₦airaland Forum

kingthreat:
Okoyes, very wicked exploitative Anambra people. Funny enough, else from Peter, Paul and Jude, there are other blood siblings they have. These three treat the others as inconsequential. Jude as the first son is a big asss.

That's one bad thing about money bro mostly in Africa ,if one side of the family get and the other no get ,my bro u go see segregation ....

I kw the type of family I come from and I already kw persons who are capable of that ,I tried as much as possible not to succeed from his angle

ramatintin:
who de stay village de know anything

I tire o,even my guys for Lagos Sabi erriga ,,,

Wizkid lyrics "2 seconds everything don burst o"
Erriga used that lyrics 4 years back
Erriga carry load for mouth abeg

wink2015:
THE HOUSE IS SMALL BUT CLASSY.

Congratulations to the WARRI BOY !

DELTA STATE NO DEY CARRY LAST !

My brother u wan build elephant project way go take you 6 years to complete? And to do maintenance to hell for you ....if you get housing project u will understand better,

Potch:
We should be careful of gender profiling and hasty generalisation. Nothing gladdens a man's heart than waking up every morning with your wife and children beside you. How do we raise a good family when husband and wife live thousand miles apart?

Many women are good and bringing them abroad will not only strengthen their husbands financially but also contribute to raising wonderful families. We have seen cases where husband loses his job shortly his wife arrives, and the wife continues to shoulder the responsibilities until the man is back on his feet. It is just that these days, we marry for wrong reasons, and top on the list is physical appearance.

No marriage is perfect but when lives are at stake, it is better to go separate ways.

in as much there are bad women out there ,there are also good women ,but the one's that are on the increase are the bad ones , taking the op case as a Case study am very sure the op has a good feelings of "when my wife comes to live overseas with me ,we can make a better future ,"but the said lady has a different motivate of when I get there my husband can't even touch my head again ,,,,no marriage is perfect but the question I will like to throw to you is will u sit and watch a woman because she is the mother of your kids ruin your career ,a life you have suffered to build over the years ........it seems you haven't come across men who live overseas and where forced to go back to 9ja after lossin their life savings to a woman who was bent on bring them down

igbowoman:
The worst of all is an insecure man especially a short ugly insecure man without money.

Last last last ,u think say u tall abi ......most girls like u na short guys una day end up with last last

Fathai:
Most ladies are in business and not in love. I dated a lady that was dating me and her ex together, thank God I quickly get to know. She is currently with her ex now. That is how notorious a lady can be.

Na God day save us from atomic bomb before we marry some ladies o

Snaagg:
Nobody's is forcing you into marriage in the first place.

Afterall it's your gender that cry yourselves to sleep every night, embarking on intense fasting and prayer for husbands + joining Facebook groups to encourage each other in your singleness/loneliness

Then you start giving boyfriends ultimatum on when they must propose to you. Hahahhaha!

Na only for Nairaland una get liver. Desperados.

I tire o

Amanee:
Ok

Nice reply

adecz:



Once you are doing well, envious
vultures will start circling around you..


What a way to die; likely an
inside job.

That is y the more u get richer the more u need to hide and limit your friends cycle by every possible means

Luckycharis:
bro am also in UAE and have already started looking for ways to move to europe..would really love to get in touch with u,pls kindly check you pm..
for those who dont know about UAE the hustle is real it takes lots of determination to come here,get wat u want and leave..

Bro am also in UAE ,I don't mind if u have the idea of this Europe trip ,the hustle in UAE is something else these days ,hope you don't mind if I pm you

Cadillac15:
Then destroy everything by yourself, let everyone start from zero.

Like a boss of mine always says: "Come follow me chop no say make you pursue me from my food"

If my plans and thoughts of you are for good and yet you stupidly want to show yourself, we will all go home and start afresh.

And no vex she go only marry another man for your front ,so better secure your own career first ,not every woman have shame mostly the ones who grew up in proverty ,day ready disgrace you for area

LinLinGentle:
Divorce has been filed. I got lucky as I was able to secure a restraining order when she messed up again and hit me daring me to do my worst. I called the police and made a proper case and she was arrested. She has been banned from the house for a month. The police advised me to talk to my lawyer and extend indefinitely if I want to. I hope to get this done ASAP. The law here does not only protect women but also protects innocent men. All you need is patience and wisdom. Thank you all for your ideas. Still several hurdles to cross but I am on the winning side for now.

