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The face you give when you see an adult guy 'chasing' a secondary school girl in uniform...Agbaya!

Most Exs don't usually go away. They are always lurking around, watching, disturbing, waiting and hoping for your new relationship to fail so that they can use it as an opportunity to get back with you. That kind 'second chance' no be genuine one. Na bad belle second chance.

Can you cope or still be with a girl who is always involved in one quarrel, fight or the other either in school or at home. If its not with her neighbors today, it wil be with her classmate or someone in school tomorrow. Imagine been called to come and settle one quarrel or the other often. Can u date or be in a relationship with such a girl. Cos in the process of trying to settle issues between her and others, you might end up taking her side most times, since she is your girlfriend. And doing otherwise( not taking her side), could cause another quarrel between you and her. And you know such girls usually claim to be the victim or justified. And if care is not taken, being with such a girl might also turn you, her boyfriend into a bad person. For birds of the same feather, they say flock together. The same thing also apply to dating a troublesome boyfriend. Cos they also act the same way and bring similar burden/stress on their girlfriend as well.

A girl just asked me the question now. Cos, her ex will be getting married next weekend, and she doesnt know if she should attend it or not, cos of how she is feeling about the whole thing. I told her, I wont attend, if it was me. Imagine the tots dat wud be runnin tru my mind...seein her in anoda man's arms. And goin home to be wt him forever as his wife and property....I will only wish her all the best of love and happiness, from afar.

Naturally,most girls tend to believe or expect any guy they meet, to ask for her name or phone number. Especially after assisting her in one way or the other. But when a guy doesn't do that, they tend to think the guy is not normal. My dear, there are guys who are quite different from others. And who don't believe in asking for the phone number of every girl that comes their way. Like what happened the day my friend and I gave a beautiful girl a lift to her school. All through the ride, we were gisting with her quite alright, but didnt bother to ask for her name nor her phone number till she got down at her school gate. She was surprised by our action, and had to ask for our names after telling us her own name. Guess she was expecting either of us to hit on her while in the car with us like most guys would have done. Well, everybody is not the same. And there are guys who respect their girlfriends and will never betray her love and loyalty, even when she is not there.

No girl joke with sex. Even a born again girl will not like to stay or be in a marriage with a man that is not good in bed. Cos, sex ought to be enjoyed btw husband and wife. But when a guy is not forth coming in that area, your wife wont be happy with you. Cos every girl like sex, and desire it more when they get married.

A girl recently found herself in such a situation when the wife of the man she's been dating and sleeping with secretly came to confront her in her office. She said she was shocked, gripped with fear and felt like entering the ground while the woman was throwing questions to her, though calmly. At the end of the encounter, she was left off the hook, but warned by the woman to stop seeing her husband if she doesn't want to be dealt with. She said after the woman left her office, she felt alive and quickly had to call her husband to tell him about his wife's visit to her office. Though she's presently scared and no longer interested in dating the married man despite all gifts and money she used to get from him, but the man won't let her be. He has promised to make it up to her and also be more careful and discreet about their relationship. Just don't know why some girls like taking risk. Why date a married man when there are enough single fine guys everywhere?

These days most naija girls break up with their boyfriend without notice. They start shifting from their boyfriend once they start liking or falling for another guy, until their guy understands their body language and move on jeje on his own. Gone are those days when a girl would text her guy, phone him or meet with him to announce her intention to end their relationship. But these days, they dont even bother informing their guy. They just move on quietly and codedly to another guy, while showing their main (now an ex to her) guy, her mean and rude side. Naija girls no get loyalty for their dictionary.

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Let me giv u personal funny experience,I do post intellectual piece on facebook but with 2-5 likes and 1 comment,even if I upload pix(i be poor fine boy o). So I followed a bro to airport and luckily got a copacetic selfie with white people as background. I uploaded it on facebook,could u believe I got 250likes(like 238 frm girls),49 comments(like 35frm girls) and private messages from like 11ladies grin grin grin. That day,i gave up on ladies. Don't blame guys that don't trust u,blame girls that make guys to believe that with money,they will get any ladies of their choice

To most guys, no naija girl can love a guy who is broke or still struggling to make ends meet. They believe every girl prefer to date a rich or comfortable dude. And that once you are a broke guy, the girl go shift one time. I've seen girls dump their boyfriend to marry another guy within months just cos her boyfriend couldn't give her money to make her hair. But is there any girl out there who can still love and stay with a broke guy?

