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Thunder fire poverty. Smh.

Hungry and corrupt Nigerian policemen like to feel like gods once they hold you for corner. Challenge them, especially at night, and they can shoot you and dump your body one side. Some will even tell you that they will shoot you and nothing will happen. Legal thieves.

Shoodboi:
Why dont you tell us the truth since you're learned and honest?

Tell us that you are not aware that Isreal's attack on Gaza usually comes after Hamas attack first. Oya lie.

Tell us that Hamas had a good reason to breach the Isreali border, capture military bases, and then spread into surrounding cities where they killed hundreds of civilians and forcibly took some hostages. They drove these hostages back to Gaza as the public cheered and lynched them.

Tell us that Hamas had a good reason to ambush innocent desert party goers and kill them. Tell us it was okay to capture, rape, and kill some of the women. What about the current video of a member of Hamas militia in Gaza dragging a female Israeli hostage by the hair and shoving her into their military jeep filled with men.... to do whatever?

Tell us that you don't know that Hamas embed themselves in civilian centres and set up their artilleries to launch rockets to Isreal. Always, some rockets are usually misfired and land on Gaza civilians, killing or wounding them. When Israel counters by launching missiles, the civilian centres where Hamas position themselves are affected. Even before Israel releases their missiles they send a message before hand for civilians in Gaza to flee.

Tell us you don't that Hamas uses their own civilians as human shield and are fond to playing the pity card using the effects of their misfired missiles and Israel's retaliation. Hamas... always justifying their wickedness and barbarism in whatever way.

SMH.

Badmashii:
Let's be realistic here Martinez. In a war, there's no bully or oppressor. It's a matter of interest. One of the party is trying to advance while the other is protecting.

While it is true that war is usually a clash of interests, the interests are not always born out of greed from all sides. Also, in some wars, it is very possible for one side to be an instigator, oppressor or bully.

War isn't black and white in terms of motive; there are many reasons a group can decide to go to war. It can range from purely evil ideological motives, to the pure intention of defending one's land and protecting one's people.

Isreal aren't saints. However, what do you expect a country to do when an Islamic terrorist groups ambushes its civilians and claims many of their lives? Remember, this is an Islamic terrorists that is grossly antisemitic and have repeatedly said they want to wipe Jews off the face of the earth. This is a sentiment they've held for decades. If you really know Hamas, their objectives and what they would do to Isreal if they overcome them, you will know that Hamas are bullies and wicked savages that will never relent.

If Isreal were as brutal and soulless as Hamas, this war would have ended many years ago.

Shoodboi:
I can see Israel fanboys talking about Israel allowing the attack so it can destroy Gaza. You guys are only trying to cope. Israel has always launched attacked, destroying buildings and killing civilians, without any provocation or justification. It just does it. So, it doesn't need any justification to do it again. This right here, folks, is Israel getting caught unaware.

And talking about Hamas building a mock Israeli town, do you guys even know how jampacked the Gaza strip is? It's impossible for Hamas to build anything there because the land isn't even available.

@emboldened

You are either ignorant or being dishonest.

Only fools will think Isreal is the bully and oppressor. Hamas are savages with no regard for human life. They murder both Isrealis and non-Isrealis.

concho:
She cheated before

Well well

So I was right that she doesn't rate you. Forgive a woman for cheating and lose your respect. In fact, she will even cheat again and if you catch her again, she will blame you for forgiving her before.

Don't be a simp, bro. I knew you were liberal in mind with no red pill awareness.

concho:
My partner has a day off today, so she dressed up this morning and said she was going to see a female colleague at work

I was not comfortable with it and asked her not to go since they see everyday at work

She didn't say a word to me but kept on dressing up.

She just left to the said friend’s house.

Is it really right? What would you do in my shoe??

From the attitude of ignoring you, putting you to one corner, and doing what she wants regardless, it is clear she doesn't rate you or is the kind of person that "doesn't allow a man tell her what to do."

