Jojujewel:
Hello good people. I know this issue would have been discussed earlier here.

1. Please, does the 1k paid on LISA per annum count as public fund against those on SW/T2 visa?
2. How many free nursery/creche hours is a 3yrs old depending on SW/T2 visa entitled?

Can flouting these rules jeopardize ILR?

I'm finding it difficult to search online as I keep getting conflating answers.

Thanks in advance

1. No it does not.

2. Read this thread for parenting in the Uk. Hours has been thoroughly discussed https://www.nairaland.com/7021004/parenting-uk-nigerian-migrant

Cheers.

LagosismyHome:


My sister...I salute ooo

I’m loyal Ma

AlphaUno:



Ah! Do they have to do that?

Aren’t the same set of agents that have been discriminatory and are all over those sites that are in those high streets?

Sometimes face to face meets does the magic. Go old school.

onecoder:

That's one challenge I had with this amex
What I did was to link with PayPal and gpay.

What everyone has said + Personally I use it in at least 95% of the places I shop regularly in including all Major Grocery Stores and retailers. The only place I shop from that doesn’t accept it is Matalan.

I think you will find it quite useful.

Cc @domin8

mizGene:

Thanks, I understand that.
What age gets 30hrs foc?
I was asking for the time of day actually

Age 3 till when you start primary gets 15 or 30 hours foc.

Time of day is 9am to 12noon or 1.15 to 3.30 ish (could vary slightly) for 15 hours mon to fri.

You can also customize your 15 hours to 9am to 3pm twice a week and half day on the 3rd day of it works well for you.

9am to 3pm mon to fri for 30 hours.

Again all of this might vary slightly depending on your nursery/provider. Once you start applications you’ll see the options.

Primary school times is 9am to 3pm as well.

Someone used my Amex ref this morning and I earned 32k avois I’m shook!! How much did you earn please? I’m still here wondering if it’s a consolidation or something.

Thank God I opened my mouth oh. Wawu. Please the link is still http://amex.co.uk/refer/uGONNCjkWY?XL=MIMNS if anyone wants to apply for Amex CC. Thank youuuuu

mizGene:

From what age is it 30hours pls?
I think 30hrs is the ceiling offered by the govt to everyone until they get to primary school, and if you need more hours, then you gotta pay. is this correct?

What times do the primary schools normally start and end?
Pardon my plenty questions �

She’s referring to where some Private Nurseries partner with your council and can admit your child for the same 15 or 30 hours foc because the council will pay them directly. So your child in nursery must not go to a council school or provider for instance. If you then want additional hours or after school care you pay separately.

School start is btw 4.5 to 5.5 years in Scotland. I think in England it’s the September after you turn 5 if you’re born before the 1st of September.

LagosismyHome:


I think private nursery take the 15hours. Some allow you to pay some extra hours to make it a full day or spread it across fewer days and longer hours but that only in private nursery and not primary school nursery..... for example there is no way I could do 15hours or 30hours. That would have been so stressful dropping a child for 3 hours,I just couldn't. The nursery worked the 30 hours to be 3 full day for my kids so I did that and paid for 2 extra days. Something like that so check with a private nursery in your area and see how they can structure 15hours but don't know if they still do that

Very true. Most of them still do this.

Good idea.

Missposh:
Hello Papas and Mommas, please how do I resolve this - we applied for primary school mid year transfer for my child but the council just responded that the 3 schools we selected don't have space and suggested a catholic school not within trekking distance of our house. Even using bus, I've noted that we may take a bus or 2 if we don't want to trek for like 20 minutes. Since moving here, the only complaint the kids have had is the length of time we have to trek as it is not what they're used to and been asking us to go buy car again � so I anticipate the long trekking to school will elicit some complaints from them. I'll like to avoid this if I can as it won't be convenient for us to dash to go pick them too.

I don't know if to take this school offered while trying to appeal for our preferred school and if the appeal process won't just be a waste of time.

