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dannyla:
I opened a new account to remain anonymous.
This story is a bit long but pls bear with me.

I met this man almost 2yrs ago at an event a friend invited me to. The next week, he collected my number from my friend and called me, we began talking from there and agreed to go on a date. He proposed marriage to me on the first date which I rejected. I told him that I can't marry outside my church and from the little I've heard from him, our life dreams differ. I decided to cut him off from that day and I stayed away for about 3months. Meanwhile he got my friend to introduce him to my sis, mum and another friend who happened to be from his place, I'll call her Grace.
He made them all aware of his intent towards me and my stand and asked for their help to change my mind. Grace became his biggest ally and convinced me to have another date. He asked that we date for a while and see if we can work out our differences. During the date I noticed he has a very hot and quick temper and he listens to gossip a lot so I do tell Gracethat I don't see a future with him but he was too persistent, Grace always had words of encouragement and considering the fact that for some strange reason, it was mainly married men always approach me for a relationship with stories of how they got married to a wrong woman and they are or are almost divorced, dating a single man with no kids was very tempting and I decided to give it a try.

He asked me to tell him everything about me so there are no secrets between us and I did. Starting from secondary school to that day, I told him everything, from my first kiss, the colleague who tried to rape me, my ex who lied about his marital status and disvirgined me etc. he did the same too and I felt a burden roll off my shoulder.

Few days later I began to notice changes in him especially towards my business. I thrive in a male dominated industry in a ratio of 9men to 1woman. He asked me to show him the pictures of my colleagues which I did, he also asked if they make passes at me which I said is almost inevitable but my boundaries are clear and rigid.

Fast forward to now. I noticed that whenever I drop my phone, he goes through it. Facebook, sms, WhatsApp etc. He even picks my call when I'm not close to the phone. He asked me about a certain colleague who cracks dirty jokes like how I rushed to get married (I told him I'm already married). I didn't think much about it.

He later began to complain about my partners and how I'm sleeping with them like the prostitute I am, called me an unrepentant liar, unsubmisive, manipulating etc. Said he regrets asking for my hand at all and he's just waiting forthe day he'll catch me redhanded so he can dump my sorry a*s.
I told him to end it now cus I'm fed up, family came in and I later found out that Grace has been telling a lot of lies against hoping to get him for herself as well as hate filled advises from some aggrieved friends who felt ladies from my tribe are no good and just there to "chop money". Apologies were said and received and we continued.

Another time I visited him and we had an argument, he gave me several heavy knocks on my head and I developed a headache and began to insult him which resultedin more heavy knocks. I broke up with him and left. Later my mum called him to ask why he laid his hands on me, he denied it swearing with his life. Said I insulted him and he lost his temper and insulted me back that he's sorry. He began to drop messages everywhere and I eventually gave in.

3rd incident happened on our way back from an event. He saw a message from a colleague he told me to stop doing business with cus he feels the man has his eyes on me which is totally not true. He flared up, stopped the car and was even threatening to beat me up. I came down from his car and stood by the roadside. He came down too and gave me the insult of my life in full public view and glare and told me to enter the car which I refused. I had no money on me and had to beg a stranger for money. By that time he was coming back, he quickly took a picture of both of us and sent it to everybody of how he caught me in the act with my lover on the road. He called me and said that if he must marry me, I must break my business sim card and look for a wife friendly occupation or sit at home.

He later apologised over it. Meanwhile he and my sis don't flow as before as he once called her a prostitute.

I want to call it quits but everyone around me feels it's a mistake and he is saying everything out of anger and if I'm patient enough, he will change completely.

I must admit that he has changed alot since we met but the progress compared to the timeframe and the heat I face everyday is nothing to write home about.

He loves me to a fault and I don't know if I can find someone who loves me like him but his other attitude is sniffing life out of me. Do I stay or quit?
Thanks for reading and pardon any typos

Sister, Long story short..

If your guy tells you to stay away from a certain guy, that he knows what that guy wants,

100% of the time, he is always right.

Abeg who hold loudspeaker, make him loud am for this babe.

frozen70:
I can see that the both of you are deeply in love

You can continue having sex with preventive measures till the relationship fezeel out

Stop telling her to stop calling you, both of you are feeling the the same problem and it can be very hurtful

Don't break her heart, allow her to pull out naturally

But if it gets to a stage that you guys are so glued, be prepared to adopt children if you must get married

Someone can carry your pregnancy and deliver the baby to both of you and you pay the person off

Love is a very magnetic thing and it's always difficult to say goodbye

No, Both of them are deeply in lust. Afterall, it is not them that will suffer for their stupidity, but one innocent child that didn't even point touch for them while they were straffing.

These things are no longer Benz! you had to look at the logo to realize it is a Benz. Honestly Benz has lost the plot.

This na something wey go don overheat before them even blow starting whistle. Hope him add fire extinguisher for inside.

She already wanted to leave even before the slap and was waiting for an excuse, why beg her all night? Don't go to her mum to beg her to return, let her be there for 2 years after which her head go correct on its own. I speak from experience. meanwhile, live your life, if love happens to you again, take it!!! Never ever beg someone to stay with you, that is how see finish starts.

the more importa qwe is y vodka is regal ? while wweeed is not. i ask becos i m on cocacola spiked wich voka and i hv jad weee before

the same year bubu will vacate his seat, that is the year they are promising to stop importation of fuel abi? we senior this one nah.

