KehnnyKay: I started masturbating at the age of 14 and I'm 24 years old now it's hard for me to put stop to it despite how hard I've tried. I can't go 2 days without masturbating and it's already killing me both physically, spiritually, mentally and emotionally. Any day I masturbate I will be exhausted for more than 2 hours before I can come back to my normal self... It's already getting out of hand and I need help. I can't discuss this with anyone close to me because they would be so disappointed in me and I might end up getting more hurt emotionally. Please I need help!!!
Avoid staying alone at all costs. Get close to the word of God get audio clips of preaching's/music from men of God handy on your phone, that would remind you in a way to desist pornography and physical lust. It will reorder your thought process. Avoid company of wayward friends. Guilt and lack of confidence are byproducts of masturbation and the earlier you stop it the better your career life soars. Tame your mindset bro!
UrVillagePpl: A long read but quite insightful and inspiring.
I was supposed to graduate with a First-Class but made 2:1(second class upper) because a lecturer vowed that I can't be the best student ever in Computer Science Department.
What was my offence?
He said I was so insolent to publicly correct a wrong notion he postulated in class during one of his lectures, also, since he didn't graduate with a First Class then nobody else would be in the department as long as he is alive.
This happened about 12 years ago.
He was the head of the conspiracy that marked me down in my final year...
I was very depressed the day I collected my call-up letter to the National Youth Service Corps and saw I was posted to Kebbi one of the educationally less developed states in the country.
Going out of the school, I met Dr. Irukefe at the walkway and he said " I heard about your posting."
He laughed and continued " It doesn't cost much to give your details to someone at NYSC, I want to see how your computer knowledge will be useful in a state where you can count the number of computers, you felt you know something l will see how you will make it in this profession. Best of Luck". And he walked away.
I was stunned because I wanted to serve in Lagos, so this was how I got Kebbi.
Later, a reliable source told me he said that I should thank my stars that he didn't make me have an extra year in school.
I didn't know the hatred was so much. I was diligent in my studies because of my poor background, my parent struggled to send me to school.
I went to the NYSC camp in Dakingari, very discouraged because I wanted to serve in Lagos where an IT firm had promised to pay me 20,000 Naira apart from my NYSC allowance.
Three days to the end of the camp, a man came asking if there is anyone who can repair a Laptop computer. I volunteered and successfully repaired it. He said his thanks, collected my phone number, and left. He didn't even pay me for my effort.
I thought I was going to teach in a school, When I received my placement letter, I was shocked that I was posted to the office of the Senator representing one of the constituencies in the state.
I was astonished. More amazed, when my phone rang about an hour and the man who came with the faulty Laptop was waiting for me in a Jeep.
He drove me to meet the senator, who thanked me profusely for saving his laptop because it contained bills that he wanted to sponsor at the Senate for his constituency.
The Senator offered me a job as his Personal Assistant and computer instructor at the computer institute he had set up in the state. He laid down his plans on how he wanted young students in his constituency to be computer literate and I am to be the coordinator.
My salary was over 80,000 Naira, with a furnished apartment, and medical allowance. I had access to his cars, and the first contract I executed made me a millionaire because I was asked to procure laptops and accessories for all the senior civil servants in the state ministries.
His company was given the contract.
It was from this state that I was able to secure a scholarship to study after three years of working with my principal after NYSC. He didn't want me to go because the computer school was a success story but he facilitated my comfortable arrival in the United States.
All this happened within 12 years.
I have a Ph.D. in Forensic and Information Technology.
Not quite a long time, I was speaking at the conference of World Forensic Scientists in Japan. After delivering my lecture, there was a standing ovation from the participants all over the world.
Among them was my old-time lecturer, after the proceeding, I walked up and greeted him, he acted like he couldn't recall who I was so I reminded his exact words which were "let me see how you will make it in this profession. I am the boy you said those words to.
He was astonished.
I advised, "try to be a mentor to the young students, you don't know who and what they will become."
