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ModestGal:
Where is your coherence and cohesion? What does male role model has to do with women empowering themselves? No, you are the one that is WEAK, you feel threatened by an EMPOWERED WOMAN, you are the type that would be emotionally disturbed when your woman is doing well, man!! you are not Healthy, see a psychologist. You will start showing attitude when your woman's business is doing very well, because you are so insecured.

Let me tell you what REAL MEN DO, they EMPOWER their WOMAN and they take JOY in such EMPOWERMENT. They encourage their women and support them to reach STARS and you both support one another.
And again, I come from families of empowered women with healthy husbands who are motivated to work harder with their wives doing well to make their families a SWEET ONE.

Go to UI, and you will see many men with their women as proffesors, a prof once told us that he strived harder when his wife became a professor when he was still a READER and he LOVES his wife to HEAVEN. Those are real MEN, not men that would be injured when the wives are doing well and turn it into an unhealthy competition.

Your type doesn't deserve a hardworking woman, go and marry your fellow who would spent night and day watching ZEE WORLD and other TELENOVELAS doing NOTHING,. But the problem is that you still won't be satisfied as you will still complain bitterly, this is why I feel PITY for ladies who fall for your LIES and PROMISES of heaven and Earth and they agree to be Jobless when your salary/Earning is not more than a 100k.

You are simply a disease to an hardworking woman, so, see a psychologist before you hurt that beautiful lady

when did this thread turn to empowering women . What kind of painment is this one

ModestGal:
Lol, there's no where I mentioned the bolded, all I was saying is for ladies to be empowered and not 100% rely on men for sustainance. And if you like look for a rich man to provide all your needs but make sure you are empowered as a woman. But I don't know what is paining you in my post because you must be so PAINED and ANGRY to have resorted to the word ''STUPID'' when I also never knew your existence prior quoting me.
Lol, where you got it wrong is this **My believe is that, A man should get my back, and Me too have his back** and nothing is wrong in that, it is called LOVE
That is marriage, that is love, friends should get each others back, families should get each others back. Maybe if we are trying to get each others back, poverty would reduce in our society, not some people relying solely on others for their living existence

And my point is still clear, SELF DEPENDENCY IS NOT A CRIME and it helps during emergencies where the hubby might not be available.

And also, if you fall into the categories of Parasites, you should brace up your self esteem and empower yourself

no one is saying women shouldn’t be empowered madam. U rather date a man with no investment structure for ur kids with a cute face ? Then think u made the best decision for ur kids .. yes if conditions be as e be , Fine . But don’t make it seem financially stability isn’t most relevant in building a stable functioning home .

DrFunmisticGlow:
So you want a vulnerable, heavy pregnant woman to be working?

Who raised these caliber of people?

u can only imagine

ZINIBANKS:
What you girls don't know is that there's nothing that can be compared to self independent let's leave all this my boyfriend didn't buy me this he didn't buy me that when you get married who will cater for your parents is it your husband too?
Come to think of it for instance you as a woman you want to get something for your parents and you ask your husband for it even it will sound somehow while saying it or maybe he even told you he don't have money now so you will wait until when he have money
But when you yourself is well ok you will do what you want any given time
I don't know why you girls keep having this entitlement mentally you all want a rich man for marriage over 60% of some of you will marry a poor man so tell me in that type of marriage How will you cope when you don't have any resourceful income tell me

I don’t know why u men assume , because a woman wants a financial stable man she’s broke or hv nothing doing , women getting such nko.

Godoverevery:
But you so unintelligent to know you talking about the man only....is it a crime for the woman work and contribute financially if he is a bus driver...... with all this English u are still dull to reality of life.
it takes two hands rubbing each other to make it clean.

if the man isn't earning enough get a job and support him....some women marry D's bus driver, bike rider and they are living fine.

this should go to women who can date someone who isn’t financially balance , so u can encourage them .. she has stated her standards and God will grant it . Same way many girls met a man who’s already financially stable who married them . So u don’t hv to force stuffs on people .

The fact a man is poor doesn’t make him a responsible man or less of a fuckboy even

Rgade:
You make it sound like an achievement. Buying things for yourself.

yes it is ,, cause many girl don’t do as much as I do for myself . 90% of girl have a man taking care of their bills

ModestGal:
**I realized when u set ur standards on the Man U want physically , financially and otherwise and stand by it , u met better options**

Well, My mention of you was to reinforce your point where you mentioned physically, very clear. And you yourself wrote physically even before you wrote financially.
Then she quoted me telling me what to do and that my preference is wrong, which she clearly stated in the next post she quoted me, and here you are telling me my starndard is not more than hers as if I was the one trying to force things down her throat when I don't even care if shes a gold digger or a living thing

lol just the same way u reinforce the physically part, that’s how was reinforcing the financially part . It was never a competition of wisest preference. She just mentioned you

