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I keep asking myself this question. Why do men pay for sex?

I am still unable to accurately answer this question. mm

You don't need to take me serious. Your attention is not important. I, myself also don't pay attention to ignorance.

Your block head failed to understand that, my moniker is not part of my personality.

Since you are a yahoo guy, be prepared for what is coming. It will hit you so bad. Your foundation will not be spared.

delzbaba:
I'd wanted to take you serious until I saw your moniker.

You are a son of the Devil.

Puke. I am outta here.

PlayMaker14:
On a serious note, focus on your own issues...

Of course I will.

PlayMaker14:
Na your neighbor matter you carry put for head like this?

As a jobless man, I say make I just do small aproko.

I won just do small aproko on marriage section.

Any man or woman who tells you that, physical beauty is not that important to them, they are chronic liars.

THE GIST.

I have a residential neighbor. He is in his 40's while I am in my 30's. He lives upstairs, while I live downstairs. He is a banker, divorced with his first, now ex wife with two children and became single again for a long time. From our conversation, his first marriage failed due to immaturity from both side. It became very difficult for him to re-marry because he wanted a help mate. A career / business / market wise woman that will help and build his life.

He told me the problem he is facing today was as a result of his first marriage, and the ease in his life will be determine by his next marriage. He told me he will not settle for the less and I believed him.

He had a lot of conversation with me about his life, although I never told him about myself. I just gave him few advice and prayed for him not to make another bombshel of a mistake.

Someone recommend for him a very young girl which he seem to like. Paid her dowry - traditional marriage in a hurry and brought her home as married couple.

To him, he has caught a fresh young fish.

When this young woman came, he was so curious about me which I seem to understand. One day I told her not to worry if I don't give her attention or always converse with her the way she want. I made her understand I don't speak much in person unless it is very important. I did this just to put her at ease.

THE PROBLEM

The problem right now, my neighbor is having serious headache. I mean extreme headache because the girl he married is still behaving like a child.

He just realize that he has made another huge bombshell. When he first brought her home after the dowry, I myself was secretly concern because the girl was just too small and immature for him. I mean too young to be his daughter age mate.

Yesterday he was shouting and willing to lay hand on her or send her back home. He married her without courtship for the very wrong reasons below.

●He married her because she is young and innocent.
●He married her because he needed someone that will be under his total influence and control.
● He married her because of total submission from a woman.
●He married her because she has orange breast. We men like female breast too much . We just love to suck female breast and she has nice standing fan boobs.

Right now he is seeing the opposite and not the character he thought he paid for. Instead of character or fine personality, man foolishly lusted after tight vagina and hot breast.

I tried to communicate with the young babe, letting her know she need to be smart and acknowlege herself as now a married young woman. She is no longer in her parents house, but her own house.

Her response to me shows that, she is just a typical village girl who was convince into marriage by her parents. She blame her father.

I am secretly concern about her well being.

My only secret worrries right is that, her hubby should not lay hands on her, by slapping her. I don't like when a man beats a woman.

She is very young and small like that of a 17 years old girl.

MEN will always go for curves and breast and not for mature mind or character

Right now, am just relaxing as I watch a lot of my Favorite TV channels which are

National Geography Channel
National Geo Wild.
Discovery Channels
TLC.
ID.
Fox Life
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BBC Earth.
History Channel
Travel Channels.

Soccer is not for me. I only watch winter sport and ice dancing sport.

Can't suffer myself anymore.

Four months after I saw huge amount of money that was used as a sacrifice to the gods. See the link below ⇣ ⇣
https://www.nairaland.com/7203698/saw-money-used-sacrifice-gods

My bank account balance became very low. I was tired of this broken life. I am an eagle that is living inside a cage and I need to be free. I groan for almost four night. Some times I will cry out from my sleep and wake up in pains and regret. It was one of the most difficult and saddest moment of my life.

On a Friday I woke up at 5:39am and acknowledge that, another new day of pain has come. I look towards my kitchen and remember that I have nothing good to eat.

It has been 16 years of trials and extremism. I have had the most wrecking battles of life and yet I still held my head high unto God.

This wilderness journey is very slow, long and painful, I blurted. How long will I continue with this wilderness journey? I thought to myself.

Then I heard a subtle voice in my heard that says; remember, you use to live like a king, but right now, you are living like a slave. Just look all around you.

You have lost everything.
You have lost your honour.
You have lost your glory.
You have lost all your finance (money) business.
You have lost all your life golden opportunities and you have nothing left.

The God you so much trust is now silent. Your God has forsaken you.

Despite all your perseverance.
Despite your goodness, kindness and faithfulness.
Despite you choosing a love filled life.
Despite all that you have done, in choosing a righteous pathway, yet you are rewarded with many years of injustice.

