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Barrister026:
My wife attitudes towards food she cooked with my money is getting on my nerves.

How can my wife be dishing food to me like she's serving it for our kids.times without number have complained but still no changes.

It's either she makes eba that won't satisfy us ( when they is enough garri available) her defense is that she don't want it to be wasted.

OR

She dished out soup for me with lesser meat like am a kid. Have told her several times when cooking..to buy enough protein in the soup or stew. But to my surprise she always economise the money and divert it into something else.

I even had to start buying suya in the evening when coming back from work, because I know what I be expecting when my food is dished out. ( Recent news we saw of how suya killed some families, made me limiit it)

Have ordered her on several occasions to take it back and put more protein, but must i always do that?

Please This is really getting out of hand, I really don't know how to handle this situation.

if you serve yourself will you die?

since she like economising, tell her you will be dishing food for yourself henceforth.

.....with you!

she is right actually

were you owing them before you left?

Znation:
Hello nairalanders

Some people may say i'm lucky and would want to be in my position, but i really need ur advice..

My girlfriend mum have a very big provission shop, and u all know how it feels (that joy) to have such person daughther as your girlfriend.

She loves me so much that she can give me money, food stuff, all for free from their shop. infact, i don't even spend a kobo to buy anything again. All i do is just go to their shop, & collect whatever i want.

If i meet her mum when i want to buy something, i'll pay her. But if i give her N500, she will give me change of even N2000 and ask me to go. And i don't argue with her so that her mum won't notice. I will just collect the money and go.

If i call her on phone that i'm hungry, only God can tell the things she will bring for me withing just 20 minutes of calling her..

She's spending so much on me, and i think i need advice.

I thought i was a lucky man b4, but the thing is too much 4 me.

nairalanders, What should i do?

gold digger! d day u will break her heart eh!

Iyaebe:
The sight of this organ is nothing to write home about,very awful yet the carriers of these organs are quick to brag about it.

and the recievers chase it around

bigtt76:
Oga sorry ooo ....work harder! Nigeria of yesterday no longer the same

work harder how,?

misterme:
And I am very very angry. Gas I used to buy 2800, then 3k, 4k, and 5k. Suddenly it jumped to 7500 and now (today) 9250 in Port Harcourt. I am very very angry. Let no one here disturb me with nonsense news about Buhari and his nonsense South Africa Trade fair and nonsense. No cross me today o. I fit beat person

The gas finished yesterday. I told my wife that yesterday that I will buy the gas today because I needed to get to work and somehow raise money to augment what I have to be able to buy the gas. I told her to use the kerosene stove that yesterday and this morning. Guess her reply? She said she can't use kerosene even for a day. That even her Mum in the village does not use kerosene stove. She said a few other unprintable things.
For the sake of my 3 children I still had to buy the gas today.

I had not eaten in my house for a month now. The reason is that she said that they money I gave her for upkeep in October was not enough (I give her 62.5% of my monthly salary every month for our home upkeep). As a result she refused to give me food from around the middle of the month when she said the money had finished. She cooked for herself and the children (possibly from her own salary). When I gave her upkeep money for this month I told her not bother keeping food for me so that the money will go far enough. That's where we are till now. I have no intention of ever eating her food until she acknowledges that she was wrong and apologizes.

Now I know this WON'T happen. She will rather die than admit she's wrong or apologize. This is why I know that the mistake of a marriage is heading for the rocks and I am ready for it. Nonsense and ingredients. I have endured this nonsense for 15 years. I am done. Anything whe won happen tomorrow, make e happen today.

oga sorry naa!

Anthony0094:
Commendation? For what exactly?

ordering the hit!

kinzation:
Obi Cubana should be held liable for Negligence

bad belle! has dangote being held culpable once for all d deaths his trailer drivers cause nation wide?

ComeToJesus:
Stop being silly. Is human life mosquito life? Would you say this trash if it were your sister?

you are a fool! if u can't read or reason well, please stop quoting me.

Kingjames:
At present i am out of job for the past 1year and 8months having lost my job since 2019 due to Nigeria border policies. I am single @35 and no serious relationship yet after my fiancee left me immediately i lost my job.

Before then, i had spent my last savings on my building project in the village. This is motivated from the income that comes every month (300-450k/months) excluding my salary of 200k.

Now i was left with nothing. I am thinking of relocating to EPE from LEKKI (in a room and parlour selfcon here ) on a job of 150k/month.

Does it worth ? i do photography here in lekki though not professionally just to keep body and soul.

Please fatherly advice urgently needed

no, just remain jobless.

jban4real:
They are trying to pave way for Atiku. Does Kalu has capacity to defeat Atiku?

majority of igbos will for vote atiku than kalu

I won't vote for this rogue

cutecommend:
I will advise Obi Cubans to withdraw attention from the public for now.

He has already gotten that public notice, so no matter what happens bloggers will use his name to sell.

dangote's trucks kill people all the time, that does not mean he is the one causing the accidents. its obi's club so if mosquito bites someone there, the news will carry 'mosquito attacks man in obi cubana's club'.

na so Mile 1-3 diobu girls dey

flexyrule:
Chelsea ain't selling...

they don't have a choice

Rastaramsey:
Experienced old players will do nothing.

They should concentrate on buying players for the long term...

don't they have that already?

Newyorkitis:
Madam, forget about being an introvert. Th opposite of Love is laziness. The Bible says Open rebuke is better than hidden love.... If you love them avoid that introvered laziness and make genuine efforts by extending yourself to show that you love his family (not necessarily about traveling to meet them) by calling.

In Nigeria, you marry the family too and not their son alone.
The are scared of you because they feel they won't be welcome to your home when you eventually get married to their son/brother. (Their own perspective)
Don't miss this time around, because very, very few men will want to marry who is not close to his family in Nigeria.

you lie!

