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Most girls dont joke with sex. And sex is a determining factor in every relationship or marriage. Even church girls wud also want their guys to be very good in bed. Thats an area they cant overlook. If the guy is not up to their expectations (sex wise), they become angry and unsatisfied. Having great sex makes a girl happy, and proud.

Most times, when a man cheats on his wife, it doesnt mean the man no longer love or have feelings for his wife. Most men cant do without tasting other girls. Its in their DNA. When a man goes out to cheat, he'll still come home to his wife. And even after several years of cheating, the man wil stil be with his wife till old age. Cheating sometimes doesnt mean absence of love, but just a selfish act of adventure by some.

You give her enough money, great sex, enough attention affection, and also do other things or sacrifices for her, despite doing all these for her, if a girl wants to leave you, she will. Most times nothing is ever enough for a girl. Its only God that knows how their brain and mind operates.

Dont no why most guys like bragging and talking about the number of girls they've slept with or about a girl they just slept with. Naming and shaming these girls, as if having sex with a girl na achievement or wetin dey give person money. Abeg, who sex don epp?

Seeing this american lady (Blac Chyna), she looks so much like an Akwa Ibom girl. She has their light skin complexion, sexy hips and lips. and red lips also. and seeing her, she go sabi do that thing well well like Akwa Ibom girls...

Not a few girls have left or lost their phones or clothes (especially panties) to guys after refusing to sleep with the guy. Some guys are fond of forcing or blackmailing girls to have sex with them. Especially if he is just a friend or a random guy. He would use or do anything just to have his way with a girl once she enters his trap. And should the girl refuse to sleep with him, he wont mind seizing her phone, purse or panties just to make her come back or teach her a lesson. A lot of guys do this a lot. And alot of girls have experienced this as well. When they keep falling into the traps of guys by going to a guy's house with the intention of not having sex with him. And you know some guys are so crazy about sex, and can do anything to make a girl have sex with them...If girls dont dare, they wont be damned

When a girl has several guys in her life (dating all of them), she'd end up making lots of mistakes, getting hurt and heartbroken and also left empty handed in most cases. Lots of girls are in complicated situations cos they end up dating several guys at the same time. They end up confused and depressed most times. Not knowing whom to choose or be with. And getting themselves messed up and entangled in love triangles, out of greed, foolishness and peer pressure. Having one boyfriend na enough stress, not to talk of having three or more at the same time.

Do most girls actually cry or feel guilty anytime they hurt a guy (break up)? Cos, I know of a girl who usually cry each time she breaks up with a guy. Making it look as if she's filled with guilt and so sorry for what she has done. Only to repeat the same thing with the next guy she meets. Guess she's yet to find what she's looking for, or just cant stop hurting guys. Are most girls like that? Claiming not to be bad, but keep doing bad things.

When a girl is foolishly inlove with a guy, she is bound to do some stupid things just to please him and not cos of her own sake. Doing things like snapping and sending her naked pictures to the guy. Doing a sex tape with him or allowing him to record them whenever they are having sex for his own pleasure. Some girls do such foolish things cos they are foolishly inlove. Forgetting that the guy could later use it to hurt or blackmail her in future. Girls really need to start using their head to reason before doing some things all in the name of love

Nowadays, whenever I hear girls saying or telling their boyfriends no sex until their wedding night, I see it more like a story for the gods. Cos most of them will end up not keeping such vow or promise before their wedding night. Cos sex is the weakness of most girls.

A single girl cheating on her boyfriend is seen as a normal thing among most girls. But when a married woman cheats on her husband, dat one Na big Bleep up on both the woman and on her husband. Why put your husband's genitals on display in public. Why shit on your wedding vows by falling into the arms and bed of another man?

This is actually the mindset of most naija girls, who feel they don't belong to anybody so far they are not yet married to their guy. That's why most girls cheat and double date anyhow without feeling any guilt or remorse. Since they belong to nobody but everybody.

In foreign countries, their girls are usually fond of confessing anytime they cheat on their boyfriends, out of guilt. But such act is not common here in Nigeria with our girls. Most of them will never confess after cheating on their boyfriend. The best they can do is to stop cheating or reduce the number of other guys they are seeing apart from their main guy. Many of our girls dont possess that spirit of confessing after cheating,.. So if you are waiting for her to confess anytime she cheats on you, my guy you go wait tire

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Do you know why we women endure domestic violence?

