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Romance / Re: I SLEPT With My Cousin Brother Now I Feel Terrible by LadyD22(f): 8:35pm On Aug 14, 2022 |
Ebymyk: Yes that would be nice but many people can't afford it and those who can often don't think it's necessary until it has gotten worse Opening up has helped me and the thing is if whatever it is I opened up about gets out , I won't feel the stigma because whatever it is I've done , I'm not the first nor will I be the last, the only person that should be my concern is myself If someone tells me about someone else's personal problems , I keep my distance from them because I know one day , it will be me , but there are some people who will take your secrets to their grave if they have to , loyal people exist and everybody deserves a genuine listener that they don't need to pay for |
Romance / Re: I SLEPT With My Cousin Brother Now I Feel Terrible by LadyD22(f): 6:24pm On Aug 14, 2022 |
Ebymyk: I am not in her shoes but i have succeeded in cutting off my ties with toxic relatives and friends , I was also a teen so I know things like that could happen but as an adult you become 100% responsible The thing I would do is to open up to someone I trust preferably my age group , they will understand better , there are some things you know but you need to hear someone else say it to understand what it really sounds like Self love is the key and it is a luxury, when you love you , noone can bullshit you , not even YOU , I am a living witness and I respect me , more than anyone can respect me , and noone can make me do what I don't want to or feel what I don't want to feel So I cannot imagine myself in her shoes 2 Likes |
Romance / Re: These Kalabari Women Has Big As.s by LadyD22(f): 5:18pm On Aug 14, 2022 |
Machalla: more like us discussing about shoes and the latest kdrama , women don't actually talk about men unless they either want to complain about their bf or they like someone and need advice , we don't need threads to discuss men's body part and frankly we don't even care about any body part except maybe height lol, we're too busy talking about ourselves , our body parts and our lives At the saloon what we talk about is money , we talk about who gave us the money to make our hair and where we bought our dress from , imagine just talking about men , that conversation will be very short and very boring |
Romance / Re: Domestic Violence: Some Women Deserve What They Get Because They Refuse To Leave by LadyD22(f): 5:03pm On Aug 14, 2022 |
Dodgelord Domestic violence is an issue that has claimed the lives of many women , and few men , to the onlookers it's easy to just say "get up and leave" , just as easy as it is to scream to victims of sexual assault to "speak up and get justice" but you can only fully understand how difficult it is to actually leave , when you're in the same position as them. Many times the abuse is worse when the victim attempts to escape, and most of victims who lost their lives in the process were murdered after threats of separation or divorce got to the ears of the abusers A victim might choose to stay because they feel they are in control of the situation if they cooperate with their abusers , to minimize damages , it's the same thing with rape , you struggle less and cooperate in hopes to remain in control of the situation and convince your attacker to at least let you live Often times the abuser, doesn't just abuse but they attach threats to each blow " if you leave I will kill you , I will kill your parents , your dog , our child, I'll kill myself " and sometimes these threats are not as empty as they sound , they push through with it or attempt to the abusers will groom you slowly and gradually , testing and crossing your boundaries , strip you of the means to provide for your own financial needs so that you remain dependent ,then isolate you from friends and family such that in the end you feel you have nowhere to go , mental captivity , you can see the door open but you still won't leave because you doubt anyone can protect you and most times noone can , they just claim to The police think it's just lovers dispute Counselors , pastors and relatives will try to help you" fix it "if you're married , instead of detaching you completely Only the victims know the extent their abusers can go to remain in control and sometimes speaking about it to someone is equally dangerous unless you are 150% certain that they will maintain confidentiality and ensure a successful escape and protection Some abusers are skilled manipulators , they will shower you with romantic gestures in their non violent phase( petting) , so it's very common to hear the victim vouche for them " they're very good , I made them angry , but they really love me, I swear" Or they blame it on something else, "it only happens when he gets angry or takes alcohol , he wouldn't do that on a normal day " To other people , it is absurd and then they start to judge them that "if they wanted to leave they would ", I used to be close minded about the subject too until I found out how deep it really is They lose their self esteem and eventually believe that they deserve whatever treatment , they may be getting and the abuser convinces them over and over again , that they would change and sometimes guilt trip them and brainwash them to think that the abuser are the victims and they should be pitied looking depressed everybody has left me , I know you want to leave me too, you're the only one I love , can't you see that I'm not doing this because I want to , I thought you said you won't leave me ? Harmful assumptions won't help , telling someone to leave just like that , is like telling a headache to stop without medication , ineffective, If your loved ones find themselves in a situation like that, you would understand better |
Romance / Re: Domestic Violence: Some Women Deserve What They Get Because They Refuse To Leave by LadyD22(f): 4:09pm On Aug 14, 2022 |
marlow1962: What are you even saying? |
Romance / Re: These Kalabari Women Has Big As.s by LadyD22(f): 4:04pm On Aug 14, 2022 |
awwwwwn look how they gathered here just to discuss about ass |
Romance / Re: I SLEPT With My Cousin Brother Now I Feel Terrible by LadyD22(f): 3:52pm On Aug 14, 2022 |
Brendababy: Funny thing is two of my cousins have made advances towards me when we we were younger, it's very common and I had elder cousins who experimented with themselves and would tell me about it but I never got a chance to sleep over at their houses so I could only hear about it , but I can't say that I would've not made the same mistake that they made if I was given the chance , children are very curious But if you're still doing it as an adult , then that is you , you're responsible for yourself now and I'm sure you don't want to get pregnant for a married man , a married cousin , it isn't worth it It would be easier if you loved yourself but you don't , if you did I'm sure you would have cut ties a long time ago , he's a toxic person and it's dangerous continuing to have anything to do with him It's not about incest , or sin or married man , it's just boundaries , when you know that something is bad for you and you continue to do it , it slowly kills your self respect and you'll just be carrying on so much emotional baggage and have to live with it If you have a trusted friend , speak to them about it , I have a few friends that can hear I killed someone and still not react " she probably did it out of self defense" Me: "No I really wanted to just kill him" Friend :"Well he was going to die sooner or later " My most valuable friend opened up about something similar but she was a child and it could've been anyone and now she has phobia for sex because of the experience and she still sees that cousin , acts like it never happened Don't be leaving your children with just anyone , some people need to have their reproductive organs confiscated because if we start to talk about family members , especially uncles , lemme not talk 4 Likes |
Romance / Re: Her First Child Belongs To My Friend! Should I Tell Her Husband? by LadyD22(f): 2:03am On Aug 14, 2022 |
TheCongo2: I'm glad we still have wise people like you here 1 Like |
Romance / Re: A Lady On Very Short Shot At Abuja Airport by LadyD22(f): 12:07am On Aug 12, 2022 |
Kobojunkie: The low IQ human specie would not be able to understand what you're saying even if he meditated on it The laws in Nigeria aren't strong enough to protect people from perverts and invasion of privacy I remember a video I watched, apparently these girls wore outfits that could lead to uncontrollable urges for the men , so do you know what they did? They chased after them and pulled their dresses to expose their unclothedness , in other to teach them a lesson , in a more developed society , those boys would be charged for sexual harassment , molestation and possibly attempted rape The same men who have uncontrollable urges because of a mere body part that can be found on the internet , are the same men who expect us to believe they are in control to lead the way to civilization unfailingly , adorable Many of them are not aware of their roots , how their mothers and grandmothers walked around in pieces of clothe and charcoal tattoo and our fathers and grandfather's saw nothing of it , until the white men said no no no , that's a sin , you need to dress appropriately, cover up In places like cotonou , grown girls used to bath outside naked up until recently , even in a village I once visited , imagine the shock on my face but I didn't bring out my phone to take a picture because I understand that it is not my business , if they feel comfortable enough doing what they're doing and wearing what they're wearing , why should I be bothered ? I personally have an odd taste in fashion , I prefer corporate wears , even in the most casual setting , maybe someone would take a picture of me one day Perhaps we should all bring out our camera's , since the airport is now a zoo with exotic animals I have seen some people in weird things , we all have , but that is not an excuse to think I have the opinion to tell them what they're wearing is whatever it is , if they came out like that, chances are they came from their home and there are people there who saw them in that and let it be , Then one low budget judge from America's next top model thinks he has an opinion lol 4 Likes |