It is better to just let her be and look for someone else. If you continue the relationship, na you sabi. If you are a liberal man and you keep imbibing liberal principles in relationship at the expense of traditional ones, the chicken will come home to roost.

marenx:
This will affect mostly the innocent ones. Israel should suffer the terrorists only and spare the innocent.

Such empathy and ethics in war will get you killed. This is real sh!t. Why don't the other side deal with the Islamic terrorist group called Hamas if they really love their civilians? Don't Hamas delibrately lauch attack close to civilian centres knowing fully well that if the Isrealis counter lauch, these civilians will die?

Isreal is not obliged to care about non-Isrealis outside Isreal in a war setting.

If Isreal had applied common sense and taken it upon themselves to crush these familiar foes totally, and at whatever cost, they would have been long buried. Crush your enemies totally and never give them a chance to rise again.

Now we are back to the same old media trick of painting Isreal as the bad guys who bomb civilians and devastate helpless families. Why don't they emphasize that it was Hamas who started this recent conflict by launch a coordinated attack on Israeli from Gaza, and even breaching the Israeli border? This coordinate attack took Israel by surprise and they couldn't even respond for several hours.

Why don't they tell us that the Hamas militia attacked the military base at the border, captured some of these bases, and then spread out into several Isreal cities and attacked the police and civilians? These Hamas scums took many civilians as hostages and even drove them back to Gaza were the public lynched them. The confrontation between the Hamas militia and the police and Isreali military in the street left over 200+ Israelis dead and over a thousand injured. Many are still hostages. Don't these people have families too?

Let the news show these things. Lest I forget, while other Hamas scums who later joined the attack were using bulldozers to further destroy the border fence, they were chanting "Allahu Akbar!"

In wars, there will always be innocent casualties on both sides. Any warring faction that is so devoted to have 0% innocent casualties on both sides will be tying their hands. If their opponent is as ruthless and soulless as Hamas, they are simply being suicidal and playing with fire.

If Isreal had applied common sense and taken it upon themselves to crush these familiar foes totally, and at whatever cost, they would have been long buried. Crush your enemies totally and never give them a chance to rise again.

Now we are back to the same old media trick of painting Isreal as the bad guys who bomb civilians and devastate helpless families. Why don't they emphasize that it was Hamas who started this recent conflict by launch a coordinated attack on Israeli from Gaza, and even breaching the Israeli border? This coordinate attack took Israel by surprise and they couldn't even respond for several hours.

Why don't they tell us that the Hamas militia attacked the military base at the border, captured some of these bases, and then spread out into several Isreal cities and attacked the police and civilians? These Hamas scums took many civilians as hostages and even drove them back to Gaza were the public lynched them. The confrontation between the Hamas militia and the police and Isreali military in the street left over 200+ Israelis dead and over a thousand injured. Many are still hostages. Don't these people have families too?

Let the news show these things. Lest I forget, while other Hamas scums who later joined the attack were using bulldozers to further destroy the border fence, they were chanting "Allahu Akbar!"

In wars, there will always be innocent casualties on both sides. Any warring faction that is so devoted to have 0% innocent casualties on both sides will be tying their hands. If their opponent is as ruthless and soulless as Hamas, they are simply being suicidal and playing with fire.

UncleKoboko:
Your first and biggest mistake was taking her back after 2 Fucƙing years!

Her bodycount when she left you could have been 4 or 5, but believe me, it'll never be less than 20 when you took her back.
God forbid any lady uses fake cry and emotions to get anything from me.... It's impossible. Their cry never moves me.

THE BEST YOU CAN DO NOW IS TO RUIN HER BUSINESS AND NEVER TAKE HER BACK STILL.

I wonder what must have been running through the girl's mind when he foolishly accepted her back. In her psyche, he simply and permanently cemented his status as a spineless and idiotic simp not worthy of respect and sexual attraction; a simp worthy of low quality treatment and dog food. What a lamentable state for a man and his masculinity.

