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@ OP,

if he offers you the money, please take it. if he doesn't offer you by the end of the week as planned, please ask him nicely and take it if he offers forget about pride, afterall hes your friend right? he promised, let him keep his word.

that guy is not comming back, he knew before now that he was 10 years older than you.

iice:
[color=#9900ff]What happened to your pure water selling wife. . .the one you ditched after dumping the successful woman [/color]

i bow to this guy ooo! maybe he doesnt know that some people here are indeed intelligent

Please call the bank and confirm who made the deposit and get them to check their records to ensure they posted properly. the response will determine your next move.

@ OP,

First of all, I want to appreciate all that you are going through and the efforts you've put in to become better qualified. i think your MBA would help, but till you can get the result, i think you should monitor and try to expand your wife's business. besides making calls, she an start selling other things like biscuit, drinks and then ensure you monitor the proceeds. you can also think up something you can do for yourself that will give you a chance to increase your sources of income because, that MBA from LASU may not take you to the promised land.

all the best.

i think you have over 7 years work experience, that should be enough to determine your focus, either money or a career. but having said that, i have discovered that if you like what you do, get paid well to do it, but dont do it in the proper environment, you will equally be frustrated. my point is you should consider who you will be working with at the radio station. do your research and make a choice.

i personally believe in the early years of work, money is more important, but with 7 years like you have, doing what you like in a conducive environment is key, otherwise you will be more frustrated than when you were waking up at 4:30 and driving in lagos traffic.

@ OP,

i think your first sentence was enough to pass the message across. but then you went ahead and confused us with them stories. whether the girl finds the man or the man finds the girl is not the issue, the issue is what happens after they find each other ,

my 2 cents

@ OP,

This reminds me of the programme, The Bachelor. while i like the programme and find it interesting, i only have one observation which is that most of the time, the relationship with the lady chosen after the show doesn't ever last long. now the challenge with a public announcement and subsequent response to your vacancy advert is that you are going to get 'applications' from people who know they are competing with others, and will put their best foot forward in other to get the position advertised for. it is only when you have made a choice and the person feels like she has won the prize before you start to know who you truly picked, reminds me of some guy that was recruited as a senior manager in a commercial bank. after the recruitment it was obvious that all the guy had was swagger. he told lies upon lies. he could hardly get the job done and it was no surprise to anyone when the banking tsunami swept him away.

having said that, i have a couple of words for you.

1. please note that not every girl that appears 'decent' actually does have a good heart, so focus on the heart and the intentions behind her every action believe me, that will make a whole world of difference.
2. have conversations with the people you have shortlisted (u must have done that by now i assume), look out for the one that shows concern about you. some people want to marry because its time to, some just want kids, some cant be bothered about what happens to you, just dish out the money when they ask for it. i say this because you will discover that when life starts to happen to you guys, all you have will be each other. and if your partner is not focused on you, then you may not find shows funny.
3. ask questions that bother on finances, believe me if you marry a woman that doesnt know how to handle her pocket, you can be rest assured that your pocket will go the same way as hers - empty all the time.
4. find out how she treats the people around her and how the people around her perceive her believe me these people know her better than you do.
5. and more than anything, start by being friends. that way both of you are objective about issues and flaws.

err , hope the lecture was not too long . all the best in your search and please keep us posted. let us know when you find her and if indeed she is from our great Nairaland.

I don't advocate divorce, but if you are married to someone who does not bring out the best in you, towards whom you have unpure thoughts, or are starting to develop unpure thoughts, then believe me, its better to get out than to stay because 'God doesn't like divorce'.
i think you are at a point where you HAVE to ask him whats up. If he's not in love with you anymore, then I don't know if punishing yourself by trying to please him all the time will help you. the only way you can know is to ask. you don't need to quarrel about it. but before you ask, make sure you are strong enough to take whatever answer comes out of his mouth. that means you need to get a job or start the ebay business or whatever it is that will bring you confidence and independence.

marriage is meant to be two people helping eachother achieve their goals, both individual and joint goals, its not a do or die affair (haba, even PDP people dont seem that bad). like i said earlier, try to work on yourself be the best you can be, and if the brother still wants to be with the other lady, then please let her keep him. what are you doing with someone that doesnt want to be with you anyway

Lol, thanks a bunch, but am your sister, not your brother o. I can be patient if I see the potential. but right now, I can't see much in this network marketing thing, then again,maybe its the people I know. but i really don't fancy sweet talking to people and trying to make things better than they really are. i guess i won't go far in the business then because i think network marketing is like politics - promising what you wont deliver.

thanks for your patience, i really appreciate.

@isrealbiz,
your website no dey o, it keeps saying domain name is free.

@bisowo,
am glad you responded, now if i may ask further, is there anything you would have done differently knowing what you know now? i think the problem is that the people trying to recruit you never really give a true picture of how tasking it really is. i think profit may really take a while especially if you have to dig deep and look for a side of you that is outgoing, people & profit oriented. the grammer too plenty sef.