"Not only have I made it from this profession but internationally am recognized, you must have been seeing my publications, It was I who paid $5500 to sponsor your trip for this conference under the auspices of GRAND Inc. I owed the company.
"Sir, yearly you will be invited, to speak at a conference like this, it's my way of saying thank you for influencing my posting to Kebbi state that particular year. If you had not done it I would not have made it to where I am today. You meant evil but God turn it into good.
"I hope your hotel room (Room 312) has a nice view of Tokyo?"
He stood rooted to the spot, he was too dazed to speak as I was taken away to meet other professionals in the tech business.
He later sent a mail of apology
when ASUU went on strike, I was informed he was boasting at the department in Nigeria that he is the only lecturer in Africa, who was invited to participate at the GRAND Inc World Conference and subsequently he would be one of the speakers. I guess a leopard never changes its spot.
I am glad he is not poor but he didn't meet me where he left me 12 years ago.
No matter what anyone does to you, continue to be hardworking, a man's gift one day will always make a way for him.
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I have never in recent times being inspired by a story such as this. This world will pass away one day but the Word of God which is love will never pass away. Hatred has propelled us to what we are seeing in Nigeria today. If we learn to be our brother's keepers, we would lessen the adverse effects we see daily in form of evil. This story should help us change. God bless the writer.
gloryhomemaker: In this video I showed a detailed 5 minutes process on how to make sweet pop corn on the stove with your pot easy and quick at home. We are in the holiday season again, make new and exciting things to keep them entertained so they wont be bored. You and the children will love and enjoy it.
Ingredients:
Corn kernels Vegetable oil Sugar
Great work. You could venture into the business, like play like play it will blossom!
Which do you take putting everything into consideration.
You are lucky so get on the next flight to report to the kano job. Life in kano is relatively cheaper and more rewarding. While in Kano you can afford a decent accommodation for yourself. Goodluck.
Cleo18: Hello, a fresh graduate just relocated to Lagos in search for job and doesn't have a place of his own for now but squatting with some friends. It seems he's not that comfortable.
He saved some money from his previous job in Enugu before relocating to Lagos in search of a better job.
Presently, he's thinking of enrolling in a cyber security training and ethical hacking tracking with his savings.
Should he get an apartment first before he gets a job or he waits until he gets a job before he rents an apartment? For now, he's squatting with some people and not really comfortable.
What do you suggest please?
My candid advice is that he should get his accommodation quickly, else he would squander that money with his friends and should the job not show forth earlier as expected he would find life tougher, friends wax stronger in the city when non is a burden to the other....don't let experience teach you please
BoredBerry: Just came back from the market... Went there with my landlord's son... This afternoon he saw me going out and asked where I was heading to... Told him... He asked if he could accompany me and I said yes! He was getting a few things too (a mop and buckets and so on...)
I've never spoken to him before... I thought he was an arrogant self-absorbed snub... Not my type... He's a few years older... I'm nineteen so he's between twenty one to twenty three... Very fair... Has curly hair which he dyed dirty blond but left the roots black... Pierced both ears... Dad is a police man... So it's insane he allows his son go out looking like a yahoo boy...
Anyways... He and I trekked a little... We barely spoke... I was extremely shy...
We stay in a very quiet predominantly hausa- fulani- yoruba muslim community... After some minutes we finally stopped a bike... He said we would ride together... I told him 'No'... I never tried that sh** with my exes and sure a as hell wouldn't start with him... But after waiting to no avail... I relented...
It was uncomfortable and extremely exciting! Being really close to cute guy! A lot of bad thoughts but I was also scared a neighbour would see he and I and report us to my mum...
We got to the market which is extremely disorganized! We split up... He went his own way to get what he wanted to buy... And I went to the stalls selling tomatoes and pepper and bought some onions from a mallam...
He and I met again... He asked if I was done so we would head back to our compound together... I told him I had to grind them cause the blender at home was faulty...
In the market... There's a section where yoruba women grind tomatoes or egusi etc... We got there... The lady I chose cause her engine was the cleanest started to tease us... My landlord's son is an aje-butter... He was choking turning red...
