So the lady/woman that sleeps with a man, dates the and and collects money/gifts from him and refuses to marry him is now what?

For every police station burnt, the FG should deduct money from the state's allocation to rebuild it and compensate families of slain officers

THE HYPOCRISY OF GENDER EQUALITY MESSAGES

I learnt the bias was broken in Anambra yesterday���.

Anyone who knows me well; family, friends, colleagues, classmates etc knows I don't subscribe to the term "gender equality (GE)" especially the Nigeria version, yes, Nigerian version even though I am a humanitarian/development worker. E shock you, relax, I have my reasons. One thing they will attest to is the fact that I mainstream gender top-notch. They will also tell you that in gender workshops I ask too many questions that sometimes make the facilitators uncomfortable but a few discussions afterward have always convinced them that I have valid points. I would prefer the term "balanced inclusiveness" to gender equality. Someday I'll write about my reservation for for Nigerian version of feminism, gender activism, gender champions etc but today let's focus on women lifting women in Anambra�. Some of the points from yesterday incident is part of my reservation for GE here.

1. Ebele Obiano called Bianca Ojukwu "ashawo" in the public of Igwe mmadu (in full glare of people including the media). These are same people (first ladies and Co.) that won't let us hear word with "gender equality" "women this, men against women" that. Initiating GE programmes, implementing and bashing "men" at all level for injustice.

Did you see the way she walked up to Bianca? If that's not gender violence, bullying, abuse then I don't know what else it is.
Since yesterday social media space have been agog with evidences of her violence on other women. In 2014, in far away Poland she called Senator Uche Ekwunife a "prostitute" in the full glare of people including the then first lady Patience Jonathan. An incident that made the first lady ban her never to be part of her entourage.
Here's where I have issues with gender messages; We've been made to always think that gender violence is men against women. When we hear Sexual, Gender Based Violence (SGBV) the first thing that comes to mind is "man". We've been so focused on "men, changing men, who raised him etc" that no one asks very pertinent questions like "who raised women like Ebelechukwu Obiano?" Will the society ever listen to what Oga Obiano have been through? No, he's a man.

#Breakthebias.

2. Bianca Ojukwu, another gender equality champion slapped Ebele Obiano in the full glare of the word with cameras rolling. A physical abuse against a verbal abuser. Since yesterday this act have been celebrated across social media including feminist, GE champions and activists. None of them have condemned what Bianca did. Don't get me wrong, I am not in any way supportive of the former Governor's wife. Infact if she walked up to me in such manner I won't slap her just once. She would have left with swollen eyes, twisted arms and some broken ribs. It's okay, I never told you it's a crime to defend yourself against an abuser. I don't take sh*t. My point is, why didn't Bianca return verbal abuse, why go physical violence?

Now here again is where I have issues with GE messages. The same people celebrating this have in the past submitted, posited, declared and stood for on this same space that "no amount of verbal abuse justifies a man physically abusing his wife". My question is what changed yesterday? Because its a woman verbal abuse now justifies physical violence? I have never and will never support a man hitting a woman. Please get the point. The double standard, hypocrisy and confusion is why my reservation for GE. My gender tend to shift the goal post at will, twist the rules to suit our interests and victory per time. It reeks more of a scam than a course to me.

#breaktherealbias

3. I saw a post from a feminist yesterday. She wrote and I quote "Talk true o.....if Odumegwu Ojukwu was sitting beside Bianca do you think that Ebele Obiano would have the guts to walk up to her and insult her“. I was like wow! Is she admitting now that a woman's husband/man represents coverage, protection, shield for her? No she's a feminist, she can't say this especially in public.

Attached is also is a comment from another feminist. I was shocked at her quick shift and I asked her "what is wrong with you guys? One minute it's partnership, nobody is the Head then another minute you are forcing the man to be the Head because matter don reach responsibility"��. Now the man is the head, the man is stronger because she's asked to give to a man without expectation. See her reaction, the same people that wants a man to give without expectation. What exactly do we want?
You see, too many times we twist the GE messages to represent our interest and arguments per time. It is never what it was yesterday. Why can't we be consistent, stick to one message no matter which gender is affected? Why is it okay when a woman does it and not okay when a man does same?
Why is it always about one gender and not the other? Why does GE seem to focus so much on "men and women" instead of the myriad of gender and exclusion issues?

