₦airaland Forum

Young03:
I have a nice NIKE sneakers to give out, size 42 but that's only if someone gives me what I want

MyNation:
I doubt the figure of this post.

Almost everyone knows Nigerian men of this generation are becoming more fatherly, caring, less abusive etc than before. While the ladies are becoming not so motherly like their mothers.

The truth is always bitter.

Fountainofyouth:
And men have not been horrible from time immemorial? See double standard, do your part by not fvcking the married women, same way some single women will never fvck married men.

Fyi0:
Stupid thing. Women have also become more bitchy, disrespectful, hoey etc than before.
Bitch

donbachi:
Thanks for ur write ups..but,i dont know if u've come across the pics making round on facebook.where a wife poured hot water on her husband...many of them are never ready to talk it out.some persons are just demons in human form,hidding under marriage to carry out their assignment.

ZIMDRILL:
i think ladies have found way to survive without depending on an abusive men

before it was society very looked down on divorce and many jobs where not female friendly

whereas now jobs are female friendly and also most african economies have forced women to supplement the hubby's salary therefore gave women the tunnel of light that she can survive on her own financially, therefore if the marriage is abusive she can leave the marriage

lagosminded:
Marriage is a sham. Our ladies now don’t want to suffer like their mothers. The more being a divorcee is no longer a stigma for women, the higher the divorce rate in Nigeria will be. Women are not blameless tho, they’ve perfected the act of “getting the ring”.

joepepsy:
How can you engage a bimbo in intelligent discussion.

Nature8:

Xisnin:
You wrote well but spoiled it with the bold. I know you are trying to sound balance but
we live in a perfect world and any sane person would expect some behavioral deviation from
any group you look at.

Aside from professional prostitutes and friends with benefit with clearly defined roles,
it is very difficult for a woman to offer only one value in a relationship even if she plans to.
Those that believe such have not sat down to think about it.

It is anti-women propaganda that a lot of women have sadly agreed with.

PrecisionFx:
Anyone saying that is Mad. It's just stereotyping.

I hope u are not a misguided feminist

Dizzyrascal:
I am a guy but i can boldly say that your sentiment is absolutely spot on....if I must shorten it down to one word, it would be: BRILLIANT...threads like yours remind me of why i still appreciate Nairaland...Kudos

Juliearth:
You deserve some accolades, sis. There is more to being a lady than the physical. Some men may wonder why its so hard to have a stable relationship.... This right here is it (for me). If you cannot arouse my intellect, then its not worth it.

alexola20:
I have met few beautiful girls in Migeria.But when I tried to engage them in meaningful conversations,they get tired,bored and a bit intimidated because some of them have nothing much upstairs.Lest I forget they were all university graduates.

Deepthoughts:
see,we have tried all the options you rightly listed above,but the results is always discouraging so we inevitably settled for the only option available which is the sex,the only subject be girls can discuss endlessly is latest Brazilian hairs,make up styles, fashion trends, who's dating who n super star wannabe infatuations,nothing meaningful so don't blame the guys for concentrating on akpako.

emmaodet:
It's all about have you ever advised her? Sit her down? Show her your plans and dreams? Show, show, advice ....... Blah blah blah
Whatever happens to women doing same to men.
Always receiving and receiving... Smh
Ehat happens to a lady sitting a man down to tell him her plans, how it's goin to affect the man positively, both targets and goals.
Always about you you and you..
And it is always the man's fault for a lady been lazy, not proactive or have her plans.
Too much entitlement mentality.
Franchang
Martinez39
Pansophist
Ubunja

pocohantas:
Nothing is wrong with a man U-33, but I will tell you the advantage of an above 33 man or what most ladies look out for in them (and older men in general)

1. Financial stability: I put this first because if you are old without money, one would wonder what you were doing in your youth.

2. Emotional maturity: The average woman is more emotionally mature than a guy her age. So, she has to look further to find a balance- MOST times. A guy has all the time to be stupid, even if he decides to be stupid for life, there will be a woman for him. Women have to get sense on time, she has a biological clock to watch and most men do not have that fix-it mentality.

3. Older guys are more chilled: Age, experience and more money to their pockets has taught them to take life jeje. They don't get angry unnecessarily over petty issues like younger guys who see everything as a bruise on their fragile egos.

4. They are more caring, maybe fascinated by your juvenile displays. Those things you will do and make the younger guy go all red-pilled, the older guy will tell you sorry, make you carry your wahala dey go.

5. They are most times not scared of looking weak or not in control. Unlike younger guys who seek validation of their fellow younglings, an older guys is a man all by himself. But don't mistake this for stupidity, he is very well watching and calculating.

6. If you really wanna tap into wealth of experience, then an older guy is your best bet. They witnessed Abacha's regime with clear eyes, they saw Yakubu miss that goal- he is like your History teacher. Also, his friends will most likely be his age group, some of their gfs would even be older than you- that is if you are really young. So, except you are a bimbo, you will be on your toes to upgrade, that way you don't look stupid at their hangouts . I can't say the same thing for younger guys who just sit around and talk about ASUU strike and their ex-gfs who are now single/lonely.

7. Oh! Their voice! It gets deeper and subtly assertive as they age. When they talk, they exude this confidence and masculinity. It isn't forced, read off a book or some alfa male code. You just can't miss it.

...etc

There are exceptions, but on the average, there is really no comparison. We get finer with age, all things being equal.