It felt good... Cause he was a bit humiliated which made me confident...
The woman asked if we were dating... I couldn't say no... Kept laughing throughout... He didn't say anything.... I think it's a good thing... He made it seem as though we were together...
We finished there... Started talking really well... He's funny... Smart too... Plus he's cute so I enjoyed us being seen together as much as being with him...
We went to a cold room to get some chicken... Nothing much happened there... He paid though... I refused cause I had the money... But I couldn't make a scene... We later spent the money on sweets and soft drinks... Which was fun...
His mum called... Asked him to go to his aunt's wine shop to get something... I didn't follow him cause it's already late... Went home alone...
You both will get along but you would certainly get a discount in your rent ...lol
I need una inputs, I tried scanning through nairaland threads and I am getting more of technicalities and rules lol. I need real experiences. As everybody around me dey japa so I decided to give it a thought. I work with a fintech company and net a little over =N=600k monthly. I am considering relocating to either UK,Germany,New Zealand, Australia or Canada. I am married with four kids. They said study route is the best .
A few of my colleagues that travelled just dey dull my ginger. My Oga who nets over 750k, we spoke today and he is considering a security man job, and claims net pay is over 2M monthly. Biko I cannot come and kill myself.
My friend, we spoke this evening and he responded oboy make I no lie you, na shit i dey pack for here, the good news is they say it will always get better with time. What if person no come eventually become citizen, is it a must you go become citizen.
I don talk to over 10 persons today and they all saying everything is though. Me I don't like stress, where me and wify go dey overwork just dey pay bills. Ofcourse I no get strength for menial jobs, make one oyibo use me take dey shine lol....
I no get any exceptional skill, I be sales man ooo.
Would you advise I still gamble and go with family abi make I hold my job oooo.
Please, I would welcome suggestions and advise.
Thanks Guys
My candid advise is that it is natural to be adventurous, however, if you could establish a business with your wife and let her train the kids for a while in Nigeria while you go on studies abroad and find your ground there while you study before thinking of moving them all. The world is a nice place if we pay attention to first things first. Your family is more important than your pay. Once you fix them going well in your absence you are good to go. You haven't prepared a place there to move your family at once, think of apartment, feeding, health, children's school fees, medicals etc
I need una inputs, I tried scanning through nairaland threads and I am getting more of technicalities and rules lol. I need real experiences. As everybody around me dey japa so I decided to give it a thought. I work with a fintech company and net a little over =N=600k monthly. I am considering relocating to either UK,Germany,New Zealand, Australia or Canada. I am married with four kids. They said study route is the best .
A few of my colleagues that travelled just dey dull my ginger. My Oga who nets over 750k, we spoke today and he is considering a security man job, and claims net pay is over 2M monthly. Biko I cannot come and kill myself.
My friend, we spoke this evening and he responded oboy make I no lie you, na shit i dey pack for here, the good news is they say it will always get better with time. What if person no come eventually become citizen, is it a must you go become citizen.
I don talk to over 10 persons today and they all saying everything is though. Me I don't like stress, where me and wify go dey overwork just dey pay bills. Ofcourse I no get strength for menial jobs, make one oyibo use me take dey shine lol....
I no get any exceptional skill, I be sales man ooo.
Would you advise I still gamble and go with family abi make I hold my job oooo.
Please, I would welcome suggestions and advise.
Thanks Guys
My candid advise is that it is natural to be adventurous, however, if you could establish a business with your wife and let her train the kids for a while in Nigeria while you go on studies abroad and find your ground there while you study before thinking of moving them all. The world is a nice place if we pay attention to first things first. Your family is more important than your pay. Once you fix them going well in your absence you are good to go. You haven't prepared a place there to move your family at once, think of apartment, feeding, health, children's school fees, medicals etc
lalalista: Good morning all, please I need intelligence support in this situation I found myself.
