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Greatmind653:
Pls, if you don't really understand this post, don't comment please. If you're gender bias, pls, read and ignore.

Good morning kind hearted people in the house. Pls, I need honest and matured advice from experience and knowledgeable people in the house.

How can I train my sons especially my 11yrs old boy into a good, respectful, well behaved young man in a situation where he constantly see his father in gambling addiction, and the house is not always peaceful because of this?

How can I make them believe that the fact that their father does not provide anything for them nor anything in the house, does not mean they're not good enough?
My son has learnt the habit of not asking his Dad for anything no matter how little because he knows the answer already. He would rather starve than ask him for anything. Every of his needs, he will patiently wait for me.

I practically provide everything in the house and he knows. Infact my husband and my two sons can be in the house hungry for the whole day if I'm not around.
Any money he has is strictly for betting. He wouldn't even use it to feed himself not to talk of his children.
He eat anything I provide in the house without him providing. Most times it's very annoying.
Most times, we don't talk to each other in this house, yet anything I cook, he must eat.
I'm trying my best, because I can't watch my kids go hungry or stay without light, water, TV subscriptions and the rest. But once he's holding TV remote, no one dare change the channel.

How can I train well behaved young boys in a home like this? I'm so lonely and worried for my children too.

I'm no longer traumatized by his gambling addiction, because I have tried everything, and it didn't work if this is the life he wants, then fine.

I'm traveling with my two boys for the Christmas and I intend to stay in my family house for a very long time. Maybe not to return back here.
This house, I shoulder the house rent, all the bills all for the sake of my children. I don't want a broken home. I don't want my children growing up lonely without the presence of their both parents. But, am I doing the right thing here?
My husband has refused to change for years. all efforts, complain, family intervention all failed.
He's been in gambling even before we got married. I have endure for so long and I'm scared if what I'm enduring really worth it.

I've given up either.

Am I making my children better by staying together here or they could be better when we're apart?
Anyone experience this before?

What's the right thing to do here?

Sillymoderators:
You be mumu! And you are the real hypocrite! I pray 🙏 for you that your daughter dresses like that and become irresponsible or a nuisance to the society.
Adult asking foolish questions. If your parents didn't teach you what morals is then I pity them.

jmoore:
Then you are the one displaying the lack of sense.
The post is not attacking what people are wearing. If you want to wear only gstring, be bold and wear only it. Why keep pulling down a short skirt when walking around the street? Where you blind not to see the shortness before you decided to wear it?

Aonkuuse:
So you think coming to nairaland and clicking on this is not joblessness? Go get a life and stop giving people bad energy

Sillymoderators:
Park one side! He his talking about morals in society.

Ahnii:
I saw one at chicken republic days ago....ommoorr I was like shuuuuo!
And she came with her man o.it would have bn better if she siddon inside the car.

CHRISTFUCKER:
Any girl that does that issa forking who're looking to distribute

havenz:
At least she for tell one person among her family members, what if something had happened to her badly or she go further (God forbid o), the whole of her plan and the building for be another stranger inheritance. Let's learn to keep somethings out of secret abeg, family is one.

Jewessgratitud3:
Why is this a problem and why are some of you feeling so entitled and wanting to be in the know of other people's private life and plans?

The other day it was a friend complaining that his friend didn't tell him he was building a house. Abeg, Shey Dem collect money for una hand take build the house nii?

A person has the right to conceal his plans from the public until he has accomplished it and you have no right to condemn him for it. He even told you people after successfully completing his project and instead of you to be happy for him you're angry. for what? Did you have plots to t.wat his plans.

Please, never divulge your plans until it is matured and successfully accomplished because some people are dream killers and will destroy your plans even before you accomplish it..

Be happy for him. He owes non of you any explanations. When you too build your own don't tell him.