He should just have sense, grow balls, and dump her. If possible, he should ruin the business and take what he can that he purchased for her. To make this worse, we smart ones know that different d1cks have been pounding the girl's kitty cat during marriage. If the OP does not know this, then he is in a more pitiable state than I think.

It doesn't pay to be simpish and bluepilled. Your foolish attitude, silly feelings, and lack of self-respect can never inspire respect and sexual desire from ANY woman. Act like a simp and incur the bitter and humiliating lots of a simp.

Your woman doesn't rate you and is not sexually attracted to you; she has made this clear to you. In fact, you don't have a woman... you are simply married to yourself. Finally, dump her and go swallow the red pill... you really need it. Learn or perish.

If you decide not to heed my advice, you are very much welcome to remain foolish and keep deluding yourself. If you like, maintain your onetitis and keep trying to rescue the sinking titanic you call marriage (which is actually a laughable sham and debacle). You will see more shege and humiliation if you don't have sense and grow some spine.

They really thought they would escape with a draw.

Not surprised. What preachment was anyone expecting from a yahoo girl?

I have never seen a trace of masculinity in this clown.

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UppaZakum:
"Well, you know what's up and the right route to take, but for some reason something is holding you back. Could it be that you don't want to be inadvertently mean and cruel to who you perceive to be a good woman? "

You were in the spirit bro when you typed that. This was exactly my situation before i brought it here. You nailed it!

Honestly, I'm one kind of person that sometimes allow my extreme level of empathy to get in the way of my decision making. I couldn't believe humans are capable of doing some evils just becuase i don't do it then i start to see every one in that light. It often takes strong resistance or force within to make sure that I don't let that flawed thinking cloud my decision. That's one of the reasons I follow this thread religiously. It brings me back to reality of the facts that humans especially women can be very mean if i let my guards down!

I thought as much. Well, I used to be like you growing up, but experience and understanding have made me to unapologetically prioritise sound decisions and my well-being at the expense of emphatic/moral feelings or blue-pill mindsets that may sabotage me. Don't get me wrong, I am still a kind fellow, but logic, reasoning and truth must come first.

Truth and sound reasoning may be ignored, but the consequences of ignoring them cannot be avoided. Finally, take calm in the fact that it is perfectly normal for red pill execution to demand some level of coldness and indifference from time to time to prevent you from getting fleeced, played and ensure positive/desired female response. What's best for us may not always resonate with our feelings.

@UppaZakum

Just to add, do pardon me if my posts addressed rudimentary red pill stuff you already knew. I was also using the posts to teach novices who might be in your situation.

UppaZakum:
Well said! Eveything you said other than the part where you suggests leaving her in Nigeria aligns with my thinking and the reasonable advice I got from folks here.

As for going alone, it may not be realistic for me as I plan to move my kids abroad as well to continue their education. I feel she could be useful to take care of my kids by coming along.

Honestly, I don't feel threatened neither am I worried by what she might turn out to be eventually. My own priority is to have enough safeguards in place for my own good. We can't because of accidents or plane crashes stop boarding buses or airplanes right? A good chess player anticipates the moves of their opponent before they make them. So when they make them, he just smiles.

No problem, bro. I simply gave my personal advice. In subsequent posts, I also wrote that as long as you have everything planned out well, you can go ahead with your plan.

The main thing is that you are safe and secured at the end of day.

Savagethe21st:
boss I appreciate your advise but I have a question. If one doesn't move his wife abroad to be with him. He won't be physically present to help bring up his children the proper way. And you know women especially single mothers don't know how to raise children well single handedly

Good. In that post, I personally advised him to come back home after his training since he said he can still move back to his job on returning. A strong fatherly presence is important for children, I agree. If we prioritise strong, unchallenged masculine authority in home and running marriage the red pill way, is moving permanently to a liberal and gynocentric society a good idea? I don't think so.