Our sachet water factory is in the same compound that we live, we needed workers and contacted an agent to provide us with a motor boy and a driver. The boys came and worked with us for 5 days and after 5days they said they got another appointment somewhere better and they want to leave. We allowed them to go but 3 days later we discovered that the 25000 naira I kept in a bag was missing. The night before they left , I saw some suspicious moves by the motor boy but my mind didn't go there. Now we have called the agent to produce the boy but he's telling stories that he doesn't know anything about him and the information he filled was wrong. Can I get the agent arrested ? What should I do? Your advice is needed
Sir, to be honest lets assume they played a fast one on you. However I will advice you to live vengeance to God, otherwise what you would incure in chasing that case may end up well over 25,000 naira, your time, your energy, the risk of losing more money running up and down rather than focusing on your business. I suggest you get new boys, place advert in your church and get referees append their signatures to whoever would make the list so this doesn't happen again.
chatinent: No vex, the USA wey you attach in your username, is it of/for your uncle?
Btw, I don't know how to be entitled... because I never had sb who sends me anything. I literally worked for every little thing I have. I have been working since when I was 13. It surprises me how you guys feel you are another's responsibility.
In this hard time, N1000 given to you that you didn't work for should come with a big thank you.
I just wish you knew you'd be someone's uncle someday.
As I dey, we wish we had sb to send us even if na N2k and you see N30k you dey bleat.
As you dey, I fit just see you for road nack you engine block for this entitlement feeling...in fact, begin come front.
No mind children of nowadays, their entitlement mentality crave for money is out of this world. That uncles loves him, he is giving him money commensurate to his age , huge sums will destroy him at this age. A skill is what he needs and books if he is a student.
Is like you are from US . The differential of 58,000 naira is it not beyond your transport fare? Better go for 108k job. You will sight it in your next opportunities and get a better bargain. If that 50k job had free accommodation I would have opted for it. So go for 108k . The naira currency is facing great devaluation, so be wise.
It is human to want to continue from where your master would stop. After all who doesn't like power after being groomed. Osinbajo would make a good president given the chance. He will assemble the best thinkers in Nigeria and unbundle a Marshall plan the nation has never witnessed. He has the energy and drive to pilot Nigeria's affairs.
I hope this deal will not snowball Nigeria into more problems. Considering that Belarus could have easily patronized Russia her big daddy. This kind of deal has more than meets the eye. Don't forget Russia and Belarus are under heavy sanctions by the west. I pray Nigeria doesn't attract her share of sanctions soon.
This trap will be the last stroke that would break the Carmel's back . Escalation means World War. At times I wonder why dictators acquire so much power only to crash in the end.
Go with tailoring it will expand your scope of clientele, you meet more people for more business opportunities. Barbing is mostly a male customer business with more disturbances of customers some coming to play around and use your consumables for free lol.
As long as there is life, there is hope. I believe we will learn something good from this not the act in itself but the resilience and the will to hold on with life. Goodluck.
Chinkos99: Our company recently employed this guy, we worked in the same company before, then he was a manager and i was a junior staff.
I left the company years ago and joined another, so few months ago he got employed in my new office as a Director.
When he resumed, being that i knew him before, i started playing around with him, like when he was introduced to us, i was like oo, common, i hug him tightly and people were surprise at our closeness before i informed them that we have worked together before.
I am a jovial person, so each time i go around his office, i will call him boyfriend, my love, hope no girl is trespassing cos i will fight o and his subordinates will laugh and say you are not serious.
On the job, we get to work together at times cos i am a Manager now, we go for meetings etc, then some of his job includes doing some short production, even though i am not employed as a video producer, i told him i can do those for him personally, cos i recently learn those, he was surprise before but he decided to give me a try, i did it for him and he liked it, he became close and said i was helping him solve alot of problems.
Recently when he comes to my office, he will ask my PA where is my woman and that one will laugh knowing i started it but i just thought that was it though.
So last month when we went to the Palms Mall, to seek for permission to film their facilities in the short production work we had, we were together then he decided to do some shopping, i helped him carry the things he bought and just had fun, he took me to shoprite and ask me to shop, i just pick two things, drink and rice and he said is that all i said yes, he started showing me things, take this, take that i said i was okay, that it wasnt appropriate to come here and start shopping like its month end. So we left, in the car he said, you do have some very good attribute girl, i said like what, he said never mind and we drove off.