Nice one bro ,u did the needful ,that serves her right,,abeg don't forget to advise your other 9ja brothers trying to make such mistake of going to bring their woman to the state o,,,,u are not the first to make such a mistake and I pray u should be the last ,,,,,

I keep telling guys out 9ja don't ever make the mistake of bring your woman to Yankees,,,it's better you send her over for a visit, school way u want make she go ,make she go d school for 9ja ,make she day 9ja they look your business ...thank God for him fighting for you

Tinyemeka:
Oh!

I'm just getting really depressed with all these posts. Honestly.

I also have an uncle who relocated back from L.A to the village. Now he's been running around looking for something steady to do. Wife seized the house in the US in addition to gaining sole custody of the kids. It's just so pathetic.

Have got a bit of friction myself and I'm supposed to send my wife to the UK to practise nursing. Now I no longer have the courage for that. What fvckin' shit is this?!

My brother use ur head o,I have seen and heard countless story of how wife's make their husband go homeless because of foreign laws that favours them ,make she do the nursing for 9ja that's my advice,if it's possible make she do the nursing for private University for 9ja use ur head o,so u don't end up up among those men who start regretting o

benzene00:
mumu

I'm sure you didn't read anything up there

Am very sure , that lady didn't read at all

Ndubuisipaul1:
At the age of 25 I was mocking a man that got married at the age of 33 I told him that he married too late. Now am 32 I don't even know when I will get married because of lack of money.

Many of our Nigerian girls are not married because ,we guys don't make money on time to marry them. Am 32 no girlfriend ( because I cannot sustain them ) and no plans of marriage , and you are blaming the ladies . Will tree marry them?

Meanwhile I am a professional photographer, and videographer.

That's is why you have to learn how to be patient with a guy who u kw is trying his best to make sure u are alright,,,I kw of countless girls dat turn guys down because e pocket no heavy or he no touchhhhh reach davido ,,

I kw of a girl who lost a 4 years relationship just because say the guy no day package well ,dress well ,,,

You ladies have to learn wat patient is and also teach your daughter the spirit of patient

thinkmoney:
OK, the truth is my reaction was more about the 'betrayal of snatching someone else's girlfriend', I don't really know the advice to give the guy. He has heard alot of opinions here, it's left for him now to consider the options and make the best decision as he is the one wearing the shoe

That's true,,

ademidedavid:
Yes, she has been listening to how most of her friends have travelled out and seeing them on social media, how they send things home and the others on instagram but are we now running a race? Not that we are doing so badly here in Nigeria.

When I see a lady that can't stay a minute without social media I run as far as my leg can take me , because these type of ladies will compare you with every James,Peter and Paul on the social media,, making life miserable for you

Lamanii22:
Exactly... What if he jazzed his way through... Women and covetousness... She just wanna throw her marriage away...

You think say women send ,,

She even try ooo,she day compare her husband with the ex ,if na me na dat day she go pack comot from my hux ,,

thinkmoney:
I am surprised at a lot of peoples advice and opinions here. There is nothing like betrayal in taking someone's else girlfriend. You only betray your friend or someone that trust you with/aboit something.
He wasn't even unfaithful as it wasn't someone else's wife he took.
I suspect that a lot of people that respond to issues here are 'smallies' that are just starting out in life. Or if they were adults, or married, they would have known their present spouse was most likely someone else's partner before. where can one find virgin in this age?
The bible understand the possible complications of doing things you should do in marriage while courting. There won't be talks of betrayals if one only have sex to someone he/she is married to not courting.
the point is, it's completely allowed and fair to take someone -that is not a family or friend-else's girlfriend or boyfriend.
My advice to the guy, is that he should sit down and analyse the whole situation honestly and seriously. he should consider if the womans reaction is a one of, if it doesn't affect her general and continuous behavior? If I were the guy, I might not even move away. I will take up the challenge and try be a good entrepreneur.

Bro in as much I respect your point of view,but not every battle man day stand to hold on ,some times there is wisdom by just moving on .
I am sure it will be more deadly when the woman makes him a laughing stock by his neighbors when they gradually find out op wife has been codedly visiting the ex ...

The best is op should just quickly pack out of the vicinity

extol1:
maybe he needs to be told to pack out from that vicinity so that him and his wife can have peace of mind if his wife is not seeing her ex

Yeah,he needs to leave the area

Guys fear ladies with big hips oooo

Otunla236:
I can't blame a man because of this issue but I blame a woman because of covetousness and she reap what she sow, this will be a lesson for all woman to learn how to endure.