The very people you love and sacrifice your life for, later betrayed you and drove you away.

The female gender - women, whom you seem to love and protect even fought you and wage war against you.

Just look how Nigeria women turn your life upside down

Just look how your faith in Jesus has betrayed you.

It seem like Jesus Himself even enjoy seeing you suffer so much.

Your own Jesus has handle you with an iron fist.

What is the need for you to blindly follow Him?

What is the need for you to have so much confidence in God and His faithfulness?

Don't you see how others have prospered without their genuine trust in God?

Many painful thought now flooded my broken soul. I tried as much as I can to fight my thought, not to be bitter or angry with God, but I just can't help being unhappy with Almighty God.

Then another painful thought came into my head that bubble burst my emotions. Despite the fact that you have sacrifice your life and walk in love and virtue, yet you have never known peace.

You have never know a time in life without a brutal battle. You have been through so much. You truly have never known peace or rest from the struggle of your entire life.

Despite you doing what is right, you are rewarded with many years of pain, humiliation and suffering

With these bubble thought of pain and regret, I burst into tears and wept bitterly in bed. For the first time in a long time, I badly wanted to die.

I was full of remorse for being too caring and selfless. I wish I had been selfish and taken good care of myself. For virtue itself has betrayed and cheated me. I started to weep bitterly in pain and regret.

After being sober, I thought I should still endure and keep on looking unto the faithful God.

I took my debit card and walk to the bank just to see if I can scrap something little from the ATM. But when I got there, I change my mind because I still got 500ⁿaira in my pocket.

I remember I still have some raw rice at home. Ok, let me manage this 500ⁿaira ($1) till Monday morning, then I will withdraw the little money I have left in my bank account. I then went to one bet9ja shop to power charge and browse with my old phone.

After three hours, my phone was fully charged. It was time for me to go home, but as I was about to take my leave, there came the heavy out-pouring of rain that held me back for an hour or so. By 7:pm it was dark and the rain has finally stopped.

Everywhere was so busy and chaotic as everyone all wanted to go home and rest.

As I was walking home, I pass by the market. I decided to branch the night market with just the 500ⁿaira in my pocket. I wanted to just buy one small fish, tomatoes and pepper which is very expensive in that town.

With the five hundred ($1) in my pocket, I slowly walk from the starting of the market to the ending and walk backward gain and again like a Lostchild.

I was afraid to approach any of the fish and tomatoes seller with my 500ⁿaira

What sane guy man in his right mind will branch the market with just ($1) 500ⁿaira ?

Poverty has badly dealt with me.
Poverty has given me a heavy blow.
Poverty has brought me to my very kneels.

With just 500ⁿaira in me, I felt like a total failure as a guy man. But luckily I was able to get a good deal of one small fish, pepper and tomatoes with just the 500ⁿaira. ($1)

I was happy that I was done and now am finally leaving that miserable market where penny men like me are not welcome. It was a market of greed where they meek people dry.

After buying, I cross to the other side of the road which is less busy, and I saw something on the ground that look like money that was bundled inside a white cellophane. I kicked it with my right leg a little bit to be sure, of which it was. I bend down without looking back or sideways and lay hold of the heavy cash, and quickly throw it into my black bag.

I began to walk very fast, just to prevent anyone from calling me or seeing someone crying over her missing money. I don't want to hear that word. "hey that money belong to me"

Immediately I entered the road that link to the G.R.A where I live, a thought came into my head. What if you encounter bad boys on the road ?

You know this neighborhood is very quiet, and you have heavy money in your bag?

Chaiiiii, I began to jug walk very fast.

Then I was now inside my street and I saw security guys from afar pointing torch light towards my direction.

Another thought came into my head. What if you meet the police men now and they cross check and rob you?

Chaiii, I ran towards my compound without looking back. As I got back home, I opened my door and entered.

I am safe now. Thank you Jesus, I blurted with endless smile.

Then I brought out the money and slowly counted it; It was ***,000. ⁿaira only. I instantly remember when God said unto me, I will never leave you or abandoned you. I will be with you till the end of your days.

Then my confidence in the faithful God increased. I regain more strength as I look unto Him alone.

After counting the money, a thought came into my head, what if this money disappear?

Chaiiii

I started looking for where I will hide the money inside my own house. Then another thought said, I should hide the money inside empty pot and cover it.

As a little child, I became confused in my apartment and didn't even know where to keep the money. I guess poverty can affect the mind of any sane man and bring them to their very kneels. I later kept the money inside indomie carton. .

By Monday morning, I was inside the bank as I made huge deposit into my bank account. I left the bank and went straight to the market and bought lot of meat and two lively chicken.

I prepared my most favorite food (chicken stew and white rice)

It was very yummy and spicy.

