₦airaland Forum

Ziniora:
I have just one question for you, was your marriage arranged or did you pick your wife yourself?

If your marriage was arranged then get those that arranged it to talk to her, if you picked her yourself then you should have understood her nature and ɠotten ready to even sell your birthright to ensure her happiness.

So you think arranged marriage is some how the best in Nigeria system?

rhymesu28:
My people, I greet you all.

I am a married man with a child. We did our child's dedication few days ago online and my wife is angry that I should have spent more to entertain our neighbors after giving them soft drinks.

I have considered my pocket and sincerely with the present situation if I don't cut down my expenses it will be hard on us.

For almost two months now no salary. I have explained to her but she is not pleased with me.

How should I go about this matter please?

Women women ,na them day last last send man to proverty and last last they go pack their things japa to meet the new bidder

teegeealiu:
Not all businesses require stress bro. Like the one I do, anyone can help you manage it.

Which is -?

teegeealiu:
Let him collect the 5m and set up a business and with time, he'll be making more than 100k a month instead of waiting for over 4 years to make 5m on a 100k per month pay.

Every one keeps saying set up a business,bro everyone get e calling o,not everyone can handle the stress of business or the calling of business ,no be by mouth ,abi u never see who set up pure water business last last ,he close the place ,
Only the op knows his calling

godofuck231:
state of emergency, extreme times, extreme measures, the CSO of the state took a field decision after warnings

Wat does state of emergency relate to destroying hotel?

Jarus:
This is not correct.

The job market does not care. Where the job requirements specify 2:1 and above, a 2:1 grad of a private university will be shortlisted while the 2:2 grad of a federal public university will mot be shortlisted.

Exactly

mine3112:
If 1st class honor can't guarantee good job. What is the essence of getting it in the first place? I remembered vividly in my training school long time ago with a first class student in one of the private universities. We took these courses together and the rule was that if you fail a course you have an opportunity to write it again but you must pay a token and if you fail it again. It is bye bye. My people, this fellow failed the course twice and she was advised to leave the training school. The question that came to my mind was that how can someone graduated with a first class honor and failed a course twice. Please educate me as I can't believe it up till today.

Sometimes favoritizim comes to mind bro ,I have met countless people like dat ,urs isn't the first case I have heard ,,,,

I Know of a guy back then ,this dude e head na magnet but when asking for contributions to ideas how things can be don ,dude is always blank ,dude lives a ruff like ,even the most dullest lecturer doesn't like him ..I really don't know if he last last got a teaching job at my University till date ,,God helps him , because last time I check na street he day do

ModestGal:
Why are you answering him. Don't you know that jealousy make them talk that way. Even my stupid classmates would say I'm not brilliant, I'm just good at reading thats why I was the best graduating student. I was the youngest person in my class and also I did another 4years course alongside my bsc degree which I also graduated as one of the best. Some peoples brain is just too dull to understand what they are saying.
I regret ever being in my department with fools, non of them is actually more than average except one girl like that.
I wish I had the opportunity of being among good brains, and smart people. I can't even be friends with any of them since they think backward and those that are okay are full of jealousy or extremely extroverted, so I just packed well as I'm an introvert

If someone think I have empty brain after coming first, out of more than 1000students, and even being the youngest of them all, then that person must be out of his senses

Hope you are working in shell or Chevron or CBN

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Openbusiness:
1st class in Arabic......... kikikikikikikiki ........... No comment

Lol
First class in Arabic ,,,,,,,,na waoooo,,,,4 years for University to study Arabi ,that an aboki will happily teach you within 6 months

Steve0979:
Is first class degree a ticket to getting a job in Nigeria?

Let me open ur eyes to reality
If u are a first class product,while still in the University make ur lecturers your best friend ,wat did I say ,ur best friend, because they will determine if u will have job within the campus or not or within the department or not ,...

No matter ur grade ,don't be proud,even the devil doesn't like a proud man ,

And lastly don't depend on your certificate
The world has changed

godofuck231:
when Nigerians meet with principled people and don't have the chance to misbehave, they tag them wicked, rivers people will topple any weak government, if you don't do what is right you are gone, they are primitive despite their level of education, especially the ogonis, hey actually don't know what they need or will profit them in future, eleme people are stubborn, the law was clear, STAY AT HOME!

So why was the hotel destroyed

Ghostrye:
wicked. He could've locked the hotels down for a while it even used them as quarantine centers for this Corona shii but no, the evil in him had to mark attendance

Upto 70% of hotels were been used as isolation centers in UAE ,while one idiot is there demolishing a hotel or a motel ,,just because of political reasons ,,

AFRICA WILL STILL BE BACKWARDS IN THE NEXT 10YEARS TO COME

no be cause but with the way they are reasoning it's doesn't signify a brain that's is developing

Liliantalks:
begging a man ? While he’s misbehaving? No that’s foolishness to me

The world has changed when it comes to relationship ,men or guys invest in a lady and everything goes down the drain all in the name of we want to copy Western life style ,it's really pittyfull because the lady never added anything valuable to the relationship,,..

The world has really changed mostly Africa

true2home:
Room Self Contain... Toilet n Bathroom, Kitchenette and Wall Mounted Dresser...…N1.7M

How many rooms bro

telim:
10 self con with all accessories e.g. wC, shower, kitchen cabinet, borehole, wordrope fully fenced with concrete floor and two over head tank cost me 14 million plus including the cost of land. That was when naira was between 350 to 370 few months ago.