UppaZakum:
You have probably been reading without understanding. What planet are you from? You would rather want me to provide financial support in a way that compromises my overall financial health and long term career goals, init? We've lived together for >5 years on my own income without any squabbles. I have happily discharged my responsibilities as a man. Imagine now making a decision that puts a strain on my own finances without any guarantee that such move will yield any long term mutual benefits. We've seen the outcome for those who have undertaken similar moves. If she wants it, let her work and save enough money to fund it herself. I will not be used as a scape goat. Imagine me sacrificing my finances for her nursing ambition and when it's time to reciprocate the gesture, I'd be getting nothing but disdain. Here's a likely scenario that can play out.
Hubby: Babe, could you assist with $20k to process my immigration expenses for green card? You know employers have no issue employing international students provided they have their green cards.
Wifey (now a Nurse): But you don't need it now. Since I'm already working, why not just stay at home and help with the kids and chores?
Hubby: But remember I had this money saved up but used it to fund your nursing program.
Wifey: Errm.. Yes. But,,ah! *makes only decision that benefits her, which is likely not going to be in the hubby's best interest*.
It is at this point he then realizes he's finished


lol.. I don't even wish this situation for my enemy. The implications are far reaching. As Fashola would say, "May our loyalty not be tested". It is indisputable fact that women suck at taking financial responsibilities.

Don't worry, nothing will happen to her. I can guarantee that putting myself first and reaching my long term career goal first benefits both of us.

Next time, please reveal your gender. I only responded based on the assumption that you're a male. I don't take advice of this nature from women, simps and beta-males. Thanks though.

Wise dude. The final thing I will say on your issue is not to be swayed by moral and ethical folks who will act like you are cruel for not accommodating your wife's wishes, neither should you indulge the silly hope strategists that believe not all women are like that hence your wife won't behave like a woman when you financially depend on her. Also ignore blue-pill agents.

Should you decide to consider these clowns, just remember that if sh!t hits the fan, they won't be there to help you out and you will be alone in your ordeal. Should you indulge their advices and the ordeal reaches its nadir, you might face some of the following:
(1) lasting bitterness from the usual feminine betrayal, derision and brutality when you are no longer needed or you are dependent on her;
(2) long-term financial wreckage which you might not come out from, and will leave you in regret;
(3) your kids taken from you and your visitations regulated;
(4) false accusations and humiliation in the unjust family/domestic violence court; and
(5) being in a suicidal or murderous state (if the damage is too much and it takes a toll on your mental health). Some even shoot their wives and conniving monster-in-law... and off themselves.

Men who find themselves here are all alone in their struggle. They go through huge injustice and torture that are never reported in the news or known to most of the public. The gynocentric world remains silent and indifferent to their condition. These are things that the gynocentric world and sisterhood wouldn't stand if most women were at the receiving end of it.

Always put yourself first.

Thanks.

luminouz:
Labadi....I know say na you go dey type like a drunkard like this...instead of you to read his story from the beginning, you jumped in midway dey type nonsense.

If you had read well, that woman has a master's degree and her husband sponsored her on a data science course that she refused to use to make bread...so how is OP stopping her shine biko?

This second advice of yours ain't better... OP is not interested in sponsoring his wife for nursing...not after her refusing to use her numerous skillsets.

The ewure just dey change mouth. Once it saw UppaZakum wasn't buying his nonsense, it quickly shifted post.

I just finished reading all the posts pertaining to UppaZakum's matter. UppaZakum seems like a logical dude that has really swallowed a good dose of the red pill. Thank goodness, he came for wise counsel, because it would have been a shame for a man privy to the knowledge we share here to fall yakata.

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@UppaZakum

To the redpillers in the house, I’d like to seek your wise counsel. Are my fears valid or unwarranted?

Your fears are valid, and it is a very serious issue that may not seem so at the moment.

While I’d want her to do something productive within the four years of my PhD, I am not convinced to give up my leverage.

Smart! Never give up leverage. Smart men who are red-pill aware and are deep in the game know that leverage is invaluable in long-term relationships. A man, however great his red-pill awareness, cannot operate effectively and unchallenged as the head and authoritative figure without leverage. Also, having leverage isn't just enough, a man must be aware of his leverage and wield it unapologetically to his benefit.