Please apart from mentioning the inconvenience of commuting to the school and possibly preferring a school close to our house address, what other reasons can we site. Meanwhile, 2 of the 3 schools we reached out have a space for my 3 year old, it's only the older one we've not been able to find a school close to the house for yet.

Any suggestions on how to resolve this will be highly appreciated. Can't wait for the kids to settle into school so I can focus on work. Their energy level and distractions no be here.

We had previously mentioned that we're new in the area and country, will like a position in one of the 3 schools to enable us and the kids meet other kids and parents and integrate into the new environment. Also mentioned proximity.

Thank you in advance ☺

From experience if they say no space they mean it. Put your 3year old in the school you want then take the older one to the Catholic school offered.

You might have a stronger chance of changing later when one child already goes to your 1st option. In the meantime find out if there is any provision by the council for school pickup and drop off. Over here in Scotland some councils arrange it for you if the school is more than 5 miles I think.

Sha check. Then start working on your driving asap so the kids will stop harassing you

Lexusgs430:
For us IPTV lovers, got a very good IPTV deal....... Still testing it.......

Under $30 per year + firestick not even required......

All channels open eyes like okpomiliki.........

As our fore runner please test and spread the good news. Ejoo.

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Lexusgs430:



Thank you...... Money to chop Monica and Orijin.........

Suya & Mortuary Coke you mean

hadigun:


I did ����

Tainku oh

Someone else just used it as well. Whoever you are collect

It’s still http://amex.co.uk/refer/uGONNCjkWY?XL=MIMNS for anyone else looking for an Amex ref code. Xx

deept:


Not only mommas o, there are hands on Poppa's here also.

No vex. I was answering the poster who is a woman

Edit- to say I see what you were referring to. You’re 100% right

[quote author=babythug post=112763074]

Hello!! Hugs for you mama!

It’s tough sometimes on the children while adjusting. But it is what it is!

I’d advise that you keep coaching and counselling him on self regulating . He can be taught to avoid/ ignore triggers from the other children
The subtle racism our children may face is inevitable, they’ll have to sometimes work twice as hard to prove themselves case in point his teacher(s) being harder on him than the others . Let him realise things are different now and it won’t be a walk in the park but he should do his best.
Also at home you will have to unlearn the naija way of speaking loud , resolve conflicts within the family peacefully, no talking on the phone loudly Dal maybe that’ll help too

With my teenage sons they display aggressive behaviour because my spouse and I have been poor role models in that regard. But gradually as a family or at least I am modifying my behaviour with the hope that it’s not too late! I’ve had one or two complaints from school but I am steering their energies towards sports to dissipate some of the excess vexations

I commend your honesty and the last statement made me smile. They should use the agro to earn £££’s for the family

Specialtee:
Hello everyone,

For some months now, I have been getting reports of my son being disrespectful, smart-mouthed to the teachers, interrupting them and trying to correct their teaching, and, also being physical with some of his classmates ( especially during playground football). Every now and then, I get called into short after school meetings to discuss what my child has done again.

My child is not a pushover and has come with Naija competitive spirit ( which the teachers complain makes others feel bad), he also doesn't understand rude humour or likes it when his peers make fun of his Nigerian name and sometimes will lash out. Some of the kids will kick and punch him and when he retaliates, he is the one that will get punished. Some worse behaved ones will use swear words at him during football. He is also quick to apologize when he is wrong or has been scolded.

However, I notice that there is a particular teacher in his class who makes all these reports and when I probed deeper, I discovered that she is not really extending the same grace to my child as she would to other children. Yesterday, she blamed him for doing something he did not do, even when he clearly explained how it was not his fault. She kept telling him to admit he lied and he said he simply told her, I'm sorry if you think I lied. My son said she is more patient and kinder with other children and lets a lot of things slide, but with him, she is so hard.