Romance / Re: ...... by LadyD22(f): 2:26pm On Aug 11, 2022 |
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Romance / ...... by LadyD22(f): 1:32am On Aug 11, 2022 |
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Romance / A Thread For Important Nairalanders :) by LadyD22(f): 5:41pm On Aug 09, 2022 |
Many people don't know how important they are and how valuable your time , attention and responses can be in certain social situations. On places like nairaland there will always be people who say some of the most triggering , irritating and absurd things , it's absolutely normal , while some of them really mean what they say , others might just be catching fun ,pulling people's legs deliberately just to get a response out of them and intentionally lead to an argument , a disagreement and of course the continuous circulation of toxic , irrelevant information Then we have very interesting educative people on the other hand , willing to teach and learn from others and maybe sometimes disagreements and debates may happen but they're open to LISTENING to other people's views , opinions and responses and definitely not doing harmful things for the fun of it The more we respond to the negative energy people and give them the ATTENTION they are always seeking , the more confidence they have to continue acting like themselves and this will limit your access to information that is actually good for you . Think about it for a sec If everyone decides to delete their nairaland account or majority do and there's little to no interaction going on , eventually nairaland may close down no traffic ,no profit , no nairaland So if one foolish person types , you ignore and keep ignoring till they start to interact in human language, we'll have less toxicity to deal with, And if one intelligent person comes out , with genuine knowledge or questions that sound reasonable and interesting to you , you participate and leave , if you're quoted by someone who just wants to get you to react , just ignore , you'll get used to it eventually , and nairaland can go back to how it used to be decades ago ( peaceful and educative) I want to believe that just like myself , there are busy people here , who may or may nt come here once in awhile to get updates about things happening ( chronic introverts ) , and there are some people who come out with foolish threads just to kill boredom and we catch ourselves , stooping to their levels , for no gain at all E.g my girlfriend's coochie stinks should I still marry her or should I dump her and marry my sister ?( Okay I exaggerated it but just a tiny bit ) Now this does not only apply to NL , it applies to all social media platforms and even real life social interactions with colleagues , peers and families , We often ship the wrong information , wrong people and wrong message , not even realizing it , and most often it's not in a way that creates awareness Twitter and IG is one of them , all of these social media thrive because of the attention we give them , this is why big companies partner with big celebrities and influencers even if people hate them, the hate will generate traffic and traffic leads to more profit , so you might think someone like bobrisky is trash and then you go right under his post to comment " go to hell" , you just patronised him and he'll profit from that you Gerrit? The chrisland incident , I wonder how many children got their hands on it because of people showing their distaste and making it more popular and those who don't know will go and search for it , how many more will want to experiment with camera's? Mummy GO many people claim not to like her and think she's crazy but I see her videos everywhere because it's funny ? Okay I can go on and on Especially for my ladies , who come here to fight off the redpillers and misogynists , instead of wasting your time and your energy bickering with people who don't pay your bills or GAF , why not channel it to something you absolutely want to see more of . This should be common sense but alot of us don't know it and I'm one of those who forget it sometimes , it's hard biting your tongue when someone is just asking for it . Add that to one of the habits you'll start monitoring Anyways Happy Tuesday 4 Likes 1 Share |