I'd rather pay more money and get into a luxury bus. It is safer in the event of an accident, not with all those weeded and elevated truck drivers plying our roads. I remember one time i was returning to school, this truck driver with overloaded truck now dragged a small space with the Hiace bus i was in, while the two stupid drivers were dragging space, next thing, the truck got into a porthole and almost fell ontop of our bus.

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please who has the address of south Korea embassy in nigeria?

computergeek:
Ladies, let's gist.


I wanted:

-Tall
-Italian half-caste with very yellow skin
-Gorgeous shoulder-length jet-black hair
- Eight packs
-Catholic like me

Really? How many Brezz you get? Ndi nkem, please don't kill yourselves for these babes, the day their brain enter gear 3, you will hear "What have you ever done for me"

When some people with selective moon blindness are told they are kafirs, they will see it as insult. Just the headline should be insulting to them but they wont see it (just like the moon).

Area4Area:
If you dare call me a tailor next time, you'd be reported for spreading false information on nairaland, be warned.
Your Malawian, meles zenawi etc monikers are still active and I won't report those for now.
Just don't try the nonsense and instead continue giving us the usual lies and propaganda we're used to. Don't dare me again with any of your monikers.

I don't remember you being a tailor, but what do i know? Man must hussle in Nkpor cos na almost everybody dey sell provision. Anyways, i have since figured you are an FG plant in Nkpor to inform on the locals.

Maybe the old babe is prettier/sexier than the new one. There must be a good reason the old babe is still an issue. Who her Jealousy epp?

Ghanaians are still frustrated by the Nigeria border closure. Anything that comes through Nigeria while the borders are closed is fair game to them

surgical:
You mean BCJN

That would make it too obvious. Let's stick with BJN

agbangam:
We now have huge monster at hand, this is sad. The CJN needs to grow some balls and declare indefinite strike for the Judiciary till Sowore is released and also compel the Legislators to review the laws creating DSS. This no longer Democracy, PMB just dey disappoint some of that believed in him, this pure evil and abuse of presidential Powers.

BJN you mean? I am sure you know what the "B" stands for.

na relegation we go fight for this season, then our eyes go clear well well.

The alleged money stolen, does it belong to the FG or to Abia state? why will SLOK be forfeited to the FG and not to Abia state?

Haywhysat:
oba of ife? U mean the ooni of ife?

No, Baale of Ife.

The Oba of Ife is still eating watery beans for the past 4 years or so. This one will join him soon, as he told his kinsmen to retaliate against their superior Hausa masters

AkeNathan:
What's FG doing with Igbo business men

Innoson was dragged through out Buhari's first tenure.

Now Onyema and Ubah.

Arthur Eze howfar ? Prepare

Arthur Eze doesn't have one single business concern in Nigeria. Now, that is one "untouchable" Igbo man.

Na wah oh, this is a wife who has all it takes to be her own celebrity, yet she is more content in being the home maker. Meanwhile, we have some pea brained females who will not let us rest once they appear on TV or something.

Atouke:
Model of the building under construction.

Model Bawo?
I am only seeing 4 columns each way. Na breeze (wind load) go fall this one.

omenka:
These people that call themselves ipob members are the worst form of subhumans. They have absolutely nothing upstairs, the kind of species you could actually call zombies without meaning it as an insult.

Weren't these people the same people that were bragging and hailing their members for *killing the fulani police invaders* yesterday? Now that the stench of their dastardly act is about to hit them, they've made a u turn claiming they weren't responsible.

What a pathetic bunch of hopeless nutjobs.

Buhari is too gentle for comfort. I wish Obj was the one at the top, he would have leveled that place like Odi. I'm really disappointed.

You are really a dunce, you have no idea what a zombie really is all about (and you are one). A zombie sticks to the same dictum nomatter the amount of evidence you push forward to him.

Now, even with the new revelations from Ipob that the supposed bodies on the burnt truck were actually the Ipob members killed by the police, you have insisted on it not being true, but rather some mythical policemen.

We have asked you to tell us the names of the dead police men and rather than do that, you are here talking like a zombie.

Igbos reacted based on the first statement issued by the police and after going through their version of the story, picked holes in it.

You have asked for the pictures of the dead Ipob members, they have now shown that it in fact the same pictures the police are claiming to be their members.

Now we ask for the names of these so called dead Policemen.

But like a Zombie that you are, you will continue to insist that the burnt bodies were infact policemen even with now superior argument/evidence provided to you.

zombie!!!

helinues:
May be we should ask ABC or ifechinashi transports

Their office is at KLM 20 Akpamu Mpagi Expressway, Lagos. Go and ask them there.

helinues:
How can people hate you and still be accommodating you? What's the % of Yoruba residing in SE compared to Igbo residing in SW?

You people should stop contradicting yourself

Who are you accommodating? Where?

What are the names of the two Police officers killed by IPoB?

Very soon, IPoB will even give us the names of the two individuals killed by the police.

What really is the point with "Social Media Bill"? Nigerians will show these guys they know all about proxies and foreign phone number acquisition. The only way they succeed is to shut down the internet and i pretty believe they want to do just that.

If this had happened in the east, they would have said it was IPoB members bla bla bla, So Yorubas also knows jungle justice and it is okay for them to carry it out abi?