My son is definitely not perfect, at home we are now constantly speaking with him to learn to control his emotions, be respectful, think before speaking and self regulate. Not to get upset at everything, keep his hands to himself and play fairly as well.

I was really sad yesterday and I was tempted to go and have a conversation with this teacher to ask what really is the problem between her and my child? However, my husband advised that my action will only make them mark our son and since we are still temporary here, we cannot take some actions until our feet are standing well well here.

How do you deal? My son is 10 by the way. I will appreciate as many comments based on your own personal schooling experience with your kids.

Hey Mama. I know it’s not easy making the transition here so collect hug first

Tell your Son that it’s important that whenever people are rude to him or kick him, he should tell His Teacher FIRST before trying to retaliate in any way. Then get him to tell you immediately after school, anything funny that happens as well which you will then put in an email to his Teacher just to inform her that you’re aware and would like to know what was done about it.

That way, there’s an email trail of when people were aggressive to him as well and if the teacher starts having to answer too she might calm down.

Also remember that he’s only in her class for 1 more term. By September he will move to a new class. Use the time to pray and ask God for favor so his new teacher is much nicer.

Hopefully other Momma’s with more experience will read to and add their own soon.

Xx

Mamatukwas:
I’m happy to see that all my Ginger for Amex is paying off

Mbok let me plug in my referral code too http://amex.co.uk/refer/uGONNCjkWY?XL=MIMNS

If you use to apply and get approved, we bought get bonus points. Up to 34k for you depending on card type etc.

Gracias.

Someone used my ref link and was successful. Thanks a lot. I added some points cause of you

Plugging it in here still for anyone who wants to apply for an Amex card http://amex.co.uk/refer/uGONNCjkWY?XL=MIMNS

It’s a quick and sure way to get a generous CC if you qualify. Use responsibly

ProfJYK:


The Original AmEx Mama. I dey greet.

I’m happy to see that all my Ginger for Amex is paying off

Mbok let me plug in my referral code too http://amex.co.uk/refer/uGONNCjkWY?XL=MIMNS

If you use to apply and get approved, we bought get bonus points. Up to 34k for you depending on card type etc.

Gracias.

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Ahhhh!

Sorry you’re going through this @ but it’s a good thing you discovered early before things get even more complicated.

I’d say get a lawyer. Don’t try to DIY. Your lawyer will inform UKBA that the partnership/marriage has broken down and they will revoke his dependent visa.

He should go and hustle visa on his own if he plans to remain here.

Pele dear.

Ticha:


Past interest rates are not really relevant as the rates are climbing. We re-mortgaged for 1.18% in Sept last year and fixed for 5 years. That rate is not even being offered anymore regardless of LVR! The best way to lower your rate is up your deposit. However remember you then won't have access to that money at all till that house is sold or re-mortgaged if it has appreciated in value.

Take the lowest rate available now as that may well not be available in 2 weeks time. Even if you move houses, you can usually port the mortgage and rates as well. The biggest thing will be deciding to fix for 2/3/5 years. Pay attention to the early repayment charges especially of you have plans to move within the next 3 years.

What is currently annoying me is how houses are all selling at way over the Home Report Value. Not a great time to be a buyer Wallahi.

jummy2308:
It is needed because my father's name is what is on my 1st degree certificate . And my other documents after marriage is in my husband's name.

Okay. Write them back as suggested and see what they say.

Yo!!! So there’s been an increase in the number of Nigerians/Africans loosing their kids to CW because of negligence or abuse.

Do not leave your kids at home alone to go and work any night or day shift! Anything can go wrong and you will loose your kids.

Do not incessantly hit your kids. They don’t have filter, they could say something one day and you’ll get in trouble. Plus it’s not good period.

Once social workers enter your home and matter it can take a lot before they leave you.