#whatistherealbias

These are just a few of my problem GE arising from the incident in Anambra.
Please note, I don't like going with the crowd just because they are many. I am okay being the only one on the other side. I like asking questions that no one wants to ask so I won't be supprise with reactions to this post.

The Buhari administration is one full of hypocricy. Over the years, the administration has been shouting to high heavens how past administrations sold crude at high rates yet did nothing with the proceeds. However, when fortunes smiled on the same administration since the start of the Ukraine-Russia war, the tune has changed to "the high oil prices are bad for Nigeria". This to me is the height of hypocrisy. Is it that the higher amounts paid for subsidy due to soaring oil prices were not paid by past administrations?

PrinceOfLagos:
When I say that 2023 is the turn of the south east people, some Tinubu useless and cursed urchins will call me IPOB or IGBO...

In all fairness, it is the turn of the south east people to produce the next president in 2023. but if Tinubu won't let that happen, then let the North retain power.

I will not support Tinubu because I'm Yoruba , No, I hate greed.

Fairness in sincerity or out of ignorance? Are you aware that the north west and katsina precisely produced the presidents we've had from the north in this democratic dispensation? Why have we not be clamoring for a president from the north east or north central?

nairavsdollars:
Tinubu can't afford to lose Aregbesola if he is serious about winning presidency in 2023

Who is Aregbe? Somebody who couldn't win primary election in his own ward?

Watch out for Abaribe. He is an intelligent politician. He knows that no SE candidate at the moment can win PDP presidential ticket or the main election even if the PDP mircozones it to the SE.

Tinubu did same to Ribadu in 2011 and Atiku in 2007 in ACN when it was clear that they cannot win against the government in power at the time.

InaNla:
That is the school rules. If you cannot abide, please leave. Period!

I have 3 children in the school, it was very 7challenging at the beginning thou.

God bless you ma'am! Their school, their rules.

Cryofigbos:

Keep writing jagons up and down.....dey said ur region lack proper infrastructure u r looking for way out instead of demanding better governance from ur governors....that's why yoruba ppl get sense pass una

Did you even read what I wrote? I guess no. It baffles me how some of you confidently and ignorantly insult people online, making unsavory remarks.
I know reading is a big problem for this generation so let me help you understand a few things in summary. In my earlier comment, I said
1. The SE actually has low bandwidth penetration
2. I don't agree with the other user's assertion that the low usage in the south east is because the people of the region travel out and leave just few people back home. Instead I pointed out that Igbo villages are even more inhabited
3. I advanced the high cost involved in putting in place telecom infrastructure as the major reason for the poor availability of telecom infrastructure in the SE and consequently low growth rate.

SmartPolician:
IMO, internet penetration is low in the east because most young people from the east don't reside in the region.The SE leaders haven't made effort to create opportunities for our people in order to keep them there. The implication is that every young Igbo wants to migrate to Lagos, Abuja, Port Harcourt or elsewhere in the world in search of greener pastures.

People often say that anywhere you go and you don't see an Igbo man, you know that nothing is happening there. Funnily enough, our people see that as a good thing. The truth is, there's nothing good about a region's most brilliant minds leaving in droves.

I beg to differ. The Igbos have one of the best rural settings you can ever think of. That is, you still find a good number of people in the village compared to most areas where people leave the villages and only a handful remain. I strongly believe that the cost of doing business accounts for this low penetration because the amount it will cost a telecom company to erect one mast in the south east can be used to erect 4-6 masts in the north.

They were not excited to see you sir. They were living the kind of life that celebrities have taught them to live- anything for the gram

Just wait and see how this will play out especially the VAT and correctional facilities. Northern governors will push their legislators to support and not to support (respectively) such bills because it will affect their revenue. They must have heard several meetings to this effect while the southern legislstors that are championing this course will go in there without a united front

Eben91:
22m, he must be a thief

Thief you said? You have no idea how ladies are milking guys these days.

Ahap! While others a getting endorsements far and wide, others are seating in their houses and issuing nonsense threats that their region must produce the next president or they'll leave. 2023 will surely come and go but they will not smell the presidency nor break away. This will continue to happen until they wake up to the fact that politics is not about issuing threats but about building bridges.

