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While its not applicable in all cases ,i found naija babes are more materialistic then most other countries.But there is a way of treating them.They usually will demand and demand until you are dry so simply say "money don finish.wetin u wan do do".Usually they will calm down if not then make they waka ,see all this latino babes as they fine anyhow!

my ex girlfriend is marrying a man about 15 years older then her (but he is probably even 20 yrs+ older but claims 15 yrs) and he has grown up children including a boy finishing university.
To me in Nigerian culture and law its a bad thing because if he dies your children will probably get nothing

wetin be honeymoon?
Me i spent over 2m naira for just 2 days marriage .which one be honeymoon again.abeg make she enter house make we look for money live.

As someone who spent over 2 million naira i can say nigerian weddings have become stupid.I however did not burrow for it and i was even asked for more(sort of like they kept trying to see if there more to squeeze out) and i said flatly no more money.
I already warned her that the cost of this marriage will have direct effect on how much we can spent later in life and i plan to show it by saying anytime she was any big purchase for the next 1-2 years "the wedding ate all my savings sorry"
Why women feel the need to spend so much during a wedding is beyond me

Firstly i am the sort of guy that if the woman wants to keep her surname its fine by me .However the environment will probably make her uneasy with constant asking why she did this for the rest of her life but its her problem not mine.If she can cope with it then so be it.
However before women start proclaiming that they want their men to change the name espically in nigeria they should first be ready to make other changes .
If you insist the man pays bride price then you have no buisness even asking.
Many Nigerian women are quick at always looking to adopt cultural ties of the western world but when it does not favour them they quickly readopt it.Take white wedding reception for instance.Taken off the white man and when they found out that the woman's family pays for it they quickly reverted it to be the man's problem!
Before i even accept taking a woman name then she needs to take the responsibilies that comes with it.

As someone a few years younger then you and a man i can say i already feel the dire need for a companion .
I suggest you go out there and find someone or hook up with internet dating.We are social creatures and we need partners.

see yourself 1 month don pass nothing for you
make you change your behaviour and try again.normally person who dey abroad no dey wait 1 day make e get answer but with everything u don talk no woman want to live for hell.

Seun:
Actually, the things make a man to love a woman can be classified into three categories: assets, history and personality (in decreasing order of prominence!)

Spot on.There is no mystery about anything .
Basically you love her for a reason same as she fell in love with you for a reason.

Hmm this is actually more and more common nowdays.
I say approach it this way.Set your limits.
If she crosses it then make her know it.
Trust me i am usually very quiet but then i set my limits and then when they cross it i make them know it and they can accept it or not its up to them.But letting 1 person control and always have their way is not a good thing .

Are you not a man?If you don't want her anymore then tell her rather then keep dodging and raising her hopes up.Let her go find another man .

Congratz someone get to bring happiness to all those 300 IB american babies and happy you are the one!

proo212:
If ever that catches on, a lot of people will be surprised at the results.

Its very new and there are so many online places selling the kits now which means demand is pretty high.It might not have hit Nigeria in force yet but it will soon enough.Already many men are asking their relatives abroad to bring a kit when coming home.Yes there be plenty shocking results but this will make women think twice before trying to pass another man child to their husbands.

younghoodi:
IF You TREAT UR GIRL RIGHT THEN YA MARRIAGE IS TIGHT,IF You FUK HER HOW SHE DESERVED TO BE FUK IF You TREAT HER NICE AND SWEET THEN SHE WILL NEVER CHEAT BUT IF You DON'T SPEND TIME WITH HER AND YA THINK SHE'S NOT GONNA CHEAT THEN YA ON CRACK.

Have to agree this is indeed stupid reasoning and reason why we blacks suffer bad relationships .If you think your dick is all that matters then you are solely mistaking .Newsflash most women are not marrying their best ever Bleep !They are marrying for a combination of reasons.
Think like this and i can assure you that you will lose your woman pretty fast.

Well i think its not that clear as black and white.
Firstly yes women are having more sex then ever before and more open about it.They view it as having fun same as men have.
So its actually quite common nowadays to find women having more sexual experiencfe then their husbands before marriage .Remember its also easier for a woman to get laid then a man .
But I think when it comes down to marriage the ball game changes .firstly by nature a woman is more loyal.I have seen girls who have romped a few dozen different men but when they get serious or married they become pretty much loyal as can be.They probably viewed the other men as a fun and exploration stage and the husband as the love stage.
Also the society we live in also has a strong factor,more so in Nigeria.If a woman cheats on a man even if the man is willing to forgive ,family/friend/society will almost certainly make him leave her because its almost considered a stigma.
However if a man cheats on a woman you will find even her family try to save their relationship.
Women are aware about this and know that its often 1 strike and you are out so tend to be more cautious.
Mind you its not that women do not cheat.They certainly do but i would say as a general rule less then the man.

the road ahead is all that matters

Actually i am suprised some fast guy has not started selling them in large quantities in Nigeria.

