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[quote author=UnfairLife7 post=126738551][/quote]well that's your thoughts, how we make our money is differ and how we spend it will not be the same.

Some Men are draft, how on earth will you be putting your mouth on a plate that produce blood monthly,urine daily?Oh lord of creation direct our noble call.

Tallesty1:
I'd like to share a story with you. I enjoy stories, as they are often what older folks excel at. 😄

My church hosts a program from time to time; it's an all-night event where singles of marriageable age and selected married individuals come together to discuss various aspects of marriage.

On one occasion, a topic was brought up, and women were discussing at length how they could love a man and do everything right, yet things don't always work out. As people began giving reasons for such situations, I was given the microphone, and I suggested, "Perhaps you should consider respecting them instead of just loving them. If what you're doing isn't working, why not try something different?" This led to a lively debate, which I won't go into, but one woman took it personally, and we had this conversation.

Woman: Are you married?

Me: No, ma'am.

Woman: I've been married for years, and I can emphatically tell you that love is what has held us together from day one. We've been through a lot and come out stronger because of love. You're not married, so you may not know enough to form an opinion on this issue.

The women in the audience applauded her.

Me: That's beautiful, ma'am. When did you meet your husband?

Woman: A few months after school; I was staying with my uncle and waiting for my service year.

Me: Was he a student too?

Woman: No, he was already in business and doing fairly well.

Me: How long did you two date?

Woman: Just a few months. He made it clear that he was looking for a wife, but we didn't get married until after my service year.

Me: That's wonderful. Now, let's imagine a scenario where your roles are reversed. You are a successful businesswoman, and you meet a young man fresh out of school with no job and no NYSC certificate yet, and he proposes marriage. Would you have married him as quickly as he married you? Please, be honest; we are in a church.

Woman: What are you trying to say? That I married him because of money or something? I love my husband, he knows it, he sees it, and he feels it. He's here and can speak for himself.

Me: Thank you, ma'am, for being honest with me.

I summarized the conversation, which was quite lengthy and filled with drama, but I believe you can still grasp the main point from this excerpt. 😄

You see so many times I don't blame this woman, when a working class man marry a job less woman my dearest brother it never a love she marry you because you can provide for her needs.Men should stop marrying a jobless ladies.

Kids are involved in marriage this days, When you see a growing up Man knee down for a Jobless lady to marry him this is what you get at the end,as a Man, you provide for shelter, food, clothes, education, health, transportation and many unforseen Bill,yet she still Insulting you because you can't create a business for her on time,then if i may ask, what is her own responsibility?My brother there are a lot of better women outside there who are well established and looking for a better husband to marry, when it gets to a stage that Woman don't appreciate your role,send her to her family let them feed her for a month,if she threatened to cheat on you,send her out , before any Man can give a woman 5k now,her Toto will cry for it

sholikay:
I bought the rice for my bride list..though I am cutting out some other quantity of the list..I can't reduce for the rice,but reducing in other things,like yam,drinks,vegetable oil...other requirement...
The iv done,was soft copies..no hard copies,and a friend did it for me free..
Thank you for your advise so far..

well,I will not advise you to take loans for the celebration.

sholikay:
sir,from onset,I told my parents I don't want an elaborate thing..I am not trying to please anyone by renting big halls,and killing cow....I don't have much crowd coming...but the little thing still needed to get the day done is what inflation has killed...bag of rice that was sold 30+ while planning the wedding,I bought it 50+ when I started getting the bride items....
Wished I had known,I would have gotten some earlier.

My brother there's live after marriage,why buying a bag of rice when you can buy half?why printing IV when you can get few of your family members together? you have no excuse to allow people to dictate how to manage your affairs even you parents has no rights to tell you what to do, they can only advise you.

