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potland:
brothers in the house, what do we call this.

Chai! Caveadullam, over to you.

Tonnyray:
Well said and aptly put.

Any addition will just be variations of these foundational reasons.

I absolutely concur. I just had to expound further for the sake of those that are not grounded on the issue, though I couldn't do justice as I would have wanted to, due to time. The issue of śhit tests deserves a lengthy discussion here.

^^^^

I could have said a lot more, but I will call it a day for the sake of time.

oyetpel:
Do women do the shit test on purpose or its just a nature or unconscious habit?

Like you know it nature for men to provide.

It is in their nature, as calculative manipulators. Women use śhit tests for the following reasons:

(1) To test how manly you are. To see the stuff you are made of. Also, to know your weaknesses and vulnerabilities. One of the many things you must ensure in this regard is that you are a man of your words (if you don't keep your words, she will note it and she will never take you seriously).

(2) To know your financial status or anything they want to know about you. One of the many things men must stop in this regard is eliminating mystery of self, especially by intimate pillow talks and "see finish." Keep your mouth shut about many personal information.

(3) To see what they can get away with when dealing with you, and to what extent. This is where you enforce your boundaries and standards without hesitation.

(4) Closely related to (3) is for their game of control and power in the relationship. Whether you are a redpiller or simp, this will always come. If you succumb, I pity you.

(5) If you are the bad boy, one of the reasons of śhit tests is to fulfill their game fantasy of taming the beast in you with their charms; you know, to get the beast in you to simp for them and be in their control. This boosts their ego. If they succeed in taming you and converting you to a simp, it's game over; they will move on to the next bad boy.

(6) Others can add their reasons and make their contributions.

Mind you, śhit tests don't just come as behaviours, they can come in form of questions, requests and statements.

Justbehave:
Stop trying to be smart and using revert psychology.

Are you minding the childish maniac? Don't waste your time on her.

The op is on point and that is what matters. You can take that gender out of victimhood, but you can't take victimhood out of them. The need to be seen as victims or marginalised folks is a manipulative survival strategy: if they can convince everyone to seem them as victims, then there is room to demand special treatment and unearned privileges.

Godoverevery, read this as well. It's a thread of mine

https://www.nairaland.com/5104898/hypocrisy-society-when-it-comes#77076676

Amperes:
cant wait to hear you out on the last sentence

I am looking forward to it. I believe it's one of the many discussions worth having.

Zabiboy:
There's nothing like an "Alpha"..
Or better put, nobody is an "Alpha" .

I am not saying I disagree with you, but I what to know your definition of "alpha." It will help me better understand what you are trying to pass across.

JESHAL:
Please can you explain better because some men here want to have a long term relationship with redpill awareness, aspiring patriachs will loose frame in the long run in a way seems plausible but even Rollo Tommasi the godfather of the Manosphere is married, I'm confused, I just want to understand how it can happen to a redpilled Alpha

Well, since you asked, I will explain in detail, but it won't be today. I will be so free on Friday evening, starting from 8:00 pm, till Sunday; free enough to discuss at length and answer all questions. I hope that is okay by you? I won't forget.

BLOODYSPERM:
These here should sink into the heart of everyone that's redpilled aware, I don't know whether it's because they are intimidated by women ( beauty or personality), they see women as the vulnerable sex who needs preferential treatment, they think by supplicating to women it will gain their approval or make them attractive ( romantically or sexually), they have scarcity mindset and are afraid of loosing the woman, they have invested heavily in the woman Emotionally and financially, they don't want society to see them as weak for not being able to tolerate bullshit from women

These here should be read out and memorized day in and day out, infact it summarizes the purpose of the redpill, being a man in a relationship on your own terms

Exactly! For those that don't know much about the topic of śhit tests (a vast topic on its own), my advice to them is that they just adhere to the following:

(1) Make everything about you, either your way or the highway.

(2) Set good, strong and strict boundaries and standard. Never hesitate to enforce these boundaries.

(3) Learn to master your sexual urges and never let them colour your judgement, make you compromise your standard/boundaries or let things slide.

