The thug named Fayose knows he'll be doomed If the General is elected the President come March. A former Ekiti House of Assembly member mentioned it in a conversation to me that Fayose knows he will be impeached if Jonathan doesnt wins, so he is giving everything to make sure he doesnt gets impeached or probably not in Kirikiri by the end of 2015

I remember burning Senior William's cupboard with his provisions because he collected my provisions. I remember stealing uniform... Well, my bad boy days didnt last because I had to be withdrawn to a private school when my dad noticed my new found attitude

missberrypop5:
lol, eiyah. Make una no vex o. E get as e be. Pls resend that message, i changed my email. That other one is dead.

ok! I'll do that soon.
Laykorn! Mama don return from exile.

Let me say right away that I was never originally a fan of Olamide because when I first listened to him, I thought his rap was too noisy and aggressive for my liking having already fallen in love with Dagrin's matured rap style. So it was only natural for me to keep comparing an Olamide with a Dagrin

this is my problem with that thug. You come up with useless noise and rubbish lyrics under the guise of being a street razo. Dagrin of blessed memory was more of the street than Olamide yet his lyrics was cool, sublime and there is always some sense in it. We miss you
Rest In Peace Dagrin!

missberrypop5:
lol, how are u?

Thank God all is well. Mummy! I dey vex for you o, you no gree reply my mail make you gimme your no since all this days. Your absence dey annoying o, we suppose report you to police for Ignoring your children on Nairaland and going to Nigeria for days or even weeks.
I'm good. How have you been ma'am?

mikporch:


But basket mouth is richer and more popular and he is not misbehaving

Is Basketmouth still funny to you

so sad. sometimes I wonder what people gain in such evil acts.
R I P Lady

In Buhari's first democratic tenure 2015-2019, he sent most corrupt politicians including loyalists to prison; some of the prominent names in Kirikiri include Jonathan, Sambo, Iweala, Patience, Tinubu, Atiku, Obasanjo et al. This enraged other... Ooooops! Wrong place.

chibwike:
what i do

we been dey look for our e-mummy missberrypop5, I come reason say she fit go her e-concubine place make we call you. Abeg help us call her If you get her contact.

Sunnybobo3:


Jonathan became acting president in February 2010. Try another spin.

Did you actually think he became President when UMY died? Constitutionally, the VP is the acting President in the abscence of the President.
Liar! Yar'adua's health situation worsen towards the end of 2008. He was flown out early 2009 and he died in May 2010. You can miscontrue history my brother.

laykorn:


Heheh. I swear I don't. We had the same problems. I and you.

Damn! You should probably get through to Chibwike then.

laykorn:


Yea, Layk. And wearisome too. I don't really. It makes me feel kinda silly too.

I believe you have her contact. Pls, Dont tell me otherwise.

Sunnybobo3:


For Prof. Osinbajo not to be able to calculate how long Jonathan has been in power, he has to present his First School Leaving Certificate.

Jonathan has been in power for 4 years and 9 months as president and 3 months as acting president.

Update: For the records and the benefit of those who didn't pass elementary mathematics; Goodluck Jonathan was sworn in as president on the 6th of May, 2010 following the death of Umaru Yaradua on the 5th of May, 2010;

May 2010 - May 2011 = 1 year
May 2011 - May 2012 = 1 year
May 2012 - May 2013 = 1 year
May 2013 - May 2014 = 1 year
May 2014 - Feb. 2015 = 9 months
TOTAL = 4 years & 9 months

Before then, he was acting president from February 2010.

For you to think he became the president when Yar'adua died is myopic. When Yar'adua was on in Life Support and down for over a year, Abeg, Who be acting President?

laykorn:

AMEN sir.

Bro! How far nao? Did you notice our e-mum missberrypop5 apparent absence? Its time like this I feel like I've been too trivial not to have gotten closer. I just hope all is well. Abeg call her If you get her no. Her absence is worrisome.

watching....

