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Admin401:
My very good friend told me and some friendsabout the problem he was having with his babe. He actually told me that the girl tried to poison him and he was looking for a way out of the relationship that won't make the girl angry because she could really hurt him. We all tried to help but at the end, he made up his mind to stay because he felt they were all like that. His exact words were; "Finally, all of them dey like that"

Imagine my shock.

The modern day relationship for you!!!

mimimile93:
Modern day relationship is what I theme FO_BID.

With the many means of communication these days yet distance relationship cannot survive.

I noticed that most people soon as they change environment, they change their partners as well.

In the days of old that people only depend on letter writing, our parents were able to keep a distance relationship and it survives.


I know a man who told me during his youthful age, he went abroad to study and left his bae behind.

The only wrote each other via letter once in six months and he still came back to marry her.


In present day, the moment a guy/lady leaves the environment, he/she would find a new love in his/her new environment.


Relationship these days sucks..

I agree to your opinion, but remember say them get things wey dey make distance relationships nor work oo!

NwanyiAwkaetiti:
No summary?
Martin are u the one wacking garri this early morning?

My dear, join eat the garri ooo, e don dey hungry person since ooo...

Have you noticed that almost all the modern day relationships are the same? There are some
exceptions but a lot of people are still in a toxic relationship. The worst part is that they all assume that it’s normal. It’s a delusional way of thinking but it exists. Those people tend to give advice to others and it mostly doesn’t make any sense. The best worst advice that I’ve ever had was this: “you only know if you’re in a good relationship if you’re fighting/arguing all the time.” I responded that I didn’t want a good relationship if that was an indicator of the quality of the relation. I seriously even wonder how you can believe such a quote. That doesn’t sound right does it? But then it struck me. I suddenly realized where this misconception came from.

Most people in relationships don’t know any better
Most people don’t excel at anything but they’re all pros in following the herd. They just do what others do and they all look at the wrong relationships. But you can’t know what a good relationship is if you’re not surrounded by them. That’s the law of attraction that comes into to play . You attract what you are and some people attract really bad people. Those are the ones who’ll claim that you’ve got to fight a lot to have a great relationship. Spoiler alert that’s not the case!

The relationships are stuck in a rut

People tend to do less effort as soon as they got what they want. You see this in relations as well. People do less and less effort for each other as time progresses and that’s when it all goes downhill. Most people do effort one day a year and that’s on Valentine’s Day. Someone really smart probably noticed that relations go downhill and decided to make some money off it.

So what about the other days Alex? Well they just do the same as most people. Most people live next to each other.

You might be comfortable in this situation but you’ll gain nothing if you stay in it. Well you’ll gain frustration and stuff like that. Love is a verb not a feeling.

I like it the other way around: do effort 364 days a year and have an argument on Valentine’s Day (we all need an off day!). That’s how it should be. Just do the complete opposite and treat every day like Valentine’s Day. Or you could treat every day like the first date. That’s the martial arts mentality that everybody should possess.

Will it be hard? Yes but it’ll be worth it in the long run.

Take notes because hard work pays!

Most relationships went way too fast

I once wrote a dating guide and people were surprised by my approach. They were surprised because they all have the same approach. They get together as soon as possible without even knowing each other and then they are surprised that things don’t work out. Most people make a major mistake when it comes to dating and that’s how they approach the living together part as well. It’s not about the person you can live with but the person you can’t live without. But some people even take it up a notch.

Unhappiness makes you do crazy stupid shit
People who’re unhappy make some weird decisions. They decide to start a family instead of breaking up. They don’t get that some people just aren’t the right match. Or they don’t get that they’ll have to resolve a lot before they should even consider starting a family. These people assume that outside factors like kids or travelling will save their relationship. But that’s far from true since travelling can be a form of escapism. It might be better in a foreign country but you’ll soon be back to the “normal way of living”. It all has to come from inside of you and your partner not from a fancy trip.

Can’t be alone? Your relationship is doomed
Most people want something as fast as possible. So they become single and look for a relationship as fast as possible. They don’t get that you’re always with 2 in a relationship and that blaming the other won’t help. You’re about to enter a pattern where you’ll constantly date the wrong people. I knew a guy and he claimed that all his exes were crazy. They acted normal in the beginning but all turned crazy after a while. They didn’t know each other so what did they have in common? All these girls had him in common, he was the one who enforced this behavior and he didn’t even get it. He should have stayed alone for a while things out. He didn’t get it back then and I’m sure that he still doesn’t get it now either. He kept on blaiming others instead of working on himself.

Other people stay in a relation because they’re afraid that they won’t find someone else. So they choose to be unhappy together instead of happy alone and eventually happy together.

All because they can’t leave their comfort zone. Fear paralyzes people big time. Some are even afraid that people will hate them because they’re getting out of a relationship. Why would you stay in an extremely toxic relationship? Because other people have an opinion? Learn to master the art of not giving a flying Bleep and your life will be a lot better.

Twoclans:
We might all think the OP is crazy but truth be told a higher percentage of married women have extra marital affairs this days. And it's attributed to alot of factors :

1, Most of them are bread winners of the family so they find it easy to do and undo.
2 ,Alot of marriages become sexless after two years, meanwhile madam was used to having sex on a daily basis when she was younger. How do you think she will cope in a sexless marriage?

Over the weekend when I went to visit my uncle I overheard his wife complaining to her friend that she is sexually starved and that she feels like getting it outside This is a lady of 53 years .I just tip toed back to my room before hot water will be poured on me.

