₦airaland Forum

maiyee:
well said, you are living with your "heavily" pregnant sister and you cannot assist her with most of the house chores if not all.
Your conscience should tell you to relieve her of work as she is feeding, housing and taking care of you... What are you contributing?
How do you visit someone older than you and still be waiting to be told to getup early and clean, SMH

some people just need to stay on their own and see how life is or how life is so difficulty ,op will not know now untill ,she rents her apartment ,pay bills such as electricity,food ,water and some other bills and a cousin comes to visit her for 1month
am sure ,op will be the one asking"when are you going back "

Adunny07:
Please I just really need someone to talk to about this and I will like your candid advise..

So since my older sister got married I always come to her house and spend few weeks or months and go back. Al·through my university days, whenever school is not in session I always come down here to spend time with her and her husband.

Truth be told the husband is a very nice man and has helped me always financially, anytime I come here once my sister welcomes me the first day like this, from the second day she leaves all her house chores for me, I mean everything and she just relaxes. At times I get really tired and don't even feel like doing those chores but because most times when I come visiting she is heavy ( pregnant) so most times I just help her...

Thing is my sister doesn't appreciate all my effort, most times she complains self its the hubby that tells her that I am hardworking and at least she should give me credit for all I do.

Now the reason why am writing this is because am done with service (NYSC) and as it is its like I have to stay in her house because the state where she stays has more job opportunities compared to where our parents live... She stays in Abuja...I have been down with malaria for few days now and I have been on treatment, just because I can't do certain house chores because am not too strong my sis started complaining saying I can't be living in her house and be waking up whenever i like... Mind you I was always the first that wakes up when I wasn't sick, in fact I will wash the dishes, sweep, mop daily, cook food, bath her children and all those things.

The only thing she does is to bath her youngest baby, but now because for these few days she has been doing those work I do daily she is already saying she can't tolerate me sleeping and not waking up on time.

My question is this, does she have the right to be so angry at me because she is doing her house chores? I feel its her house and so she doing her house chores herself shouldn't be a problem since am not too strong to help her do it. She herself just sweep and doesn't mop, but she expects me to sweep and mop everyday.

Should i just go back to my parents house and get a job there? Me renting my own house is not an option because am a lady and am just 22...

Please i need you guys advice, what can I do?

my dear ,just do all u can do ,,,
my father always told me and my siblings ,when ever you visit anyone be it your blood be ready to help them maintain their home ,if you know you can't do anything for them when you visit them ,then better sit down in your house and only call them in phone,,that is why I and my siblings have refused to visit or spend More than 24hours in a relative house to avoid storyline that touch the heart.

olaric:
EFCC trying to claim glory. This guy was right under your nose for a very long time but you guys acted like you didn't know he was living like a king while no verifiable source of livelihood could be linked to him.

that dude has not been to Nigeria for along time ,

X0012:
Everybody should just look for money and install CCTV. Who knows, It might just save your life one day.

that's the plain truth

EzzyCarter:
The main prayer is May we not jam agbako . No matter how careful one is, na God fit save person. Imagine bringing her over in the afternoon and something happens to her. Although OP definitely has a point. Bringing a girl to pass the night in times like this is high risk

it was back in the University I tried such ,after graduation I made up my mind not to do such ,it's just too risky ,very very risky ,
unless I am engaged to the lady , atleast her parents know her where about ,

posting your dog pics in white and black ,so nobody knows the actual color of wat they are buying but keep pricing ,I assume you are first of all not interested in selling Just want to know how much your dog worth ,

[quote author=Poloyanabo2 post=90727795]Long awaited move, he should join PDP where he has been long sought after.
Afterall Politics is a game of interest.[/quote
all obaseki need to do ,is to give pdp full support with something as return,it could be a special sit after election,that's all no course for alarm

Exxoonty:
I don't understand why he's defending himself

I tire o
he don day shame ,
sometimes we care too much about people decision about how we live our life ,
you are healed no need to start defending yourself,,,

some people worship snake , cow, tortoise and so many other stuff ,just practise wat ever you feel will save you

Enculer:
Guys please do not marry into a poor home

u don talk am finish baba,you will turn to their messahia

BABANGBALI:
Rubbish! Nonsense. Is your husband your family's ATM? Some families and their children no get shame. Imagine how your parents sold you out like a slave to your husband. Poverty na curse walahi. If i be your husband, any time I fok you and you no give me better ringtones make everybody for our street dey hear or you ?. come before I come, na die be your name that day. You people are the main reason Nigerian men die young. Vickyrotex abi kini mo wi?