@consultmartins,
my challenge is that network marketing seems to require more than i'm willing to give. building a downline takes a lot as you have to meet people at their point of need. first of all, you need to know these people, identify their needs, and then try to fill the void and hope that they see the difference. all this takes time. i'm wondering if its truly worth the sweat and hardwork

Please accept my sympathy. May he journey through the right path in the beyond, amen

Chaircover is right, you shouldn't ask the neigbour to spy on your husband because you can never entirely tell where her allegiance lies. But having said that, besides the usual prayer, I think you should work on yourself. what kind of person are you? what kind of wife are you to your husband? what kind of friend are you to him? we cant entirely predict other human beings, but you can sure predict yourself. like a friend once said, be the best you can be so that when the man goes out and then comes home to you, he'd realise that what he's out there looking for is not nearly as good as what he has.

if you don't have concrete proof, please don't confront him. instead, try to work on yourself. if he doesnt change, then we'd be talking a different story entirely,

all the best

@ Isrealbiz,

thanks for your advice. but what happens when people I know are not interested in the network marketing biz? I wanted something I could do along with my job, but somehow, I cant seem to make the time to talk to people about the products, not to talk of getting theminterested enough to sign on, and honestly, the profit is in building a downline, not retail profit! the matter tire me. will check out your site though.

@ neksummi,

the compensation i have heard about is certainly not worth the stress, or maybe am not a good sales person. how do i get to your blog?

Thanks a bunch

dat one na die o, even babalawo sef no dey hawk medcine. lol. thanks 4 the info , i guess its not worth the hype then

@ Topic,

I'm not married so I can't say for a fact that you do this or do that. But like Chaircover said, I think you may have projected to him that you were financially ok (your family is rich) and he wont have to bear the burden alone. Now you are married and not working, as far as hes concerned, he has been conned (believe me, I have had some similar experience, thankfully we were just dating when he began to display his true colors). Everything else started from that point, believe me. Now he starts to scrutinize your every being & i mean EVERY. Now he'd observe that your size has increased, he'd realize he likes them slim, you dont make up all the time,in short he sees only your shortcommings and doesnt want to be seen with you.

My dear, the solution (besides prayers) will take a while but it can be done:

1. Get a job/start a business - he'd start to see you as his equal and source of support
2. Anything you complain about, stop complaining and find a solution e.g. i always complained about my boyfriend not saving money, and after like 15mths of complaining with no change, I decided to force him to open an account and started putting money in it , believe me, now he does exactly that.
3. Stop thinking anything he does has everything to do with you. e.g if he doesnt come home on time, dont think its because of you. just believe he is responsible enough to find the way home when he needs to. it will take less stress away from you emotionally and you can start relating with him as your friend, without all the airs and nagging .

Like I said & others have said, its not an easy road, and will sure take some time, but nothing is impossible,

All the best

Please who has been involved with any of the network marketing companies in Nigeria? i.e GNLD, Tianshi, Forever Living, Edmark e.t.c. Please I need to have an understanding of how these businesses work and the real chances of growth.

Please spill if you have any concrete info,

Thanks a bunch

@ Larrybabe,

my dear, that i said Nkenna is not going anywhere does not mean i'm her ardent supporter or that i have once cheated in an exam (infact i more than pride myself in my intelligence, i'm too proud to cheat) or done any of those things you mentioned. that was an attack on my xter and i dont think thats a nice way of expressing your opinion about my comments , but i'm speaking based on what people posibly see as entertainment. if you saw Koko Mansion or the peice flying around about the person that said EFCC is under Yahoo, pray tell, how far did she go?? all the way to the finals my dear.

if you haven't noticed by now, Africa will only vote morals and all that jazz when it comes down to it and that is the final 3. right now, anybody they think annoying will be booted out. Emma has become annoying because of her constant lies, Elizabeth has become annoying because people think she is pretending not to like Kelvin when in actual fact she does! if she doesnt like him, then please why hang out with him? there are other people in the house for Petes sake!!

i reiterate that Nkenna in my opinion will not walk out that door come sunday, except of course more than one person will leave the house, not because she does justice to our rebranding project, but because i still dont understand what Africa describes as entertainment.

@ Tampico,

Na me ooo. I owe you plenty things,,, if i start counting this thread will get to 200 pages! lol.

@ Topic,

Please why was that Ruby dog sleeping under a blanket? what dog in Africa sleeps under the duvet?

