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lol,, very funny!

seriously, can't they sue?, lol,

Stanfordx:
I hate u,u disgust me.your present r/ship ar nt workin because of wat?U cheap girl.

What's with the name calling, sicko? If you can't comment reasonably, buzz off!

It is not wrong to marry your best friend. More like very right to marry your best friend! Cos you guys would be compatible. But that is if you have a chemistry going between you two.

You already said you are reluctant to let him go to another girl, so I guess you might be feeling something other than friendship for him. So ask your self this few questions:
- How does he really make you feel?
- Have your fantasies ever included him?
- If he had a girlfriend would you still be best friends or would you "hate" him for having a girl besides you?
- Do you feel secured with him? i.e. your secrets are safe with him, his level of maturity, his way of life etc

Trust me, you would be more comfortable/happy with him than with any other guy, so you might wanna give it a try.

Ebonyeyes:
I had the biggest crush on a boy in primary school, he was so cute, recently met him and he is still cute but now he is quite overweight(and he says he likes it like that ) I tired to get him into exercise but he is a a lazy bum . I keep telling him he would have girls lining up for him if he lost the weight. Oh well another one bites the dust I guess .

lol, I guess you still had a crush on him (since you found him still cute) but he's being overweight put the "ed" in your crush, leaving you crushed!!! lol,

y me:
well i guess i had a heart made of brick when i was young because i dont remember having a childhood crush

Gosh! You must be kidding! Not even a tiny bit of butterfly fluttering in your stomach when a particular guy passed by?

I had this terrible crush on some guy back when I was in primary school, thought he was the cutest guy in the class, tallest, smartest and all,

I ended up leaving the school for another and forgot all about the guy. Until I recently saw him a few months ago! Waoh! I couldn't believe my eyes, he was not cute at all! he was just of average height now (considered short for a guy) and his hair was thinning in front! He didn't look good at all. I guess "life" had happened to him.

For the life of me, I wonder what must have made me have a have crush on him back then.

People, share your experiences of seeing guys/girls you had had crushes on while young and seeing them many years later. Did they remain their cute selves or they had changed so bad, you felt bad for them?

, waoh!

Well, I would suggest you research your move extremely well. Plus, your decision should be based on jobs and their prospects, environment where you intend to live permanently, schools for your kids etc.

Read on NL about some families who intended relocating but changed there minds after they doing some research! Would suggest you do the same. For one, you could try visiting in order to answer the questions above.

BTW, what's your motive for wanting to move back?

@tunnytox, thats good, at least you can use that 3 weeks to apply for your SIM card, health card and all them imp. documents.
Sure let me know as me myself is planning on [b]moving back to Nigeria[/b] by the 3rd week in September

@Hotstepper, do you mean moving back to Nigeria as in permanently?
I sure hope not o!

Got a friend who is biracial, but inherited her mother's "white hair" i.e she's blond and straight through and through! However, she loves dreadlocks, sister locks, etc and is seriously aiming to get her hair locked but I doubt it can be achieved.

Tried telling her it's impossible since dreads and locks are achieved if the hair is curly in the black hair way. But I really wonder if it's only naturally curly, kinky hair (African hair) that can achieve "locks"

Please kindly post pictures of white hair (blonde and straight) in dreads or locks if you have ever come across any.

i am not talking of washing your weave nessesarily although u cant avoid it,i mean wash your scalp and hair under the weave.in order not to get your weave tangle especially if u have long straight ones, put it in big braids so you can reach your scalp easily then air dry or blow dry and moisturise your hair not weave.i prefer hair lotions to creams as most creams contain petroleom which locks out moisture ond weighs your hair down,whatever you use make sure the first ingredient is water and none of the ingredients is petroleum,lanolin,petrolatum or mineral oil.so moisturise with a moisturising lotion and seal with oil preferably natural ones like coconut,olive oil,shear butter etc.

@Ubiaa5,
I quite understand that it is the hair not the weave that should be moisturised which why I want to know how you moisturise the air beneath the weave and with what it should be moisturised with. I also understand it should be done daily, right?

pls is the interview still on?

you can get on the program,the trick to fast and healthy hair growth is to wash,condition and moisturise even if your hair is plaited,in weaves or whatever,since u swim you have to rinse the chlorine out of your hair as soon as you get out of the pool and moisturise daily,you could use braid spray on your cornrows to moisturise.

Hmmm, abeg how do you wash, moisturise and condition is in weaves? And what do you use to achieve this?