(4) Don't pedestalise a woman or simp for her for any reason. It doesn't matter if she is your wife who has given you children. No woman, even your wife, finds simping attractive and it doesn't matter why you simped; simping is simping to a woman.

(5) Be stoic. Stop being an emotional man. Stop expressing strong emotions, or any emotions, to her or in her presence. Don't allow her or any human evoke an emotional response from you. Be logical at all times to the best of your ability. In fact, make this your lifestyle, not because of women, but for your own good in life. She seeing you being emotional (eg. Crying. The reason for crying doesn't matter) is one of the quickest ways to lose your respect forever in her eyes. It doesn't make sense, but it is true. Don't be soft.

(6) Don't be afraid to offend or lose her. Never be afraid to offend or lose her. Also remember that you have to be the man "wey no send her."

(7) from (6), never be afraid to walk away. Walking away is the major power and leverage of a man when dealing with women. Never put yourself in a physical, financial, or emotional situation where you are hesitant or incapable of walking away.

These are common sense for red pill men, but if these can be heeded, men will pass a lot of śhit tests without knowing. Nevertheless, the issue of śhit test is still important to know and discuss because there are śhit tests that are counter-intuitive and seem innocuous, hence many will fail them and one failure can damage a lot. It's a pity that I rarely have time these days to make huge contributions and expound upon issues like before.

Amperes:
From my experience, Maintaining frame is not something you do once and then go to rest, its something you have to keep doing for the rest of your life. to be honest, its not easy as women are very wily and cunning, the shit tests are constant, they dont stop. They test you today , you pass, they test you again tomorrow. if you are not sharp, you may not even know you are being shit tested.

I remember last year or so when the subject of frame was discussed in this group and I remember saying something similar to this.

Frame must be maintained at all times and śhit tests do not end. Maintaining frame is necessary as a man, not just to pass śhit tests. As for the śhit tests, there are many reasons women run śhit tests and there are many śhit tests; most men don't know this, so they can hardly pass what they know nothing about. This is a topic for another day; when I have time, I will explain this. The important things I will say is that women are like hyenas when it comes to śhit tests, they will always keep trying to test the waters for various reasons. The same śhit tests you passed today will be repeated at a later date, even in a different condition. It's a war of attrition. So, I agree with you.

My only advice is to just to make everything about you, have your boundaries, do not pedestalise a woman and never be afraid to offend or lose her. Also, never hesitate to walk away immediately you observe that the association is not worth your time. It is either your way or the highway. As for marriage, if you are going to get married, the crack of your frame is inevitable later on... I can explain, but let me stop here.

ma373733:
Clout chasing rubbish

Shaming tactics is something associated to feminity

No hate bro leave people
Bring out productive contribution to this thread stop chasing clout.

The clown will never change. I have never seen a male who, in heroic proportion, is so hopelessly and abjectly enslaved to his emotions and ego; this degree of feminine, childish and petty displays (and seeming lack of self-awareness) from a grown-up male is unprecedented in the realm of my experiences.

I am not even surprised by the blatant lies and misrepresentation in his two "lengthy" posts. Does he think everyone here has a low IQ (hence can't spot his lies and misrepresentations) and has forgotten past events? I will let all his nonsense fly because I don't have his time for now and I don't want to derail this thread.

You did nothing wrong.

RikudoSennin:
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I did talked about my marriage and how it went down last time, so I am currently separated and I decided to see if my game was still on point and start spinning plates,

I remember you, bro. I hope the separation didn't take much toll on you.

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Just last week, she messaged me that her ex texted her back and she feels she is still in love with him. She asked me, can we be friends? my dumbass said yes(scarcity mindset). I asked her the next day to defined the "friendship'' she wanted and viola! she ghosted and never replied any of my delivered messages. Here, I knew I bleeped up, and let the whole manosphere down.

Bro, why na? What were you thinking? Anyway, at least you have recognised your mistake.