Again, I say Nkenna is not going anywhere on Sunday, she is the entertainment in the house. Those lies are just da bomb , as for Geraldine, she should please in Gods name take off that weave on even if she intends to keep quiet till the rapture comes! and as for Kelvin, no comment, cos i think that Elizbeth is razz,

i beg that mimi must go o!!! that her forehead plus belle wey big pass my own don tire me to see!! and the way she feels cool!!!! i cant wait for her to go back to Kumasi or Brong Ahafo or wherever it is she evoluted from.

lawyerchap:
Now add a third indescribable situation: Saturday night in the Big Brother Africa House. If you missed it, there are no words that can convey the atmosphere in which the events occurred. Solution: do not miss the Highlights during tomorrow's Nominations Show. Have been struggling to write a review of that phenomenal night without much success. The words just do not seem able to do justice to Morris and Munya's beggarly unmanliness, mimi's evil slithering from one housemate to the other, poisoning their souls with the virulent gunk from the depths of her unplumbed mind, Lucille's astounding idiocy in acting upon mimi's prompting, Ricco's about-face from Latoya to Lucille, Uti's berating of the other guys over alcohol, Latoya's getting a taste of her own medicine, _{(where's Beamer when you need him?)}

LC u no go kill person.

am sure if majority of the viewers this time are people like me, MNET no go make money!!!! work wan kill man pickin!!! Thank God for Nairaland oh.

as for that Uti, i can see he has taken over talk talk from Sheila, infact its like he's talking for both of them. i think he should watch it, its a game, not a superiority contest!! and that Lucille!! she reminds me of those stickers on busses and lorries that say "trust no man", only this time its a woman and her name is Lucille (_{i think Don Williams was singing abt her in his song Lucille!)} me thinks the viewers shld watch that space.

and as for Lerato, i think i find her comments a bit amusing, or more like annoying!!! she should please shut up and stop criticising everything and everybody!!! she wasnt fun to watch really.

my 2 cents

@ topic,

osanobwa!!!!!! na wah oh, the house mates didnt even wait to get settled! or did they all plan to come and act film for Africa?

@ LC,

u no dey disappoint.

@ ndi, spicegal

pls come on board oh

@ all,

yes oh BBA is back!!! wen i saw the 9ja guy, i said yes oh, we don show!!!! and the Kenyan gal is fine!!! but she too talk! na only she day hse? anyway, thanks to work, i'll have to look unto Nairaland, the author and finisher of BB analysis to know how far and you guys are not disappointing me! i luv u guys.

@ Tampico,

hey luv!!

@ LC,

wetin u dey yarn now? which kind jungle hse u dey trip for? men the colour combo is crazy, that blue jungle curtain is the most annoying and that green!!! phew!!!! i only look at the gardens cos wen i look at the sitting, its like i'm abt to go blind!


my 2 cents

it is a chat really. you'll fill a form and have a chat with any of their staff you are assigned to. just smile, be candid. it doesnt take long and shouldn't scare you.

all the best

@ your hubby,

_{whose hubby are you sef?} i think that is a good idea. as much as i would love to participate in it, i may not be able to cos right now i'm not in the legal profession and i'm not missing that. i'll love to join just so that my knowledge does not rot!!! so if you would welcome a passive member that will contribute from afar, then my email is mamus4ever@gmail.com

@ ibis,

sola adepetun(of adepetun, caxton-martins agbor and segun) once told me that the masters was on the job!! so i always advise you get some experience before getting a masters, that way you always have the edge

congratulations and welcome to zenith bank

@ la babe,

LOL who am i not to pick your calls? how dare me?

@ moneysmith,

thank you for pointing that out. i was typing that post in a hurry and ended up passing the wrong message. what i meant to say was that the rule against advertising makes law firms less visible, that means you may have walked past a law firm without any clue you were walking past one (where i did my service is one example).

@ ibis,

i can pick a couple of law firms in your list as good examples of places where anybody should not dare work, cos there they will stress you, insult you and dash you peanuts for all your wahala. there are others on your list that is strictly on who you know basis(a staff actually told me and i almost fainted!!)

@ all,

if you want to practice as a lawyer,you must really have that focus and be ready to turn a blind eye to things like money, some public holidays e.t.c so you dont get discouraged. and please do not fail to network, its your best bet.

i hail oh

@ ibis,

i understand how you feel, but you have to understand the legal profession. first of all, you are not allowed to advertise(remember your RPC), so the best way is to drop your cv's at the law offices and website and hope they call you.

but as a matter of fact, i can tell you that the easiest way to get into a law firm is through referral, and no lawyer on nairaland will refer you except they know you personally, afterall vouching for those you know is tough, talk less of those you dont know. so your best bet is to network and hope for the best.

@ all,

the cv's in my box are increasing by the day. the challenge is how to identify the nairalanders as i cant see any user name or figure out who is who. so please oluchia and others kindly send your cv's again with your user name as the subject.

as for the others, there are too many for me to drop off, so i have to take mostly 2:1's and those that are maximum 26yrs old.

and please if you know anybody that works in zenith bank, get them to drop your cv's so that others that know nobody can get a chance. finally, dont forget to fill the online form and keep your fingers crossed. take care