₦airaland Forum

Depends on the friend and why she did it.
there are some kind of friends i had i may just forgive them. But not too sure about the guy

ever heard of multiply task? men cannot do that.
Women are smarter than men.
I have seen it in my childrens school many times its always the girls with the best results.

And what about men , Who should beat up men.
Or are women lesser beings

It always makes a difference if it is the girl or the boy that comes from the poor family.
So many royals married from the common people in the last few years.

I do not know their names,
It is mostly those people that have 1 to about 8 posts.
Sometimes i think it is someone using another name to backthemself up.

I ask myslf what kind of man will slap a woman that he dose not know.
It must be a man with a very little willy that needs to proof to himself he is a man.
ajiboyet so you support beating up of women ? even those you do not know

Then lets hear your story and see if they are right or wrong.

Guess what thanks to internet one day my daughter showed me a pic of a Boy she was dating.
One look was enough for me to know the boy was a bastard. And i told her that i cannot make it impossible her to see him, but very difficult.
She called me every name under the sun how unfair i am i do not even know him just because bla bla bla.
But at the end of the day i was right. And thank god she saw that too be4 it was too late.
Parents have more experience and when it comes to their kids their eyes are very open.

I am surprised at the NR of people God is talking to these days.
What dose she hope to achive in going to talk to the other man.

Ask me . Some winch DRs are even better than them

Man of god my @ss Anti christ if you ask me.
A dirty man .
scum of the society a selfnamed pastor of a self named church.
A rat a dirty rat. and sick in the head.
No matter what she was putting on .

Ps and when my mum was sick he will not only cook for her but bring the food to the bedroom. help her take her bath.
And beat us if we are loud or disturb her.
And if she wanted to eat fruit salad he will go to market to buy the fruits for the salad.
This is just to show his apparition for her.
And even in Nigeria when the maid was home for xmas sometimes my dad will help us was plates or make the timetable for the house work.
Not because he had to, but he loved his wife and wanted to make things easy for her.
because she too worked full time and did everything for him

Come to think of it , in Nigeria we still have maids so that problem dose not really arise.
But sometimes my dad used to pet us and will cook for us, and it was meal to remember because he could really cook.
He will buy one of these bush antelopes and make something great out of it.
And sometimes he will take my mum out. Both of them will do dressing compition and we the kids were the Judges.
But here in europe there is nothing like house help and the winter is cold you cannot drive the kids out to play.
A woman will find it difficult to coup. As long as the kids are small be she house wife or working mum.
The man has to help in any way he can .

To answer your question, there is nothing you can do about it, time will heal them or make things worse.
I know some women today their parents are not talking to them ,because of the man they married.

It depends on what they have to say.
maybe they just want to open your eyes.
Parents usually handle in the interest of the child.
Not all are just biased.
If my daughter comes up with an indian i will go like "ho my god" without even knowing the guy , but if she is serious and my hands are tied i will start to study the boy very well

Its like you moving to another town.

You must have heard of women that stay with their very violent husbands and these are women from all works of life allover the world .
Its making a new start in life.
It was not easy for me and i am even lucky because my husband was very cooperative he did not even bother taking a lawyer. Thats how easy it was.
And believe or not (if you have ever been the one to break up you will know how long it took you to tell him) it was the most difficult words that ever left my mouth. telling him i do not want the marrage anymore

BUT @ kiki it is easier to walk out on a boyfriend than a husband.
AND it is easier to walk out as a wife than as a mother.
Do not forget as you are going with your kids they are missing their dad and loving him.
It is not as easy as you may think.
And even worse in Nigeria.
I an not too sure Nigerians are ready for that yet.
You have to be a real strong woman in Nigeria to do that.Because your friends and family and his family will come and ask you questions .
And you know the mentality (woman in the kitchen stuff).
It is up to the mother of sons to bring up their sons in a better way and their daughters to be bolder

very fast and warn her not to  talk about you to your brother.
And put you in trouble.
And if your brother is the traditional type , when she is playing her games with him he may think"kaiii so this is what they (meaning you and her ) do ewwww.
But you know men  he may sleep with her and stop you from seeing her after dumping her.
or he may fall in love with her and say nothing to your relationship to her.



Stop telling her the ones you do not want your people to know. so that the one you have told her will be old story soon.
If its just a crush and she gets over it, you will have all the more to tell her.

I see your point.
My brother is 4 years older than me and his wife was never my friend.But she tried to draw me closer.
BUt there is that Nigerian thing in me my brothers wife is almost like AUNTY.
And If she had been my friend she would have turned to aunty.
I will stop telling her things for sometime if i were you.

Ugwumba My daughter did that to help the boyfriend, because he even sleeps so deep that you have to shake him to wake up.
meaning he may even have lost his job.
She did it but she was under stress. The first week she still had school so she was running between his place and our place.
In the holiday it became a bit better. because she had nothing better to do.AND at the back of her mind she knew that if she is fed up she can just walk out on him. and she was fed up (not of the relationship)but she is not the giving up type she wanted to proof to his mum that she can take care of her house.
The boy can not even spell rag talk less of use one.
Well my daughter has vowed to get to know a boy much better be4 she commites her self to him.
Not only because of the (not able to clean issue) but also she dose not want a nag and a boy spoiled rotten by the mum.
Every woman likes to pet her boyfriend or husband. BUT every woman also has commitments and needs a helping hand we are not Roberts

Thats not the point, this friend knows all  about her. who she has slept with etc.Stuff you never tell your people.
Sometimes it even goes as far as an abortion you may have had or not.

And we all know that lovers tell themselves alot.
This best friend may just forget who she is talking to if she really starts going out with the brother.
if my _{just a friend} wants my brother no problem with that.
But my best friend no way. I do not want my brother to know _{the colour of my pant}