Blessed is the day Nairaland was born!
Blessed is the day I find this website!
Blessed is the day I stumbled upon this thread!
God bless Seun!
God Bless Babyosisi!
God Bless Bukatyne!
God Bless Moca!
God Bless EfemenaXY!
God Bless myself too!
And most of all, God Bless the Internet!
Thank God for Technology!

EfemenaXY:


This explains why you feel the way you do towards the opposite sex.

Societal view doesn't help much either as anything to do with abuse is usually shrouded in secrecy (cloak and dagger stuff). I honestly don't know what to say or advice to give as this is totally out of my depth. But I do agree with Babyosisi & Moca that facing this square on is the first step towards the healing process.

I don't know about confronting the lady who took advantage of you as a child, but I do think you should seek professional help on how to tackle this.

It is well, my brother.

I think I now see the clear picture and I am convinced its the cause. I never for once took it serious before now.
I also bottled everything and never mentioned it to my friends. I'm now ready to tackle it heads on.

I called my mum yesterday, I still find it difficult to tell her; I dont think I would ever tell her. I just asked about the lady and she found it strange. I dont think I would have the effrontery to confront her not even through a phone conversation but I'll just have to put it down a diary as Aunty Babyosisi advised.
There is this yoruba saying that "When God has shown you the source of your problem, it is no longer a problem". I'll just have to deal with it and seek Professional help.
I'm saying a Big Thank You sister!

babyosisi:


That is it
Subconsciously there is this dislike for women because of what this girl did and if you don't deal with it now and get married ,you won't treat that woman right.

One of the ways I advise ,if you still know where that woman is ,would be to find her and go face to face to tell her she hurt you when you were a helpless little boy but now you are grown and able to defend yourself and you will not allow what she did to you control you any longer.If you don't do it face to face,get a phone number and call and say everything you wanted to say.
Many people confess that this is therapeutic and freeing.
If you can't find her write a letter as it were to her ,expressing all the bottled in anger and what it has done to you and how you will not allow it control you anymore from this day forward.
If you are a Christian,you pray about it too ,forgive her and release it and healing will come.

I will start a thread someday on sexual abuse and dealing with sexual abuse and it's effect
Some insecurities and problems adults have stem from the pain of sexual abuse
Many promiscuous girls were sexually abused
Many women haters and misogynists were also sexually abused
Many women who have a problem committing were also sexually abused
It is a big problem in our society that nobody wants to talk about because of the shame

a step forward. Indeed, a problem shared is half-solved.
I dont know where she is, I dont think I can face her. I also dont have her contact but when I get to my parents neighborhood, I'll try to get her contact. I'll also see a psychologist and seek spiritual help too. Do inform me when you start the thread.

bukatyne, moca, babyosisi

I have to thank you sisters for your help. I should start coming around to this family section. I want to say an appreciable Thank You to y'all.
BTW, there is this amazing sister that once helped me on an issue but she no longer comes around here. I've tried to ask why but I guess she has made up her mind. Ivynwa is the username. She is one woman I admire so much for her help, guidance and advice.

moca:

Was scanning tru and saw this.

Men and sweeping things under the carpet as nothing
Hey guy,what contol all our actions on earth is d mind.
As a kid, ur mind is supposed to see no evil cos it will forever store away in ur memory.
U might decide to blank it off but it will control u without ur consent.

That was why I was not comfy when a lady here said the daughter always wipe her eyes whenever she is crying.

Google the mental capability of a child and u will see that what u r and will be is moulded when u r a kid.

