mamaput, u should be ashamed of yourself. your daughter is supposed to be the one making these comments. but no, u'd rather catch up on missed child-hood play fights and child-hood fantasies on the net.
i shall let u be. but keep playing and acting like mother on the net. like anyone cares how many children u have or have not.

what sort of comments should my daughter be making and why should she be here, nairaland is my hobby not her hobby.
am sorry fro you that you are intimidate by my age,that tells me you are a child trying to act grown up
or you are a jjc. or you have a parental complex i hope your teachers did not flog you too hard.

OMO IBO:

u see this? this right here is the problem i have with u.
u try to use age and the fact that've been on nairaland longer and have more posts than others to chat bollocks.

remember, 'a word is enough for the wise?'
as a so called respected being, what do u do if people don't listen to u? im sure the answer to that in ignore them.

im pleading with u mamaput to cut that B.S

by the way, what r u doing a thread such as this?

me
am an old lonely woman its Friday night the young ones are sleeping the big ones are out having fun.
what are you doing here at this time of the day on a Friday night.
i am minding my houshold and you. no girlfriend or what.

anyway as i was saying to castrate a man you have to be better than him.
imagine a situation like the tier he cannot change and you change it for him or you save him the money of a plumber?

you would be suprised.

omo ibo i was here b4 you so if anyone has to go its you.

anyway it takes more than freedom of sex to make a strong independent woman.
can you fix your car, the plumbing in your house,  fix your pc.and generally work like a man.
if you can call out a man in a challenge in all directions then you are really an independent woman.
like me

or more. cnt the husband wait

sehr gut soger

am 44 .
when i was at school there was the bes and the wanna bes in which group were you.
we also had the gossip sisters that will come very Early for class and lecture . the first to come and the last to go,.
these people just lived  to get a glimpse of the bad girls. because they made their day.
you said you were out of here now you are back.
have you seen two people fighting were one is shouting "hold me hold me  OK let me remove my watch,
what ever tell us what group you were in so we can talk

the what is that you have to learn to finish off people without insulting their parents. try with questions.
I get under peoples skin with out insults.-
she called you fat .
you ask her how she can bring that together  with her religion any why she spends more time reading sex section rather than reading her bible,
ask her if she was one of thoses uncool girls at school that was never accepted by the cool girls.
and ask her if she has wild dreams of breaking loose,
as long as you are only asking no harm done

the art and beauty about telling people off is by doing so without using insulting words.

dose his wife know about it.
ithat is one thing you should ask yourself.

no court will allow such self made tests so when you go to court you will still end up paying the required test.

the only standard Nigeria has is a double standard.
men are like dogs and the older they get the worse it becomes.
If i was in Nigeria today i will not even let my daughters sleep over in a friends house.
because the worst people to beware of are the so called uncles.
they will chase you and trouble you. if you agree its a problem if you refuse its a problem
all of a sudden your friend tells you her father has forbidden her seeing you.
thats one example.
example two the so called pastors.

and am sure even those teachers that preached, sit them on a water melon and it will disappear like magic.

when i was new here i was open sexuality and collected a lot of insults for that
more so if i will advice a young girl on sex.
posters expected me as a mother to advice them against sex,
but who ever wants to have sex will have it with or with out permission.
my parents tried to stop it by timing me . but they only succeeded in making it difficult but not impossible.

anyway the problem starts with the fact that most girls cannot even tell their parents they have boyfriends and hide it as if they are doing something bad.
b4 i left Nigeria i had this married friend and we were talking and along the line i told her i still had to go get my pills. her married friend that was with her was so shocked.
how dare i take the pill am not married.

Nigerian standard.

well it will be hard to find me in the sexuallity section.
old women and mothers should not dont have sex

oh my god that beer calender was that not about 1985/87.
i remember some girls i knew made one in swimsuit at a swimming pool.
it really caused a scandal in those days.

