep and you're choking and your body actually thinks it's being choked and you're gasping for air but noone is choking you, some will say it's Spiritual attack ( I'm probably talking off point, but you get my point)

My point is you're right that she needs that kind of person but only a risk taking person would stick around for healing to actually happen , it could be a great story line for a movie tho

Orgasmgiver123:

Damn....
this is so deep
I’ve heard of father’s hate towards his kids but mother’s hate is just too deep
I can’t imagine what you passed through in her hands.
Sorry dear
I pray you heal totally

What I passed through is in the past , I'm already taking active steps to healing , after graduation I'm looking to move out completely so I don't relapse , sometimes I think I'm okay and then I see her and I'm suicidal again , her mere presence is triggering , when she goes up I go down when she goes down I go up , coz she intentionally tries to hang around me long enough to spit some rubbish but I don't give her too much chance again
I don't plan on having her around my children , it won't work
I will do the proper work to be better before I bring anyone to come and be my responsibility even if it takes 10 years , I can wait

SavageBoy:


Mehn!

This was an emotional heart pouring.

I pray and hope you get better.

Irrespective of the negative experience you had growing up, you still sound like a good and loving person with a heart of gold.

You'll be fine my Lady.

I'm okay jare
I hate how people underestimate the effects of environment on children's life as they develop , too many ignorant people making assumptions without actually observing anything or gathering facts , I do hope other children like me break that yoke of repeating negative patterns that we inherited and actually bring up healthy children in all aspects of life , that's my biggest goal

Kaiair:

You were a bloody simp.

Yes oh 2 years ago but not anymore , I finally know what it was like for a man to spend on you just because he wants to and because he loves you , funny how I didn't do anything for him but he kept doing it , now that he's gone too , I'm not ready to settle for rubbish anymore , I dey use my money buy data and junk food

I was 17 he was 21 , I bought it for him , second hand phone from my roommate but he didn't get it because we broke up before I saw him to give it to him , it was a care package with his favorite snacks, I ate everything inside after the breakup and then I gave the phone to baby sis

Then when I was 19 on his bday I surprised with an expensive cake designed with his favorite football club and a gift card , he didn't even post it , I guess he didn't want to scare away the other girls

What's the most expensive thing he did , well he gave me his old shirts , and then one jeans for me , he also gave me his old jacket and facecap , well I took it and didn't give it back and he gave me his passport photo , I carried it everywhere , I was 17 , don't judge but I mumu ehn

That was the last time I did anything for a man , the only people that will smell my money are my best friends and my siblings and dad

At this point I'm wishing God raised those stones to worship him , because why would you claim to love me and your way if showing me love is allowing me to suffer just to prove that I deserve to go to heaven after I die , people are suffering

If I loved my children I'd want to protect them not feed them to the Lions and allow them die , if I had children I'd provide for them , does God belong to some people and not others?
I also don't understand why someone would sin and you would curse their children
I'm signing out , this religion thing don dey like scam

Orgasmgiver123:


This your comment is the same reason why i kept on forgiving her whenever she misbehaves, i later realised she is broken beyond repair.
Some girls just choose to dwell in the past

My dad is a military man, he has never stayed full 3 months with us since we were born. Today duty tomorrow Liberia next tomorrow sudan and so on, but i can boldly say my sisters are not wayward at all.

My point
At times you just have to build yourself, your parents can’t give 100%.

And if you check most of the girls that keep on haven quarrels with their fathers, you’ll see that they are the problem not the father at all.

You have no idea what you're talking about ,
It's not about distance , if you're a rejected child , you face a lot of struggles that are not visible to others

I have two parents , I didn't get to see both of them growing up coz I was confined in a boarding school since primary 2 , I still have a better relationship with my dad but I was severely rejected by my mom and everything OP posted still applies to me , I used to think I was the problem until I realized she felt the same way I felt for her parents , she hated them coz she was mistreated but she was equally a beast to us , she didn't get healing and now I had to inherit that ,
I was abused verbally , physically , emotionally
She's my biggest motivation in life because in trying to prove her wrong I became her opposite but I've not been able to relax and enter my feminine side , I'm always protective , trying to do everything on my own , I also attach to other people's moms , I'm that friend you don't want to have because of comparism , it hurts alot because in reality I know I'll never be a part of that family , in fact it caused fight between me and my friend , I was always taking her mom's side

It's not a matter of dwelling on the past , it's the conditioning of your brain , you may not notice but most of our choices are made subconsciously , half the time we don't realize we're in a pattern , that's why kids from divorced homes are more likely to get divorced and kids from abusive relationships are more likely to be abusive or abuse tolerating adults

