₦airaland Forum

maestroferddi:
Stop the cheap lies.

When it comes to tribalism, Yorubas have no match in Nigeria.

Just see what they are doing in Nigerian banking industry...

I would have let this comment slide waiting for the Yoruba people to respond to you, but it occurred to me that there may be more to your comment than meets the eye. What exactly are the Yoruba people doing in the banking industry?

Last time I checked, the CBN governor was an Igbo man. Diamond bank, Fidelity & Zenith are all owned by Igbo men.

As at today, any Igbo man can set up a bank, provided he can meet the CBN capitalisation requirements. So pray tell, what exactly is your point??

squaddy:
Oooh shut the hell up with your stupid lies. Ofe nmanu masking as igbo. Where in anioma are you from? Bloody Arrow!

Why the insult?? I was almost in tears when I read the guy's story. The guy shared his true-life experience with you and now you want to kill him for that Kai!

J12:
- Actually, of the three major tribes in Nigeria, Igbo's give less priority to tribal factors in relationship and marriage than the other two major tribes.
- Also, Of the three major tribes, igbos are the least likely to marry someone of their own tribe than the other two.

Hmmnnn...least likely?? Dunno about that.

J12:
Your argument or allegation that Igbos like to marry themselves is very false.

Er...you need to read through all the comments on this thread before jumping to this conclusion. Some folks from the South-east have actually concurred with the fact that they prefer to marry within their tribe for various reasons.

J12:
A traditional ruler in my village married an Edo woman(his only wife) in 1948, our people treated her with respect and love.
Nnamdi Azikiwe was first married to a white woman.

Many Igbos are married to people of foreign nationalities and cultures.
Igbo's marry everywhere, we're free spirited, we travel and emigrate alot. It is unlikely that we'll find someone from our tribe to get married to during our sojourns in foreign lands.

You have merely cited a few exceptions to the rule, and not the norm. Some folks marry foreigners to get their residency papers, not necessarily because they are in love, so please don't be quick to jump to conclusions by saying "Many Igbos are married to people of foreign nationalities and cultures." People from other cultures do the same thing, too.

Zik still came back home to marry an Igbo woman, named Flora Ogboegbunam who wedded Dr Nnamdi Azikiwe in 1936, when he was 32 years. They both had one daughter and three sons, amongst whom are Chukuma, a Diplomat and Chukuemeka, a businessman.

knowledgeable:
Complete rubbish: Marriages between Igbos and Yorubas are as high as ever. Marriages between Igbos and river line groups in the SS continues from generation to generation......

Substantiate this your statement here with facts and data that can be verified, oh! Because the reality we see around us every day does not appear to support this comment you made here....

Franchise21:
As an Anambrarian, lemme tell u da truth, u r not only entitled to marry an igbo gurl bt most tyms, d girl must also b an Anambrarian n not too far frm d guy's village. But as for me. I no care

Come here and collect a royal handshake for telling the truth, while others are still living in denial!!

aryzgreat:
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Continue to miss ur luck till u clock 40.

Anambra guys are d most caring guys. Ask Lola of p-square

Bros, P-Square did not marry Lola Omotayo while his mum was alive oh! The lady disagreed with his choice, despite the fact that Lola had 2 kids already for him. It was after the mum passed on, that he got married.

Ishilove:
'Clannishness is not restricted to a single tribe. It's a general thing.

The issue is dating a person you have no interest in marrying. Why date someone you can't envision a future with? If you know your folks won't accept people from a certain tribe then why date such people?? It is the height of callousness. You waste their time, resources and emotions etc and still end up dumping them.

It's like dating a non-Christian when you know your folks will not accept a non-Christian. That's wickedness.

And don't give me that 'love is blind' crap. The love of nowadays is wearing long range field lens.

Tribalism is part and parcel of our human relations. It's called 'sub-conscious ethnic identification'. While I don't support it, let's make life less complicated for ourselves. If you know your folks will not accept someone from a certain tribe, then try as much as possible not to bring sorrow on yourself and others. Nip it at the bud.

