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Girl9999:
I created this account to hide my identity. I'm in a very emotional condition at the moment. I've been crying since morning. I've not left my house, not even for church. I've lost the will to live, all because of what happened yesterday evening.

I've been dating this guy for two months. I thought he was a great guy. He was always nice to me, smart and hard-working. I lost my virginity at the age of 18 in University and it was to someone that just wanted to have sex with me. He lied about loving me. All he wanted was sex and when he had his way he abandoned me and dated another girl in my department. Since then I've had a fear of relationships, most importantly of sex. I vowed to only have sex with someone I was going to marry; someone I was certain loved me.

When I met my boyfriend, I thought he was the one. We vibed well and we were both in the same field of work. Everything seemed to click. I opened up to him about my experience and my decision to have sex only when I was ready. He agreed and said he was going to respect my wishes.

Yesterday he visited me at my apartment. This wasn't the first time he was visiting me. We paid each other visits all the time. This time he brought a bottle of wine with him. I prepared food, we both eat and he served us some wine. The last thing I remember is taking few sips and then everything else is blurry.

Next thing I am waking up by 8am this morning with a severe headache, cramped legs and a sore feeling around my vagina. There was something that looked like dried semen on my left thigh and some around my breast. I could also perceive the scent of his perfume on my body. He raped me. The man that claimed to love me raped me. I haven't spoken to anyone since morning, all I've been doing is crying. My phone has been on silent all day.

I want to report him to the police but first I want to look at his face and ask why he would do this to me. I already planned on having sex with him soon. Why couldn't he wait? I want to involve my parents and his parents as well but I don't want this news to spread and take a hit on my reputation. I'm confused about what to do.

Why are men like this? I feel defiled and violated. My mind has been constantly flooded with suicidal thoughts all day. If I make it through this, I'm done with relationships forever.

Be deceiving yourself. You are this coherent after being raped.
The so-called drink both of you drank from, why did it not knock him out as well? Be looking for a man to send to your coven. Onye Ara toxic sombori.

People wey Dem go fagg their yansh full this thread. More Vaseline to you anus.

If Dem commission that bridge in 2022, ka m fikur.

I don't believe this girl was rapped.

BluntCrazeMan:
(@1st-bolded-statement) Lagos State LASTMA arrests or impound vehicles and hand over to the State Government. Kano State Hisbah Seizes Alcohol and destroys them straightaway...
Were they given such express authorities by the Kano State Laws?

(@2nd-bolded-statement) I understand it better now.
At least, it is very clear to me now that Alcoholic drinks were destroyed in Kano State because of a Kano State Law which is supposed to be binding on all citizens and residents, and not because of Sharia Law which is meant only for Muslims.

Thanks for the enlightenment.!!

What of Nigerian Breweries in Kano? shouldnt the state government burn it down?

Fahdiga1:
A payback awaits the Fulanis after the regime of this lifeless cow. I wish the middle belt can have a security outfit in the mould of the gallant ESN not coward Amotekun that will chase out the terrorist Fulanis out of their region. waiting for the talkative lunatic Aisha Yesufu to condemn this despicable act and not blasting the ESN that is protecting their people.

Oga, but these TIV people, did you visit their page during Operation Python Dance? These guys probably killed more Igbos than Hausa-Fulani soldiers during the civil war, and they gloated about it. I wonder what happened to their killing prowress.

mynd4409:
I have been a member of this forum for some time now but I have never met a nairaland member in person until today, I met one but the experience wasn't funny sha.. Though the story is really interesting you wouldn't want to miss.

Background
I am a web developer. I saw a job advert in webmasters/programming section and I applied for the job, I dropped my phone number. So I was contacted by the client (name withheld ) and everything went well, I started working on the project(I worked remotely ). I even completed the third stage of the project to prove my competence

My client was impressed and asked to meet me in person and discuss about hiring me full time to work in his firm, I accepted. He asked me to travel down to his base (Abakaliki, Ebonyi state) so we could get to know each other and talk business, I obliged. He even sent money for transportation and promised to take care of all my expenses.

The Real Story
I was about to travel to Ebonyi state the next day to meet my client but out of fear I had a rethink. I changed the plan and told my client I'm not coming again until certain conditions were met. He accepted, he called off the deal and asked me to stay back.

Out of curiosity I started abusing him and calling him names. I also came on nairaland and made a post about him, calling him unprintable names(ritualist, homosexual etc). He kept his cool and still flow with me.

I tarnished his image and reputation. I even exposed the URL to his personal website.

Next, he found a way to resolve the problem and cleared my doubt. He sent his boy (a youth corper serving in my state) to meet me in person and discuss further.

I was finally convinced and decided to travel with his boy to Abakaliki to meet with my client. I arrived at the park and met with my client, I entered his car and he drove straight to the police station and made a complaint. He came with his lawyer.
Everything went rough, I was to sleep in the cell and appear in court the next day for defamation of character. I pleaded, I begged and even cried on the floor, It wasn't funny at all.