Leverage is important, it can even determine and regulate female behaviour and attitude in the relationship if it is used wisely. Change leverage and see a different version/attitude of your wife.

Men who think leverage isn't important or that much of a big deal —or that the issue of leverage is simply petty secondary school manipulation tactics— are just ignorant and know nothing. Never give up leverage by whatever means.

Are there any no-regret options that I can explore to ensure she's also productive within that period? I have suggested doing a data analytics course or a course not more than $10k. After critical evaluation, I thought I could still sacrifice $10k (with the hope that I will sell the car I bought for her). If she changes, no regret. Her loss. I will not lose sweat over $10k. I will continue with my life with whatever I have left in my savings. My priority is to have enough safeguards and protect all I have worked for. Moreover I can always return to Nigeria to continue my job if shits hits the fan. She does not seem to fancy my suggestion. She just wants Nursing. I have not given my final verdict yet. I wanted to get inputs from redpillers first but my busy schedule wouldn’t allow me. Now that I have the time, I welcome sound advice and suggestions from the house.  The money I have saved and the one I am going to save is to help me withstand the temporary setback that will be caused by my plan.

Hmmmm. You have carefully thought too deep strategically. Nevertheless, I would always advice a man never to move with his spouse abroad. If possible, go alone and improve yourself abroad; send money back home regularly; and come back after your are done. If you decide to act differently, ensure that if sh!t goes to fan, you don't lose all you have worked for, you are not financially blighted, and you can move your kids with you back to Nigeria. Whatever you decision you make, ensure you can easily endure and move on if the worse happens.

Over there, there are many eventualities that can befall you in forms of opportunities for your wife to change, scheme and misbehave. I don’t need to explicate, do I?


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I continue with my take on UppaZakum's situation later.

Smartb0y:
Words of a son raised by a single mother or a weak Father.

She will most definitely not have his kids.

Reminds me of small boys who thanked girls for accepting their Facebook friend request. It seemed so weird to me, even as a bluepill fellow.

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@UppaZakum

First, the money I have been saving is to cushion the impact of zero income for the duration of my PhD (4 years). Second, I got a full funding offer with $2500 monthly stipend. Based on my calculation, we should be able to live on the $2500 with some lifestyle adjustment. However, I am making provision for additional $1000/month to cater for miscellaneous expenses, which will come from my savings. In the same vein, after the doctorate, I’d still need some cash to process my green card or EB2-NIW visa and to stay afloat pending when I get a job in the US. In a nutshell, I’m planning to save at least $50,000. It is from this savings that my wife expects me to fund her nursing program.

A nice plan. Just don't mind her; forge ahead with your plan instead. Let her sort herself out. If possible, don't take her abroad. Put yourself first and keep yourself safe.

While it might seem like a great idea to fund the nursing program for two years, she gets a job, can then fund the family pending the completion of my PhD, my redpill instinct kicks in, and makes me feel that this is a very risky route to go. We’ve seen situations where women change the moment they start to cater for the family while their husband is not earning any income. I am currently the provider. I provide everything my wife and kids need. Financially, they are very well okay. This is no longer going to be the same over there should I go ahead and fund the nursing program. After her nursing program, she’s likely going to get a decent job and will be in a good position to support the family. While I am not opposed to this, I also have to safeguard my interests and plan for any eventualities. I have no idea what she is likely going to turn into, also considering the fact that we will be in a country where women’s interests are elevated above any other thing. Women are naturally not providers. Any woman providing will most often than not have resentment for the man. The social media is replete with cases of men sponsoring their wives overseas and their wives turning their back on them. The infamous “What have you done for me sef?” comes to mind. Most often than not, it never ends well.