10/10

chukzyfcbb:
na straw Dem put for inside that man body, Dem no go stop until Dem suck all I'm blood finish.

lol

chukzyfcbb:
I know it happens, that's why I am saying may I never fall into such family.

it's things like these that make mehn not to go past age 55 in Nigeria coz they carry too much burden on them that thier body system fails quickly

yes na ,I have never had an Igbo lady as a girlfriend and I don't even plan to ,
most Igbo lady escape with their said boyfriend to a new destination to avoid these crazy Bride price and many don't go back home for ever

Clinton207:
this is so surprising !

wait how much did the your said brother contribute in helping your husband pay/meet your family demand for marrying you?
my friend your brother is still a boy and not ripe for marriage, he should focus on becoming a better man!

abi you should be asking how much the younger brother added to the Bride price list ,it seems most Nigeria are ignorant of how Igbo tradition plays ,....try make friends with Igbo people then you will not their tradition better ,the op Bride price even small ,a family friend of my payed roughly 700k including the Ghana must go of wrappers and tubers of yam ,last last the marriage no even get head, everybody don Waka e seperate way

chukzyfcbb:
wait so I am supposed to be sending money to my wife's parents monthly and support my brother in-law wedding bride price if I am married.

Haha, even God know say I never dey mad to try this one.

May I never fall inside such family in Jesus name, amen!

Inukwa!

then u better not marry an Igbo lady ,else OYo na your own ,,
if I have not see this happening in my eyes I would have said the story is fabricated but it is not ,it is happening ,

thorpido:
Well your husband does not have a responsibility to send money monthly to your parents.He could but he is not obligated to.
Your husband also does not have an obligation to contribute to your brother's wedding.It is your own obligation as the sister.He could do that however as an inlaw.
I guess the problem with your husband is that your family did not treat him well when he wanted to marry you because of the list he was given.
You both need counsel from wise elders.

my brother ,that's Igbo tradition o,
my relative who married from that side is currently looking like a pencil,may God give that man long life

my uncle now pays school fees for the wife younger sister
my uncle now contribute to every occasion that takes place in the wife's family (Igbo)
infact my uncle first child name is also an Igbo name.
and I also believe the Bride price my uncle payed is also equivalent to the op Bride price

it's so unbelievably ,after collection of huge amount of money from you son in-law to be ,few months later you are still asking him to contribute for another occasion,some human being no get conscience oo

igbo people fear them oo,,,who no go know know

friday2011:
With this discrepancy in certificates...

PDP should not invite him... If not, the same issues raised now will be used against him if he eventually win the election...

What I think he should do now, if at all he want to pull oshiomole down, he should silently work to ensure another party win the election come September.

and quietly be the back bone of the next governor for the other party , obaseki is really trying in Edo state

wonder233:
Yoruba spineless stooges will be having multiple orgasms over this right now.
Watch how they will flood this thread in pure glee...
I'm proudly Edo, we pay no obeisance to godfathers, we fight them, win or lose, we fight.
Oshiomhole fought against godfathers, Obaseki is doing same.
Same way Oshiomhole eventually triumphed then, same way Obaseki will eventually triumph.

I am also from Edo state ,to me obaseki is trying ,I see no wrong in his govt for the past 2 years ,if politics is been played like this continusly ,we still have a long way to go in Africa

sassysure:
Sometimes building house for rent isn't the best option

but sometimes it's important to bring in a business that brings in either a monthly income or yearly income to your household ,not waiting for one over night 1million naira to click

Dpsychologist:
Very true.
I knw of a tenant that broke the tiles before he left. Is it doing it as a form of anger or what? ,that i don't know

some of them pound pounded yam inside the hux ,I have seen a lot do that

Carchoice:
The mistake you’ll ever make in life is fighting uncles/aunties over your late fathers property. It’s not a lost battle but it’s a waste of time and resources to me.