The most stubborn boy in my Sunday school class was an abused child of my neighbor , she had gotten pregnant twice without a husband and she treated them like shit and the girl is exposed , using adult language , the boy picks a fight with everything and everyone , he should be 6 or 7 , both of them are likely to grow up with internal issues

I'm educated and I do realize that somethings were not my fault , I am currently battling severe anxiety and depression , I have insomnia because I have bad dreams alot I sleep better with noise of people moving around during the day , sleeping at night is war , I finished my sleeping pills and my sleep cycle is messed up , I've had at least 3 panic attacks between February and now, it doesn't feel good , I also have random outbursts for the silliest reasons , you can ask my exes , only one person knew me and understood me , the others just felt like I was either childish or crazy

I'm attracted to fine older men , my last ex was 20 years older , the one before him was 16 years older, my friends were aware , they are used to me now that's why they feel comfortable talking about their men with me coz I'm not attracted to them and they're not attracted any of mine , they even use it to tease me

I haven't been able to fill that void in my heart , that's why I have a whole folder of baby videos on my system , coz I can't wait , neglectful children can either be the worst parents or the spoiling kind , I really love approval and appreciation , na my mumu button be that

If I wash and you're like "OMG thank you so much , you made my day " you just bought yourself a human washing machine , you just need to keep saying I made your day and how sweet I am and I won't stop trying to make your day , to the point of neglecting myself to please you
People pleaser I have had so many school daughters , not because I'm cool but because I don't know how to say no , just do like you want to die and jam me, I'd give my soul if you asked for it nicely
When I say no , I'm scared of them misinterpreting it , or losing their approval , who are they ? No one
I'm not sure wiping my memory would erase this habit , it's embedded
People with loving parents don't realize how lucky they are
My personal hygiene was a mess until like 2 years ago , I learned most of it from YouTube , I didn't know how to calculate my period , I had too many embarrassing moments that I can't count, I felt like an outcast , everybody talks about having certain talks with their mom that I've never had
I would've preferred to be an orphan or be aborted than to be born as an enemy

She told me she knew from the day I was born that I was her enemy and she wishes she could send me to the orphanage but she's sure no one would want me , she also told me I tried to kill her in the labour room , I had badluck since I was in the womb and I look like a human but I'm an animal , her favorite pet name for me was slowpoke ( yes my biological mother)

Some idiots will still be preaching , no mother can hate their child , I pray you don't experience it because if you do , you're bleeped

I look like I'm okay but I'm going through a healing process ,noone believes me coz I laugh alot , I'm the funniest among my friends , the most dramatic and best adviser and I realize I'm a shoulder but in all sincerity I don't have anyone that I call a shoulder ,my dad provides for my needs , but we all need someone to complain to , even when I am offered an ear I'm too scared to use it , I just swallow it and move on

caracas:

But how does a man help a woman attain that balance of pain n pleasure during a sexual intercourse ?

That's easy
Lubrication
Stimulation
Arousal
pre-intimacy

All of these above are different steps to amazing sex , lubrication is very important , every woman's body is different and each one creams differently , some of us don't need any extra work to start our engine whilst some might need time and effort , which is normal , that's why we have lubricants that can be applied for that extra mmph
Only ignorant men will think lubricants are bad , someone said if she's healthy she shouldn't need it, some men just have a funny way of making everything about them.
Women will trust you more if you're okay with the idea of lubricant for them whether they need it or not , it just gives the impression that you care and you want to make sure she's having as much fun as you , well that's how I feel about men who do it , I can't say the same for everyone

Another way to ensure smooth sailing to pleasurable sex is by stimulation , it could be from gentle touch or caressing to stimulation of sensitive/ erogenous zones , when it comes to stimulation , less is more , slow is teasing and that adds a little spice to everything

it's not just pulling down bra and panties and just diving down and kissing or sucking anything but gently teasing her slowly, maybe peck her neck lightly , peck her arm , just places she doesn't expect , confuse her , she knows you want to go to her boob , just play around like that until she starts to guide you to where she's aching , be stingy with your kisses , don't be a boring straight to the point person , if she finds it hard to get wet , I'm sure this would help

Another one is the use of fingers , again less is more , some people will be rubbing like they're washing snail , someone will be crying and you'll think she's moaning and then use it to brag , no no no , you're doing it wrong , stop it

Do it lightly , gently , slowly , find out which one makes her toes curl, observe her , her facial expressions will show , don't use your strong fingers and just invade her tunnel without an invitation , play around it just rub first to confirm if you're doing okay by the detection of natural wetness or swelling ,
and please ask her what she wants ? Do you like this ? Should I put this ? Should I pull it out ? Does it hurt ? , She knows her buttons better than anyone and she'll give you the access code if you asked politely

Arousal , set the mood right, maybe a movie to give her small hint , maybe just cuddling , maybe sexting , maybe flirting , maybe something playful ( tickle fight or pillow fight) , or just a surprise kiss , use your imagination

Take your time PLEASE
This isn't fast and furious , if you're fornicating your punishment won't decrease if you do fast fast , since you're here already don't waste the sin , enjoy it first , take your time okay?