Peter532:
I don't know if I should be angry or just smile and take it as it is. This is someone that I fed, I clothed despite us being closed friends since we were kids. He knows everything about me that my parents don't even know till dates..We could go to a gathering together and I will be the one ordering and paying for everything we bought even recently because I always acted like the big bro and he accepted I guess .. Just last week I saw it on his status about is house opening invite. I later got a dm from him that same evening telling me about it that I should come through.

It came as a surprise I admit, even though I know he was doing quite well for himself. I know some will call it entitlement mentality but since I considered we were close like a brother we even ate from same plate last 2weeks, I thought I should have known atleast.

Note: I noticed so many people will come in here to call me names, even some accusing me to be someone with bad motives and sort I smile. Not everyone has a evil mindset like you or some persons you know, It's just that when you expect so much from people you hold very close to your heart you might get disappointed and it hurts badly.

Especially when you know you can't do that same thing to that person. I only brought it out here because I wanted to know maybe I'm overreacting because I feel a deep level of betrayal but hey I am happy for him and I will attend the house opening tomorrow.

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Zonefree:
She's not wearing bra. Her dilapidated breasts are romancing her tummy.

She for just button the jacket and plead with the man. You don't just shout and argue with your lecturer and expects him to succumb to your silliness.

God bless the Lecturer for eradicating nuisance in our society.

madone:
Don't follow the words of the first guy that commented oo. It's never true nd the conditions differs. A woman can open up to you because she just needs to air her mind, she needs someone to talk to and she wants to sample opinions. Or she dont want to talk to her blood relations so she sees you as a closer person who will not judge her.
I have them as friends and I am talking from experience. Be the good man she knows. Show her that the world still have hope woth good men like you.
Forget attraction and treat her like a sister

Biodun556:
IMF/World bank loans are weapons by the US and allies. For you to get debt cancellation you must agree to come back and borrow

Secondly, US do force weak countries like Nigeria covertly to take the loan.

I forgive you

Basicend:
Through out 8 years of Buhari tenure, he never completed the rehabilitation of any of the national refineries.

He gathered all the dollars in Nigeria and gave it to Dangote to go a float a new refinery.

Buhari is hyper-miles the worst vegetable a President can be. So poor and terrible in competence.

If we can get like 3 or 4 vibrant refineries working in Nigeria within the next 2 years, perhaps price can reduce.

Biodun556:
I can see that world bank is pumping more loans for Nigerian trying to control the economy and steal the gains from local oil production and refining

athaboi:
People are just being unnecessarily deceived... Nigerians no just get sense! Fubara and wike is acting a script....the useless fubara is on his way to APC and people that are being deceived are there arguing and taking sides!!

hammed71:
bro it's not only Nigerian students it affects all students and all nationalities

Babygreene:
EU countries keeps enacting tougher and stricter measures...poor Nigerian students

nairalanda1:
We saw what happened when Saudi overpumped in 2014....oil prices crashed and put our economy in serious issues by Jan 2015

And that was because Saudi overpumped in response to the US oil industry improving production...to the point that the US no longer needed Saudi oil.

Anyway, OPEC is even becoming more irrelevant because it accounts for one third of oil production now. EVERYONE is producing oil, and EVERYONE IS pumping out oil.

nairalanda1:
Anyone hailing Angola on leaving OPEC...should know it is bad news for Nigeria.

Oil prices fell on the news. Know what that means? It means Angola is free to produce and pump as much oil as it wants without any pesky OPEC quota...which means lower oil prices long term because of the resultant glut.

Angola is also free to sell crude at a lower price than the OPEC benchmark if it wants...especially if it needs the money now. (That's part of how Russia survives US sanctions, sports fans).

This weakens our revenue stream drastically, meaning we have to take more and more loans, or the government would have to raise your taxes well well, in the short term at least.

So, don't rejoice.

Modified

The thing that even scares me is the fact that everyone is discovering oil. Zambia, Uganda and even Benin have all found oil. Yes, it is not as high as Nigeria, but more oil in the market means lower prices for oil...which means lower revenue.