Wow u try ,,I have a plan already with available land at place,,I am still looking for a well arrange self contain setting I can make use of ,,,not the old style ,,,

Liliantalks:
foolishness is what I call that , plain foolish stupidity

Na stupidity they make brain most times,,,,
U wan make man run out ring and carry u straight to alter abi

When there isn't any investment u have made in the relationship not even money investment but time ,,.. ...na foolishness don make many relationship last unlike ur brain wise Sense

Drizzy5001:
2 rooms , with kitchen, packing store,1toilet

Okay

tonididdy:
If a self contained is 1room, kitchen and toilet... It cost app 800k to finishing. Note you this particular structure I quoted was decked not roofed

How much does it cost to deck a self contain?

Drizzy5001:
Its cost my elder brother 1.5 million .. he just completed his own last December

How many rooms ,is it a self contain

gbagyiza:
Pls don't mislead him, 500k or less can not build a self-contain or a room flat for him. Even the soakaway, the roofing, ceiling n doors don finish that money.

Wat I don't understand most of u is ,are u going to build individual sockaway ,,,for a self contain ,,,it's strange

Nigeriahomebiz:
Mine cost me 2.6 million to build.

It is 1 bedroom flat with wardrobe, 2 toilets, 1 kitchen with fence 1.6 meters and barb wires above fence

Small parking space for my car

2 gates and little space for water reservoir.

Location is Lugbe in Abuja.

Can you help us with pictures please

GeneralPula:
Try and huzzle more and round it up to 3 bedroom. A self contain isn’t that convenient to live in oo or you won’t be having visitors..?

Life na stage by stage ,,,abi u want him to start an elephant project?

thymm:
please help with pictures

I need pictures too

Slawormir:
Damnnnnn niggarrr
Isoright

Bros Op if you never chop belle full nor start wetin you nor go fit finish
To build house nor be moi moi
except say you want build a low budget asss building

Na so i start one last year because say i dey see small small boys dey build mansion for our area for sapele road, Benin city
As i start am na there i realize what have put my hand into
Initially i wanted a metro tiles roof and parafet abi na parapet
But as i begin buy steel rod and cement

So na Edo boy u be ,,,for sapele road ....?

telim:
A room self con apartment with wc, shower, kitchen cabinet, warddrope, tiling of the room, kitchen and toilet will cost you about a million naira. Few months. Building a self con with such standard now will cost you even more due to the shitty current value of naira.

For how many rooms? I also have interest

Unemadu:
Nigerians are smart and exposed like you rightly said but tradition and culture keeps most marriages in check. Now the west gives women the freedom to do as they like unlike in Nigeria where stigma is attached to a divorcee and single mama.

Exactly .....na culture still day pin down many 9ja ladies for marriage else ,na more of single parenting go day more

Eniolakiite:
Yes

Many Nigerians are embracing the baby daddy and mama thing more

If anyone has observed, Nigerians tend to copy whatever America is doing in most things.

And one thing I have noticed about things we copy from oyibo is that we tend to over do .........

Just watch the moment 9ja govt gives women power ,every day on the news u will hear of how a 9ja woman gun down the husband for cheating

Kobojunkie:
You will find the same is true in Nigeria as well.

Depending on who you go marry ,

I just tell guys camp woman for hux make she born ,if it will take u 8 years before una do marriage ,do am like dat ,women way stay with guy even for am before they con finally go church go do marriage,I noticed say na them they humble pass .........yes they have invested their time ,along with years of courtship with the guy ,even when the guy day mess up ,day go talk am out and many go even day beg u like say na them wrong the guy

armyofone:
Hmmmm
Not the right thing to do. Life is a game of chance. Bring her over, let her get the education and enlightenment that will help her hustle. Let your kids grow up with mom and dad. If the marriage turns sour, accept it as "life happens "
But don't just give up - humble yourself and do wip.

TIP: Teamwork and humility.

My dear if as u take write am na so life be ,e for good ,I don see Watin 60%of 9ja married ladies don use woman power take send their husband packing from hux way he buy with e money ,,,,snake doesn't sting a man twice in a life time o,,,,

Make she day 9ja ,,,na there teamwork day pass ,and for the humility,it's still better when she is base in 9ja ,,,,
She can get the best education here and the kids can also get the best education also , visit is a sure matter to come see me ,,,,


Let me as you a simple question,what do women really want ,,

EgunMogaji2:
I've advised this before, I got some folks triggered. I expect the same now too.

The first advice first is not to get married. There's no benefit to getting married in this day and age. Getting children out of wedlock is no longer a taboo. You can get a "Domestic Coordinator" to do the same functions that a "Wife" will do. One of the "Side Chicks" can take care of the other room. Build your life and business/career. Travel the world, learn new cultures. Don't turn yourself into an educator/financier of someones Daughter.

Second advice is NOT to take a Nigerian girl from here to the USA. Best advice is to provide for her here. This is what got the Nazi Feministas triggered last time.

As for me I'm running away from this thread because they'll come for their father as usual

My brother u don talk am finish o ...

The money u will waste sponsoring her over sea use am invest make she day watch the business with ur kids around her,,,she can come over to over see ,for a visit but to stay ,u go trigger expenses

ednut1:
you see stupidity. They later come home to marry one amaka or lolade. Who will come over and taste freedom and the favorable laws there. Den he begins to lament

I tell guys outside 9ja ,bring ur wife over to live with you in oversee is a waste of time ,if she don first day into Money before atleast u already know the type of person she is because like the general saying ,na when man get money u go know their Tru character ,
. The money u will spend while over see ,y don't they invest it home and the woman watches over the investment and can meet the husband every 4 months for a visit ,,,,u can even bring the kids along ,they have the better chance of attending the best school in 9ja , money day ,,,


The success of a man after marriage depends on the type of woman he marry o.........


Who sex don help when money no day ,,,

emae009:
it'll end in tears...

Yeah it will ,,,,,
It's just a pity