The OP might be plain crazy but it's the reality of the times. Maybe his write up is just a subtle confession. Deep down in his heart he knows he is swimming in dangerous waters.

hmmmm Na wa ooo

gypsey:
why the fuvk! were you asking then?

you suppose know na

MrBrownJay1:
fake threads booming?!?!?!? come on, let us enjoy real information, not fake/good for nothing threads, just to have some deluded person trend for no damn reason.

oh OK, anyhow na

MrBrownJay1:
...and btw, since you like to post rubbish, why dont you post the below TRUE story for a while...

come make u allow people enjoy Nairaland na abi u don forget say na thread like this dey boom

Angelparadise:
Fr.Mbaka says his disgrace is at the corner . The most corrupt government so far .

hmmmm nor dey allow nigeria matter dey disturb you oo

Twoclans:
And I passed that road this morning I never knew there was an attack yesterday.

really, you are lucky

gypsey:
Nigga was a derogatory term used for black people during the slavery days, it's racist term

oga me know very well...

gypsey:
big man!

so una wan begin talk about who them go use "nigga "for abi mehn una get power oo


come e get anything special with that word eh?

gypsey:
how can i shut up? i am typing with my fingers! look! mate you sound like a juvenile with your shut up! shut up, Rubbish. so i am going to move on, come back when you are grown up enough to make sense apart from shut up!


Bye!!

odegwu

isaiah9:
But there is something wrong with a 33yr old man smashing a 16yr old right?

smashing a 16year old what

They continued!!!
I miss you guy's mehn, chai

Twoclans:
OK ,showing on the other side ASAP.

OK already there!!!

osanobua

bam bam bam, old ladies, Now married men!
How time flies!!!

Twoclans:
Avensis is a machine even the smaller models are strong

eh eh abeg come off, we need to talk about something!

trustyshoess:
I can confirm I'm definitely not possessed by any kind of evil spirit. It's called falling under the anointing for a reason. Trust me I highly doubted it could ever happen to me cos I really believed a lot of it was fake. In fact I once visited a church in Nigeria where the pastor went round touching people who proceeded to fall and wriggle like snakes, got to me and i looked him straight in the eye and didn't move an inch. After that day I was so sure it was all fake until this recent encounter. I wasn't even touched by any minister. I was just so touched by the music and the spiritual atmosphere, it was almost like a trance of sorts. Like I said, hard to explain but I'm not and have never been possessed by any spirit apart from the holy spirit

hia na wa oooo

MissRaine69:
Oh my goodness may Obi-wan Kenobi strike name dead....I am not sure where to start

hahahahaha hahahahaha hahahahaha hahahahaha hahahahaha hahahahaha hahahahaha hahahahaha I don die today madam soyinkress hahahah

gypsey:
I would rather live next to lesbians than fulani herdsmen, criminals and hyporcritical church going people.

bravo

MissRaine69:
Easily done.
I found a way ...I went right , then made a sharp left just before I got to the T junction on your right that’s where I found it ....just lying there.
Hope this helps unclutter things.

eh you say "T" junction?? hia na wa I dey learn new things ooo

trustyshoess:
It's a necessary part of medicine. Just have to think of it as a job. Nothing weird there tbh

eheh OK well, easy ooo nor too rush life eh, so how far weitin dey for ur pikin nau owie edo babe

QueenSuccubus:
Are u half asleep? What are u talking about?

Who is macron?

That's child abuse sha. The Boi is only 16..

oh so u nor know macron!

so if the boy agree to date or marry her, it still going to be tagged Child Abuse

OK now tell me exactly what and how this has turned out to be Child Abuse

staytravel:
You dey sure?

eee see gobe ooo, come whichever you are! she is my friend, simple, that is all I know she is to me! why you dey think like say u nor know say Na friends!!!

staytravel:
ahhahahah, is that your wife? If she doesn't want to cook, that is her problem.

so weitin make you think say na my wife!

come she's not my wife, na just my friend

trustyshoess:
I'm actually going to specialise in that field when I finish med school.
I haven't been to one because I haven't had a reason to but probably soon as I'm now old enough for cervical cancer screening and pap smear lol

eheh you wan specialize for that kin thing, chai Na wa ooo....


gosh which kin horrible work be that mehn I nor fit do that kind job ooo....

MissRaine69:
I don’t want to cook Ever!

u say weitin
na wa ooo, I hope nor be me u dey tell this sha

QueenSuccubus:



Oooh wow! Wow! Wow! Wow!


Is this for real?

I wonder what the little boi'z parents doing while their son is smashing this woman? #ShakingMyFlatAss

There is absolutely nothing wrong with this! after all macron was just common two year's older than him when he did his.

when are majority of you ladies going to change ur mentality

MissRaine69:
My mother burns water
But 45 years on parents are still married and happily so.
Only a man with an archaic view of women would make that’s a priority when it comes to suitability.
If she cannot cook what’s stopping you from teaching her?
I bet it’s men who underperform or last 2 minutes and 3 seconds who make the most noise.

hia why u go think this kind thing eh, well nor worry I go enroll you for cooking school /Catherine /chef school...

lefulefu:
abeg forget wetin op dey yarn.which health site did he get the info dat eating fruits in the morning is dangerious to ur health? We all know when we drink alcohol b4 we exercise....when in the middle of ur working out the alcohol in ur body system increases the dihydration process in ur body and dat aint healthy. What u need b4 u work out is water. Pure clean water.

guy how far, make we talk for za oza way