Modified 2

Know who benefits from a glut induced low crude price? Europe and the USA. It enables fuel prices there to fall, and their governments benefit as a result.

RosyIsBlessed:
Nice write-up but I get question. Why do my japa brothers and sisters always turn motivational speakers after they have japa?

simpleseyi:
It is for the good of all.

The President intervened as a concerned citizen who wants peace. He was publicly begged by the Rivers Elders who are loyal to Fubara to intervene. If he wants to intervene as the President and Commander-in-Chief , he will just declare a State of Emergency, and appoint a Sole Administrator.

If he appoints Wike as the Sole Administrator, the National Assembly will approve it. Anybody wey wan die, make e die, the President has spoken. This was what Wike was working towards, that was why he went to Rivers State to cause himself to be attacked and chaos will start, but Tinubu cautioned Wike to let Fubara be. If not, Nyezom Wike would have returned as the Sole Administrator of Rivers State and INEC will conduct another election which will be won by Wike's new stooge. Una go cry tire

LaIabobo:
Unimpressive. I feel Nigeria wont be able to meet the crude oil demands of this refinery. This refinery has starting production capacity of 350,000 barrels per day.
It’ll use up all these crude in less than one week. Then wait again??

Botragelad:
He's right.

I don't get why the Yanks keep letting in these dodgy immigrants. They're flooding in like there's no tomorrow. Ruining the place and no one's saying a word.

Paris is almost if not a shadow of its former self, with many streets spoiled by the actions of a few illegal black immigrants. Even the United Kingdom, my beloved, is not immune to this issue. It seems that lads can't even enjoy a pint at the local pub without fear of being harmed by Islamic terrorists, etc. I wonder why the government accepts these folks and allows this sort of behaviour to continue. Disgusting.

The other day, some Muslim bloke molested a 14-year-old girl, and her dad had a go at him. But no one had the guts to give him a punch. This is not a rare occurrence, you know. Europe, especially France, UK, Switzerland, has gone soft.
These guys are literally everywhere, breeding and breeding. Deport them all I say!

tuoyoojo:
The state is about to be soaked into preboiled trouble because of greed

Resources of a state, one man says he wants 25% as against 10% he was offered

And the state has different factions cheering them on instead of publicly castigating them for using state resources as their personal estate

FreeStuffsNG:
Is this not the same country that some ignorant ,negative-minded, hate-filled, cyberbullies, unpatriotic elements with low self esteem call 'saner clime'?

Only inferiority complex will make anyone, especially a black person, regard that some white people are better than him, especially when the people he believes that are better than him are made up of men having intercourse with each other publicly in what's supposed to be their hallowed Senate Building.

God bless Nigeria my fatherland! Check my signature for free stuffs!

BloomingDale:
I bet those tunnels were used to traffic children by the Israelis. Dey play. Cleaning up all their evidence. Yeye Dey smell.

Cromagnon:

What is not free or fair about our elections? Did anyone stop him from running or getting popular?
Just say you're lazy and want to get it on platter of gold
Clown

[b] thank goodness you confessed

[/b]Shut up you are making zeros sense if useless leaders are what running with popularity in Nigeria means to ppl like you then I have nothing to say to you.

Prove that I said nonsense?
You that can't back up your argument

Naijanascam:
The caption should be like this.. Nigerians asks the CBN governor to stabilize the naira and stop the blame game.....

I hate nonsense

zoedew:
My point is Sim should not be heard complaining. He agreed to the arrangement. Unconscionable to resile. Wike does not like ingrates.

Thundafireseun:
Hope you guys are all aware that Wike has never lost a single fight

WorldRichest:
This is very wrong of the court.

Since the elderly woman has died due partly to the maltreatment by the criminal health workers (though not specified in the report), the criminals should have been charged for manslaughter and sentenced to at least 20 years imprisonment