Romance / Re: Why 30 And Above Ladies? by LadyD22(f): 11:48pm On Aug 08, 2022 |
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Romance / Re: Why 30 And Above Ladies? by LadyD22(f): 11:45pm On Aug 08, 2022 |
baralatie: There are some people you shouldn't bother talking to or asking questions , unles you know something they may find useful and are open to what you have to say, the people you're quoting are very sure about their views even if the views are very very concerning , it might be from their upbringing, but it is a free world , we need mad people to make it exciting ones in awhile |
Romance / Re: Why 30 And Above Ladies? by LadyD22(f): 11:41pm On Aug 08, 2022 |
Mrscarter: That's why NL is toxic , one small girl somewhere will be seeing this and planning to have all her 10 babies in her 20s to maintain her shape |
Romance / Re: Why 30 And Above Ladies? by LadyD22(f): 11:38pm On Aug 08, 2022 |
Magnoliaa: Thank you ❤️ |
Crime / Re: Man Beats Pregnant Wife To Death In Delta by LadyD22(f): 5:37pm On Aug 07, 2022 |
buygala: Oya sorry don't cry ya |
Crime / Re: Man Beats Pregnant Wife To Death In Delta by LadyD22(f): 5:21pm On Aug 07, 2022 |
buygala:No wonder I was wondering why you were so slow , its just old age |
Romance / Re: Why 30 And Above Ladies? by LadyD22(f): 5:14pm On Aug 07, 2022 |
virginprincess: Virginprincess , please do your research , you obviously didn't do research either because , women are still very fertile at the age of 30, and it's true there's higher chance of multiple birth and easier delivery process if they choose to do a natural birth , stop supporting rubbish If you want to give birth at 16 go ahead but it doesn't make it better for you , most women who die from labour are the younger women , that is also why doctors prefer older women surrogates to younger surrogates , their body is used to a lot of changes And whether anyone likes it or not , everybody will either die young or grow old and there will be white hairs and wrinkles too , you really want to spend your youth running after children and cleaning up after a man, instead of living your best life and settling down later , it's your choice Getting pregnant and staying pregnant is easy in your 20s yes But giving birth and conception of multiple babies is much more likely in 30s Women in their 30s are more educated on the subject of pregnancy and childbirth , and actually make better moms because of this knowledge They are also more capable of dedicating time , effort and love to raising beautiful children Women in their 20s are still in their early phase of adulthood , I feel worse for teen mom's , it's going to be very hard unless you married a millionaire but even money can't help you sometimes Women in their 30s are more financially independent to provide for themselves and their children Giving birth later actually promotes youth and longer life and giving birth earlier may hasten your aging process , due to early stress For example In a race between 2 women A and B , A uses a headstart , going at full speed and B starts jogging right behind A , before they see the finish line ,A is already exhausted ,weary and out of breath and B who has been calmly jogging picks up speed and overtakes A in that one last minute and wins the race A is for women in their 20s and B is fr 30s, interpret this in your language Also did you know, there is a hypothetical theory that women who give birth in their 30s are more likely to produce tech savvy kids , I'm sure at least somewhere, you heard that kids get most of their intelligence from their mother, and since women in their 30s are most definitely smarter , it is assumed that they produce smarter kids And let me add that just because you're a woman doesn't mean you can't hate women , next time you want to contribute to something like this come here with facts , ask from someone older don't just spit out what you're hearing people say and for ffs read a goddamn book 12 Likes 3 Shares |
Crime / Re: Man Beats Pregnant Wife To Death In Delta by LadyD22(f): 4:30pm On Aug 07, 2022 |
buygala: Alright baby You're not selectively sentimental at all Take heart okay |
Crime / Re: How 5 ‘money Doublers’ Engaged Lady In Marathon Sex In Guise To Make Her Rich by LadyD22(f): 4:28pm On Aug 07, 2022 |
VeeVeeMyLuv: It wasn't mouth power for me , it was something stronger , we didn't talk for 5 minutes he didn't have the chance to brainwash me , what you're talking about is not something that can be effective in seconds , I'm talking about juju or charm , I've been hypnotized twice and the second one could've cost my life |
Crime / Re: Man Beats Pregnant Wife To Death In Delta by LadyD22(f): 1:09am On Aug 07, 2022 |