They have completed plans to lock me up and charge to court. After lots of plea, my client backtracked and pleaded on my behalf and begged the police to release me. I begged profusely.
I tendered apology.
I signed an undertaking and that was it. I was released on bail. And guess who bailed me? My client!

He paid the bill and asked the police to free me. We spent about 3hours in the police station.

Finally, I was released on bail. My client carried me in his car and drove to a fast food joint, he bought food for me.
Next, he took me to a hotel and paid all the bills so I can lodge there. In fact, I'm writing this post from the hotel where I lodged!.

And that was the end of the matter. I was forgiven and asked to go and sin no more.

did he fork you yet?

mceze:
Avoid Liverpool like plague

Liverpool's loss took out 8 of my tickets yesterday. Only 1 game!! Hmmm.

Aisha used Southerners to collect Twitter blue tick. She has returned to where she came from. Our mumu don do.

The only visible Hausa Leader - Ibrahim El-Zakzaky, is being persecuted in Jail. If only Hausas can rise up and take back their lands, i wonder where these Fulani will pivot from.

MikeBetty:
accomodating kii you. Were they asked to leave southeast? They were asked to ranch the cattle Q.E.D.

Oga, make Dem carry their cattle jakpa abeg. The cows I see right in the city here in Lagos, honestly, I am sick and tired of looking at it. The only cow I ever want to see is suya.

Metrix147:
https://abntv.com.ng/2021/02/ikpeazu-condemns-destruction-of-farmlands-in-bende-by-herdsmen/

Do these Fulani herdsmen destroy Hausa/Fulani farmlands in the North? why then do they come to farmlands belonging to other tribes and start destroying it? is it so that it is only Hausa farmers that will have food to sell after closing southern borders?

Jake19:
All these plenty gloating from ESN will come to an end in less than 2weeks. Now that South East Governors Have Banned Open Grazing in south east(if it is true) and IPOB and their ESN still in the Forest, the Governors will now hit them hard now because they will want to still show that they are the one pulling the strings in south east not an outlawed Terrorists organization.

I am sure the reason why the military are bidding their time to go after ESN is because the HERDSMEN issue is affecting the south west. Soon, south west may likely use their diplomacy to dribble their way out of this and it will be ESN that will bear the consequences because obviously they don't know when to retreat.

ESN Vs Nigeria military loading.

God save us from war.
God bless Nigeria

Do you realize ESN is made of up thousands of volunteers? You don't know who they are and you can't be safe if you go against them. They could be your gardeners in you village country home. You don't seem to understand something, ESN is fully armed!! They are no longer carrying flags. Go and "Hit" them let us see if they don't have what to hit back with.

Fear mongering against Igbos is over.

Maliqcious:
they can't wipe out Edo okay.

Honestly, does Edo really have anything to defend themselves with? Even the way you lay out your villages and cities makes for easy cherry picking of your people. Edo has more forests and wilderness than villages and city, these Fulani can continue killing and maiming for years and keep retiring into the forests until you guys are all but wiped out. Do you even have the population to comb those wilderness replete in Edo state? I hear the Fulani are now all over Edo state.

maduksben:
Oga that is if you decide to use that. Standard shipping is what they use on AliExpress and it is very cheap except that it takes longer time for delivery.

i have bought 10 pcs each (x2) of mini pc for my cafe from Aliexpress like 4 years and 7 years ago, all amounting to roughly 3,500 dollars. you agree such purchases is not what you use standard shipping for? the DHL Express shipment was running neck on neck with the actual goods. As an aside, i have bought more than 20 items on Wish.com which uses standard shipment, i only received about 16 of them, 4 of those items did not get to me till date.

Dpharisee:
And some ignorants are castigating Igbos for taking measures to stem this tide with the formation of ESN, they even cheered Nigerian Army for clashing with ESN in Orlu killing many Igbos.
I think the Igbo guys are smarter by forming a formidable armed group with bush war tactics while leaving the security of the villages with vigilantes unlike Amotekun that is turning into Hisbah monitoring how people dress on the road.
Because the mode of operation of ESN is not fully known, it has sent fears into Fulani militia, even soldiers implementing curfew in Orlu after the clash flee at night from 6pm only to return in the morning from 7am to harass citizens, because they realised they were vulnerable at night to the forest warriors of ESN trained in night combat in the bush.

What Yoruba were telling Fulani was to leave Yoruba land and go do their thing in Igboland, cos after all, they are "Allies". They didn't seem to realize Fulani don't to Allies, they do slaves.

iamGholdaniel:
White fluids like milk comes out from my Woman breast during sex!!!
Is it normal?
And she have never done abortion before.

Bitter white milk abi? That babe don drink medicine.

So Obiozor is Imo based Ohaneze chairman while Ibeh is Enugu based Ohaneze chairman. Igbo to the world.

Just one lane of the bridge is done half way, and they have almost completed it?

sofiscatedmoron:
Shipping cost of 1k? How

Which 1k? DHL/UPS shipping is 1k in which universe?

studentofTruth:
I'm a doctor; I understand what you are trying to say. Neither you nor your brother is down with thalassemia but can pass it on to some of your kids.