In all that you're doing practice safe sex , don't risk someone's future for pleasure that ends in 5-10 minutes


LESS IS MORE , SLOW IS TEASING remember this

FERNANDEZISBACK:

Shut up your mouth rude boy..you are still a kid and too young.. dumbo go get something to do and stop clowning around..you can't handle yourself properly...

Wide mouth..not everyone who**res around..she has a life to live not sleeping around like ya..ya own share indeed..you call her a b**tch cos she didn't give you a response..can't you see how young and naive you sound..keep wasting yourself waiting for her response.. cover your face in shame..this is how you folks go about bullying ladies..

I want to know if girls go to men's dm to fool themselves
Yesterday one idiot that I don't talk to , chatted me up on Facebook his exact words
" I like you "
"Can you marry an Igbo person "
"No ? Why not ? Okay oh "

And he's not the first , this was just the most recent one ,last night, i think any girl that falls for that "i want to marry you talk" on the first conversation was trained in a cave , it keeps happening , I really don't know why the dumb men have so much confidence and the good ones just dey low-key
this aunty has been single almost 2 years now , what kind of life am I living ?

Tonero5200:

I just want my share, I can't wife her!.

Mtcheeeeeeew and this is why I don't respond to nl emails , she was right after all , how old are you ? 14?

I remember when I was young and I used to believe those horror stories of women dying during their first ,red Sea amount of blood and inability to walk.
I don't know who made those up or who spread but^{I fucking hate you}
I'm guessing this was their way of telling us to maintain our virginity till marriage , in fact one day I'll list all the outrageous myths I heard .

I always wondered " so if I could die from having sex , is it that I grow immune to death when i get older and get married and then it's okay to do it? " I really didn't understand the magic , I guess that was our society's version of sex education , well it's working ,judging by the lack of teenage mum's roaming around ( I'm being sarcastic )

sex education is a vital subject , I don't know why it's easy to discuss biology and hard to actually talk about it for real

sex ,like everything in this world ,should be studied , everyone is trying to be so religious, but these are things you do in your bedroom , as a teenager you had urges , your body was changing , you started finding out that you were attracted to the opposite gender , but now you're an adult and you're acting like they threw you down from heaven and you were purely VARGIN , everyone is just being a hypocrite tueh

I want to encourage anyone reading this , parents , elder siblings , uncle's and aunties , include sex education in the conversations you are having with your little ones , curiosity no dey look face oh , not the one that you will now be shouting

" she was such a good girl , I didn't know she was like this"

African parents especially Christian's just have it in their mind that " I'm not going to tell you what it is but I know you know so better know what you're doing "
sometimes you need to spell it out for them ,some of them really don't know and if the wrong hand touch them , na dia the matter go dey

I believe it's possible to raise decent people, I plan to do that ,no be matter of pikin wey wan spoil go spoil , e get some children wey for dey okay ,if to say dey get people wey look them well , we have some useless and lazy parents that are the root of all the suffering their child faced , yes oh I said it

if we swallow our frogs and do what needs to be done , stop allowing perverts to be in charge of showing your child what sex is all about , that's why some of your sons and daughters life revolves around sex , because they don't even know what it entails , for dia mind now na food

I plan to start sex education for my future kids at the moment they start to speak maybe 3years, people can be funny around children , the smaller they are the more vunerable they become , I don too see things wey I no fit talk and honestly it breaks my heart, some people's innocence was stolen before they even knew they had it,

anyways I plan to drop actual sex advice here regularly , what are my qualifications ( I am a woman and I have female friends and I read alot of books on sex ) if I say something wrong , correct me

I fucking hate Mondays

bukky1994:
thank sir

I am a woman

Extrastiv01:
So today I had a chat with a friend, we were debating about what type of s"x is the best ....to my surprised he said "Anal sex is more enjoyable than both oral and the original sex itself

More light on this please

Hope they didn't forget to inform you of the risks involved with anal sex , the fact that you could transfer germs to yourselves from your assshole or that your rectum could tear or expand and become loose leading to uncontrollable bowel movements , it's very true , even tho most people prefer to touch fire before they agree that it burns

