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Romance › Re: My Girlfriend Ran Away Because Of My Proposed Family Financial Plan by May1st: 10:29am On Jan 04, 2022

bigpicture001:
Thanks man.. heard from her friend that sh said am too stingy,.

Honestly I didn't make her spend up to 50k from her wage.. 300k is not big and can be exhausted soon..

The weight will be too much if I form the normal Nigerian guy who likes to carry load on their head

Bro I will tell you the truth, You have suggested she spends about 75% of her salary while yours is around 40% of your salary.
You have not done well in this regard frankly speaking. You need to approach this with diplomacy even if you want equity.. Equity makes is even when you apply a fixed percentage on both ur salaries. You could lose out on a very good girl based on this list, from what I read, u gave her a list to choose from. Ask her to draw a list of what she's comfortable with and if u see she wants to be too conservative about her funds( which every woman does anyway), you both talk it out

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Family › Re: My Husband Is Frustrating Me. by May1st: 1:37pm On Dec 30, 2021

ogwuche4u:
Do you think money is happiness? Nobody is promised tomorrow. Make the best of today. There is joy with children. At 40 you want her to be attending PTA meetings. Why not give birth on time and enjoy old age in peace? I wish I had my first child at 25.

Yes there is joy with children as there is joy with money.
My brother, money gives happiness. You certainly don't know what it means to have children and not be able to care for them because you have no money. Let the man make enough of it as he wishes, children can come later when you can fend for them with ease.

He already gave her an option, if childbearing is her topmost priority she should file a divorce and get it elsewhere. That's how a focused man talks. It is not wise having kids in penury...... Look around you and see the evidences in slums today. 100k is nothing abeg

Family › Re: My Husband Is Frustrating Me. by May1st: 12:22pm On Dec 30, 2021

TheSimiloluwa:
Hope say una two dey Bleep Sha, he fit be impotent make you no know lol

Sorry tho, but on a norms 170k monthly is still enough to bring a kid to the world... Two could be a crowd but the view is best seen with him

Do you know the updated cost of delivery today? baby food, clothing, toiletries, house rent, utilities, personal adult expenses, parental duties etc are all men deal with. A woman earning 70k is pressuring her hubby to get a kid. Man isn't ready for those expenses on his meagre salary.

peeps earning 500k gan dey beg God. He wants to improve their worth let him. If they try now and she bears triplets what will happen? your guess is as good as mine

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Family › Re: My Husband Is Frustrating Me. by May1st: 12:17pm On Dec 30, 2021

Kolawole2130:
We have been married for 3 years now. We stay in a self contained apartment. He tries as much as possible to pay his bills while I support him too with paying the bills.

Since we married, anytime I talk about childbearing he gets angry. Like he may not talk to me for days. I will be the one to come and beg him later. He says his not ready to start bearing kids that he wants to have enough money to take care of the kids. He says he doesnt want his children to suffer.

I am so pissed off, I am 32 now and he is 35 and he earns 100k while I earn 70k. Is that not enough to raise a family. Plus age is not on my side he doesnt look like he will be ready in a year time again. Am already getting tired and people around me are getting married. No body can even talk to him. His mind is made up already.

The last fight we had he said i can go and divorce him if i cannot wait till he is ready. He is busy reading for professional exam instead of him to be thinking of how to produce seed. Professional exam that will last another 2 years. His family can't even talk to him. Am just frustrated already.

if u like go and carry one mumu pregnancy to him from outside because of this your desperation, you are doing yourself. you think you are too old at 32? 40+ women are out there without a kid. better align with him and be happy later

Sports › Re: Victor Osimhen Tests Positive For COVID-19 by May1st: 12:08pm On Dec 30, 2021

kayuseful:
Lol
Just so you can tie him down from going for Afcon
Send him down here and Let Nigerian doctors test him first

I feel for those clubs anyway,
Coz they've spent so much on those African players, and if the players get injured, it becomes a liability on the club, not country

This might be the last time Afcon will hold during league season. CAF either reschedule future afcons or Europe based African players are axed for it

Do you realize this notion is wrong? When their heavily invested european players go for euros and get injured, don't theu come back, recuperate and move on? This is just a very clear move by Napoli to not release him for AFCON and we all know. They should be mature and respect his country by releasing him. It's the right thing to do. How can a club not want a man to honour his fatherland? This is actually very annoying

Health › Re: My HIV Experience As A Married Man by May1st: 9:01pm On Dec 24, 2021

vannessa7:
Not true, I grew up in ikeja and I saw ashawo small girls that contacted hiv and became very dry gradually and died, do you think when immune system have problems you will not do a lifestyle change immediately that will get rid of the problem, do you think Fela didn't die of AIDS, what about children born with it through their parents. I know a born again woman who got it from her husband through sex, she has been going to churches talking about it. Let's just thank God that His mercy has reduced the incidents of HIV infection. Many married men have infected their wives and I know someone like that, he infected the wife and stated treating himself but didn't inform the wife until she got sick and was tested at the hospital and found out she was positive, it was too late she died.

An average runz girl abuses drugs, smoke weed, drink heavily. These are known immune weakners.
And the woman who thinks she contacted from her hubby, she might have other unhealthy habits weakening her immune system too.

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Health › Re: My HIV Experience As A Married Man by May1st: 8:49pm On Dec 24, 2021

Saintinoo:
So those people who have HIV and later AIDs was as a result of decay of their immune system, then all of us are prone to have AIDs.

Their have been people diagnosed of HIV and refuse to take those antiviral drugs and still due, some die even without knowing their health status. I know of a friend, more of a senior friend who died of AIDs and you don't want to see how skinny he look before he died.

Talking of HIV and AIDs, I grew up in a ghetto, where almost 60 percent of guys and girls are HIV positive, and they got it through sex, are you trying to tell me that they were infected through other means, or they really didn't have HIV?

This is not meant to rubbish your claims, it's an argument and it should be constructive.

You need to read and understand that guy's point very well. If truly you did, apply it to the ghetto you are talking about. Basic ghetto like is riddled with daily consumption of illegal drugs, weed, alcohol, poor dieting etc. These are the things that collapse their immune system which doctors would term as AIDS.

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Jobs/Vacancies › Re: My Friend Later Got The Oron Job: Thank Goodness! by May1st: 4:22pm On Nov 12, 2021

Congrats

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Celebrities › Re: Celestine Donkor: Why I Use Veil To Cover My Backside by May1st: 8:14am On Nov 12, 2021

Abeg where is the backside?

Rabbish

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Politics › Re: Ituah Ighodalo: Nigerians Must Vote For President Who Truly Cares by May1st: 6:17pm On Sep 10, 2021