1) financial security . Yes I was scared to leave because I did not know how to begin financially .
2) society .. Yes after bragging to my friends , and society see you as a lucky perfect girl you will want to keep it that way .
3) loneliness ... Yes you are scared if u will find someone better . I was saying who will marry me again , with my boobs like this , stretch marks , milk was still coming out of my boobs as of then , my big tommy etc , I was insecure , so I stayed .
Until one day , I woke and took a strong decision to walk away .
And when I left I left with nothing .
I left empty handed and embarked of this journey.

Nkiruka

Why Most Ladies Of Today Get Married To The Wrong Person.

1) financial security . Yes a lot of girls want a secured future and a better life. Even if the guy they are getting married to has some violent traits or other bad character, they don't care. So far he has a good job, a car, a nice apartment and enough money. To most girls, his financial capability is enough compensation for his bad traits .
2) society .. Yes almost every girl want to get married by all means. Whether the guy is good or bad, all they want is to get married and have their own home. And also be able to brag to their friends , so that the society can also see them as a lucky perfect girl.
3) loneliness ... Yes a lot of girls are scared and tired of being lonely. All they crave for is to get anybody that would simply take them out of their loneliness. Even if the marriage would end up being more of a beauty and beast kind of marriage, most girls don't care. All they want is just to get out of their parents' house and also out of their loneliness by any means.

Ladies, should stop using their own hands to dig their own graves (end up in an unhappy/violent marriage) out of desperation to get married.

A word is enough for the wise.

Imagine a guy is rich and doing quite well for himself but refuses to get married cos he enjoys flirting and playing games with girls. There are lot of rich dudes/players like that, who enjoy dating and dumping girls as if they are on a mission to hurt as many girls as possible before finally settling down. Such guys (confirmed players) are usually found in Lagos, Abuja, Port Harcourt and also on Nairaland Romance section.

When you find yourself in such a situation as a lady, rather than be unhappy or under unnecessary pressure, be happy with yourself and also be happy for your friends that are married. Check on them whenever you can, gist with them, take them out and also hang out with them whenever you can. Been married doesn't mean they are no longer your friends. They are, and will always be. Just be happy with yourself, cos yours is definitely on the way.

I don't need to talk too much on this matter cos its so obvious that most naija girls only get married or are interested in getting married as a means of getting out of poverty. Most of them are not really keen about love or supporting their would be husband to become successful later. All they care about is just to get married, and get out of any difficult situation/condition they might be. They need to change this mindset.

There are girls who tend to behave as if they are more tushed or feminine than other girls. When you see the way they carry themselves in public, you will be wondering if they dont use the toilet or fart at all. Or even eat puff puff. Such girls sometimes pretend to have a britico accent when talking, and like cat walking all the time, either in her micro mini skirt or bum short... They like to dey over form. Just like Cynthia Morgan was forming while answering that mathematics question online...

Atimes, when a girl is doing nyanga for a guy, she is indirectly giving him some signals cos she might also be interested in the guy. You know ladies are not expected to ask a guy out or propose to a guy. Its not allowed. Doing that would make the girl look so desperate or cheap. But most girls are usually excited whenever a guy they've bn eying or also like, approaches her for a relationship. They might pretend not to be interested or make small shakara for him, but deep inside, she is so excited. And when a guy goes after a girl that already likes him, things are much easier and faster. Girls do have eyes for guys too. They just like to make shakara

Of recent, I've noticed that most guys based in lagos, like going outside lagos to look for girls to marry. Many of them prefer getting married to girls based outside lagos, especially girls based in owerri, imo, abia, enugu, edo, delta, anambra, akwa, calabar, port harcourt, abuja, kaduna, jos, ondo, and ekiti. What could be the reason for this? Aint lagos girls the best, the most sophisticated and intelligent? Why are guys going outside the city to look for girls to marry? Abi boys don dey fear lagos babes?

Imagine a church girl who is suppose to set good examples to other, and also conduct herself responsibly, seen indulging in some immoral acts with guys. Like engaging in pre-marital sex, sneaking out to spend wkend at a guy's place and also indulging in other acts not expected of her as a church girl. Some of them do all these secretly while pretending to be holy to others. And seeing them one will never know that they also do such things when you see the decent way they dress, act and talk bad against irresponsible girls atimes. Not knowing she herself is an expert in such immoral acts. Who are they deceiving. When, their hidden sins have already made them filthy as a rag...