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Why Do Nigerians Get Married.
« on: April 01, 2008, 04:55 AM »

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When I got to college, every future plan I heard always included matrimony. With America topping lists of infidelity and divorce, I used to wonder why everyone was so determined to get married. Where they influenced by culture or their religion? Was their marriage or bust mentality due to socioeconomic factors? Or do this people believe in the age old adages of love and soulmates?

I am an Igbo women. Growing up in alaigbo and America, I was taught that marriage is a vehicle that delivered love, financial security, and companionship. I want to know what to other Nigerians think about matriomony.
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Money for hand back for ground.Dey still dey teach this one

chika98:
Some family members just arent good people or have a good heart. But because you can't choose your family, we tend to suck it up and try to get along.

Agreed.When you have a larger crowd there are bound to be people who think ill of you

Problem is we keep adopting the white man's way and rather then improve it or make it better we twist it into something laughable.

money is relative.
some are happy with a guy who can put food on the table ,some want men who can buy them a car and some want men that own half the town.
But reality is also this.Go make your own money then look for money to marry.
This is why lots of men in nigeria cheat on their women.Trust me i seen and know what men talk about before the marriage and ladies trust me you will not like to know .
You hear things like "after i don spend on this girl make she try misbehave " or "i don buy am now make e sit for house breastfeed the pikin while i find younger stuff play with".
Men are not stupid too they know when you are after money or marrying into security and then you become property whether you want to believe it or not because they know you have a slim chance of ever walking away from the security.
It is possible but with Nigerians love for money a poor man will most likely marry a poorer woman.

White gold actually looks great for engagement ring and get one with the stone sticking out rather then embedded in the metal.
Reason been is it shows off better even if smaller and looks nicer.It is easier for the stone to break off though !
And no its not necessary.Some women do some don't simple as that.Down to how you feel.

chika98:
See drama! What the hell do you need all that for? Calling her to talk about the cake? maka y? We make things hard on ourselves I swear!

This is just the problem some Nigerians have.Then they start screaming that Nigerians have gone to pick foriegn wives.
If you go to a Nigerian wedding and a non Nigerian wedding the first thing that strikes you is not the size but how impersonal Nigerian weddings are.
The Nigerian wedding is a show case with hired master of ceremony(i told a non Nigerian friend this and he laughed that you will use someone who does not know you to do this at a wedding),someone to come talk about the bloody cake ,heavy 12 ft speakers booming etc etc.
So impersonal so wasteful and loads of artifical smiles from people you don't know and likely from the groom side for wasting their money for 3 hours reception.
Na wa.

Although i have never married i have been in serious relationships.
I never ever cheat.I rather tell the woman its over if it becomes too hard to maintain the relationship and then stay single for a while till someone comes around.
It is against everything i believe in.
That is one of the first things i warn my girlfriend.If i strongly suspect you are cheating on me then thats it.It is out of the door without any question.

Here we go http://www.d-fwmall.com/DNA/dna_testing_home.htm.
Also seen it for sale for $140 which is 16k naira over the internet.
Apparently very reliable DNA home testing kit and only involves putting a swap in the child's mouth to rub the inside cheek.
Even if you trust your woman ,this is a simple way of removing any doubts .
It help both men and women
1)women who feel they can go outside and cheat.Now can easily be caught out with a simple fast and relatively cheap test
2)men who deny their children will not be able to in the face of this and pay to support their kids.
Some of the more expensives ones are even easier to use too but cost about $350

jejelola:
some times it depends on how the man treats his wife,if the man is the type that can't take his eyes off young girls ,by this the wife can give the ex -chance, although i will never do such thing to my man, Anything can happen u knw,

We hear you first time

enque:
its true o! av seen it in a coupl o' weddings av bn to.

This is the kind of thing that has turned Nigerian weddings to nothing more then a circus to feed and get drunk 100s of people who you hardly know .
Come on who on their right mind wants to know the baking procedure of a cake?!?!
Whenever you hear anything outrageous or stupid about a wedding majority of the time a Nigerian is involved.
http://www.cnn.com/2008/LIVING/01/07/cake.irpt/

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