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sharpwriter:
I don't know why many of you are like this. So OP doesn't have the right to snoop around her, but she has right to use the company's phone to communicate to different lovers? Eh?

Abi OP doesn't have the right to know what is done on his own company's phone again even if it will lead to his ruin?

If she's bold enough to use the company's phone, a matured married man should be bold too to know what goes on in his domain.

she wasn’t chatting with all her boyfriend with the phone , she just logged in , the irresponsible married cargo went digging

mindtricks:
I think it is a phone he bought and provided for the business.
She should not have logged into her facebook account with the phone.
Besides, anything you do/put on any social media platform is as good as being made public already.
Do not forget employers have a way to do background checks and can find out some of these things via other means.

yes other means not checking her Facebook, that’s very creepy . This is not okay. If it were to be a civilized country , she would sue he’s ass, it’s a company phone , he didn’t just glance , he went in deep and started clicking , that’s total bull

Grandmeister:
You're the dumb one..and obviously you(and many others here) suck at comprehension..that phone is NOT the girl's private phone! It's an office phone bought by the owner of the business...why doesn't he have the right to peruse the very phone he bought for his office use? Is it his fault that the girl didn't log out her profile? Is that even the crux of the matter here?

he actually went into her Facebook n started veiwing messages and clicking on stuffs , u all disgusting thinking it’s okay, or even thinking he has a right to tell her shit

kalmebad:
You very stupid at that ur comment. Craze dey worry u and ur generation. U have no reason to insult me. If u don't like my comment.just passed.

Like u don't know d country we live in..what if she frames and turn it against her employer.

And for u guys saying it's d girls life..what life does she have at 21....we r not speaking of dating one guy but 5 at a time. Sometimes this young girls need some counseling...some don't even know d consequences...of abortion, unprotected sex and viral diseases and u guys r yelling OP has no biz but forgot she used a wrong phone..not that he went snooping into her personal phone.

Once again..we all type behind sceens and spew nonsense as we like. I hardly comment here but some how am interested in him saving d girls future...it could be salvage with right counseling. My thunder wet no get name and part 2 fire u...congugated slowpoke

I hardly insult anyone ....I have bn on this thread for many years, I started retracting when silly ones like u started becoming part of this forum

mr busy body , learn to mind ur business, what she does with her life is non of ur business, face ur life and ur kids , who may even be worse . Frame him that what, u all come up with abstract bullshit to affirm that poking nose in people’s business is justified. Oga face ur kids and ur life .

Grandmeister:
Yes it's an evidence! You females are gradually losing it on per second billing! If that girl dies at the hands of a quack and her family accuses the OP of being somehow responsible for it all what will his defence be? Whose side of the story will be easily believable in today's clime? A bereaved family seeking justice or a man who's employee died on an abortion table?? Is this possibility lost on you all??

if she dies it’s her employers fault ? Please learn to mind ur business, her sex life got nothing to do with you , if she dies of abortion , it got nothing to do with the man . He is in no way responsible of anything.

kalmebad:
I didn't read all d comments, I ran through page 1 and this last page.. and when I see good responsible remarks I know.

Op. .let a family member of hers bn on d known or better still keep d evidence while ur wife advice her of d consequences of her escaped which seems fun to her.. should she dies in our house in bid of her abortion. Naija police will turn u first suspect

And let me tell people.. nothing takes God by surprise...when HE wants to expose u..it's a little mistake..and may b that's why d girls phone spoilt at first...think on this reason

U all shouting privacy will b d first to abuse someone..go and marry, or ur mates don give birth finish..what r u waiting for? U forgot it's someone privacy life....you all sychophants

evidence asin ? Better craze Dey worry Una .

Caseless:
It's easier to give advice when you're not the one directly affected. As if you'll condone such - except u're a very loose girl like that young girl. Pretenders everywhere!

exactly

BabaJoe001:
If you think 21 is not a Minor, then you shouldnt had given that last Advice. Seems you are confused yourself. 21 is not yet Matured. Many shit we did in our early 20s that we not proud of and we had wished we had someone who could advise us then

will u shut it , 21 years are married with kids , and u are saying 21 isn’t matured ? Rubbish talk

codeKart:
She's not a minor. She's 21. She is allowed to live her life however she chooses.
Also, from what the OP has said, her personal life does not affect her work attitude. It's none of the OP's business what she does in her spare time.

I also want to point out that 21 is prime age for youthful exuberance. All things being equal, the girl will calm down and mature as she gets older. As long as it does not affect her work productivity, let her be.