There was this beautiful girl a friend of mine had a serious crush on. He was always thinking and talking about her. And also craving to make her his woman. And after several days of waiting and planning, he finally had the chance to approach her by going to her house one morning. But as she came out of her house to see him, he was immediately put off by the sight of her bushy armpit as she raised her hands to bring down something from the window of their house. My friend said, he completely lost the urge to say anything to her, after seeing how bushy her armpit was. He said he felt disappointed, and his feelings for her died that moment completely. There are girls like that, whose armpit are nothing to write home about. Imagine, why keep your armpit bushy, for crying out loud. A bushy armpit is a sign of dirtiness both in guys and girls.

Annie: Did you or did you not?

Tuface: I did not

Annie: Case closed

Tuface: I love you so much dear

Annie: I love you too

Imagine this scenario, a girl meets a guy who professes his feelings to her. She makes the usual shakara for the guy at first, but after a week pestering from the guy, she eventually agrees, gives him her phone No, start picking his calls, and within a month start going to his place to have sex with him... What are you going to call such a girl? Desperate, confused, loose, normal or a love peddler? Cos thats how most girls behave these days. Guess thats their own definition of love and relationship... But its very wrong. Doing that makes a girl look so cheap, bad and desperate. Cos nothing good comes easy. A good well brought up girl would make you wait, assess your 'love' very well, hardly visit you at home, discourage or minimize any form of romance between you and her, and also carry herself very well... Girls, dont allow any guy to diminish your worth or value...its your pride

Guys of nowdays are very lucky & havin enough fun that'd last them a life time. With the way girls throw themselves at guys & willingly give their bodies/sex to guys.A guy dont really need to do much before taking a girl to bed these days. Just say the word, & her waist wud be yours for as long as you want. Girls have now made it so easy for guys to woo them, date them & also sleep them anyhow they like. Gone are those days, when a guy'd sweat and try for a long time before even getting a kiss from a girl not to talk of sex. Most girls then, were very responsible, decent and well brought up. Dating was done based on certain principles. Girls hardly visit guys at home then. And even meeting up with guys was done in a public place then. But nowadays, girls freely visit guys at home, to cook, wash and also have sex wt them for a whole wkend or week without having any guilt. Guys are really having a field day, sleeping with any girl they want. Guess this generation na enjoyment generation

A lot of guys have found themselves in such situations. And usually cant do anything about it. Except for the stubborn ones, who keep trying their best to win the girl by all means. But doing that might not get them the girl's love. Cos, when a girl has a serious crush or feelings for a guy, its always hard to make her forget about the guy, except the guy turns her down. But if they are both into each other, then you are simply wasting your time. The best thing to do is such a situation, is to let the girl go. What is yours is yours. You dont need to stress yourself.

Atimes, I wonder why some married women do such things. what point is such a woman trying to prove? That she's still desirable to some men? Doesn't it look ridiculous when a woman leaves where she's the number one to become a second wife to a second hand husband, all cos of what? Sex, money or happiness?

Imagine a girl falling in love with you cos you are a great writer, a wonderful musician or a successful banker. But soon after getting married to her, you stop being any of these, what do you think would happen to her love and admiration for you? It'd start dying of course. And this is the situation with most relationship and marriage. when you stop being what attracted the other person to you at the beginning, it will gradually kill the feelings or the love in him or her for you. Getting or winning his or her love, doesn't mean you should stop been awesome or special. Or stop working hard cos you've gotten what you want. Nope! It's even then, you need to start doing more and also work your ass off to remain special in her eyes and also be her devoted champion.

If you're presently looking for a girl without a past to marry, then you're not ready for the future (to settle down)...There is none without a past, including you!

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I was even one of the people drooling over her white on white trad attire( even showed my mumsi dat likes fashion) Watched and blogged her wedding in Dubai that was on repeat on TV. I was like lucky Tiwa. She has a fab voice, signed to Mavin,gets to work with Don Jazzy, has a destination wedding, has an awesome shape, proposed to with a sparkling Diamond ring ( I wished it was me). Envy nobody.

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Its only when a guy is helping a girl with her assignment that you will see him smiling and happy, due to obvious reasons. Some guys are ready to fail their course while helping a girl to pass hers. Such thing do happen alot in school. And not a few guys have had their grades drop cos of a girl. Imagine packaging a girl for another man to take away later, after all the sacrifice you might have made for her in school...