Now, I do have a part time job where I work for 2/3 hours just taking care of their PCs and making sure everything is in order for the day. We just recently hired a lady and on her first day, I could see the guys ogling, staring at her, trying to help her at the detriment of their own space. I saw all this and maintained my frame. Seeing and knowing she has the men at her beck and call within few days of being with us was astonishing( she is blond, with blue eyes, wears tight yoga pants, pierced navel, and shows off her cameltoe). Then came her shit tests with me, asking me why I never smile or laugh with the others, asking me to help her pick things up, asking me if I have a girlfriend, wanting to hangout with me. I rebuffed it all. I told her point blank, girls are a waste of time. I know what she wants and she knows i know what she wants. This is America, only one word and you have the popo on my ass.

The supervisor at this same job got the flu, and was sent home to quarantine for 10 days and get tested. A lady of 37 was sent to in his place to make sure things were running accordingly. Immediately, she resumed, her words were "why so many men here"? I knew we have a feminazi on deck. Within a week, she had the scheduled changed, sent men home, started to pick on this 17 year old boy, yelled at the men and of course complained that work is slow when there are less hands at work.

Imagine the hell a man would see if he complained about the employment of too many women and started picking on a 17-year-old girl. Is this the patriarchy they talk about?

iPhone 6 users, accept my sympathy.

Battalion1:
guy free Kwanu u dey Bleep up some times...wetn king og do you seff mtchew

KiNg0G:
Lol, next your my alternate.

am so happy people don dey see, what a green snake that guy martinez aka redpill monk is.

lmao

Of course, as we all know, Battalion1 = King0G. Reverse psychology and cheap lies don't work here. Desist from creating multiple accounts to play childish and emotional games here (like you've done many times here in the past). Use your main account when talking to me next time, like a man with balls. Also, stop the projection; everyone here, who knows your history here, knows you are the snake, and they know the type of clown you are.

Still emotional over me and everyone calling out your nonsense and lies that you had to play this cheap game two days later. SMH. Good day, ashewo boy. I rest my case with you.

ProphetJeroboam:
Funny.

The same clown will later turn around and claim paid sex is paid rape.

2dice01:
My Guy status today

A lot are in need of a concentration camp.

You can save them from victimhood, but you can't take the victimhood out of their minds. This gender sef.

heironymos:
Facts bro, and later dem go say behind every successful man is a woman? Mehn that quote is so much worshipped by women and simps alike, and the delusional simps never see the manipulation behind the fact that a woman only stands by you chiefly because you have what she wants now or in forth sight what you will have in the future, no cap.
Men when a woman intends to use u for what you have or may later have later, be a step ahead and use her manipulative gimmicks such as:
Washing your clothes, cooking, giving you small change and even bathing you as a stepping stone in life.
Lesson never feel indepted or guilt tripped to return a woman's good deeds and try to please her( her end goal in the long run) which would in turn make her loose attraction for you, brothers don't forget that she only gives in order to receive, take take and take from her, if she lives it is still a win for you...
Bottom line, "chase the cat, it runs away from you, get what the cat wants it comes to you", always apply this philosophy on women, cheers.

Ask them who is behind every successful woman.

Someone is projecting his emotional, feminine and childish dispositions on me, and he is shameless in his lies. Lying like someone with a low IQ. After deliberately taunting one of his detractors, he is now acting like he sincerely wanted to be charitable; reserve this lie for little children. I pity people that are taking him seriously. That was how he was cunningly trying recently to integrate paying for sex in the red pill after calling a foolish simp the real mvp. SMH. I rest my case on his issue, I will say no more.

NB: .. and yes, I am referring to King0G. I will say no more.

SOZINN:
Look at you, a scammer trying to condescend a brother who is into legit hustle because the authorities have not put you behind bars.
Enjoy it while it lasts.

The narcissistic clown will always remain a hopeless slave to his emotions and ego. I pity those that take him and his efforts to blend and establish himself here in a certain way seriously. SMH.

Chicken legs Deontay Wilder got knocked out again? Damn!

BLOODYSPERM:
Most guys act like Alpha's around girls they don't like or find attractive but act like betas around girls they like or find attractive, very pathetic, fvck your preference, treat a 2/10 in SMV same as a 9/10 in SMV, that's the only way to game effectively


Don't let her beauty make you forget AWALT

taiocol:
https://www.nairaland.com/6793314/discovered-bride-3-children-wedding

Another one

I was just about to share the link here. Mehn! It pays to be redpilled. Look at the textbook manipulation just being ran on the dude, but his ignorance and love feelings are his undoing. This is the situation of many. The girl is manipulating him, take a look at the court wedding stuff.

