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N2B2:
Another fantastic save by De Gea.

Watford should be up 3 - 0

5 - 0

Haba! it's total obvious man U players want to lose this game.

if I'm Ole, I will resign after 1st half.

The man U players really want ole out. 1 - 0

lol, sarr is the most useless striker on the planet.

it's obvious Man U players don't want to win this game but Watford are utterly useless.

Bruno smoke weed?

my eyes have seen a club that is far more useless than Man U.

see coach whey useless Man U board dey consider? shior!

deepwater:
Are u going to judge by age?
Kids had always been in OAU, asked about the age of Great AFRIKA and other martyrs and heros.

It's not about the age but the orientation, I am not sure of the SU still exists in Ife, even though it does how effective and focus is the student union now?

Don't forget that the orientation of our youths these days have moved deeply into wealth acquisition by any means possible thereby loosing traction with the struggle for emancipation and freedom from shackles of evil.

It is sad, very sad that you could get killed for the basics in Nigeria.

Being a hotel guest is almost abnormal now in Nigeria

tell me the Age of Africa.

my 21yrs old niece is in her final year in Law. you can deduce when she got admitted. it's kids that are there now bro!

QueenAgbo:
Upon all the cheatbeating of the crime tribe,they are still the laughing stock of the country.

lol, laughing stock in what way?

YourFavorite21:
Report her to ur wife, let her talk to her, then if she doesn't change her ways, send her back home.

the wife knows

Sirlancelot:
I won't bother you guys much. I married my woman last year June during the lockdown. Things were rosy for us as a young couple till we brought in a girl of 15 years from my wife's family to stay with us in order to help my wife with house chores and other things during the time she is heavily pregnant.

Mind you, from day one I have been dating my wife, this girl has been on my neck, telling me how she will come stay with me in Lagos if I get married to her sister. That would be my greatest undoing as I grudgingly obliged after many persuasion from her Mother as well. After my marriage, she came over to Lagos to join us.

Now, she is very useless to me. She will go to school from 7am to 5pm. After coming back from school, she will take another excuse to go for evening church and come back by 8pm. No help in doing house chores. COOKING, she no sabi.. My turn off about her now is that she can eat for Africa. The little provision I manage stock at home don't go anywhere now.

The last straw that break the camel back is that she always steals my babies food, like milk, biscuits etc.

My wife is in dicey situation because she once lived with the girl's mother for like 15 years back then, and such can't just pursue her away like plague.

Right now I am fighting the urge and anger to mess her up. I have advised her on numerous occasions but it seems she can not learn easily except with hard handling. Everything bad about human traits, she has it; Lies, false swearing and the likes.

Mature minded people in the house, if you are in my shoes, what would you do?

your house, your rules! if she can't comply sent her packing. you don't owe her or her mother anything, abi you never settle bride price finish? she is not even your wife's blood sister.

EkehPraise:
Honestly I am not trying to sound like a broken record though I'm hurting badly because I don't know how to feel, but this my babe that I've been dating for the past 2 years hardly calls me. Times without number we have talked about it and she promised to improve but that has not been the case.

We have discussed marriage plans and also introduced each other to our families hoping to give it a go ahead come 2022 by God's grace which I know she will be happy to settle with me but two days ago during my break time from work I checked my phone and as usual was about calling her then it occurred to me that this is what I do everyday from good morning to goodnight no calls from her except I call or chat first so I decided not to call or chat yet till now nothing from her.

She has been online on whatsapp, I am sure she calls other people. I have made up my mind not to call or write to her first and if she doesn't reach out to me then I will just bone and move on gently.

Good move! and if she does not call or text, she is not into you

YourWriter:
In reference to the post which I made last two weeks https://www.nairaland.com/6834344/love-im-scared
Here is the update.

I let my feelings known to her telling her how much I love her but unfortunately, the love is unrequited. She told me she's not ready for a relationship due to some personal reasons.
I so much feel heartbroken right now.
We move!

move on

You are very lucky it's kids that are in OAU now. if it were the OAU of before that hotel would have been burnt to the ground by now and the whole ife be on stand still.

Denvacandy:
We got married in 2018 and things where going smooth, i was working with a company in port harcourt and i can bodly say i was very okay, taking flight is not an issue.

When she wanted to give birth to our first child, it was through CS and i paid every damn bills amounting to 500k or so.

We moved down to ogun state and i was taking flight monthly to see her from port harcourt.

Fast forward to 2020, the comapny fold up and i lost my job, i came down to ogun fully with my wife and everything went down, feeding was hard and my savings is drying up.

You know how woman do and how to satisfy them so my savings eventually dried up and the reality was down.

She applied for a teaching job at govt school and she got employed and i was always at home.

Do she was supportive but its didnt took long when she changed and started treating me badly.

I was so sad the day she utter all terirble words to me, on how have not been a good husband and how i have not been dropping money for food and co.

how i have not been taking care of her, i almost moved to tears and i refused to eat her food for some period, i was being supported by a street friend.