Girls do go through phases in life. And it's the duty of their mother or older sister to take them through these phases, so as to get things right. Areas like menstruation (monthly period) personal hygiene, relationship, sex, academic etc is never an easy terrain for most girls when growing up. And to worsen the situation, some mothers are either too shy or not there to guide and provide the necessary advice and assistance to their daughters when such is needed. And that is where the support of older sisters are required. You need to be there for your younger sisters when they are growing up, so that they don't end up making mistakes. Even if nobody was there for you while you were growing up, it doesn't mean you should neglect your sister during her own time...please teach her well.. Advise her, put her through on how to deal with and take care of herself during her monthly period, have good personal hygiene, understand what sex and relationship is all about, and why she shouldn't get involved in such until when the time is right, in order to avoid stories that touches. When you teach her well, she will forever be grateful to you...her sister...But mind you, if you are not clean or responsible yourself, you can't teach your younger sister to be the opposite. So do the needful and show your sister the right path to take and the right thing to do...

That most girls like making shakara before giving any guy her number.

This girl can lie! And just like every liar who always think he or she is smart, but end up fooling only herself and not others. Any girl without dignity is a Minus, how much more one without INTEGRITY!

If you have any girl or girlfriend who is always telling you to wait whenever you try to kiss her, hold her in public, visit her in school or at home, or to have sex with her...you are on a long thing. Cos while you are waiting for when she'd eventually allow you to dig it with her, another guy is busy enjoying all her goodies...dont let any girl play you for a fool. If she ain't willing, or giving you excuses, pls kindly waka. There are enough fishes in the river...

Some girls usually don't like chatting with their boyfriend either on facebook or whatsaap but enjoy chatting with other guys online. What could be the reason for such attitude? Is it that she is having guilty conscience, hiding some things from her boo, or just want to have and enjoy some privacy online?

Getting pregnant, carrying a baby in the womb, giving birth to the baby and nursing the baby is never an easy task for a girl/woman... And this is one area a woman is above a man. Ladies are really trying. Especially if she is the only one doing everything. Like the nursing mother I met on a cruise boat during one of my trips back to base, while she was carrying her baby with her left hand, she was also carrying another hand bag filled with her baby' stuff...And I guess she was travelling alone. It wasn't an easy experience for her that day cos she also had one or two other luggage with her. Trying to feed and pet the baby at the same time, bringing things out of her baby bag, changing her diapers etc. I really felt for her seeing how stressed and overwhelmed she was...pls enough respect for nursing mothers. Cos motherhood no be beans

Does your girlfriend do the same thing?

Some girls have been caught by their guy once or twice using such lie or excuse to go hook up with another guy...you can't eat your cake and have it...one day, your sins shall be exposed if u are into such 'away' games..

There are guys who out of love or cos of their lustful desire to take a girl to bed, usually end up doin some 'stupid' things cos of her. Like ditching his own friends to please her, stop smoking, drinking or hanging out with his friends. Changing his own church to join her church, changing his doctrine or belief, playing the good guy to her and her family members, emptying your account to buy things for her or help her family, depriving yourself of some things to get her own things, paying more attention to her needs and aspirations than yours, getting into trouble cos of her, stop talking or saying even hi to other girls in her presence, stop watching soccer at home, start eating anything she cooks even if her cooking is bad or you dont like the food, or getting into a lot of debt all cos of her (there are rich dudes who have ran into debt cos of their girlfriends but hide it from her). But despite doing all these cos of her, she might end up hurting or leaving you in the end (typical of most girls)... Who girl don epp?

As a girl, what's your most cherished possession? Is it your phone or your boyfriend? You know most girls and their phones are like 5 & 6. Anywhere you see a girl, her phone is right by her side...

If your girlfriend decide To relocate to Lagos Or Abuja, just forget about her. Cos if she relocate to lagos she might end up falling into the arms of any of those yoruba demons with sweet mouth and enough efizi. And if she decide to go to abuja, she might fall for any of the big boys or sugar daddies in abuja. And with the distance between you and her, she might not be able to resist the temptations in lagos or Abuja. You know you can't compare the guys in Lagos or Abuja, with the ones in other states, who are not as exposed or bad as lagos boys. So, its better you do the needful or just forget about her....