Incomplete story. Why did he hold them hostage? Why did he demand a refund? It is very easy for women to blackmail men in this country. Why didn't they report the whole story to allow the people judge for themselves?

Please enlighten us about the school that is if they pay their lecturers well and have students.

You married an angel. Don't allow her simplicity and your pride stop you from apologizing to her because a time will definitely come when the pain from all you did in the past will push so hard on her that the only succor will be the apology that you had tendered.

Maxymilliano:
This data gives very vital information that something is fundamentally wrong with our system

System or people? The stat is for those who applied not those who were shortlisted but as usual we will always focus on the part that northerners want to dominate everything and forget the part where are our people down south fail to apply or show interest.

PrinceOfLagos:
In all fairness, The presidency should go to the South East.

The North are currently ruling

Obasanjo ruled for 8 yrs and Osibanjo is currently the Vice president

So in all fairness, The presidency should go the South East way

Those of you who push forward this SE narrative, is it plain ignorance or just mischief?
When power is to shift to the north no mention is made of North East, North Central or North west regions but once it is about the south, you start preaching south east, south west and south south.

For the record, the country is politically divided into two: North and South. Once it is the turn of a region (North or South), we don't talk geopolitical zones (i.e. South south, south east, south west, NE, NW and NC).

When we said this some years back some people insulted us. After threats did not work, they've now started begging.
If they had thought in this direction many years back, the region would have been better off. The insecurity is the reason even the ports are not attractive to business people.

specialmati:
do you want Nigeria as a country to get better and move forward give a good igbo man the number one of this country then go back and relax and see how this country will just transform.have you noticed the sun doesn’t advertise that it want to rise from the east

Super story bros! How have Igbo politicians succeeded in developing their states? Let's start from there

specialmati:
since we want Nigeria and not to go our separate ways.the only hope for Nigeria to start healing is to have an Igbo president.soap is made of sodium and oil.sodium is in solid form and oil in liquid form.now the north and the west are the solid part of Nigeria while the liquid is the eastern part of Nigeria from the first 3major division.you know oil as liquid spread when pour out on like solid.that’s why the Igbo are only tribe that can be found in all the areas of Nigeria unlike other tribe.do you know that the Igbos have friends in all the tribes in Nigeria.Nigeria have to place a value on its oil (the Igbos)if the ever want this country to be one and move forward.if not they should allow the Igbos to go.the sun can only rise from the east nothing else anyone can do about it.it’s nature.Nigeria have be negeleting its oil (the Igbos )to be the head forgetting that without oil sodium can’t form soap.but not the type of Orji Rochas

For the record, presidency in Nigeria is not rotated on a tribal basis but rather on a regional basis (North and South). That is why GEJ could become president from a not so dominant tribe. Presidency is not just given. Igbo politicians should wake up and live up to their responsibility so that they can produce a president.
So stop the talk and do the needed work of building bridges and capacity.

The south east will continue to play backstage in the political arena for a long because they don't have political foresight. When I hear some of their politicians resort to issuing treaths directly and indirectly, I just laugh because it is obvious that they don't understand how politics work.
It is high time they realize that power is not given but taken and that it takes capacity and bridge building to take power. Here is my take:
1. Which politician in the south east can square out in an election with a northern candidate and win? OBJ and Jonathan did it from the SW and SS respectively. Recently Kalu said he can only contest if the party's ticket ia zoned to the SE- this shows that himself is not convinced that he can win in a kinly contested primaries.
This is why I said igbo politicians must build capacity and bridges. As it currently stands, I don't think there's any igbo politician that has northern appeal like Amaechi. This means that if he is to contest against a candidate from the SE in an election, he will most likely floor the candidate.

Buhari was a regioner champion (northern) and couldn't win an election until he built bridges with people from the SW, SS and SE. This should be a lesson to SE politicians.

2. All the two democratically elected presidents from the north have been from the north west (Katsina to be precise). Should the NE, NC now also begin to threaten others? When it is the turn of a region (we only have two: North and South) to produce the presidency, it is left for members of the region to decide on a candidate)
_The SE should therefore concentrate on building capacity and bridges. For then and only then can they access the presidency.