How can someone you have sacrificed so much for all of a sudden change and bring out thier true color.

na so dem dey.

govnor4551:
Hi guys..... I love this babe but I can't marry her.
She love drinking, smoking and very easy to anger.
What should I do?
Help.

you don't love her, you lust for her. Use your brain.

Unclefemolala:
Thanks bro for enlightening me
I just checked it up..you're right...they leave the salty forest every year to the fresh coast to mate ....and thus have to go through the road....that preacher tend to make people docile...normal stuffs we would have learnt from is used as a weapon of fear.

I personally love learning new stuffs

don't mind him.

Safyqueen:
Am I talking to a teenager or someone that just decided to be funny or just involved in a discussion.
Have you read the topic of discussion here at all. Is the thread not about a pastor vis-a-vis religion? And people are said to be abusing that pastorship phenomenal profession then I now add how people also called every Hausa man a Mallam?
So don't just choose to argue except you are adding value to educate people.
What

I said u are basing your point on religion , u said is not about it and I said if its not religion based then the title 'Oga' should have been a good example of most abused title. Mallam is used as a sign of respect to someone older than u and besides nobody uses 'mallam' as a title to rape or scam anyone.

True

Safyqueen:
We are talking about the phenomena that is abused, you are talking about equivalent. Is a typical Hausa man a teacher or scholar?

then your assertion should have nothing to do with religion.

why dint you use 'Oga' and an example?

angelfallz:
I agree it is not a foundation issue. But i disagree that it is financial.

Remember the OP said they are trying to conceive. The keyword is "trying". It is possible that not being able to conceive yet, is playing on the woman's mind. Hence making her act irrationally and looking for things to distract her or take her mind of the issue. It is probably why she wants to get out of the house.
It is also possible that, she is fearful that her husband might be thinking of getting another wife, hence her accusations that he is not taking good care of her.

if there have money, i tell you, this issue will not arise. forget the trying to conceive issue. they are just 1yr in the union.

Abike! get lost!

wike is not helpless o

Dalil8:
Spits... Na all this kind stupid advise dey make all these women dey misbehave.

I no blame una sha, some of una grow up listening to only ur mothers. Dem don brain wash una finish.

When ur woman do wrong abeg no let am slide. Make sure she apologize, then punish am. No dey apologize for problem wey she cause.

She no fit ever respect you if u dey always apologize even when na she fvck up.

she complained, yes she should have been considerate. if he had enough money he would have given her what she complained about and woulnt have posted this here. that's why I said he should talk to her about the finance issue.

helinues:
He should be referred to a man or a guy.

This one no be pastor

he is a pastor! one other pastor ordained him.
is it because he was caught? many pastors do what he has just been arrested for and you still call them pastor. He is a pastor abeg!

Safyqueen:
I believe the most abuse is Mallam. Every Hausa man is called Mallam in southern Nigeria whereas he may know nothing about Islam.

mallam means teacher or scholar, imam is the equivalent of pastor not mallam.

I don't blame him. it's the foolishness of the idiots that call themselves Christians in this part of the world. Predators like him will continue to thrive.

if he had made good money, he won't have been arrested like this. his other foolish idiot members would have been defending him all around the social media tagging the victim an agent of the devil.

Buckeyemedia1:
Pursuit to the provisions of The Constitution 1999 As Amended, States are allowed to make laws that help govern their states, it is in Lagos State’s law, did you not see that she had the press statement @ Alausa, Sit of the Government of Lagos State?

and how many years is her tenure? did that law state it or its till death?

e no go better for our rulers.

distinguish:
We have been married for a year now. We have been trying to conceive. Because of the emotional stress attached my wife said she can't be staying at home alone, it causes her stress. She said she wants to start doing something. At least a business.

I took a loan from my place of work and we started the business for over 2 months now. The issue now is that, I don't always have cash on me anymore. Any little money I got it's for the business. Basically, we mostly feed from the business.

Yesterday, after we returned home, she started giving me attitude, I asked her what the issue was, she started telling me how I am killing the business, not taking good care of her, not having money to take care of her and all sort of rubbish, she brought out how incompetent I am as a husband and what have you. I never said a word to reply her and its eating me up seriously, I could not sleep the whole night. This is the person that I sacrificed a lot for. I was supposed a take a professional course this November, but because of her I had to postpone it.

Please I need your advice.

PS: I did not eat the food she prepared last night.

your wife not gotten pregnant yet is God's doing. imagine you have a kid now with the present situation? Go and eat that food u left, apologise to your wife for that. Talk to her about the financial crunch. Your marriage is ordained by God. Everything will be alright.

Bola146:
Then he shouldn't complain, if the woman he married wasn't working when they got married, he struggled to get loan she is still complaining, then he should get the woman what she wants if that is what he told her before he married her, most responsible married men are really struggling alot seriously, the wives should understand their wahala up and down, it's not easy ooo for this Buhari. Some men committed suicide because of wahala from homes, no words of encouragements, no sympathy at all. Both of them should sit and talk because what would happened if they start bringing in kids They should know better besides they are not kids.

it's not a foundation issue ogbeni! it's a financial