MarketDispatch:
Seems you are not ready yet...warm your heart into his family...and they will all be on your side...do not pretend. Travel to see his parents and get used to them, not just calls or chat.

ogbeni! they are not married yet. why will she be travelling up and down just to get approval by his family? he knows her n her family and likes her (I guess) so why is he seeking his family approval?
the first time my parents saw my sis in law was when my bro brought her to show them who he wants to marry.

there is nothing wrong if she does not flow well with her siblings for now.

Havilaah1:
Good day all, i want to pour my heart on what's bothering me and get people's view and possible solutions to the issue.

I've been in a relationship with my boo for a couple of years now and it's a serious relationship, we're are very close.. infact we're practically besties aside relationship. For some months now i noticed he no longer gives me attention like he used to, the vibe between us dropped and it was getting me angry. He stopped doing the things he knows i like, he knows my love language is attention/care as well as complement but he stopped doing all these. I'd send him a photo where i look so beautiful and he'd only say you look good, at a point i started preparing my mind for the worse.

Just yesterday he told me there's something he wants us to talk to me about and it's been bothering him and i asked him what it was, he said it's about us. He said 2 of his siblings asked him same question on different occasions but, he didn't see it as a big deal the first time but when it was asked the second time he got angry and that's the reason he hasn't been flowing well with me.

The question was how can you get married to someone who is not close to your siblings, when he said this i was weak. I know when we started the relationship he told me his siblings are free people i can relate with, i told him i will try. I was in contact with 2 of his sisters before this year( i sometimes chat, text or call during birthdays, new month and festivities).

This year i started chatting with the 3rd sister, her wedding was coming up and she sent me IV. I congratulated her and she asked if i will be around, i told her i will try and create time so i can travel down to attend. I really did travel down to attend the wedding, she was surprised when she saw me but i noticed my boo wasn't happy with me all through the event.
Now he's saying he's in close communication with my mum and siblings, they talk all the time but same can not be said about me. He was thinking how can he get married and his siblings will refuse coming to his house because there's no relationship between us.

I'm a very introverted person while himself and his siblings on the other hand are extroverts and ambiverts, i don't find it easy building up ties with people from a distance. I have very few friends, i can be in a place and i won't talk if I'm not used to the people or there's no serious thing to talk about (that's the reason i talk to his siblings during birthdays, new month or festivities). I don't know how to build up a strong relationship with them before marriage, it's even worse because we don't get to see often cos they're in a different state but I've visited them on a few occasions.
How do i handle this issue. I was in deep thought all through the night, i couldn't get up to 4 hours sleep.


God knows i love his family as much as i do mine, he himself said he knows i care about them 100% but his family cannot read my mind to see that i have them in mind. After our discussion last night i couldn't sleep, I've been feeling bad about the whole thing. Introversion is making me look like I'm not a good person.

I really don't know how to go about this, please i need advice from people who have been in similar situation.
Moderator please help move to front page to get a wider view.
Roctation
farano
Please help move to front page for wider view.

you have tried my dear! if this is the reason for his attitude then he and his sisters should getat! yeah it will be very hard for you to but this is kinda a red flag for me. If he cannot stand for you in front of his siblings then they will be controlling him in your marriage if you guys tie the knot.

Advocate500:
Ok ooo,but hellinus said nobody was killed? I am surprised he have been avoiding this panel report thread.

all the bastards saying so will avoid the threads.

am sure they have reported to their headquarters for briefing on how to go about defending this.

mount cctv in the mortuary n show us how the bodies fight, then I might believe.

sharpwriter:

Medicine after death.

as in literally

emmyluizzz:
if you marry that girl simply because she is pregnant for you....then I pity you cos you don't know what you are getting into

which girl?

AmericanDad:
Hey guys, I just found out my colleague at work iv been sleeping with is pregnant. We were'nt dating tho we were just having fun together. We both came into the organization the same time and we earn very well like well above 500k per month. I'm 33 and she's 28. Shes having double mind about it and thinking of abortion but I told her No. Her reason is what will our colleagues say and how her family will react to her being pregnant out of wedlock.

The issue is she's from calabar and I'm from anambra. I'm the only son of my parents. Iv not told my folks yet but they definately would prefer me to marry an igbo girl. Also guys, we have started talking marriage plans but now that she's pregnant can the church wed us? or should I just do Traditional and court then after the baby is born I do white wedding Time is ticking oo.

Congratulations!

Righteousness2:
Nothing spoil! He did what was right! And that is what Matters.

The Path to your Breakthrough could look rough , tough and Humanly foolish. But when GOD remembers you, those who laugh at you will join to celebrate you.

is entering a country illegal right?

the guy na real gbeff

vinceyinnovation:
Can Any full grown Atheist explain the science behind money ritual or ritual

Is it just foolishness or there is something behind it?

If just foolishness why have they not realize this generations before now to stop it?

Why is rituals as old as mankind itself? Even advancement in technology and science has not stop it? (Mind you human ritual is not just an african thing).

Traditionalist and scientist/atheist on this platform over to you...

Please you are free to attack the message or the messenger if that is what makes you happy?

Atheists don't believe in anything spiritual. your questions should be directed to the religious like yourself.

OnlineAmebo:
I dont mind involving police or going traditional.
I have a christain background but i believe very much in potency of oaths

why not meet your boss in person and tell him the ladies conspired against you. suggest to him to install cctv that captures what happens within the counter.

I think the ladies do what they accused u of and want you off that post.

on the contrary, if you really careless about the job, I suggest you quit. going through all that for me it's not worth it. your peace of mind/sanity matters more.

1234 or 4123

how do u intend clearing your name?

Ilaumoh:
But why are they’re so negative or is it hate or wat?

na jealousy o!