The most OP should do is ask his wife to speak to her about practicing safe sex

very correct , she would definitely clam down. at this stage , no one can advice her only life experiences can change her, this stage she’s exercising her adulthood freedom, she would definitely get tired of it .

ehinmowo:
Oga make una keep quiet. Forming holier than thou. Father figure ko mother figure ni. Biko how is 21 years a minor? because country bad and she working as a sales rep bah? What in the world even made the idiot oga to go and check her INBOX. It's not as if inbox is the home page you would first see when you open a webpage.

What was he snooping around for? He wants to bang the poor girl. I can bet my balls that that nigga has sent obscene messages to several girls on fb. Imagine someone displaying your private life in the open because he pays you some useless money that is not even enough to eat food in fast food? Even God does not display people's privacy in the open.

Why is it so difficult for people to keep business strictly business? because he pays her one useless 10 or 20k per month which is not up to 20 Naira per hour gives him right to pry into her private life. In a sane country that guy could go to jail for this nonsense.

Note this is not to support her way of life. But first a 21-year old is an adult. And the boss is not in the position to do anything about it.

i don’t understand what exactly is wrong with people. A 21 years old is a full blown adult . Mind ur business

Newboss:
21 year old minor. Wow. Nigeria finallu produced a genius

I don’t even understand these amebo people

Elvis778:
21 is not a minor, stop sounding ridiculous,the OP invaded her privacy,
everyone has a private life to live and so long as they don't want to share it, no one has the right to invade, talk more of judge.....has she ever poked her nose into the OP's affairs?
if her private life ain't affecting your business, just act like you know nothing, that's what bosses do...

Thank you

PeachtreeReside:
You want to sack her because she is sexually active?

She performs her job duties well right?

But her sex life is your problem?

Geez!

I wish our labour laws were stiff , wonder what your reasons would be


If you had a shred of maturity, you would call her and advise her as a father should

I am seriously disgusting by these mad people, what’s ur business with how many guys she fuckks? How many abortion she has done ? So damn annoying , can’t u just mind ur business?

abdullkabar:
Almost everyone on front-page is saying mind your business!!!
There is a question to ask ourselves:
A 21 year old is more or less still clueless (especially this modern day children)
If the girl were to be anyone of us daughter, and she's missing her way(let's even say its on a more lesser mater), won't we prefer someone puts her on the right path?

We are molded by different lessons and guardians from everyone around.

(There was this my dad's friend(late) that saw me flying my collar while coming back from school back then. He called me and gave me a good advice on the implications of what I was doing(my dad will not see me flying collar because he was at work)
But his friend who saw me acted in replace of my father. I am grateful for what he said and still remembers his words whenever my collar is up)
Op, do what is right and leave the rest

flying colar to this is totally different

ndidibabe:
This is no strange to me. My former housemaid has slept with more than 100 men. I realised this on his Facebook and WhatsApp page. Not only this, I confirmed that he has slept with more than 10 men in the neighbourhood. I have never seen this kinda of prostitute in my life. It's sad cus the girl is so nice, down to heart and hardworking. The best maid I have ever had but she is such a fuckerholic.

safarigirl:
Yes, 100.

If it was a man that he had seen incriminating messages to twenty women on his phone, would the OP be this concerned? Why do Nigerian men feel the need to police women's bodies?

If a woman says she doesn't want to have sex, they complain, the one that is having sex, complain too.

OP can talk to her of the dangers of abortion and advice her to have safe sex, but ultimately, it is up to the lady.

he should just mind his business, doesn’t she know the danger of abortion , ? doesn’t she know what she’s doing is wrong ? She does, bottom line is u won’t change her with any talk , till she’s ready , cause she knows the truth. Best is let her live .

OritaIbadan:
I employed this 21years old lady last year as a sales rep. At resumption to work she appeard so decent and godly always With her Bible and Sunday school manual. I was really impressed by her spiritual and respectful nature. This made me treat her different from others. I buy her things and sometimes gives her money and always discuss her good life style with my wife. But what amazed me was that my wife was so indifferent about her each time I discuss her my wife will quickly change the topic. I thought, well woman with their naughty behavior towards other women.

Fast forward to June first this year her phone was stolen and I have a phone in office that I allow them access to incase their phone is off I can easily reach them through it. This faithful day, I tried to access my Facebook account using the office phone and found out that this same lady had used it but forget to logout. Well, I knew it was wrong to check her inbox but all the same I did.