DrGoodman:
The federal government are just grasping at straws

What a shame.

If they had any strong evidence, they should have brought it all along, but this panicky, dodgy attitude shows that Kanu has them by the balls.

Long live Mazi Nnamdi Kanu.

Long live Igboland

Long live all lovers of freedom and justice

Besides 13-15 that can't be easily substantiated, which of the above charges is a lie or cannot be proven when his videos and audios are all over the internet?

byrron:


We are saying the same thing. The number is the codification of the entire informations of everything you need to know about who wrote the book, who the publisher that is associated with the ISBN which can be yourself, it can be a publishing company you create yourself, or it can be a ficticious name that isn't even a business at all.

Thanks.

Ok sir. But how can one locate the imprint especially for books that have been published already?

byrron:


You can find the imprint of the book by looking at the back of the Title Page. It should contains everything you need to know about who wrote the book, who the publisher is, how you can contact them, where the book was printed, what the ISBN is.

Thanks.

Ok thank you. But from what I noticed as can be seen from the image, the imprint is expected to be a number just like the ISBN

byrron:
3. WRITING A QUALITY BOOK

You can write your own books by yourself or hire a ghostwriter to write your books.


Advantages of Writing Your Book By Yourself

1. It eliminates the biggest expense in publishing. Self-written books allow people with little (or no) money to actually create and sell a product online and make money. It’s an unheard-of opportunity.

For some people, this might be your only option right now and that’s okay! If you can’t afford a ghostwriter right now… THAT’S OKAY! Lack of money to invest is not a reason to not take action.

2. Get the ball rolling quickly because of the sheer amount of action you can take. You can produce more books while your ghostwriter(s) are writing. You aren’t capped by the amount of work your ghostwriter(s) can do or how much money you have to invest.

You can build up a portfolio of 4-8 books relatively quickly and start creating some cash flow that you can further use to reinvest into more books, ads etc. If you ever find yourself waiting around for people to deliver work to you… go write!

Writing books yourself is the fastest route to $1k, $3k, $5k/month. There is little financial risk involved because you are investing your time, not your money. So go crazy and don’t be afraid to make mistakes.


GUIDING PRINCIPLES WHEN WRITING BOOKS YOURSELF

#1 - CREATE A SERIES: A series of books can be incredibly powerful when done correctly because each book’s success feeds all the other books in the series. Doing a series allows you to “templatize” your first book and write new books quickly.

#2 - BE CREATIVE: Be an innovator instead of a copycat. Copy concepts, not ideas. Take something that’s working and put a unique twist on it.

These books are free to write, you got nothing to lose other than some of your time so if you don’t know if it will work… just try.

#3 - DON’T SACRIFICE QUALITY: Sacrificing quality is shooting the future you in the foot. 1 extra hour of work to make sure something is done better could mean hundreds or thousands of dollars down the line.

Your customer feedback (reviews) will determine if a book will continue to sell or die out.


USING A GHOSTWRITER TO WRITE YOUR BOOK
This is another option you can use if you decide not to write your book by yourself.

What is a Ghostwriter?

A ghostwriter is hired to write books (or other written content) that is officially credited to another person as the author.

The ghostwriter writes the book, but the idea is your own and the book is published under your name/pen name. You own the book 100% in every way shape and form. The ghostwriter has no legal right to your book. Ghostwriting is common practice in the writing industry.


Hiring a Freelance Ghostwriter

How it works: You make a job posting on a freelance platform like Upwork, collect applications from interested writers, create a shortlist of applicants, interview your shortlist, and then hire the best ghostwriter and work with them 1-on-1 on your book.


WHICH PATH SHOULD YOU TAKE?

Use a ghostwriting company if…

• You are a beginner and you know you easily become discouraged by problems and challenges
• You are a beginner and feel super overwhelmed about creating your first book
• You want the path of least resistance and are okay with probably sacrificing some quality
• You can only put in 10-20 hours/week on your publishing business (job, family etc.)

Hire a freelance ghostwriter if…

• You aren’t afraid of the extra time and work that comes with it
• You are fully committed to publishing and want to go the extra mile to get great books written
• You are strong-willed and not easily discouraged. You have the “nothing will stop me” mindset
• You have experience, have published a few books already and want to publish better books
• You are on a strict small budget

There are many websites you can use to hire people on but the best place to hire a writer is on Upwork. Upwork is an online freelancing platform where businesses can meet and hire people.