Love this thread, Thought I was the only one in the world who hated relaxed hair. I had to bow under pressure and relax my hair but I hate it. My sisters were always making me feel weird!

I started questioning myself when I realised my hair is at its healthiest when it is natural. I want to go all natural agian but I am seriously scared about it. Nigerians are not favourable to natural hair o. I am currently thinking of going natural and currently braided my hair in school children style and been covering it with wigs, lol

Don't know what to do as I am confused but this thread has really helped. Will keep checking it so I can decide what to do about it.

Thanks y'all,

Lol, I guess you must have visited a great number of places then, for you father to think that! lol,

Australia? The best country in the world? Please share your experiences while you were there that makes you feel it's such a great place.

I have an Australian friend who keeps claiming same and wanting me to come down there but I am like what? the end of the world? No way. Maybe your view of Australia can give me a change of mindset, Pray, share!

@MRbrownJAY

Your write-ups are waoh! Am laffin my heart out! R u like a travelling saleman or sumtin? Wouldn't mind trading jobs wit u o, would love dis much experience about different nationals.

Enjoy d ride,

@ Poster,

Dreams are meant to achieved. However, you don't have to be desperate and do stupid things in your desperation. First go on a fact finding mission and you might be surprised that your dream would change.

Everything you need to know about travelling,visiting,immigrating etc to Canada is available on www.cic.gc.ca just as someone mentioned earlier. You don't even need a representative!

Abeg save that 480k in pursuance of your dream o, make someone no use you do food money!

@ MRbrownJAY,

Waoh! Very eye-opening piece and impressive too, I am sure your life is never boring,

I saw a vacancy for a human resource professional sometime ago in a Nigerian newspaper saying that membership of SHRM would be an advantage and I am like what happened to CIPM certification again . Anywayz, can anyone please enlighten us on how to get certified with SHRM? Like where classes are done or something or the other as I hear there are a lot of SHRM certified individuals in Nigeria.

Thanks a lot, Naadia.

How can one get get certified with the CHRP here in Nigeria? Any ideas and information regarding tutoring, classes, etc,

Hello All,

Kindly advise the best Human Resource certification to be done by anyone who wants to migrate to Canada. I think it is the Society of Human Resources Management (SHRM) one that does PHR- SHRP and all but not so sure.

Anyone with useful information should kindly drop here.

@Coolier,
I quite agree that every good or bad thing starts in a day. However, it's the punishment I don't agree with. Not that there should not be a punishment.

vescucci:
@poster. I could have read the whole thread but I lost patience. Living alone is not a crime. You can do all the crazy stuff under your parents' nose so I see this as the ball being in your court. If you have to stay at home for reasons best known to you, then you have got to be very very busy. Failing that, you've gotta learn how to[b] live in your head and lead an alternate virtual life[/b]. Trust me

@vescucci, can you explain further on the emboldened above, pls?

@Mamagee,

Not all pay bride prices and dat should not even be a criteria.

Beat her up ke? Wetin she dey look way the man beat her up?

Outstrip:
Her mother has to put the fear of God in her. Let her feel what it would feel like if she were an adult and caught stealing by the police. It has to be drastic. There are million things that she can do to her. Send her to the village for 3 months. Let her fetch water from the river, let her hand wash her clothes, let her live for a while with her total sense of comfort and stability stripped from her then she will realize that she is not entitled to everything. I have seen adults that steal now because they always had access to money and when it was not there still feel that they are entitled to it. You can call it terrorism but she needs to feel that fear of giving her freedom away. She will buckle up quickly. I don't believe that talking to her will fix this.

Haba, relax now! Since the girl was not caught stealing a neighbour's money but her mum's, I think this is a bit drastic! The mother should sit and discuss with the child and find out why she took the money in the first place. Sending her away like a prisoner would not necessarily curb her. Might only lead to never telling the truth ever again.

Ensure you remove her privileges as said MRbrownJAY, like her phone if she has one, internet privileges, no visiting.

If you find out the money was used for frivolities, I'ld suggest you deduct maybe #5 or #10 daily from her #100 so she can understand the gravity of taking something that is not yours.

If the money was to buy recharge cards, an MP3 player or something useful for herself, I would suggest you still deduct the money but try and put her on an allowance for doing extra duty in the house. But, in this case, you have to pay extra attention on how much she gets and how she spends it, It will lead to learning about finances and saving.