Let’s be guided please.

jummy2308:
Good evening mummies in the UK.
I intend coming by Sept by his grace. My school just sent a mail saying my marriage certificate is looking unusual to d ones they have.
This seems quite strange to me. My marriage was in 2012. I have used this for so many formal documentations all through without no such coomplain.
Please what type of marriage certificates did u use. I did mine at ikoyi then.
Thanks as I look forward to ur responses. Below is d attachment of mine

Looks legit to me but why does your school need your marriage cert in the first place?

You can write them back asking them what they mean by ‘unusual’ then reiterate that it’s a certified true original and will be available to sight upon arrival.

I’m just wondering why it’s one of the docs submitted at all in the first place.

CheesyTee:


I particularly came back to give feedback as you requested.

We have spent a month here and it has been wonderful. People here are nice and it warms my heart. One thing I found beautiful is their level of trust.

I bought something online and this person offered to drop them off and then texted me his account deets afterwards. I was like, you trust me?

All the free items we got online too were delivered for free.

They are always quick to help out and everyone seems to know each other here.

One more thing, their English here is super clear. Like no funny accent or any slang like Glasgowians.

Also, they pronounce our names right without biting their tongues.

E be like make I dash them money

The teachers pronounce my kids' names well and I just wanna spray them money

As for work, it's been great so far. We are all enjoying it here.

That’s really lovely to hear! There’s nothing like as good as dancing to the beat of your own drum and following your path in life. See how you’re jollofing. All the best babe.

omopapa:
Do people still buy books in this era? I mean ebooks have become very trendy. However, Amazon is the house of used and new books

There’s something about the smell of new books that is irreplaceable.

LagosismyHome:


I have always had ...... needs patience sha dealing with Nigerian. Initially when I had my kids the agency had a lot of European so I started with having Romania. The two I had for about 4 years were brilliant , so gentle with kids and very hardworking. When I come home the house is spotless ...dont know how considering it was twins toddlers but they took their work very seriously. Then came brexit and they don't come again. The agency I use now has mostly naija motherhelp. The difference is 7up. Naija want to do very minimal job but collect full money with full chest ... it takes a lot of patience and you having to do a lot more when its a Nigerian worker but na so we see am. The one i have now takes 2 hours to eat breakfast, another 2 hours to eat lunch and then dinner, someone who suppose to be working....

I can give you the agency I use via pm. I am no way affiliate to them. I just have used them .

Why is our matter always hard

mizGene:
Hello everyone, hope we all had a good break.

I'm wondering, has anyone here gone through the domestic worker visa route as a solution for childcare?
Would be great to learn more about that option..

Also has anyone used a Nigerian or African live in, how did you source and what was your experience generally?

I checked the route for myself but residents of the UK do not qualify. You qualify if you are coming in to the UK and going within 12 months max I think so I dumped that idea.

I tried applying for my cousin to come visit, but they bounced her. I think we didn’t prove enough ties to Nigeria. A few friends who are sourcing are planing to use the domestic worker route on a family members visiting visa, then the person will stay back. I think it’s quite risky but….

Edited to say: if you’re not in a remote part of the UK, you should be able to source local.

babythug:
How’s everyone enjoying the break from school? What did we get up to? Been a minute just checking in!

It has been a minute! Za kids started school this week in Scotland so small breather for us.

Irenenwaka:


Lol thnks dear… mamatukwas please come to my rescue.

What is your rate plan?

Send a Dm please let me see if I can help

wonlasewonimi:


I have just read this article by David hundeyin.. There is no way that Gbenga Agboola is not going to prison and the sadly the company might go down

I doubt if he’ll go to prison. Sanction and be forced to step is down is more likely. Flutter wave I hope survives it as well. They have innocent staff that earn from there.

Ralphlauren:


Cosmos. Just beside Edinburgh playhouse and opposite John Lewis (literally at the top of leith walk)

I just checked and they open at 5pm. Might be too late for us as we aren’t spending the night in Edinburg. Know anywhere else that opens earlier?

Thanks.