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Ussycool:
Bago oyoyo...

Niger sai Bago

Niger sai Bago

see you praising your slave Master

NLElder:
First of all don't be quick to judge me. I am just here for matured help/advice cos I am fast loosing it. I am sure if it's abroad I will to told to go meet a therapist.

I am a young man in my early 40s and married for 9 years now with 2 kids. My nature of work is such that I am living on another town 5hours away from my family. This has been the case 6years out of the 9 years I am married. I have never really enjoyed my marriage as a young man cos I am always driving up and down every weekend to meet my family and when I got a promotion with more responsibility I reduced it to every 2 weeks, and as the stress of work and driving became more stressful, I now go every month. I have tried all my best even till date to see if I can get another work in the same state my wife and kids reside to no avail and my wife can't leave her work in the state join me as she is in a federal government establishment that has no branch in the state I live and work.

The scenario so far shows you that I am not enjoying a healthy sex life with my wife, but being someone brought up to respect the marriage institution, I have resigned to my fate and taken life as I have seen it. To make matters worse, with due respect to my wife, she suffered female genital mutilation and you know it affects women's sex life and their man is always worse off for it. In summary we lead a routine boring sex life in the few occasions we even get to have it. However, the 6 years I have lived and worked in another state, I have never cheated or thought of cheating on her despite all the cold lonely nights I have to spend alone. I am a kind of introvert and never hide it from people that I am married. Some will be like "u no get side chick"? I will say no.

The problem started 4 years earlier out of the 6years in the city I live and work. Since I am always lonely and bored in my crib, I mostly do video calls with my wife and kids daily or chat online with friends to keep my mind busy and avoid unnecessary tensions that will remind me of the lonely boring life I was living. This also keeps me away from sexual urges if I feel any as a fool-blooded young man I was. It was in one of these online chats that I got close to one young lady of about 30. We really got close through chatting and graduated to exchanging numbers. I always make it known that I was married to everyone I meet and she was no exception. We became best friends online and kept our limits as married man and a single lady would. We became curious and excited to meet each other live when we found out we were in same city.

We arranged a harmless date in a restaurant in town were we really got to know more about each other. I found out that she was a struggling young girl teaching in a private school with NCE and was unable to proceed to degree level due to lack of funds. Her salary wasn't even up to 18k and she was squatting with one lady in very uncomfortable circumstances. After that 1st live meeting, a very good friendship ensued but entirely platonic .

All these past 4 years before I met her, I cook for myself and go to market by myself. One Friday she called and I did not immediately pick cos I was in the kitchen. I called her back later and told her I was cooking and she jokingly asked if she could help. As at then she was yet to come to my place, so I told her if she really wanted to help then I would come and pick her up and that was how for the first time in 4 years, a lady visited me in that town. It felt awkward. It did not take long for me to find out how homely she was...washed plates, tidied everywhere, and finished up the cooking. I really felt at peace and started getting worried at the same time. We spent time chatting but kept our distance and nothing happened between us and I dropped her off later where she was squatting.

After that, our friendship went to another level and the visits became more frequent but still nothing happened between us. I got to know she was a well brought up lady that still had values and I also confirmed she had no man as at the time she met me. She said she had always wished to be married before now and never believed she would reach 30 and still be single.

I know my story is getting rather long, so let me try to wrap up. In summary, she started having issues with the family she was squatting with and didn't have enough money to rent a place of her own. I didn't have enough to rent for her either as I was already carrying a lot of financial responsibilities for her by then...monthly stipend of ₦10k to add to her salary, tolletries, making hairs and even helping out with her sick mum hospital bills.

So without a 2nd thought, both of us decided she move into my place. Inside me I knew it was somehow but I think by then we were already in love with each but maybe living in denial.

So she moved in and that was it. Yes, we started having sex, uncomfortably at 1st but later became 2 sex maniacs. It was as if she was sent to compensate me for my horrible marriage sex experience I have endured all these years. We couldn't have enough of each other. In fact when I want to travel and see my family, she breaks down crying. I knew it was more than a side chick matter. In fact this lady gave me a fulfilled sex life that I swear if it's in the olden days I wouldn't mind taking her as a 2nd wife. Months grew into years and our passion for each other grew to the point that we got jealous of the opposite sex calling us. She even starts frowning when my wife calls or tears will start running down her eyes. People, I became so confused. We both knew we have gone too far and yet were not ready to end it.