Ahhhh! I didnt see it as an issue but I'm beginning to think its the real picture. Thanks a lot.

babyosisi:


What exactly was it
I believe this is the source of the problem

babyosisi:


What exactly was it
I believe this is the source of the problem

Its not really something I like to talk about but Ill try to talk a little on it.
I remember it happened in 2002. My Dad used to work in the Ministry of Education back then. He simultaneously holds the post of an interim Headmaster in a private school -- which I was a Primary5 pupil of as at the time -- so he was very busy.
Sometimes in August, my mum gave birth. I recall the baby's health was a cause to worry so she was still in the hospital for like 13days. Myself and my brother would stay with our neighbor till my Dad returns late at night.
One of those days, our neighbor's daughter --who usually picks us from school and I can be sure of being atleast 8 years older than I am -- bullied me to off my cloth, massage her breast, she played with my willy for a while such that it became painful and I was crying but she was someone I fear so much and my she could report me to my dad of obstinacy.
It didnt take long to brush the memory aside but my mum and siblings know I resent her so much that If she comes around, I always find excuses not to come in contact with her or to greet her. Its something I rarely remember, sometimes not in a year so I dont see it to be a problem since its not an obsession.
BTW, I think this is the first time I'm telling someone about this.

OmoAlata1:


I really believe that abuse is what affecting you right now subconsciously. I believe when you seek psychological help for it, you will see big changes in you. Abuse is a horrible thing and it can destroy if not dealt with properly.

That feeling when someone think there is a problem where you think there is none. Two people cannot be wrong then. I guess I'll just have to seek psychological help from an expert then. Thanks anyway

OmoAlata1:


I really believe that abuse is what affecting you right now subconsciously. I believe when you seek psychological help for it, you will see big changes in you. Abuse is a horrible thing and it can destroy if not dealt with properly.

Two people cannot be wrong then. I guess I'll just have to seek psychological help from an expert then. Thanks

babyosisi:


This is certainly not normal.
Did you witness abuse as a kid?
Was your father in your life?
Do you have an overbearing mother?

Abuse -- Yes, but I still position it in a fringe to this
Father -- Yes, a good one.
overbearing Mother -- sometimes, but she isnt a problem.

bukatyne:


You might never forget, but the remembrance would cause no pain...

@bold: It is important to go the route of either one you are comfortable with

Ok! Thanks ma'am.

Babyosisi

Aunty! You no gree reply my mention abi

bukatyne:


When you see her, the memory haunts you?

Then it is more of suppressed than forgotten

You need healing... Spiritual or psychological (depending on the one you favor)

Spiritual: Draw closer to God and tell Him to heal you... (talk to him as friend to friend...talk not 'traditional prayer style')
Psychological: talk to a psychologist..

It is well

how do you forget such things? My sister, its impossible to forget naa. The last time I saw her was in 2009 which is a while now. There is this wakward friction between us. I just avoided her as much as possible and I made sure we had nothing to do together but its not like that 'haunt' you know. I'm still not convinced its a spiritual or psychological ish.

bukatyne:


Sure you did not suppress that pain/experience and unconsciously acting on it?

I think you have a point but I still dont get something here. If my brain serves me right, It was an awful experience; with all sort of dirty things but No penetration. I'm a very highly-strung person but I get over things in an unbelievably fast manner. Except I see her again, that memory rarely hunts me. I'm not convinced that its the cause but I'm giving it a benefit of doubt. What do you think I should do then?

bukatyne:


Did you have an awful experience with women/people in the past?

Were you abused? Betrayed?

I think I'm starting to see a better picture but I dont think its still anyhow related. Yeah! Once abused by a neighbor about 10 years older but its been over 12 years now. I've gotten over that a long time ago and I dont even remember till this very moment you mentioned it.
I dont think its the cause.

Wealthyone:
HOTFL i.e Hold On Till Father Leaves.

Damn! How did you get that

bukatyne:


How was your parent's/people marriage around you?

Uh! nothing really bad. They often have little quarrel that result from arguments but nothing ever serious. It doesnt last long and usually my Dad jokingly mentions it to us.

meforyou1:
That's typical yorubas for u. Back bitters. Give the poor boy job and security, they couldn't. Yet they want to provide job and security for 170 million nigerians

Must you always show your talent everywhere you go?
Ode oshi