HIRING INTERNATIONAL WRITERS

You absolutely need to hire a native English speaker, but a lot of people don’t know what a native English speaker means. A lot of people think that means someone from US/UK/Canada.

A native English speaker is someone who’s has learned and used English from early childhood.

There are many countries outside of the US/UK/Canada where people learn and use English every day.

• Philippines, Malaysia
• South Africa (best reputation for writers)
• Spain, Portugal and most of Europe
• Argentina

Sadly, parts of Africa like Kenya & Nigeria to a large extent have a bad reputation for plagiarizing. Interestingly, my ghostwriter is from Nigeria and I did groom him to write exactly how I want my books to be written.

You cannot judge someone’s English or writing ability by where they are from. You must judge writers by their actual written work.


WHEN THE WRITER IS DONE WRITING

It will take 2-6 weeks to get your book written and delivered to you by most ghostwriters. When that happens you still need to proofread, edit, check for plagiarism and format your book before it is final and ready to publish.

We will discuss how to proofread & edit your book for the next lesson.

Good day. Please How do I get/know the "imprint" for a book that has already been published with ISBN?

Christinaog:

Men are scum

Men are scum but women who don't want to fulfil their marital obligations are getting married- confused gender.
Keep pleading with her.


Note: I don't in any way condole or support rape but some women can be really annoying. Worse part is that even some ladies who used to hop from bed to bed and give it to boy friends anywhere and anytime sometimes get married and begin to deny their husbands. Let's put in efforts to make our marriage work.

Ndibunna:
If you don't want to travel, sit tight where you

Stop disturbing our peace with unnecessary sentiments

Rubbish

Sentiment you say? Do you ever wonder why transportation cost is relatively cheaper in the north? Just a few days back someone raised alarm on how Abuja to Gombe which takes 9hours cost 4k thereabouts why Abuja to owerri or so that takes 5-6hours cost 13500. In case you don't know, passengers end up paying for all these illegal taxes that never make their way into government coffers. So hell yes he has every right to complain. They can't be illegally taxing people like that without a corresponding increase in their IGR.

Bola146:
As for me I don't see anything bad in that, it's a way to show honour and respect to him, it's just a visit not forever, he will soon go to his house.

NB If you truly want a happy home, don't seek advice on social media, those kids who can't maintain a week relationship will advise you astray. What works for A might not work for B.

Even with your modifications, it's the same thing!!! Is the man living forever in your house? Why come here to rant instead of telling your wife directly that she did something wrong?! You see why I always said good communication with intimacy are good in every home especially with this teens getting married everyday. I know he will still come back to ask if it's good for his wife to be greeting him every morning or late in the night orishirishi Dear Lord have mercy on us all

You should be praising the man for even surpressing his anger. The man feels his anger is justifiable but isn't sure that is why he brought it here to seek the opinion of others before bringing it up with his wife so what's wrong with that? It's obviously not the first time this is happening but his anger is that:
1. He was very hungry and requested for the breakfast
2. His wife had to wake her sleeping brother and serve him breakfast first before coming to serve him who was already awake and very hungry.
3. If he is to meet his own sister's request before his wife's, all hell will break loose even if his sister's need is more pressing than that of his wife.
Now look at the above 3 points and tell me why he shouldn't be angry.
@poster, personally I will advice you talk to her about it but after your anger must have decipated.

chii8:
Hmmmm....you just said she went to visit her sick mother?You said money is not the issue,then cook nah....You sound like a father who's not always around so you don't know much about taking care of the family.Is it your wife's fault that you can't pacify your own crying children nor cook for them?The in-law is sick and sickness doesn't give a pre information before it comes.

Oga,man up and take care of your children,biko!

Now because you can't cook and pacify your own crying children, you are thinking of divorce.Na waoooo, there's nothing Reverend no go see for pulpit

It is this kind of one-way thinking of yours that has destroyed many marriages and relationships. How did she feel traveling without cooking to put in the freezer? The children are on holiday, what stopped her from traveling along with them? So if there is money and he can cook, does that excuse her action?