ModestGal:
Well, if you read well, you will see that she quoted me first and I wasn't aware of her existence prior that. I only stated my preference, she could just say hers and move on, in this case, she was the one forcing her opinion on mine by telling me what to take as my first preference.
You should also please stop quoting me, not by force to take anything I said. Bye

it wasn’t that way , she only stated hers but decided to mention to you on it since u mentioned ur standard also .

jawalis:
Fool. Why complain when you are financially stable by yourself? Stay there and be looking fits msn that will buy you X-MAX, CAR and throw you money at any little thing. Men are wiser now. Even if I have the money, I’ll spend on my mother and sisters rather than spending on one silly entitled b!tch like you.
When you know you are ok with your mother. Why looking out for men who will shoulder your bill? Can’t you give your boyfriend money if you know he doesn’t have since you are not broke like you claimed. Hoe! So you now realized love can not sustain relationship and you are running. If you like go and woo Drake. He won’t spend on you like you are expecting. Wake up and stop dreaming

those are the kind of men I Wish for your sisters

ModestGal:
Lol, I'm sorry, but people like you end up in depression. Saying children matter most doesn't mean dating irresponsible people, it means it comes first in the scale of preference.
I believe in diversification of source of happiness and you are wrong to think I would be a bad mother in-law, are you in this century girl? I'm not even wishing to have a male child.
Anyway, I pray with your mentality, you don't end in depression after you realize that humans can not be totally relied on but God. Many women today thought they married a responsible man until they get the shock of their lives and are noe in psychiatric hospitals, you can help yourself with google girl and you will read lots of stories.
People like you stay in an abusive marriage because thats only where you think your happiness can come from, and you lie you are dating the best man, the best husband bla bla bla. I know stories of more than 20women like that

Anyway, the boy is in your court, depression is real, and if you are not healthy, you won't take care of your children.

Another thing is learn to respect other people's opinion, and don't think you can force yours on anyone, kindly stop quoting me, give your opinion and leave
Bye Felicia

she stated her standard , it doesn’t hv to be yours also ,,, u are hving mercy on broke men , but hv no pity on men who don’t met your so called physical criteria. Urs opinion isn’t ultimate than others . U hv beautiful children but no food to eat right ?

DrFunmisticGlow:
So what's your point? That you shouldend up with an irresponsible man? Or walk into poverty with your two eyes open.

Take care of yourself first, a responsible man who won't make excuses should be a major criteria when looking for a spouse or someone to bear children for. If you ignore this, you are setting yourself up for tears and suffering. Don't make that mistake.


You sound like you are setting up poor innocent children to be your emotional crutch and retirement plan.

The truth is this.

CHILDREN WILL ONE DAY LEAVE YOU AND FACE THEIR LIVES.

failure to realise this will make you a future troublsome and bitter mother-in-law who scatters her children's marriages.

You have to learn to love yourself and plan for your future whether you have kids or not.

Beautifully written

Swtbabyvee:
Dont date a man with more than one baby mama

I can’t even date a man with a baby mama

In my life I hardly met a man who isn’t stingy , the ones i think ain’t that stingy still hv stingy ideology, it has been me and Mum taking care of ourselves, while girls had the luxury from many men, I was taking care of me. No boyfriends help , no nothing , all my phones I bought by myself or the little help from my mum, mean while I was dating some scumbags with false promises.


I hv come to the realization I don’t hv standards when it comes to men, it was always about love, Rubbish !! Mind you : I hustle and got my Mum so I lack nothing and hv all that’s required of an adult. So I am not broke . I realized when u set ur standards on the Man U want physically , financially and otherwise and stand by it , u met better options .

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richard69:
Delta how far na?

I no just understand o ,, we no send one bit , I am not surprised by the numbers

Razzness:
I remember the days when i used to wash my hands every hour, i was even rushing to buy sanitizers up and down, i was avoiding people and forming covid 19 ambasador in my area, but now guess what? I only wash hand wen i want to eat and i'm back to steady balling with my goons. I leave everything for God hand.

very funny

hylyne:
Two things are very evident in your case.
First is the act of lesbianism
Secondly, drug addiction.

Again, from the tone of your write up, it seems you have a relatively good family up-bringing, Atleast you recognize the fact that your mum wouldnt be proud of you in these acts.

My observations : it's very obvious, that your bad company has negatively affected you. Your bad company includes, the friends you keep, the type of books you read, the movies you watch and surely some concepts/idealogies you consider trendy are hunting you.

Drug addiction is a sign of emptiness and depression. Clearly, something is missing somewhere and probably, you can't lay hold of it.

For me you earnestly need to get back to you root. Change your ideology, friends, books and videos, especially now you have opportunity during your Nysc. You can be better or worse. It depends on you.

please not everyone who take drugs is an addict . U all need to be more informed and stop jumping into conclusions trying to act holy or adviser . Taking drug is wrong and addictive, she said takes drugs when she wants to enjoy sex with guys . Why label her an addict ?

stanliwise:
I am gonna ignore your first sentence.
People knowing what they are doing is bad is very accurate but not everyone knows so well about the after-effect of their actions in the future. When we were younger we took actions that appeal to our pleasure but as we grew older we refrain from some them because we now understand better that if something wrong happen it pose a greater threat than any pleasure we can ever experience. And look deeply into the previous comment I made. I said “Not Everyone”.
Some people are evil and have made being evil their mandate and legacy they want to leave behind. But many other are based on being naive, ignorant and lack of proper exposure.