If you can't help the love, if the love has consumed the both of you completely then elope. Or marry without your parents approval/blessings, though I wouldn't advice this (I will not be held responsible for whatever kasala you encounter when you elope. O.Y.O ).

Well said!! True talk!

In fact that comment about "The issue is dating a person you have no interest in marrying. Why date someone you can't envision a future with? If you know your folks won't accept people from a certain tribe then why date such people?? It is the height of callousness. You waste their time, resources and emotions etc and still end up dumping them. It's like dating a non-Christian when you know your folks will not accept a non-Christian. That's wickedness....." is so authentic, that if this was a term paper, you would get an A-plus for it!

When you said "The love of nowadays is wearing long range field lens..." I started laughing, and haven't been able to stop since . Chai! I weak oh! LWKMD

sleekangel85:
A friend of mine has being dating a guy for some years now. She's not an Anambrarian. She's a very lovely lady,beautiful, kind, down to earth and she loves the guy so much.

I'm worried because the guy hasn't proposed and he is from Anambra state . I don't know if he'll eventually marry her because I've heard and I've seen a lot of people from Anambra state marrying from their tribe.

I need to know why they do that even when most times it's against their wish. What's your advice for her? Don't you think that the guy may eventually leave her for an Anambra Lady?

Thanks

He will NOT marry her. Tell her to move on....before it is too late!

casmirjohn:
whatsapp 08174452902 for pix

What are you hiding? Why can't you post pictures and prices of the property here?

FastShipping:
Brabus, what is the reason for Nigerians to be dying for casement windows? I can see you used sliding windows. I am not a fan of casement window for the fact that I have to stick my hand outside to pull my window in. I like awning and sliding windows. I have never for once seen a casement window in the U.S. I know some sliding windows come with large aluminium as against to the slim ones you used for your own windows. What determines the size of aluminium used for windows?

Nigerians like casement windows because the sliding windows limits the amount of breeze that gets into the house. The heat down here can be tough....

No price & no pictures...yet you expect us to take you seriously

Day11:
PICTURES ON REQUEST

You are not a serious marketer. Anyone with 60 million would definitely not waste time calling you, when other properties whose pictures and layouts are clearly displayed in this same website.

Come back in 6 months, you will not find any serious buyer with your current approach.

Ndjw:
call now

What stops you from posting the prices here in this thread?

Day11:
Lets Talk!

Talk about what? There are no pictures of the interior and exterior of the building, and no information on the kind of title that exists on the property.

Do you think anyone would be interested if these vital aspects are missing?

No picture?

obubani76:
Accepting enquiries

No price?

itstpia8:
if you study people who are not mixed, and compare them with people who are mixed, you'll notice the difference in demeanour/comportment as well as appearance.


The issue of transposing across cultures, or juxtaposing cultures, makes for some awkwardness when transferring between both, hence the obliqueness in relating with people of cross cultural heritage. This obliqueness is less pronounced when/if your social interaction is majorly with people who share the same background as you. Meaning you might not consciously notice you're different unless your social circle changes and you become a minority.




he didnt necessarily state an opinion, but rather his experiences. However, i agree his reality may be different from yours.





that depends, as i explained in the second part of this post.






its more than that, not necessarily because of environment alone but also heritage.






most likely they would, but in a different context from "home bred" ones (as opposed to foreign).

What are these differences in comportment, demeanour and appearance? Please be specific about the nature of these differences.

Secondly, you mentioned 'awkwardness'. I had to laugh. I have seen people who fall under the description you classified as 'original' that are still ill at ease and awkward within their ethnic communities , even though they are not mixed. It still boils down to the lack of familiarity with their culture, rather than anything else as stated earlier.

This same reason is often why some of those with dual-heritage would probably feel 'awkward', if they have not bothered to acquaint themselves properly with the dual cultures that make up their heritage.

We fit pay 2.7 million for this car? Pls advice. Where can I do the inspection?

mumumugu:
Soludo kept quiet when sanusi was exposing oceanic bank and intercontinental.

Now election is near,he is advocating for appointment indirectly.