Well, you know what's up and the right route to take, but for some reason something is holding you back. Could it be that you don't want to be inadvertently mean and cruel to who you perceive to be a good woman? Well, if that's the case, find calm in the fact that it is perfectly normal for red pill execution to demand some level of coldness and indifference from time to time to prevent you from getting fleeced, played and ensure positive/desired female response. Besides, I will always repeat that you don't take your wife to stay with you permanently in a western society.

Just to mention, my wife has been loyal and submissive so far. She has been a good mother to my kids. However, I will not let that cloud my judgment, the actions I take and decisions I make. The loyalty and submissiveness will most likely disappear the moment we leave the shore of Nigeria and the moment she’s done with her nursing program and become exposed to the western influence. I don’t know for sure, but I think it’s risky not to prepare for this.

Glad you are not easily carried away. You might think you know your woman, until certain situations reveal a beast and personality you never knew of.

Ask men if the version of their wives they saw in the divorce court, western environment (especially when the migration is permanent), or breadwinning position are the versions they experienced during dating (before marriage) or when they were breadwinners. Even western men who marry western women see a different version of their wives when situation changes... you grab? Even western divorce attorneys and divorced men have a saying: "you never know your wife until you meet her in court."

My point is, instead of thinking you know your wife and banking on that, just follow the red pill which never fails. Finally, I must repeat:
(1) Always put yourself first,
(2) Never put yourself in a situation where you depend on a woman's money,
(3) Ensure that you are always above and bigger than your woman. Never help elevate your woman's level to yours or above yours. If a women must grow, let it be without your help.
(4) To add, never put your safety, well-being, and financial situation at risk because you want to accommodate the interests of a woman. The games women can play are too inconsiderate and unforgiving for men who take such risks or give too much benefit of doubt.

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Edit: next part is HERE.

Lies! Another tourist scam and falsehood concocted to feed the delusion of believers. Jesus Christ never existed. The bible is a book of fairytale book.

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@UppaZakum

second issue is the fact that since I started working on this plan, she has been discussing about pursuing a fast-track nursing program (2 years) concurrently with my Phd program. She has been researching schools and all that and has been coming to tell me about the tuition fee. I have not out rightly rejected this idea, but I have stylishly told her it would not work giving excuse that there is no fund to support that ($30,000 for 2 years). She does not seem to believe me. I do not blame her. She has access to my bank statements and knows how much I have been saving (a mistake I admit).

Wise of you to realise where you bleeped up. A man must never ever let a woman have full access to how much he earns, has, or the flow of his money. Of course, they will try to find, but never let them... e get why. If they don't like it, they either hold their peace, or move on to a new husband that will show them his financial records. It is that simple.

By the way, I am curious as to the life you've led and, if any, previous marital dynamics in which you found it okay to let her in on your finances. Where you always a red pill guy during your marriage? Or did you just slip up in the moment due to ignorance or temporary weakness?

She is also aware that I plan to save my all my upfront pay when it comes next year. She has not given up yet on her plan. Anytime I’m back from work, she will always bring it up again and tell me how she found a cheaper option, and blab la bla. She has given more than 1000 reasons why she should pursue the course. She is fond of saying since it’s a two year course, she can always support the family while I’m still pursuing my PhD. The cheapest option is still around $25k....

Well, redpillers know that you don't take what comes out of a woman's mouth seriously. Of course, she will give her best on this plan of hers and say anything to convince you to support her plan, even making promises she knows she won't keep. This is the feelings/emotions of the moment; even if she thinks she will keep to her promise, situation will expose her female nature and she will follow suit without remorse. All that really matters to her is her objective. It is left for you as a red pill guy to detect this and remain steadfast in not yielding to feminine wiles.

As for her plan to support you when she is stable and you need her help, I need not say much. You will see a different side of your wife if you find yourself in this situation, and you will certainly not like it. You will most likely not believe what you are seeing. Worse is if she happens to meet other well-to-do men that she feels are above her new level and better than her dependent husband.

Whenever this conversation comes up, I just maintain a deafening silence or wave it aside without making her feel bad.

Very good.


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