After that he started asking if we can have lunch but most time our lunch time dont sync, so i told him not to worry, then he asked for a dinner, i close late, im a workaholic, so most times i will agree but i will work till 9pm and he would have waited and get tired and left.
Finally i get to have a dinner date with him and he ask if we could do this more often, i said why not boyfriend jokingly, the next time we were having dinner, I said boyfriend let me greet that guy there, i really needed to meet him, he has a contact i need for work, he held me and said you call me boyfriend jokingly, i want you to mean it lol.
After i met with the guy, he started telling me how he loved me and how he will really love us to be in a relationship, he doesnt expect a yes and he knows its so wrong on all level because we work in the same place, but i can think about it and give him a response later that he will respect any decision i make.
I said thank you o, but since then, dude is so soft and nervous when he sees me, i can see the butterflies even when we are in a client meeting.
Even though he tries not to make it obvious at work, after work he is all over me
Last night we were together, i told him i am scared as he is almost 40 and not married, that i believe any guy who gets to that age, with enough money but has not married is a play boy lol. He couldn't say a word for like some minutes then he said, yes i am old enough to have been married and i had relationships, beautiful relationships with wonderful women, some didn't work because of my mistakes and because of things i neglected and some didn't work because it was not meant to work, but above all have learnt alot to be at least a better man and i am ready to make it work this time i promise, i have no doubt if you are the right girl because have known you for long and have never had a second thought about my woman, so forgive me for not making it work all these while, i want to make it right this time - MEHN THOSE WORDS RINGS IN MY HEAD LIKE KILODE, i loved the fact that he didnt put the blame on the ladies he's dated.
Now on my own side, I do not feel anything for him but i like him alot, i like that we should be hanging out, go out, do dinner and talk from morning tonight but i do not feel anything aside that. What do you guys advise.
My candid advice is that your situation is close to a saying "your problems are what your friends can handle" In life people don't value what is before them they value what they chase after and get a lot of pain over. Don't lose an opportunity two times. You missed the first time, open your eyes so you don't miss again. From your narrative the guy is just a good guy who needs a lady but has blown his chances and he's willing not to blow this one. Make it happen. Humans get better with time and age. God bless you both
The points you presented are very true, again one must never display their lack or how rich they are at first meeting, because that will define what happens onwards. Again most Christian parents appreciate if their would be son in-law would be a god fearing personality. By implication, one must be knowledgeable in the Bible or whatever religion that is involved. So they can answer simple questions when need arises.
Your intentions might be genuine but trust me in this part of the world both your wife and 15 year old niece have issues with your benevolence.
While your wife might think you have something you are hiding off your sleeves, your neice may think you too are passing her love overtures....to taste the pudding.
Women get jealous of themselves. Even your daughter you will soon stop buying her undies. Because the nature of a women goes with emotional attachments to things. She must have observed your generosity towards her neice and she got the final evidence to confront you.
Henceforth, avoid buying wears for children except she is part of the shopping. Apologize and let her know you have a clean conscience.
This is not time to play politics. Nigeria is already finding it hard to implement her budget. Scrapings are going on here and there. Release their legitimate money to them so they can meet their obligations to their citizens. Nigeria is scavenging on whatever it can lay her hands on to help salvage her condition. It will be wrong to further compound their condition. Please US Government should do the needful.
If you are really prepared to be hated beyond measure by your very dad then you may poke nose into his intimate private affair. Otherwise mind your business your mum can easily settle things with your dad but you will be the one whose head will be used to break coconut. If I were you I will play dumb. Avoid battles you can't fight and win. A good child takes heed early.
I sympathise with her but a lesson to learn is do not blame people unnecessarily for your disppointments. Even guys face tough times at such places talk more less of you a young girl like you.....As a girl if you must attend such Always go to such with a group of friends to monitor you.....else stay at home, no good family really wants their children with a future to mingle in such places at odd times of the day
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