Whilst anal sex might feel exotic , it's not something you should engage in as frequently as you engage in regular vanilla sex ,it should be like once every leap year for a special person , no go wound yourself for person wey no rate you

It should be done with enough lube , probably a massage to relax the body , if you're really a clean person you could wash yourself using an enema for extra help in cleaning your insides , to minimize the chances of any messy activity,

I don't think there's any consequences for using an enema in your ass as opposed to your vagina as it could lead to an hormonal imbalance and cause problems for you

An enema is that thing our mothers used to pump bitterleaf into our butt when our stomach is aching badly , if you've lived in all these compound places I'm sure you saw them do it once or they did it to you

I'm not saying anal sex is no no , or a yes yes , but I don't think our body was designed to engage in it regularly, sex is supposed to be about the v and p but that could get old and boring , I think it won't hurt to try out other stuff but anal sex is more pleasurable for the men or the person that's penetrating , unless the receiver is turned on by pain , research before experimenting

siofra:


Wow farting from the vagina is the sweetest fart ever

I love doing it, it doesn't smell and it can give orgasm if done well

Hiaan orgasm ke
I don't know about orgasm , I just know that it tickles

Premiumwriter:
Tell her.

My babe no dey Send for all these kind things o.

One day, around 3 a.m I tried kissing madam, she say my mouth dey smell say make I go brush first.

E pain me but ever since then I start paying more attention to my oral hygiene.

Tell her in a more comfortable way but make sure you tell her to her face. E go pain am but she go start dey make changes.

Then re-enforce her confidence with compliments if you noticed any changes later on.

My roommate is a perfume freak , she senior me
In fact they are two
One can die if she did not spray sure everyday
The other one has day perfume , pocket perfume , wig perfume , night perfume , body mist , deodorant and perfume oil , luckily her bf is also obsessed with perfume anything he's buying he gets for her too and she go sell give me, dash me if she's in the mood or I will steal it (respectfully)
My papa dey talk say any small message Dem send me I go carry fleet pour for body , if only he met my roommate, he would just allow me be , I can steal perf I've taken perf from all my friends and my exes , that's the best present for me after food
That's how we went to see my friends bf,p
na so she enter toilet pour spit say this toilet dey smell , the guy shame , I felt for him

mogbeyiteren:
I do have a beautiful girlfriend but she smells whenever I try hugging her. It seems the smell comes from her undies. How do I tell her.

Okay listen
She will appreciate if you told her , I know it's a difficult conversation but for future sake , don't you plan on going out together? Or meeting up with friends?

You can advice her , there's no big deal , it was a man that taught me how to calculate my period and my safe period and it was my dad that taught me most of the hygiene stuff that I learned , please don't be like some childish men that would look the other way

Now for the smell
It could come from anything but if you really feel like it's her V and you really want to make a change in her life , first things first

New set of panties , if you can afford it , make sure she burns the old ones
Deodorants ( Nivea , suave or sure spray)
Perfume ( I have day and night , the night is those 150 perf but the day time is Victoria secret, then I still use perfume oil for fast movement)
Shaving stick
I would've recommended wipes or powder but that's my thing , water is still better and many people may not like powder
I used to use v wash but I heard it's not good and that the vagina has a normal scent , it shouldn't smell like roses or fruits , you could get cervical cancer from all of these products ( my coconut head)

Tell her to wash her panties everyday , and make sure not to wear it unless it's completely dry

Also it's not good to wear panties every single day so unless she's having discharge or on her period she should learn to sleep without panties , it will really help , if she dey smell by the time she sleep naked I'm sure she'll perceive it

Tell her to take her time when bathing , to make sure she properly washes her petals , not just rinse and go oh, but use her hand to rub everywhere gently and the back too

Deodorant should be applied everyday , morning and night
Since she has BO she shouldn't repeat any clothes ,
Shaving should be every week

Then compliment her when she starts doing all of these , if it's one by one compliment her for the one you're seeing , babe you smell nice today , is it the new deodorant? Wow your hair looks beautiful and neat

If it persists then maybe it's a health issue but BO shouldn't be a death sentence , trust me she's going to trust you for telling her yourself

Odjirigho:
Just gift her a complete cologne set. It will come with role on, body spray and perf. It will help and certainly convey your message politely

That won't help

Princess6969:
hello friends am finally a member after a long time of been a guest am really happy to be with u people
Cheers!!!!!!

Friendly advice
REMOVE YOUR PICTURE OR COVER YOUR FACE
It's for your own good , girl to girl