Leave them to do their thing. It doesn’t mean you are a weakling or scared but don’t fight over property’s with them. Just don’t do it.

Surprise them on the date of the burial by showing up to pay your last respect or better still you can shun it. Your father is dead already.

Don’t fight over property o!!! If they want to take it by force. Leave it for them and work for your own. You can always do more with the life ahead of you.

Exactly,he should work for his own property instead of fighting over his dad property,,,

weareok:
I fit get your contact

Send me pm

lekki1444:
bro all this one na talk, 2 million dollars she can buy 40 houses in the south at 50,000 dollars each and just retire and be collecting 40 rents. its not complicated

Easier said than do ,am not sure u understand how their housing system works ,I believe you know it is not like Nigeria housing system
All in all still go school ,to remove mental slavery from the brain

AbooNasir:
Confam! AAU aka blood [money] suking town, aka ekposgidi!!! Who no go no know....... Plenty time wey man gats enter sku with empty belle, sometimes u go leave hostel for SKU/NFA just to see if u go see person buy u chow,las las no 1wan buy u chow except Megasea!! Trekking from school gate to nfa to and fro was a daily basis exercise with ur well ironed starched shirt.......we go dey alright,all on God

Nfa don shot down long before I graduate self ,
Thank God say belle no be show glass o if not ,,all na packaging ,,even the babes too day form packaging ,,na another stage of life we day so oooo,,,,we go still make am

weareok:
No 200l collegian

Naso ,,,na our future doctor you be o...
Na around there my accomodation day before o,ujulee,,,
Man I miss aau like mad

lekki1444:
what happened while overseas is that they got broke and education brings money overseas. but she already got 2 million she dont need college

If u lack business ideas , because I know people like you will be shouting,I go do business with the money ,bro if u lack business ideas /courage ,u will only end up spending millions of money over a business that will crash in front of your eyes,,
Go to school and fill your head with knowledge from different nationality and understand how 30 different individuals reason differently within a lecture hall because these are the same set of people you will eventually meet in the business world

lekki1444:
WHAT SHE GOING TO COLLEGE FOR IF SHE ALREADY GOT 2 MILLION ? COLLEGE IS A SCAM

U still day 9ja ,,dats y u still reason like dat ,,
I have friends who will still say na street day pay pass,but the money they step out of 9ja ,after a couple of years overseas ,they eventually come back to campus trying to collect their certificate ,wat do you think happened while overseas ?
No go school,sit down for hux

weareok:
Wow I be student of aau

Really ,,,u don graduate ?

proudevil:
By Monday Nigerians will be distracted by another news...

Lol
Na so the world they roll since decade ago
From corona to black life matters
Now na rape
Very soon God kws

SimeonOTC:
buhahhahaha

one thing is sure, and that is; those stuff dnt last forever..

Yeah ,it's part of life and it actually makes life interesting ,you have a lot of story to tell ,,

Kekereekun123:
Suffer dey this land. Wont lie i never sever before but i see people wey suffer for school. Some survived eating from my pot

Except for one of my guy way tell me say hunger day e belle
So I asked him to come over to eat ,I have ,jollof rice on the fire ,guy man reach my side food don ready o,,this funny course mate of my say y chicken no day food o,,,
Na 2 spoon this dude put for mouth o,
Since then I vow say me and this guy go meet again after graduation and na 10k meat I go make sure say he eat that day ,,,,

teemotee:
so many things ... I was so broke I entered a gutter to pick up torn fifty naira note that I saw

Na when man broke ,e eye day see the smallest gold for ground ,,lol
Hope say level don Change now boss

I slept in campus with empty stomach most days ,,and I keep asking myself wat next after graduation , because no hope ,I mean no hope at all ,back in campus,most times na 3k I take survive for 1month ,,,in side the 3k I go transport go campus ,life in Ambrose Alli University no be beans o,,,

But at this moment the story is different ,and one thing for sure that I have known about this life is forget about your present ,think about the future ,the future is Tomorrow ,babe turn me down like mad ,,na money day make love sweet .