Smartb0y:
so "stopping girls or seeing girls pants" is your definition of manliness huh.
This one cannot be saved,he's a delusional simp.

If I talk now, it might seem like I am bringing in up old issues or I can't let go of old issues. I wonder why someone will leave the thread where they are welcomed to constitute nuisance and bring unnecessary and childish antagonistic attitude to this invaluable thread that is devoted to helping young men understand and navigate an important aspect of reality.

Fiscuś105 is not new here and I have been observing his/her activities here. Among the staunch regulars who came from the ashewo thread to plant mischief and get emotional here, Fiscuś105 is the one of the two people who still persist in that nonsense (others have become reasonable and have started making good contributions here). The dude/lady is up to no good. He/she is usually countering reasonable red pill posts by saying nonsense or planting blue pill seeds here, and he habitually speaks disparagingly of redpilllers here.

As much as people might take it for granted, this thread has and will continue save young men from a lot of troubles regret and misery; it will even save the life of some. Think about those (in certain stages of their relationship journey) that committed suicide because of their ignorance and the treachery from female nature; some of us could have been them. It might not be have been you, but the fact that it could have been a substantial amount of men is enough. This thread is not just about the current folks here, it is also about the future generations and new ones that are coming here. This is why I take it seriously to call out those that are planting mischief or acting funny.

crafteck:
Clumsy players that dribble cos they have a mind of their own, i won matches but wasnt elated, feels like nonsense, same thing they do every year under different name, hypermotion my foot.

Hypermotion is only on PS5, are you playing PS5? I have PS4 and I noticed that the pace of the game is somehow slow, the players push the ball too much when sprinting and I don't like the green icon that appears when you are pressing with a second man.

crafteck:
Carlos was fast and we enjoyed it, do you know why? All defenders were coordinated just like in real life, now 90 percent of the time tgey act like they came to masturbate

FIFA 22 is out with superhuman goalkeepers. How are you finding FIFA 22?

MJBOLT:

instead of him to move on with his life,he wants to become a cuckold taking care of another man's child because he's in 'love'.

All the best to him.

LOL. These were my two cents to him. I hope he takes my advice.

What will someone not see on nairaland? SMH
#SimpingIsADisorder

https://www.nairaland.com/6789675/love-ex-girlfriend

@DSkillful

In addition to what I wrote before, all you should do now is take the red pill. Don't let a widowed single mom of one heap the financial responsibilities of her and her child on you under the pretext of love. Don't be the retirement plan (husband) of such a woman. Women don't love, they only like you for what they can benefit from you and how you make them feel. You are now useful to your ex, so she is back. Surprisingly, there is no talk of religious and tribal differences... lmao.

Funny enough, if a higher bidder shows up again, she will readily dump you again; she will do this again and again if need be. Shine your eyes. Instead of raising another man's seed, raise your own from a single young virgin who has never had kids.

@DSkillful

The girl, her parents and Reverend played a fast one on you. You are in love with her till god's kingdom come, but that love is only in your head; if you know, you know.

If you were Bill Gates, Otedola, Elon Musk, or Ned Nwoko, do you think the girl and her parents would have disapproved of your marriage with her? The answer is NO. Even if the Reverend disapproved, she and her parents would have ignored him. In fact, she would have married you regardless of what her parents thought. The religious and tribal differences brought up by the parents were just excuses used by the girl and her parents, conniving together, to marry the highest bidder.

Think about it, the parents were aware of your relationship with her and how serious it was, why didn't they bring up the religious and tribal differences initially? That's because these were never problems and the parents were okay with you. But as soon as a higher bidder came along, you were no longer needed and excuses then had to be made to dump you. Believe me, the girl and her parents were in on it.

Now after discarding you like an expandable utility, you ex is back as a widowed single mom of one with her tokunbo pùssy and you are thinking of accepting her back? Something is seriously wrong with your IQ level.

EDIT: I know you have already made up your mind, since you think both of you are more than lovers (an illusion which exists only in your head). You are probably just looking for people that will validate the decision you have already made in your mind.