I even because part of her own family cos I go with her to see her sick mum and played a prominent role when she died. I don't know her older siblings knew if I was married or not , but I think she confided in her older sister who seemed to like me so much and only warned her to be "careful."

After 2 years, she started agitating about marriage so much that she said she needed to move out of my place. That as long as she is with me, she might not get married since it's obvious I wasn't going to marry her no matter how much both of us pretended about it. Deep inside me I knew she was right and I couldn't be selfish to keep her from meeting single suitors but I felt an inexplicable pain in my heart as if a part of me was about to be cut off. However, I forced myself to assist her to get a place and yet she on her own kept coming to my place every weekend until she moved in again leaving her place wasting for over 2 months., only going there once in a while to pick things..

All the 2 years we were together she was open and truthful to me about relationships she was now trying to build with single guys she hoped would marry her. I was already feeling bad inside me that she was about to leave my life, but she kept assuring me that she was with me and truly told me everything happeneing in the new relationship she was building.

She later moved out completely from my place after 2years on a new year day. She said needed to start the year on a good and clean note and had gotten serious with the guy that said he wants to marry her. I began to feel extreme jealous I couldn't explain. I knew it was not right but I couldn't stop myself. I tried my best and stopped calling or chatting with her but I still didn't find peace. One evening a month after when it was now clear that she has decided to get serious with the guy she said was coming for marriage, she visited me and and you can't believe it, we made hot passionate love. And when we were lying side by side, her new man called and she quickly ran into the toilet to answer him. I felt it was time I ended this whole thing, it wasn't looking right again.

So I confronted her why she was still leading me on when she is now in a marriage -bound relationship and she said because she still loves me and doesn't know how to let go of me. We cried together that it wiould be tough as we would soon separate from each other for life and she left. I cried like a baby as we made love again and she consoling me to try and teach my wife the things she does to me despite her FGM predicament.

The period she was with me, she was uncomfortable answering calls from her man and I got fed up and decided to investigate. So I went to the street where she showed me the guy lives(she was truly open to me and I give her that) and waited to see if she has started visiting him as she mostly denies and lo and behold, I saw her entering the guy's house. I felt a sharp pang of jealousy which I couldn't control. I picked up my phone after some minutes and started calling her, but her phone rang severally and she didn't pick. I was almost half-dead with jealousy. I cried iny heart and drove away. I sent her a text that because she was "enjoying" herself with her man she was now avoiding my calls. That maybe tbe guy was so good at it. She called about 2 hours later and really took offence that because she visited him and did not pick my call was simply because she doesn't want him to start asking questions and not necessarily that they were doing anything.

We quarrelled like never before and said hurtful things to each other and I asked her to return my key at my office the next day cos by then she no longer visited my house as she has really gotten serious with the guy. She returned the key and for over 2 months we stopped communicating and became strangers.

Instead of pushing her out my mind, I felt a daily torture looking through her Facebook pics, WhatsApp status, and other social media. I will go to her guy's street and painfully watch her enter his house from afar. I was fast losing my mind. I knew it was over for good and don't want her back but the obsession is yet to leave me till date. Everyday, I check her pictures and feels pangs of pain and jealousy as I see her lovely smiles. My people it's punishment and torture for me. I keep obsessing every second of my life about her. Who can help me? Something is definitely wrong. In one of her recent status, I saw her flaunt her hands with an engagement ring and I felt a sharp pang of sadness instead of happiness. People help me I am loosing it. Even though she has apologized to me and I too have apologized for the hurtful things we said in the course of our quarrel, my mind is still not at peace.