Don't mind Soludo. His 'consolidation' experiment in the banking sector left many bankers without jobs and without homes.

May God forgive him..

How To Be a Nigerian, by Peter Enahoro

One Man, One Wife by TM Aluko

I Do Not Come To You By Chance, by Adaobi Tricia Nwaubani

Please provide an estimate for painting of a Nissan Xterra Jeep. thanks.

ChristyG:
yawnnnnnnnns,am bored with ur id1ocy.the same reason u think my opinion is irrelevant to you is d same way urs is useless to me,so u can write all d long epistles in d world,it still doesnt make u important son of a biatch.today is monday abeg,so save ur id1iocy for ur family.omo aja,alainironu oshi

Another loony on the loose! Someone please show her the way to 'Yaba left'!!

The venom in her mind will finish her off, if the bile in her heart does not kill her first.

tpiah01:
@laudate

I'm not referring to a crisis of identity but rather the fact that when you are half something, you can't be exactly the same as the original.

Two halves make a whole, true, but the nature of the whole is what I'm considering.

You can check the other thread on mixed heritage nigerians, the op there has an insight.

Sometimes you don't notice immediately especially if you have a large family setting, but at some point you do.

I don't think it is right to see people as objects who are 'half of this' and 'half of that.' Some folks classify certain people as 'original', simply because they are non-mixed. How strange. So are those with a dual heritage, 'fake?'

There are some people who believe that because a person is half of one culture, he cannot be a part of another culture. Why?? Unfortunately, I find this mindset among folks who see themselves as non-mixed or a 'whole'.

The person you cited who has a different view, is entitled to his own opinion. His reality is not my reality. So, I beg to differ.

As I stated before, if you are conversant or familiar with the traditions, language, culture, nuances, and ethos of BOTH cultures that make up your dual heritage, you will not feel like an outsider, in any of these cultures.

Afterall, those you refer to as 'original,' isn't it the fact that they have been brought up within a single culture they are familiar with, that makes them feel they are a so-called 'original?'

Even if their parents came from the same ethnic stock or culture, and such people were raised in a culture different from their parents' own, and were not schooled by their parents' in their indigenous culture, would they still be classified as an 'original?' by other folks within that same culture?

stagger:
The only way this business can really succeed is if the FG bans roadside filling of gas. Back then, I had to go to AP at Reclamation road in PH to do the filling of cylinders, then ferry them to my location.

Until the FG takes action, people will keep patronizing those fillers and those into home delivery will need to work extra hard to make it.

So I would find it hard to pay 40k for such a feasibility. All those Igbo traders making millions did not pay for such feasibility studies.

Gbam!! You hit the nail on the head, o jare! That 40k report is a bunch of crap.

Operational expenses are wrongly estimated and goverment taxes have not been factored in. The Techno Oil that he is referring to, has a Gas Plant along Lekki-Epe Expressway, that has been in existence for over 5 years, so when exactly did he write this report for them?

That company also has very few gas plants within the country and is unlikely to expand its retail gas operations soon, as it has not recouped the money it spent importing & distributing cylinders, last year.

Competition along the Lekki-Epe axis where their gas plant is located is very high, as over 8 gas plants are also in operation along that same road. There is a price war going on every week in that axis. The gas plants there are barely managing to break even.

See how the guy said it is the business model is exactly what is obtainable in New Zealand, Australia, UK and India.
so far, there are just two companies in Nigeria operating this model and they are in Abuja .. LWKMD!

ChristyG:
aja gbo,maa gbo lo,mi o raye oshi lati owo muniru bi ti e.dude get over urself,i dont even know u so why will it pain me?i told u earlier to shove it down ur throat,it has useless as nigeria itself.ko kan aiye

What a pity!! tsk, tsk...how come you suffer from such self-hatred??! hate is a poison oh, and from the volume reeking from your words, it shows you have gone round the bend. Eeyah! Now, take those words back and chew them slowly and shove them down your own slimy throat.

If the Yoruba insults you are spewing up there make you feel better....please go ahead. It says a lot about the kind of person you are...and the kind of bile that fills your soul! Hehehe!