I created this thread to explain the case. https://www.nairaland.com/6391907/hemoglobin-issues#98598813

Regarding your explanation, you are getting it mixed up already. Of course, it's expected since you are not a medical person. But I'm glad your brother is smart enough not to accuse his wife of paternity fraud, given that he's the one with AA while the wife is AS.

Coming to the condition itself: Beta thalassemia and SCD are 2 distinct blood hereditary (recessive) diseases that are inherited independently. For SCD, there can be AA, AS (a carrier), and SS (manifests SCA). For beta thalassemia, one can be a non-carrier (no beta thalassemia gene), a carrier (one beta thalassemia gene, like you and your brother), diseased (2 beta thalassemia genes and manifesting moderate or severe disease)

Thus, for each to manifest, the person must have both copies of the bad gene for that disease. But in some situations, a carrier of both diseases can manifest SCA — as it's the case with the child in this index case and your brother's child too — because the beta thalassemia gene stops the production of hemoglobin.

Let me explain:
The child is AS but, at the same time, has a beta thalassemia gene on one allele (gene copy). Unfortunately, it's the same allele that contribute the A component of the HbAS combination of hemoglobin. So, the normal hemoglobin A is not adequately produced. The other allele that is not inactivated by the beta thalassemia gene produces hemoglobin S, which sickles. So, the child's blood will be full of sickled hemoglobins, and the labs would erroneously tag it SS. The problem here is using a phenotypic test to make a genotype conclusion!


Coming back to what you said about AA vs. AA knocking out beta thalassemia: As I explained earlier, the AA thing is about SCD and not about beta thalassemia. Of course, AA vs. AA can prevent an AS offspring, which invariably takes away the possibility of having the beta thalassemia gene causing an AS to manifest as an SS. However, AA vs. AA can still have a child with beta thalassemia if each of those AA individuals is a beta thalassemia carrier (each has a beta thalassemia gene) because the beta thalassemia gene is inherited independently of the SCD's A/S genes!

I hope you understand it now!

You know, as my brother said, the science of blood is gradually being understood. One thing I got from it all is, as a carrier of Beta thalesemia, I should never get with AS women. In fact I usually tell women I am AS myself.

Orlu Soldiers, you are highly needed here.

Fulani wey no get one single land for North set talk about expelling people. Expel them from which land?

studentofTruth:
I'm a doctor; I understand what you are trying to say. Neither you nor your brother is down with thalassemia but can pass it on to some of your kids.

I created this thread to explain the case. https://www.nairaland.com/6391907/hemoglobin-issues#98598813

OK, I get you now, Infact, if not for my brother's case with his kid, I might not have known till date of such a disorder in our bloodline. The woman in question most certainly don't know if she has such disorder herself. I know she certainly has it being that she is AA as there can be no further explanations why her kid is SS unless the kid was switched at birth.

Abujaexpress:
I don't think she has a clearer apart from the one she already shared which is not very clear

The picture can be restored.

studentofTruth:
It is a recessive disorder, so she only has the gene (a carrier) — She's not down with the disease.

I have this disorder myself and I am AA. In fact, I only got to know of it after my big brother did his test after having an SS kid like your neighbour there. My brother is AA BTW and wife is AS. So I know about this thing a bit.

Let me explain further.. The moment an AA male carrier gets with an AS or SS lady, it gets activated in their kids. This thing is part of you and it will be part of your kids and their kids. The only way to beat it as a carrier is to get with AA lady ( even if she is also a carrier) in which case, the worst case scenario is having AS kids. Your kids will still have this beta thalesemia (AA or not).
I think there is a way it wipes. Read about it a few years ago. I think AA with thalesemia + AA with Thalesemia.

lagosboy3:
This price disparity is mind-boggling.

Aliexpress things are cheaper, but the shipping cost will end up making it more expensive than Jumia. Jumia all the way jare.

Foodforthought:
Rashford and Martial can never become world class. They don't have the brains, the skill or mentality. They are just the best United can offer. Forget the Sancho/Upamecano bullcrap, Erling Haaland must be United's transfer priority next summer.

Give us Rashford and collect Aubameyang or Lacazette.

studentofTruth:
Read again. I explained it further. A carrier doesn't manifest the disease but can pass it on to the offspring.

That is exactly the point. Beta thalesemia is a hereditary blood disorder. It is what made the kid SS. If she didn't have it, her kid won't have come out SS. It does not matter whether she manifested it or not, she will certainly pass it down as it is hereditary.

studentofTruth:
She doesn't have beta thalassemia per say, but she's most likely a carrier of beta thalassemia!

What is the difference? Bring a carrier is the same as having it. It is hereditary.

Emperor5:
From testimony of kidnaps victims, It's now obvious that all kidnapping gang is Fulani herdsmen
Yet miyeti Alla Will come out to defend them.

There was a time Nigerians used to blame Igbos for all kidnapping cases until one incidence occurred in Asaba, and all of a sudden, we realized the Fulani were the real kidnappers.