And its their mothers, women who let this happen. . . . my mother wasnt raised that way and so i wasnt raised that way!
its the women wo can actually change things

what i wrote is based on facts if a woman cannot support her child and she asks the father for money, he will ask her to give him the child perion.
we are talking about Nigeria were there is no unemployment money social welfare and child support.
to fight that battle you have to be in Nigeria.
i was there .
i wore shot nicker on the road smoked in public and kissed my boyfriend in public. not just a peck on the cheek.
and i was banned from many houses. because the mothers did not want me to rotten their children, some of my friends were even banned from their boyfriends houses by the mothers of the boys.
and we were not  even half as bad as their daughters .  
no sugar daddy's etc.
we were taking pills (my time was b4 AIDS was real) and not having abortions in back rooms.
there was a time i had a fat confrontation with my dad .
i take the pill so what your friends daughter pretends she has no sex and has abortions in the back room of the local chemist.
i think i really shocked daddy that day.he had to sit down and think.
that foolish girl that was gossiping my name .

when you use yourself as an example it makes you open to attacks. you are breaking up your defence because it becomes personal and people can quote you
never write anything down you will not stick to or defend

yes they are.

i will only give two examples.

widows plight

if there are no children in a marrage the woman is blamed.
if a husband beats up his wife because she is what ever. people will tell her to go and beg the husband for forgiveness.

as long as the woman is not married to the father the father has no claim. not even in Nigeria.
that dose not mean they cannot put pressure on the woman. and the only pressure is the finical one.
of cause Nigeria is not ready and it cannot be my battle.
as long as women still bring up their daughters to be second class citizens.
i have done my job  to teach my daughters that they are equal to men ie if not even better

Nigeria is a country were there is nothing like sex education.
you are told not to have sex and not how to have it.
women are brainwashed to see themselves as second class.
so that you will find good husband only has one purpose women  are the "goods" for sell. and these goods should not be damaged.
learn how to cook, talk clean dress.
what did they teach you boys at school so that you will make good husband.

nothing  why because  you are the buyer semi god.

shit happens

been there  but some things do not change.
when I was younger and still in Nigeria i wanted to be a rebel.
i kissed my boyfriend  in very public places . it never brought me any problem but it did bring my boyfriend problems because some old men my fathers age will call him out and try to humiliate him.
one fine day even my father caught me redhanded and told me that  i was a stigma and will not find husband.
tittle did he know that it was not my intention to even date a typical Nigerian male talk less of getting married to him.
i spent have my life listening to parents and teachers so you will find good husband  bla bla bla.
what do you expect on a Nigerian forum.
ladies are seen not heard.
a woman should never admit she knows what a prick looks like
when she is having sex she must pretend she is not really enjoying it(at least for some time)
if she takes the lead and shows the man some new tricks she is an ashow times 5.
But all these people do not matter the ones that bother me are the bible carriers.
some men that will scream burn  the witch will have a go  at her b4 the light the fire.
well many years later i will not bother fighting a system but i swore to bring up my kids to be strong independent young women that stay away from macho men.
but fact is Nigeria is not yet ready to see its women talk openly about sex. not in my generation , not in your generation and not in your children's generation.
its even getting worse not better because in my time there were less bible carriers
i think the only thing that saved me from getting lynched was that i was mixed ,it was assumed anyway that i was bad.
But i was a boarder in my secondary and  i knew what all those girls could get up to with "brother" and "uncle"
or was i the only one lacking so many "uncles" and "Brother"

sometimes i too wich i could fly as the call it.
i would have visited a lot of people by now.

i would not want any of my lovedones to work on an aircraft no matter as what.
But your girlfriend will get to met a lot of people

what did you think will happen when you joined them together.

its not just in Nigeria there are good girls and there are bad girls all over the world.
golden rule is keep your girlfriend and your boyfriend apart as good as possible.
mostly its the girlfriend that unknowingly pushes her friend and boy friend together by sending thegirlfriend on useless messages.
i dont do it and i will not let it be done to me.

whats traditionally wrong, traditionally when the step father dies and it comes to inheritance, the family will ask the step son to go and look for his father.

Can a man marry and deflower his adopted child afterall they are not blood.
what's the difference here?

to this i will answer Woody Allen

nobody then anyone comming can only come as inlaw.
i need gentlemen for inlaws and not what i see here

i have made many too and i will not want others to make them.
like i said i spoke to you the way i would have spoken to my daughter if she came back with that story.
that is i will fire many questions at her that i do not expect her to answer.
they say no risk no fun. but when you have a baby mark my words you will stop taking risks.
you should go and learn some breathing excises.
its wevery simple.

you have to lie down and think of a place you will like to be.
a field? think up the colour are there flowers, water fall animals. that an example but you have to consentrate on the detailes.


or just day dream you are Bruce lee and Jun FY fighting some asses