So many things are wrong with us in this part of the world, when things go out of line they put the blame on their families, their pastor's and Imam will tell them that their problems is from their family, Now let take the Case of this young Man as a case study:he has no family to support him financially,who knows if the lady he wants to marry has a job,he is ready to take a loan to marry.he never think there is life after marriage,he is inviting people to come and eat when he has nothing to put on the table.is that not a stupidity? when you can't cut your clothes according to you clothe,where as you can do a parlour introduction with just 10 people in attendance and has a peace of mind Rather than allowed external body to dictate his affairs,I 🙏 you wouldn't regret your actions at the end of it and let me remind you if you think people will give you money after eating your food in the day of the party you are deceiving your self.

edunaragold:
u have u invest in the food.🥰🧠

I av not sir

emekajacobogbon:
2m is worthless in our foodstuffs business now, Rice is 50k
20 bags 1m
Beans 70 and 20 bags is 1.4m
Corn is 50k
20 bags is 1m
You have not paid for shop
You have not put other things in place like generator.
You better be confused like me now

so as a starter,20bag of rice,20 bag of corn,20 bag of beans is what you are starting with? don't be confused some of the shops you see with so many goods are stocked on credit,I wouldn't say much but if someone can have a job to raised 5m it shows it has a better job at hand.good luck

Can you invest on food stuff?

When people talk about who to marry,where to marry, how to marry It always amazed me, not knowing that, there is no rules to follow and no book to read for a perfect marriage, courtship and marriage are different ball game entirely,so many things can determine each player's role in marriage, either to bring the best or the worst.

If you have a daughter and always spent time with her you will realise that women are the same,young or older their thoughts are same and lovely to be with.if you have 50 children with out a female child my brother you have no child.

carreport:
Sad
But the truth us that most bolt drivers pocket the proceeds from the business and tell the car owner long long stories every day.


If u own ur own car and use it for bolt u will not sell it.

yinmu

Nairalander kaiii this is what German called shaakaa chira.

PierreAbutu:
Bro, please tell me the name of the perfume abeg🙏

shaakaa chiraa

Shaaka chira

Pay back time.

Nairaland is like second home to me, what ever you are looking for, just checked there.more specialist on sex matters.

Has anyone ever ordered food from Brent supermarket before?if yes ,is it pay before delivery or pay after delivery?

Canaland 2024 await you.

I need a 7 Seater bus for transportation
Suzuki carry tokunbo,any dealer should mention me.

When you get married, you will realise that life os more than having sex.

jeromestarks:
Those nurses ehhh. Kai. They do alot of things during night shift.

Some fvck patients, gate men and fellow male nurses.

put your hand on your chest and say o lord forgive me for saying what my eyes did not see.

LONEWOLFJOHN:
I said you perfectly describe my wife, bro, I blame myself because I saw all the signs when I was dating her but I ignore, her mother always set traps for me, any little misunderstanding, they will plan and take away my kids, this is happening for the 5th time, I always go to child right to claim my kids, she will return claiming she wants to be with her children, they were waiting for me to divorce her but I refused and I know why, now she's no longer working in the. Bank where I can easily track her, she disappear with my kids and blocked every means, I don't know where to start from. Her family were in Maiduguri when I married her because we both graduated from university of maiduguri, I suspect she might have to an to maiduguri, and I'm not planning to emback on that journey for now.

My brother forget about the kids, your wife and her mother for now, look for a woman who has a handwork and re_married and give your self a peace of mind when it's time your kids will look for you.

You need to see your Doctor.

[quote author=EndRape2 post=125548279][Why are you quoting him, you want him to be stupid like you, let him learn to become a better husband , you people are all over internet, attacking good guys that have been trained by good parent to be better.public forum is meant for where people bring out a different opinions, but when it turns to where you insulting someone who is old enough to be your father then it shows who and where you were brought up, either you are a good man or not everyone has his own cross to carry.






quote author=Map1 post=125540930]My brother Marriage is entirely different Ball game,no amount of motivational speaker, book you read about marriage, chancellor advice that makes marriage works,most of those pastors are in there marriage with sadness and regret but they can't back out,no sane man can satisfied and make women happy with out a regret at the end.[/quote

Nehyooh:
Woooow!
A big lesson for me to learn from as an aspiring husband by the grace of God. AMEN!

My brother Marriage is entirely different Ball game,no amount of motivational speaker, book you read about marriage, chancellor advice that makes marriage works,most of those pastors are in there marriage with sadness and regret but they can't back out,no sane man can satisfied and make women happy with out a regret at the end.