There is an old proverb that says "It is better to keep silent and be thought a fool, than to speak up and remove all doubt" and your speech, has clearly portrayed you as one, going by the filth you posted here.

Grow up kid, and stop ranting! Otherwise someone will show you the way to Yaba left! You are an obvious candidate for the loony bin.

As I stated before, if being a Nigerian is a burden to you...burn your passport and become a refugee!!

ChristyG:
who gives a phuck about what ethnic group u come from,i asked a phucking question,u can shove d answer down ur throat,nobody is forcing u to reveal ur origin nigg*...i stand by opinion about all these mixed sh1t talk,nigerian my black a$$,mtcheeeeew

Haba! Na so di matter pain you reach??! Chai!!

Why are you throwing tantrums?! Why don't you grow up?

Your opinion isn't worth anything to me...so go and hug a transformer if it bothers you so much!

ChristyG:
nah,nothing like that,no ethnic group bears dat name or u are not proud of ur roots(very common with dose from inter tribal families)nigerian my @$$

Yes, there is no ethnic group that bears the name "Nigerian,' but disclosure of my ethnic group remains my prerogative. I know who I am and appreciate the dual heritage I have been blessed with, so why on earth do I need to publicise it or make a song and dance about it, to oblige you Will it add extra coins to your pocket or mine??

Sorry, I can't fall for your subtle gimmick. You sit behind a computer and have concluded based on one sentence that "u are not proud of ur roots(very common with dose from inter tribal families)" How myopic! Mstchew...spit

If you like you can be an Eritrean...it is your choice! If you don't like being a Nigerian, burn your passport..if you have one and become a refugee!!

ChristyG:
so what is ur own mix?

Hehehe....Nigerian!

tpiah01:
you have a very rosy view of mixed heritage people- not all are like that.

the ones who are, often find it difficult to fit in with the general environment and have less intuition about who their friends or enemies are, unlike the non-mixed ones who are able to quickly identify their surroundings and plan accordingly.

sometimes life is more than about just bringing out the guitar and playing lullabies.

Are you speaking from experience, or just generalising? For those who can't fit in, it may be due to the fact that they have a crisis of identity...which has little to do with having a mixed heritage, and more to do with knowing little or nothing about the culture they were born into, whether it is a single 'non-mixed' heritage or a mixed one! Those who find it difficult to 'fit in' into a particular culture are those who have lost touch with that particular ethnic culture, or have never learned anything about such cultures. If you are familiar with the language, customs, traditions and tenets of the different ethnic cultures that make up both sides of your dual heritage, why on earth would you not fit in?? I don't get it, oh!

I have seen this happen with Nigerian kids born in London to Nigerian parents who hailed from the same ethnic stock, but have done little to teach their kids about their local heritage, leaving them to grope in the dark, trying to decide if they are actually Nigerian or British!

I don't know if you have met kids with a mixed heritage who grew up in Nigeria and suffer from a crisis of identity. If you have, then it probably means that either one or both parents neglected to teach them about their dual heritage and forgot to encourage them to imbibe both cultures.

I have always been quite proud of my mixed heritage and I remember growing up with cousins with a similar mixed background. We would translate words or phrases into our second language leaving our 'non-mixed' cousins guessing, and nonplussed as we pulled different tricks on them...all in good fun! We were often struck by the differences and similarities that existed among both cultures! Respect for elders, for example, is common to all Nigerian cultures. It may be expressed in different ways, but it is well understood.

My take is this...if you have a mixed heritage, then by all means learn to assimilate both cultures and languages, as best as you can. If you however choose to assimilate one culture at the expense of the other, or choose to imbibe a dominant culture while jettisoning another, whose fault is that? Is it the fault of the culture or ethnic group you discarded? No. So why turn round to claim that a dual heritage is a disadvantage?

Chai! After 2 children she is still wearing a white wedding gown! Naija women!

No price? How can we buy your car? Your competitors have listed their price for similar models online, right from day one. This makes it easier to make a decision with ease!

Can 600 thousand naira fly for this car?