I am a counselor incase you like to know.

bottom line is she’s a adult and will grow and learn in her own , if u are not her father or sibling, it’s not ur business. She will get wiser eventually . She’s 21 and not a child .

SLAP44:
The OP should go and collect a masters degree in the course called "Beating about the bush"

hahahahaha hahahahaha hahahahaha

courage9:
It's very funny how Nigeria has become medically superior to the USA when it comes to matters related to COVID19. With the hike in confirmed cases in Nigeria, we have deviced methods in treating and discharging patients within hours even better than the US. Our government will not kill us.
God help us all

why are Nigerians like this,, there are other African countries doing better than Nigeria during this pandemic. We ain’t even doing well in this pandemic at all. There are other African countries doing better than the US .? Let’s not be too surprised at our stats , Algeria had corona virus way before we did .. but our indiscipline has caused our cases to keep raising

stubbornman:
God forbid !

But children should enjoy their childhood ,this is not the way to go in a society like when things have fallen apart in a way.

yes I agree ,

rapist are devils and deserve to be castrated or spend their lives in jail ... like every other criminal act , no matter the punishment , they will still be rapists, If u commit murder and face the law u can be killed or sent to prison for life but there r still people who kill and commit murder , some get caught while some go Scott free, same with rapist . No matter how u dress there r still going to be rapist out there . The way people dress isn’t the reason someone was raped, the rapist was already a rapist and cAn rape anyone even fully clothed .

Dressing decently is morally right but let’s not always use it to justify rape.

I honestly see nothing in her outfit but I think parents especially mothers should understand not everything should cm on social media . Can’t u snap this beautiful pictures hardcopy and keep it at home showing only friends and family and laugh about it . Sadly there r evil people in this world whether we like it or not, so exposing ur child like this is wrong.

Unnerve:
Lol
Why can't I see anything wrong with them photos? I just see a kid whose mom wanted to play around with some makeup.


I guess everything is a talking point these days.

asin me too , lol

stubbornman:
Your determination to get stupid is out of this world.... Keep it down!!

r u seduced by this picture?

HornyTave:
I don't know the level of your stupidity but I'm really amazed how good you're at been stupid.

so does this picture look seductive to you ? Explain ?

Noel19:
My dear it's spiritual and biblical. If you read my comment you'll understand that as mere humans the tendency to do evil will always outweigh good. We commit sin everyday not just by actions but in our thought, heart what we say and what we fail to do.

God created us in his image and likeness and as such, commanded Adam and Eve not to eat from the tree that bears knowledge of what is good and evil but they disobeyed and thus died spiritually and subsequently physically.

Sinful habits are very addictive and destructive. When you pick one, before you know it, you progress to another stage.

When you read the book of Ecclesiastes, you'll find all the answers to these sinful habits. King Solomon experimented with sex, alcohol, drugs, and materialism just to mention but a few all in a bid to find satisfaction but he ended up self destruct and thus, the phrase "Vanity upon Vanities".

Don't indulge even when there's peer pressure. Eschew bad friends and keep them at arms length.

Many a people say " Curiosity brings satisfaction" but I say "Curiosity killed the cat".

I understand ur point anyways .

Noel19:
Do you know why God commanded Adam and Eve not to eat of the fruit that gives knowledge of what is good and evil?

Because as humans with such knowledge, the tendency to do evil will outweigh good. God is Holy and pure and as such cannot be corrupted.

Then the Lord God said, Now the man has become like one of us ( The Father, Son and Holy Spirit) and has knowledge of what is good and what is bad.

Like the biblical King Solomon, you've experimented with sex both male and female and you've come to the realisation that sex is vanity of all vanities hence, this Ecclesiastes.

Economists call it the "law of diminishing returns". You're at the level of dis-utility.


What you need to do now is to look for a good bible believing church where you'll be exorcised of the demonic spirit of insatiable lust for sex and the spirit of lesbianism.

It's going to be a process and a battle but with faith in Christ you shall come out victorious.

, i think I get ur points better now , but it’s not about vanity abeg . It’s just her body.
I am not a biblical person , so it’s not about the Bible . But I think u are right in the few first paragraph.. I hv been attracted to some women , but I hv vowed never to hv lesbian sex . Cause as soon as u do it ones u see nothing in it again , a friend of mine who smokes weed , has promised herself never to go above weed cause as soon as u take something higher even ones u won’t see the big deal again , same with myself I hv chosen not to smoke weed , cause I know if I try it , I won’t see a problem with it again . That’s how life it . It’s not a biblical thing .

Watch porn b4 hving sex . It works , ur libido will cm back to normal. Watch porn often .

emipan:
Should that even be a cause for worry for the governor?

inferiority complex