buygala: And how did she take it personally? she called him a wife beater , perhaps you didn't get to study grammar in school , so wife beater sounds plural to you , why not go and preach to the other men who generalise women as one ... Oh wait you can't preach what you don't know because you are one of them Evil knows no gender and that is why she directed her words to the culprit that did it , I wonder where you saw her saying 'only men do something like this or all men are like this ' it's always the hypocrites that think they're smart , in every corner on every thread there are more than one men preaching against the evilness of women , if you really believe evil knows no gender ,preach to them |
Crime / Re: How 5 ‘money Doublers’ Engaged Lady In Marathon Sex In Guise To Make Her Rich by LadyD22(f): 12:55am On Aug 07, 2022 |
dawnomike: Yes that's another angle If I wasn't hypnotized before , I wouldn't have believed it's possible , I offered my money to a stranger and let him walk away , when i realized myself , he was long gone |
Health / Re: 16-year-old Girl Commits Suicide Over Forced Marriage In Kano by LadyD22(f): 12:12am On Aug 07, 2022 |
Do wany: Can you not see? To men in Nigeria and universally women are properties or pets , they'll do anything to make sure it stays that way . Why? because , men are very scared of women , especially women who know that they're women , you have the power to create life , emotionally intelligent, you're more in tune with mother nature , you have powers in your body, and that is why when a woman manifest her dreams consistently and sincerely, it becomes reality and when she lays a curse on you you're totally fuuuuuckeeed, your religious leaders have brainwashed men to believe that women were created as Jara , a help meet and that women are inferior , weak and second class citizens, when in fact women have more spiritual powers than men , why do you think ritualist mostly demand for female body parts and why do think even your panties and your periods holds power that is used to create wealth for stupid ignorant people , women are stronger and more populated , so if we're destabilized , power remains in their favour all the preachers say noone comes before your husband and if your husband says kill yourself then pray to God to change his heart , like Moses changed Pharaoh's heart after God intentionally hardened it to prove a point , so romantic Only a new born baby would not know that this world thrives in misogyny and I'll be damned if I participated in this , but don't worry there are few men who are on our side , it is hard to be a man and not be misogynistic , men are like crabs in a basket , if one of them tries to escape , the others will claw him down , so when you find a man who respects you as a woman and an equal human being , have sense please While some don't even know that they're misogynistic , it's a bit sad but like I said I'm not participating in this , I'm on the brighter side of things and it stays that way Do have a good day 1 Like |
Nairaland / General / Re: How Important Is Sex Education? by LadyD22(f): 5:38pm On Aug 05, 2022 |
Fmghewzy: I'll tag you when i do , I've been mad busy with school work , but I'll catch up |
Romance / Re: Vabbing Works! I Tried It On A Guy And He Asked Me To Be His Girlfriend! by LadyD22(f): 4:35pm On Aug 05, 2022 |
Maverick777: Sure |
Romance / Re: Vabbing Works! I Tried It On A Guy And He Asked Me To Be His Girlfriend! by LadyD22(f): 1:31pm On Aug 05, 2022 |
siofra: Babe what if you get an infection from that ? Putting it on your skin like that , did you check for cons or side effects , I really don't think its worth the hustle , If you're confident it works would you be happy that men are only attracted to you because they're Hot , well it's up to you do what you want |
Romance / Re: Vabbing Works! I Tried It On A Guy And He Asked Me To Be His Girlfriend! by LadyD22(f): 12:49am On Aug 05, 2022 |
siofra: How long have you been single? Why would anyone be happy that they had to resort to such unspeakable methods to capture simple attention and of all things to do that for , it is men , the same men of this generation that you are doing this for , same men on NL , Andrew Tate's descendants What's annoying is that you decided to post it here , there are little girls who's brain has not developed yet and they're not able to know good info from bad info , how would you feel if you found out the men around you are using their semen as perfume , grow up 12 Likes |
Romance / Re: My Husband Likes Suckling My Breast, I'm Afraid Of Saggy Boobs by LadyD22(f): 1:33am On Aug 04, 2022 |
LilianGeorge: That sounds like heaven to me , I don't know why you're worried about the boobs , there are people who's boobs sag naturally coz of the weight and size , it's not a death sentence , you just have to make do with what the universe has given to you as a woman 1 Like |
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