Imagine after giving you all her best, her love, etc. As well as cooking, washing and cleaning for you, you still have the heart to hurt/dump her. Who is more wicked, you or APC?

There are girls who before entering university were so responsible. Some of them were even virgins. But once they are get to school, they become something else. You know girls usually look forward to gaining admission just to be free to explore, have countless boyfriends, indulge in sex etc. Many of them just want to have enough sex in school before graduating and getting married. And by the time she comes out of school, she wont even able to know the number of guys she must have slept with or dated while in school(both on campus and off campus)...Going to school ought to make us better and not loose...

Was really shocked when I learnt she travelled home to get married after trying to gain admission into the University several times without success. Guess she has made up her mind to forget about going to school anymore, now that she is now married. There are a lot of girls like that who jump into marriage just to consol themselves when furthering their education becomes a major challenge to them. Maybe they do so with the hope that their husband would later sponsor them to school or set up a business for her. At least to keep her busy and also earn some income on her own. But sometimes it doesn't work out like that depending on the kind of man a girl is married to. There are guys who will never allow their wives to smell the four walls of a classroom/university once he marries her due to obvious reasons. So getting married to kill two birds with one stone for some girls is just like taking a gamble (Kalo-Kalo)

Cos, they say girls are like swimming pools, and that one shouldn't care who don swim dia be4, who is swimming with her or who will swim after u. One should just continue swimming and catch all the fun u can while at it...

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If you have a girlfriend that has a particular male friend she's very close to, watch it! Cos if care is not taken, you might end up losing her to that same guy. A lot of girls do have a favorite male friend among her friends, who she visit or visit her, exchange calls etc. And from being just friends with the guy, it could develop into something else later.

Such acts are common with naija girls who see sex as nothing. Cos why think you can use sex to compensate a guy before hurting or breaking up with him? Imagine giving a guy(your boyfriend) wonderful sex, only to break up with him immediately. And calling it a break up sex? No matter how you try to make it up to someone you are about to hurt, he or she is still going to be hurt. Whether you give the person gift, money or sex, it can never heal a broken heart...

Seeing her and how she doesn't joke with Church service and Church programs, one wont believe she also takes alcohol. That was how I felt the day I saw her at her bar drinking beer. And imagine, she was drinking Star lager beer and not even Stout which is common with most ladies who take alcohol occasionally. To show she has been taking it (alcohol) for long... I guess some ladies go to church to fulfil all righteousness and not cos they want to become a better person...

When a girl doesn't want to give a particular guy her number, its cos she doesn't like the guy. That's just the reason why some girls don't give out their phone numbers to most guys. If a girl doesn't like a guy, she wont like to give her number to him till the guy gets tired of asking her for her No. Forget about playing hard. If she likes you, or like how you flow, she will gladly and immediately give her number to you as soon as you ask for it. Cos likeness brings attraction...There are girls who usually develop instant likeness (at first sight) when meeting a particular guy for the first time. You dont even need to beg her before getting her No. Cos the attraction is already there. But girls who give out their phone numbers to every tom, dick and harry that ask for it, usually do have an ulterior motive behind it. Especially if she sees you as a potential maga.

When your girlfriend or a girl you like and want to date, start forming 'busy' for you, do you know why she's doing that? Its cos she's busy playing 'wifey' to another guy somewhere. Who has become her main focus, desire and happiness. And when you find yourself in such a situation, its better you forget about her and move on to someone else, to avoid stories that touches. Any girl that truly loves you will always create time for you and her. So, if she is not having time for you anymore, then she is creating and having enough time for another guy (her new crush). Such is common with most naija girls of today. Its left for you not to allow any girl play with your heart or make you feel you aint important.

Most times when a girl lie to her boyfriend a lot or cheats on him often, she doesn't really love him with all her heart. Cos when a girl truly loves a guy, she will never cheat on him. And she will always be honest and respectful to him...its only girls who don't have love, regards or feelings for their boyfriends, that cheat and also lie a lot to conceal their atrocities...