All I do is now eat, read, rest and watch all my favourite Tv channels. For I can't suffer myself anymore

The end..

updatechange:
We yrey pataki.... I think say u no go pack am nii

If I nor park that money, hunger will just give me rest in pieces

January 2022.
I moved 45 miles away from my home town to another town. What seems to be a peaceful transaction and movement later turn out to be a conflict that involve community hoodlums, who later got the police involve. The police saw that it was just a manipulation and wickedness of the wife of the landlord and they did let me Go without bail.

God fully intervene because of my meekness and also my long journey of unnatural circumstances which led to my financial brokeness.

I suffered badly in the hands of the evil woman, but I endured it and kept my head high unto God. Knowing that God will make all things to work for my good.

With God intervention I had to move from that town and settled in another quiet town, a place more better than the former. By this time my soul and body was completely broken and my health deteriorated.

After one month living in these new quiet town, the little money I had left was gone and my bank account was totally empty. There was no food for me to eat. I was left with just 200 ⁿaira in my house.

It was during the period of fuel scarcity and total blackout. I lay down, face downward as I contemplate within myself. The week has ended and Sunday is almost here already, and I need money and food.

I have three bank account, and they are all empty with no money in them. The only thing I was having at home was a lot of almond fruit that gave me diarrhea just by eating too many of them. Yes, I have too many almond fruit and some sower sop fruit in my apartment then.

I began to wonder how Adam and Eve survived more than 900 years with fruit only, when the almond I have here is giving me running stomach.

I then continue to contemplate. How will I survive in this new quiet town with no job, no friends and family to back me up?

My question is, how did I survive and how am I surviving?

THE ANSWER.
I decided to place my hope and trust in God. Since it was the Almighty that channeled me to this new town, then God himself will provide for me.

It was 5pm in the evening, I walked 21 minutes to the next nearby town just to look for any bet9ja shop to power charge my phone. By 8pm at night I was done and took my leave as I headed back home with just the 200ⁿaira in my pocket.

There are four different pave road that link to the G.R.A where I live. I always take the shorter road that seem a bit busy, while the other roads are always quiet and isolated. Even if they try to kill person in those two road, no one will be there to intervene because it is so quiet and isolated

As I took the short and busy straight road,, there was this heavy pot hole that look muddy anytime it rained. When I got to the pot hole, I said to myself, I can't use my ©lean loafer to pass through this muddy port road. No, let me go back and use the long well pave road with no pot hole and muddiness.

Although I always normally pass through it, but that very night I just decided not to pass through it because I get irritated by anything mud. I am a lover of cleanness who hate mud, so I retreat and went back to use the longer road.

As I entered the G.R.A via the long road, I got to a T junction, and I saw money that was used as a sacrifice to the gods.

God, damnn it. See me see plenty maniieeee. Thank you Jesus, I blurted.

As a temporary broke guy, I started packing money. I was the only person in that entire road and yet I was packing money into my tiny poly.

My back and front pocket became full with money too, so I started shocking maniiiee inside my left and right socks. My whole body was full with money that smells with oily idol worship perfume.

As I was about to take my leave, I saw more monie. Haaaaa isshhhh haaaaa. I dive into more packing with many smile. I made sure I pack everything and none was left.

I then raise my head up and saw a man coming from afar, chaiiii I decide to retreat backward very fast because by this time, I now see everyone as a suspect.

Poverty will genuinely humble any man. .

I looked to see if there was any bike coming but I could not find any to take me home. So I began to walk very slow because my body was full with money. When I got home, I pack all the money into a bucket, put some detergent soap and wash and spread money all over the floor. My house began to smell Idol worship perfume.

I began to smile as I thank the God of all gods, Jesus Himself.

By Monday morning, I went to the bank and deposited 65% of the money into my access bank account. After that I went straight to the market to buy all the food I need.

Within two weeks, my residential neighbors started saying to me that I have change in body and appearance. And I look more finer in compare to when they first saw me. They didn't know that the gods are always hungry.

As a god, I have receive a mandatory sacrifice and I am being well fed. All I do now is just to eat, rest, read and watch TV

The story continue. See link below

https://www.nairaland.com/7209067/lost-money-saw-market

toujurs:
Its ladies within their late twenties or early thirties that love a bigger dick. If not big it should be firm. But you see all these 19 to 23. . Don't go there o. They don't like big dick. All they want is money to buy things. And small dick. I could remember the a girl i met she was 20, i banged this girl. She was screaming am tearing her, I thought it was out of excitement until this girl passed out. The biggest fear of my life came. I nearly fainted too. I took water and poured on her. Before she woke up. And i order two turkey laps and jollof from mega chicken with a bottled fruit juice. I just wanted her to have all the energy she could. Abeg o. No be me she go send jail. . Now its only girls within 26 - 31 i go after. All these 16 - 20. Not me and you.