My brother no woman wan endure ,even when they are single or married ,make op just double e hustle ,if things start to work well make he change location

extol1:
actually, the op was carried away by the lady speech then that she had a great sex but the wife needs to know that they can surpass her ex wealth if both of them work together

Wat I don't understand,wat is the op doing around a vicinity that your wife ex lives

Donclique:
This op believed in the saying 'over taking is allowed ', n now it has backfired. I can't laugh mbok.

That is wat I hate most collecting person girlfriend,,,hand way she take leave the formal guy ,is the same way she will leave you

bukatyne:
Up your sex skills (to keep scattering her brain) & be on the same financial level with her ex again.

Boss sex skill no win am for here ,,,he should double his hustle abeg

extol1:
I dislike the kind of your wife with passion. so because her ex is rich now does not mean you wouldn't be rich and for the fact her ex is rich now does not mean he can't be poor. did your wife know if her ex did charm to get what her ex is having. ladies should be careful of what they want. covetousness is killing your wife

Don't blame the wife ,the op never knew the type of lady he was marrying ,,,

DaddyOpe:
I got married to my wife 5 years ago. Before we got married, she dated a guy. We all stayed in the same area. I live here because it is close to my place of work. Her ex lives in the area. He does building contractor. While they were dating, I met my wife. I was able to convince her to date me. And since the guy was always travelling, I was able to get close to her. I think I won her finally after we had sex. Because that first day, I scattered her brain. She later left the guy. I proposed, she accepted and we got married.

I will say, at that time I got married to my wife, her ex and I were on the same level financially. But, recently, the guy has turned to something else. He does building for people overseas. People said the guy's work is good and he is always getting contracts. My wife said he had a 2.1 in Civil Engineering. He started selling cement. He is now a dangote cement distributor. He built a duplex at the junction of my street. He has 3 cars in the compound (he recently bought 1 car during this lockdown that people are saying no money oo). I and my wife do not have any car. I am still a tenant. We have to pass front of his house every day.

During this lockdown, my office has being delaying salaries. It has not being easy. I have had quarrels with my wife in the past but yesterday was the worst. During the quarrel, she said she regrets marrying me. That if she had ignored me and married her ex, she would have being living comfortably. I almost beat her up. Then she told me that this her ex paid her school fees in 300 and 400 level when she almost pulled out of school for lack of finance. She regrets paying him back by leaving him to marry me.

Since then, I have not being myself. I just created this account to express myself.

Poverty is a bastard,,,bro or boss which ever one u are , that statement should be a motivation to you to double your hustle ,a. Serious
I have vowed not take collect any female one Kobo in this life ,and if my 2 houses are not set on ground I aren't getting married

Walexdubia:
When Dem no dey flog pikin,if Dem dey flog pikin all these things no go dey happen.. example like homosexual,drug abuse,etc mtcheeew....
Even God said it that the Demon reside in the heart of children so u have to use cane to chase that demon away, imagine a child taking drug since 13yrs of age...

Even God knows I can't train a child outside 9ja

Olakunleyakub:
Same here bro. I think some men just like their family so much. Anyway the solution is to strike a balance between your siblings and the immediate family.

If your family help you blow ,I have no problem giving back to them but not when u are the only one doing better than them ,then it's a problem ,
Op husband should just establish the siblings that's the best he can do

ProfAmaben:
For your husband to say that you are turning him against his family means he's myopic in reasoning. Everyone should be smart to know that their family comes first. What if he loses his job or business goes bad, who would help him? I'm sure he hasn't even built his house, helping is good, not at your detriment

I always remember a statement that's says"be stingy with your money now so u can become a giver in future

Dobson43:



Let me guess you are the side guy.
You are just another guy who rushes to conclusion without enough solid evidence.
Because a woman cheats, does not mean all women are cheats and because a man is bad, doesn't mean all men are scum.


It's degrading to say that you got her from the streets, that speaks volumes about your person.
Just because you got her cheaply don't translate all NYSC corpers are sleazy and unfaithful.

Nysc or not ,it's all about home training and mind set,..my next door mate who is a lady has a guy in 9ja but still my friend day shine her punna every day for here ,,the 9ja guy calls steady ,but like I said na mind set ,the lady even day use the 9ja guy do dp and status but one quite guy man just day rough handle her for foreign land

DoubleEngine007:
The worst mistake of my life was to date a girl in the university..
Op I won't talk too much here,but all I know is that ,the girl wants to start manipulating you.. Use your head ..

University undergrad are mostly manipulative ,even while in campus back then ,I have met and sat with fellow colleagues who manipulate serious guys ,just because they want to follow their room mate advise who Know nothing about relationships