Above all, pray she learns from her mistake after your correction cos it might start a whole new level like stealing money from an aunty's bag or neighbours since her mother's money is now off limits!

madam L:
Get someone to fumigate your house. I did it once and was free from roaches for a good eight months. That was pure bliss. Cleaning won't send them running away.

Who helped you fumigate your house? Did you call a fumigating company or something~? I doubt you are in Nigeria o as I hardly hear of credible people fumigating people's houses. Kindly share who fumigated your house.

iice:
[color=#9900ff]Thankfully i wasn't burned at the stake for living alone too early.[/color]

Good for you! Was it as a result of working in a different state from where your parents or what? How old were you when you started living on your own? Are you married now?

africhika:
^good. cuz i've been abstaining my whole life

Really? That's gud! Even though very rare. I would advise you guys read "Great Expectations (an interactive guide to marriage for newly weds and engaged couples) by Toben & Johann sumtin. Can't rmbr their surname. As well as the The Act of Marriage by Tim LaHaye. Very descriptive book (with Christian views though) on the act of lovemaking for couples!

My advise is based on the fact that most ladies read so much romantic novels and believe that lovemaking must be like the way it is written in those silly novels.

All the best!

harakiri:
You can't have everything you know.You are under his roof.You MUST abide by his rules.What is so hard about that?When you have kids someday, you will want them following your rules.Imagine having a daughter of 25 years and she comes into the house during midnight after hanging out with her friends.Won't you be worried?If you have a son that leaves home for some weeks and shows up out of nowhere, how would you feel?It's things like these that give parents stroke and heart failure from worries.And please, remove that "dictatorial father" in your post.It makes you sound rebellious and childish.It makes you sound like someone that doesn't have regard for authority.It makes you sound like an Oprah-Winfrey-worshiping feminist.

Nuff said!

How does your post show your maturity? I don't do all the absurd stuff you wrote out. I only want the choice of worshipping God in my way and some space.
I am sure you are one of those men we are talking about here. Bcus it's your house then, noone has no peace, when you are sad or miserable, the whole house must join you in your misery or all hell breaks loose. Whatever, Mr. Egostiscal.

P.S I don't even watch Oprah.

harakiri:
This sounds like a father who was protecting his kids from the wickedness the world has to offer.The above scenario must have happened when you were much younger and if that's the case, maybe you would have been happier if he let you have your way and then you get despoil.d by evil men and get pregnant with no father to take responsibilty. Only an irresponsible father will let his daughters roam about anyhow especially in the evenings and worse, in a country like Nigeria.He is a MAN and he knows what every man out there wants from his daughter.So what he did to protect you is now deemed as him "being happy to see you sad and inventing ways to make you cry".

Na wa oooo!

This is why i pray to have only boys as kids.Una wahala no get repair!

I pray you don't encounter the same from your male kids too, What we are talking about here is not about being irresponsible, it's about LISTENING to your GROWN children and making their short stay with you as pleasant as possible so you don't drive to loveless marriages and faithlessness!

My mum is alive and well. But she does not have a say in the house. My father rules in ALL areas!

Are you serious? Are you saying I am going to remain miserable until I get married? Now this is getting scary!

Tsiya:
Personally I believe going to different church with your parent might be one of the problems. It shows an act of rebellion and you are indirectly insulting their faith. If you leave with your parents and have no plans to move out in near future, then you should learn to appreciate what they like and do, even if you find it repulsive. I know it can be really hard for a girl of your age, especially you don't have a job that you can rely on and the Mr Right have refuse to come on time. However, you shouldn't allow that to ruin the blessings of parental love. Everything they do, comes from love. Quite frankly, 9:15 is late, especially if you don't have a car of your own. And whatever you do, I know at your age you feel you are adult, but adulthood is not about age, is about responsibility. And if you remain under their responsibility, then you should just learn to be patient and say sorry to them any time he start raving. The word "sorry" can do a lot of things.

Insulting their faith? But their faith has nothing to do with mine! Can't I have a choice of how to serve God?

I do have plans of moving out but is that not an act of rebellion in itself? Living life as a single lady? I do have a job. Been working for over three years! I pay my dues as well, I just wish we could come to terms and understand each other instead of having to lie and sneak around behind his back! I wanted to buy a car but they refused saying how will I ever get a man if I have a car.

Frankly, It's bcus I want to honour them that's why I did not move out a long time ago but at this stage of my life I guess that might be my only option! I certainly refuse to get married cos I need my space!