Even now presently she is engaged she still calls me and tries to engage me in friendly conversations but I will just be answering without interest. She even sent me a pic recently at a wedding she went to and I told her she should stop sending me her pics but should be sending to her man. She apologized and said she has taken note. Yet, I will feel bad inside me if I don't see her friendly chats which my attitude has made her reduce. Yet in all these, first thing in the morning I will quickly rush to check her pics, if she has made new posts, etc etc. I need help, I really do. Sorry my people for the long post but I really needed to empty myself to see the help I can get if any cos I want my normal sane life back. I have also prayed to God and asked for forgiveness for cheating on my wife ....I have no excuses for doing so but from the long story you can see it was never my intention.

i av to talk with you privately,send me your watsapp number 08050261602

[quote author=richmind2019 post=113110743]I hate to say this but I feel Muslims respect their religion more than Christians.

People are always joking with Christianity even on comedy skits.[/quote Can you tell us what make some one a christian?

Jennyclay:
Impressive! You're so creative.

BTW, your shoe looks like your tiles.

Do you work with GNLD?

you are so funny.

Mooh247:




Evil African uneducated Almajiri youths high on cheap drugs

2011 Buhari lost an election, they started killing people

Every Kano Pillars vs Katsina United PFL football derby always leads to Fight and mob action

Super Eagles lost a match to Ghana they turned the whole stadium upside down

Now they are killing over WhatsApp message

If you blame , insult ,curse or persecute 1.8 billion Muslim Men, Women, Children , Old, Aged and young for the actions of Some Sokoto youth then you are as demonic as the people who lynched innocent Deborah




* President Buhari a Muslim condemn the act
* Sultan of Sokoto the leader of Supreme Islamic council spoke against the babaric act
*Shiek of holy mosques of Saudi spoke against it
*Governor Tambuwal a Muslim spoke against it and ordered the arrest of the killer's
*Zamfara chief Imam condemned it






.

well you have every right to defend who ever you wish to defend but i must tell you,all those condemnation are just eye service the whole muslim has same orientation,is this the first time such a thing is happen?do you know the Numbers of people that are behind the bar through sharia law for a claim of insulting allah?

Halimaatz:
clo.wn.

Clown kill your generator

Halimaatz:
clo.wn, if A is success in life, A=X+Y+Z. Work is X, play is Y and Z is keeping your mouth shut!

kikiiikiii,Julius Berger

Halimaatz:
Prove that you're nt lying. Recharge this number with 10k recharge card.

After you've done that is the when we would start asking you which job you are into.

I'm sure you cooked this story out to advertise something.

oleeeeeeeeee.

Rave90:
As e dey hot. I need like 5 plates.

Anini

Ijesha Warrior fc of oduduwa land

Kuruptnigga:
Fooooooolll. Give me your WhatsApp number i will send you the video asap.

kindly send me the video 08050261602.thanks

ETHICALLYrlght:
You can't sue someone for his property. The case will be struck out for no cause of action.

Your father owns valid titles to the real properties through first settlement. Put differently, he bought the plots of land from nobody but inherited it customarily as a descendant of those who settled there first.

I presume based on the preceding paragraph that the land documents are not registered at the land registry of your state because from experience the first document descendants of first settlers prepare regarding their land is usually a deed of gift, deed of lease, deed of assignment or power of attorney depending on the circumstances.

My advice is that you should get very close to your father this period. Let everyone believe you are his favourite son. Show him how to enjoy the internet with a smartphone. Encourage him to eat wheat instead of Garri or Akpu or Amala etc.... You know all those things his mates like

During this period, learn his signature, prepare a deed of gift and get your close allies including your sister as witnesses. It's even better if you can make him sign the paper himself through misrepresentation (This is a special course I can tutor you on).
Register the deed of gift at the appropriate registry and pay the required dues to the government registry. To be more smooth get registered surveyors to survey the land and register the survey plans with the government in your name.