After checking her inbox I couldn't sleep all night. I found out that she is having unprotected sex with 5 guys each guy per Sunday and she just did an abortion March this year the very day she told me that she was sick and can't make it to work and she wasn't sure who among the guys that impregnated her. I also found out that she had missed her period again and trying to hang it on one of the boys. The amazing thing is that non of these guys suspects her, they all believe she is a faithful girl friend.

I have thought of relieving her of her job, but my wife is asking me what should I give as reasons. But the truth is that I had never winessed such a wayward life before. If I pretend as though I know nothing she will eventually commit another abortion and continue with such life which is very dangerous at her age. What if she is my own daughter?

Please I want the mode to push this to the front page. I want to seek others opnion about it

mehn it’s non of ur business, that babe is an adult . Focus on ur business

socialmediaman:
You seem to be ignorant about rape! A lady has the right to withdraw her consent at anytime she doesn’t feel comfortable having sex she earlier consented to. If she does, you should IMMEDIATELY respect her decision. It’s her body, not yours. There’s no excuse for rape and there’s no way it will happen if you understand and fully respect the fact that her body belongs to her and she can withdraw her consent any anytime she wants.

Before you have sex with a lady, make sure she’s comfortable to do it, ask her if she’s comfortable. Yes, get her consent. I believe if she was the one coming at you, you’ll expect to be respected as well. Don’t try to coerce her into doing it, that’s not right, it’s rape. Ladies are not sex objects, sex should be an activity consented to by 2 people who willingly participate in it, not by one person who just thinks the other is a tool for him to satisfy his sexual urge.

Be Informed!

Bravo

fati2001:
self control ke... self control ni...
person visit you nah sex and you said you have self control, and you guys met last week
I no blame the guys, some girls no fit stay one place.

my sister , the matter tire me , I am glad he had self control , we need more men like him .

Liposure:
just guess

Els .

Liposure:
shakespeare, charles dickens, thomas hardy, femi osofisan, george owen, achebe, buchi emecheta just 2 mention a few makes my day anytime

what did u study in school? Those r good literary authors. Known by literary intellectuals. Regular people ain’t really interested in books of Charles dickens and Thomas hardy . Great Expectations is one of my favorite works from Charles dickens .

nanakgh:
Waakye for brunch!

You’re invited

ewwwww

michealdeco:
it's a public platform

He made his opinion and others countered his opinion with theirs, I don't see anything wrong with that

absolute trash to me, was it an opinion for you , do u smoke ? Hypocrites everywhere

boniga:
I feel great, is there a whatsapp group for us

I don’t think so

Petyprincess:
Of course not! If the person I'm dating will be the one i will settle with in future then i ain't got no problem trust me
Having many kids are a whole lot of responsibility, many married women are looking old nd unattractive because their husbands turned them to baby factory! After one kid na to take my ass back to gym nd get back my shape instead of getting pregnant every year

nope , ur child deserves a sibling from you

boniga:
My first time of finding a social presence of introverts, i am so happy to be here to meet my types. I always thought i am alone. I AM SO HAPPY

welcome , u are definitely not alone

Erys:
So you need payment for the meals consumed?
Well, you know yourself and what you want and how you want your man to treat you. No one is tied to anybody which is why you were able to walk away. Prepare yourself positively for what you want and hope for it. His ways, his business. Your ways, your business.

food stuffs ar bought with money

chuksoyo21:
U just need a justification to Port to your new crush... Go ahead, u need nobody's permission...

explain ...

MedicH:
hmmm i think the main problem is this guy is not ready to do something meaningful with his life. in this case it doesn't make sense sticking with him. if he finds it rosy now, what about the rainy days? i believe in doing the work of He that sent me while it is in the day because night shall come when no man can work.

if i flip to the other side of the coin where u said you are leaving because he is stingy pls do, leave the guy alone, he doesn't owe u anything.

Someone like me find it excruciatingly difficult and mind-blowingly painful to get a debit alert because of some woman i'm dating. it hasn't stopped the women in my life from liking me as a matter of fact, it's a matter of principle. i do not give, i owe u nothing.

it gets worse when it's a lady that is of no value to me no gain. i won't have the loss either.

leave him alone

WTF !!! Jesus. The woman that ends up with this one will surely, most definitely suffer .

My dear don’t allow the comments from stingy broke men affect you , Focus on urself , u would meet someone better. He doesn’t even deserve you