No kill me with laugh o.

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guobe:
Down in the states,most white girls and black American girls prefer flowers as gifts than money.I keep wondering is there any Nigerian girl that prefers flowers to monetary gifts.just pondering.

Nigeria women only understand money.

With their tradition mentality.

Demigod22:
LoL, if you read the first paragraph I said I was having reckless sex, which means that I have lot of girls around. I don't necessarily have a girlfriend but I have girls, but then as a final year student I decided to give a shot.

I have abundance mentality, self esteem and self value, I am not pained. She wants to come around and enjoy girlfriend treatment for being a friend, but I have many options so I discouraged her.

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Demigod22:
You are reasonable and logical bro. Girls should understand that as a guy, we have girls we want to date and girls we want as a friend. If a girl decides to be just friend she shouldn't expect a girlfriend treatment from a male friend.

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Period.

Demigod22:
Her regret is not beneficial to you. If you call me kid I won't react because I am in my mid twenties, so I can actually be kid to you, that's if you are advance in age.

I have female friends, very great people, they know me and know their boundaries. I enjoyed the friendship and we help one another without second thought, but girls I have asked out and said no and still want to enjoy the girlfriend treatment won't succeed with me.

I am a great guy too. SUG president, best graduating student, school entertainer, fellowship leader, popular and selfless, which most people know in school.

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I support your deeds.

You know your worth and value.

Demigod22:
You are reasonable and logical bro. Girls should understand that as a guy, we have girls we want to date and girls we want as a friend. If a girl decides to be just friend she shouldn't expect a girlfriend treatment from a male friend.

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Period.

Demigod22:
LoL, if you read the first paragraph I said I was having reckless sex, which means that I have lot of girls around. I don't necessarily have a girlfriend but I have girls, but then as a final year student I decided to give a shot.

I have abundance mentality, self esteem and self value, I am not pained. She wants to come around and enjoy girlfriend treatment for being a friend, but I have many options so I discouraged her.

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Demigod22:
Her regret is not beneficial to you. If you call me kid I won't react because I am in my mid twenties, so I can actually be kid to you, that's if you are advance in age.

I have female friends, very great people, they know me and know their boundaries. I enjoyed the friendship and we help one another without second thought, but girls I have asked out and said no and still want to enjoy the girlfriend treatment won't succeed with me.

I am a great guy too. SUG president, best graduating student, school entertainer, fellowship leader, popular and selfless, which most people know in school.

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I am glad you know your worth and value.

In the west it is understandable for a person to remain single by choice and not get into the marriage institute

But Africa women don't understand this. To them life is all about marriage and children.

9jadonfinish:
When I knew her l, have nothing and was squatting but since we started dating , things has changed and she claim that she is the one praying for me
She told me before I leave her, I must open a shop of 20million cfa and that she will also take my daughter
Pls note that I bought her Hyundai car and also bring her goods regularly from turkey and China

The problem is that my age is ringing and I need to get a woman that will take care of the 2 daughters for me here in Abidjan

Which prayer?

Stop

Be a man for once. She sees your tenderness as a weakness. Tell her to behave as you can no longer tolerate her threats. If her parents does not want her to marry you, then let her go.

She should go and threaten her parents who refused her from marrying you.

Have a nice day.

blazingblender:
A post was made on Facebook
And I commented
I will marry a virgin
You need to see the way some set of mumu men where just worrying me with yeye questions
Whether I was a virgin
Dude me I be virgin ooh and I ho marry virgin ooh cus any girl that can keep her virginity till atleast the age of 25 na good girl by defaulty
You can't convince me other wise

You know the truth.
You believe in the truth.
You express the truth but they attack your truth because they are blind to the truth.

No matter how they attack the truth, it will always prevail.

As you wish, avoid runs girls prostitute. Marry a virgin and have massive peace of life.

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Mindlog:
Personally, there is nothing like a market girl but just a lady earning her livelihood offering goods and services in the market.

Selling in a market does not require a specific personality trait as it is always a convergence of people of different sorts....the maniacs, the cool headed ones, some that exude eerie vibes etc

For me, the personality of the individual is what counts and not where they earn their living. A lady working in a corporate setting does not make her a demon nether a lady selling in the market, make her an angel.

What you as a man want from a wife will certainly not be the same with every other bachelor because they are men who are only drawn to ladies who are career-minded and we cannot fault their preference.

By the way, I thought your preference has always been foreign women?

Lest I forget, why is a woman suffering with a man, regarded as a "virtue"? Are you expecting your future foreign wife to suffer with you?

I agree with your point.

I see market girls as safe option because of the high rate of prostitution in Nigeria