You have all commercial banks need to grant you a loan. When you've successfully mortgaged the properties, use that money to do something good for yourself.
BENEFITS
1. Your father will not be able to sell a land you mortgaged to the bank. The bank will take him to court and deed of gift you presented to the bank will be a superior title.
2. The bank will not own the land as long as you invested the loan wisely and follow the repayment plan honestly.
3. After the expiration of each mortgage, begin new mortgages to further expand your investments. But ensure you always repay your loan.
4. Your father will pass on while the case lingers in the court. I trust NIGERIAN courts (15 years no judgment just adjournments)
5. When he passes on, end all mortgages and keep the land if you wish.
DISADVANTAGES
If you believe in curses don't try this. I do not believe in them

I doff my Hat

Mooh247:
And in your mind Presidency of the most populous black nation is a single Job

If only you knew how many individual appointments makes up Presidency perhaps you might rethink

But then this is Africa, simple research we won't do, we just like to rant and wail everytime
Yy
.

so what are you trying to point out now

The Man will come back home,buy her Suya case close Na love.

bunnae:
That's a little boy. Have a little empathy. He didn't vote any government into power.

Have you been to Northern state before?kids are the voters over there

What are the causes of the Domestic violence if we fails to find the causes we might not find a solution to,most of Nigerians youth are product of Domestic violence,50percent or more of parents are divorced so in such environment what did we intend to learn?also most of the ladies always settled with a man who is ready not who they love same goes to our Men,also did we even prepared to give a respect a chance in our marriage because when you keep disrespect a Man and always Naging,also what is the finacial capability of the Man all these will always triger a Domestic violence.parent has a lot of work to do in preparinf their Son and dauther for marriage

doctore212:
I need better Olosho this night

Which area are you?

Rayd502:
They should be careful,wouldn't want to lose them in the frontlines.Their willingness to defend their country shows the highest level of patriotism.

Be careful about what?is there any crime defending a country that gave out everything for you?it will be better to die in defending a nation who gave you everything than running away and be alive to tell the History.

wumi2017:
God when

Trust on God,after shiloh 2022.�

Who is ready to watch shooting stars against Heartland today by4pm?5 free ticket is available for grab

Who is ready to watch shooting stars against Heartland today by4pm?5 free ticket is available for grab

Investigative:
Well kanu is not the problem
Tinubu is not related to this news
I wonder how you included him

is Tinubu not the jagaban of Borgu?and Borgu is under Niger state�

Dagger111:
I have been there for 5years and when the clarion call again, i will be glad to go with smiles.

yinmu

Dagger111:
I don't learn sketching anywhere, it is just a natural gift. However, i need a tutor to be more effective and learn new skills in the art world. Though, i am a force man in the military but i still want to learn more skills in art. I will respectfully take my tutor seriously, leave the force pride and act as an apprentice. Great Artists in the house, pls kindly check my art work out and show me my errors.

1st picture - Pablo Escobar.

2nd picture - Late Brig Gen Benjamin Adekunle (My mentor in the military).

3rd picture - Oba Adeyeye Ogunwusi Ojaja II Oni of Ife.

4th picture - King of the jungle, Lion.

I pray then transfer you go Sambisa forest or Zamfara forest

TiredLividSoul:
First of all, Same to you.

Secondly, Nobody will exit this Earth alive. (Death is promised all)

Lastly, Stop being pessimistic, it's my life ffs. People like you only pretend to care but you're not so different from Mummy G. O. Instilling fear in people.

You have no worries about my problem whether it will kill me or not. Your laser focus is on what I am going to do with my male organ. Please leave me alone.

Oooooole

You dont try to impress Nigerian ladies,when you run after them they run away,when you run away they run after you.

shadrach77:
O ma se o. Shey na fame dey disturb this one's reasoning bah? Someone who started his career from the church! Even during his EME days he was going to church

Na wah!

you might be right but when you traveled around the world you will realized that religion is nothing but trash.

realmatters:
If you can meet 60% of my requirement I will end poverty in your family for life. You can send me a private mail, I will assign someone who will do a background check before I meet you. We will post all our dealing on nairaland. Please take up this challenge in good faith. I will need you to reply if you are interested or forever go back to the hole you came from. I mean 60% of my requirements.

you are still a kid bro,grow up

Terorislam:
After havesting people skulls, local Yoruba Muslims are not happy in prison

Oh you thought prison are meant for only criminals?The numbers of innocenty in prison are higher than the numbers of convicted criminals not to talk of people on awaiting trials just put the blame on our systemic structures